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Would you ever enter into a long-distance relationship, guys? Why or why not?
We are bringing this up because we often stumble upon a thread online discussing this topic. For instance, this one wherein the original poster related:
I realize that, FOR EXAMPLE, on dating apps even if you’re in the same country, if you aren’t right next door to the guy, he will lose interest in ever even dating you. Guys. What I want from you are some success stories about gay long distance relationships. Make my day. Give us all some hope. Some of us come from small towns or there’s just no one for us where we’re from. I want to hear stories of how long distance relationships have worked out for you.
Meanwhile, on a separate thread, another guy is asking readers about their experiences with long-distance relationships. He shared:
So, I was on this gay sex site doing a video call with a guy, and he found me sexy and attractive, and we had a nice convo for about half an hour. We flirted and showed off to each other, and we even communicate. He said he doesn’t want to engage in an LDR because it can be rough, though I have no experience. We’re still friends, though he’s looking at local guys for his dating stuff. How have your experiences been in long-distance relationships, especially if you’ve had one in your early 20s?
Personally, I think that if the two of you really love each other, then a long-distance relationship will work. I am only saying this because I have seen it work out with some friends but mind you, the keyword here is, well, work. This means that the two of you would need to put in a lot of effort in order for your relationship to be successful and for you guys to be happy.
From what I have observed, my friend and his other half took advantage of technology and called each other every day. They also visit each other’s countries.
Yes, they were many countries apart. If the other has been to the US already last year, then the other would visit the Philippines next. They’d go explore their respective countries together, too, and make the most out of their limited time together. They make it fun, they have scheduled calls and visits and they stick to it.
But most importantly, the two of them knew that such a setup was temporary which is why they’ve made plans for their future. They wanted to spend the rest of their lives together and so, after being in a long-distance relationship for five years, they finally tied the knot and they now both reside in the US where they live happily ever after.
Having said all that, have you ever been in a long-distance relationship, guys? If so, how did that work out for you? Share with us your thoughts and stories in the comments section below!
I flat out refuse to even entertain anything to do with a long-distance relationship. I’m looking for a LOCAL ONLY boi who thinks he Veruca Salt – I Want It Now daddy, I want it now.
Really, who got time to waste on chasing a ghost from 7K miles away?
If you are not in, or will soon be in Tucson, I’m simply not interested in the slightest!
Well everyone can agree there are challenges to a long-distance relationship. But that distance may not be a deal killer. The parties just need to define what the relationship is. Are we trying for monogamy? Or are we trying to maintain an important relationship that could develop further in the future (probably more the more realistic/sensible option)? If it does not work out, distance was in fact the problem. But in another end maybe it does work out. There are many stories of people who dated, either broke up or were separated by distance, and then reconnected a couple few… Read more »
I prefer a short distance relationship; him in his half of the duplex and me in mine. With a glory hole in the broom closet! Perfect.
I’m sorry but with the responses and most files on here I find it very hard to believe that even a small majority on here could pull off a long distance relationship. Unless they are trying to have a double life with an open relationship to sound lie they are the committing type. Most are not looking for a serious relationship but rather a hook up or like to scam you with whatever they are selling or trying to score from you. This is not just in the gay sites but straight as well. I have learned of several that… Read more »
Tell them to hit the road if they can’t leave family, friends, job, et cetera just as they want you to do. Reality will win out no matter what anyone says. lie=like
I guess it depends on the gay couple. If the couple is committed and honest with each other, then it could work. As a single man, I took care of myself during corona lock-down. Porn is still easily accessible and jacking off is still satisfying.
Why do you always paint with such a broad brush? Did it ever occur to you that gay men are individuals not a collective group that all think and behave the same way? We all have different beliefs, opinions, needs, wants etc. just like all other people.
Why? Because “The Community” of Miltant/PROUD! Gays (which A4A promotes) claims control over “The Gay Rules.” In order to be Gay, we must be of One Left/Progressive/Democrat Political Ideology, abhor Formal Religion of any type, worship Celebrities, listen to only Diva and Pop Music, adhere to High Fashion (clothing, shoes, makeup and hair) practice anal sex, and immerse ourselves in books, movies and plays about Gays (especially those young and light-skinned). We all must think alike. In reality, being Gay is fluid. For some guys it is, in fact, their ENTIRE being. All well and good. For others, it is… Read more »
Another words, we’re certainly not monolithic.
Long distance relationship only work if one of the partners are/is willing to travel.
and travel OFTEN! A LDR requires a HUGE amount of trust, or, communication/negotation defining exactly what the relationship entails. I have to think the result of that is an open relationship. If that’s the case you might just as well define yourselves as FWB!
I am currently in a long distance relationship and have been for the past four years. We met in a mutual facebook group and after three months of texting and chatting, I flew out cross-country to meet him. We had an amazing weekend and continued our conversations after I returned for another year. During that year, I would fly to see him, he would fly to see me, and we would meet at some mutual third location for a nice relaxing weekend together. Then COVID hit and due to the nature of his job, he wasn’t able to fly and… Read more »
Well, you can’t call it a “physical” relationship anyway, I gotta have someone I can actually feel. But I have pen pals from around the world, that works out well.
Gay or not, long distance relationships simply do not work.
I think it depends on the level of the relationship and what you’re expecting out of it. If you’re keeping it more distant and casual then it may work for some, especially if you’re someone who likes a lot of alone time and is very independent and doesn’t expect monogamy. However, in my experience, they don’t work and it’s not worth the effort and angst. They all eventually fail.