How did your religion influence your attitude about your sexuality, guys? Did you have a hard time navigating your LGBTQ identity because of religion? We are bringing this up because we stumbled upon this letter written to a popular The Sun column called Dear Deidre that promises readers their “house agony aunt” will help you solve your personal problems.
Anyway, one of their letter senders was a gay man who shared that he came out to himself at the age of 13 but now he’s 29 and still a virgin because he hates that he’s gay. He was brought up Roman Catholic and as a devoted Christian, his “faith has always been really important to me – it has defined who I am and how I live my life.” He said, “I feel it’s wrong to have any type of sex outside marriage – and a mortal sin to have sex with another man.” He added:
I have never told anyone I am gay. When I spot an attractive guy, or fantasise (fantasize) about him, I feel disgusted with myself. How can I reconcile these two conflicting parts of me – the gay part and the Catholic part?
This is tearing me apart. I feel like I’m living a lie and that I don’t fit in anywhere. I’m confused and depressed and sometimes I wonder if there’s any point carrying on. I don’t want to be alone for the rest of my life, or to be celibate.
I’m still a virgin at 29 because I hate that I’m gay https://t.co/UjxgADUeGi— Dear Deidre (@DearDeidre) December 1, 2021
Deidre, on the other hand, said: “Many people feel torn between their faith and their sexuality.” She then encouraged him to see his GP, noting that the letter sender “sound depressed.” She explained that there is “confidential support available, and nobody will judge you.” Deidre also advised that he approach Switchboard LGBT+ for help as this non-governmental organization provides help to LGBTQ people in need of support group and mental health counseling.
Reuters reported in the past how a study found “greater religious feeling and engagement was tied to increased risk of suicidal thoughts and actions for (survey) participants who identified as LGBQ.” Read the article in full here.
All that being said, can you relate to the letter sender, guys? If so, how did you reconcile your faith and your sexuality? Share with us your thoughts and stories in the comments section below.