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Hey, guys! So, recently we received a blog post idea from one of our avid Adam4Adam Blog readers named Father Hennepin. He said, and we quote:
Here’s a topic: Why do ‘hung’ guys always brag about their size? Why do they think it is their ‘biggest’ asset? What is so great about a bigger cock anyway? Asking for a friend….
Personally, I think this is because many gay and bisexual men love big dicks. And, whether we admit it or not, whenever we’re trying to land a date or hook up, we not only put our best foot forward, it’s also the time when, you know, we bring out the big guns. I guess this is the reason why some guys brag about their size. Don’t you think so, too?
This brings us to the topic at hand, is size really everything in the gay dating/hookup scene?
I think not. But to a number of gay and bisexual men out there at least, this is the case. In fact, a previous study conducted by GMFA, “a British health promotion charitable project that campaigns to improve gay men’s health,” revealed that 22% or one in five gay men have rejected a sexual partner because of their penis size. It’s no wonder 38% of the respondents admitted that their penis size causes them anxiety.
Moreover, the study found that 16% of the respondents were on the receiving end of derogatory comments made about their penis.
But does penis size matter? Majority of the respondents or 49% replied no to this question, while 37% said yes, and the remaining 14% admitted they didn’t know.
Lastly, 74% revealed they are happy with their penis. Read more about the study here.
But why do people in general obsess over penis size? It’s because society associates the penis with social power and worth. The human penis they say, symbolizes male sexuality, masculinity, virility, and fertility to name a few.
With that said, would you break up with someone or would you reject a hookup because of their penis size? Conversely, have you been rejected before or did someone break up with you because of your penis size?
Last but not least, do you brag about your size? Is size really everything in the gay dating/hookup scene? Share with us your thoughts and stories in the comments section below.
I’d much prefer an “average” or even “smaller” cock on a guy who knows how to use it over a monster cock on a guy who expects you to worship it and provides zero guidance or assistance at all.
I have plowed 8,000 guys with my beautiful 8+” dick! That’s just the ones I accepted their advances. I turned down 20,000 guys. Hell, even as late as my mid 50’s guys would offer me money for sex, which was funny, because I had millions, but I was always discrete about it and wore white trash clothes like torn wife beaters and polyester Dickies pants. Anyway I’m 67 now and my dick has shrunk, so just a fair warning to you all. Your dick will shrink as you age so make the most of it… NOW !
I can’t tell if this is satire or not.
No it’s my real life… if you have a beautiful 8+ inch dick and some street smarts. I got tired of so many guys going on and on about how beautiful my dick was. But now that it has shrunk I don’t have that problem anymore. Plus at 67, I can’t do even a fraction of my fave sex positions. I also have the deformed T cells that do not allow HIV to attach, so I could never get AIDS no matter how much sex I had. When I was young, hundreds of hot guys screwed me and I loved… Read more »
Wait – so you’re saying you could get f*cked by someone who’s HIV+, he could cum inside your a**, and there’s a 0% chance he’d infect you? Never heard of such a thing.
There are a very few documented cases of this. It is actually true. The rest of his claims I think are absolute fucking bullshit.
It is satire, even if not that great hahaha. That said, ‘Clyde Benke’ has won my vote for the Troll of the Month Award, so he could add that to his other unbelievable (pun intended) accomplishments 🙂
I think the deciding factor is hard vs. soft.
Sometimes I’m too big for a guy, and that’s annoying.
Have one bud who due to medical issues can only become semi-erect. I’m the first play bud who said that it was no issue and the first to make him cum. It’s not hard, actually (pun intended!). Needless to say, he’s an eager beaver when it comes to us meeting.
Hunter0500:
Truly, you are an “Angel Of Mercy” to take pity on your semi-dysfunctional friend and bring
him to fruition!
Truly, the depths of your “Milk-Of-Human-Kindness” knows no bottom!
He might be the “Angel of Mercy” giving me his cock and balls to suck with none of the gagging challenges often present with hard cocks above average size. When he cums, it is enormous in volume and he has convulsions of pleasure to match. It truly is heaven! As Urkel asks “did I do that?”
Obviously, you needn’t take a trip to “Dairy Quean”!
You get the cream any boy could want! Any sprinkles?
Good point Hunter. As some of us get older, we tend to lose some of that youthful stamina that kept us going on and on. For me, oral is just fine and everyone can be satisfied in the end. Why should butts always have to be drilled?
Had a “pick up lunch” with a bud today. He’s 8″ when rock hard and some times not so much. It depends on when he has masturbated last. As I mouthed him, he rose but was not at full staff. He apologized and said he had self-served while showering for the day. I enjoyed myself thoroughly, sucking away on his semi-hard cock and making him moan and groan for half an hour. He didn’t cum, but said he loved it. We had to end our lunch because my heroic efforts were making him breathless. We didn’t do me because of… Read more »
So rewarding to give a guy like this a hand,so to speak. I have had similar experiences with two guys who became pretty good friends
That is why God gave us two hands!
You’re a hoot Kas.
Agreed. Guys almost seem afraid of a soft cock, as if it is a rejection. It’s a question of blood flow.
Promise I would take it all.
Big size is a plus, but more important is what it’s attached to. Some guys with large dicks are a disappointment (no vibe, connection, chemistry), while some small guys are sexy as fuck.
I think the largest one I’ve ever come into contact with has been 8″. Most others have tended to be 6-7″. I’m kind of like, on the one hand, getting the chance to s*ck a 9-incher (or larger) or to get it up my a** has to be amazing. But for me at least, as long as it’s not totally puny (eg: under 5) and/or unable to get erect, it’s the overall physique and personality that matters most.
Size is only one factor for enjoying a man. While I am far from a connoisseur of the range of cocks out there; as a versatile bisexual, like many reading here, I have encountered a few realities about men’s cocks and my own capacity to accommodate them. Some are big, and I mean BIG, stretching you to your limits. If the man on the other end of that monster is just there to pound you, you can have a horrible time as you get injured by his incompetence. That being said, my lover is someone who is very thick and… Read more »
Great post
Thanks man!
AGREED!!!!!!!!!!!!
Perfectly stated!
I’d rather an average dick that fits nicely than a monster one!
Thanks George!
While i do like a big cock, some of my best fucks have been with average guys. I think girth is more important than length. Me, im Irish so aveage grower not shower here
If your cock is long enough, it will slip into the inner sphincter and give you a sensation that is mind blowing! Too bad for the little dick guys, they will never know what they are missing!
It’s a myth that Irish guys have smaller cocks. Plenty of Irish guys I know are packing.
Avg., please, just in case I want to go there’ cause normally, never. Orally, avg., please, thanks.
The obsession with Size is cultural as the Mantra is The Bigger – The Better! Western Civilization loves size, look at Palace of Versailles or Windsor Palace, skyscrapers, tanks, ships, planes, et al. Size sells as do Cathedral Ceilings or Great Rooms. so, why not the proverbial penis? If it shows, there is hope; if it grows, there is salvation! It is all Cultural but when you grow old, size becomes a detriment… the bigger the penis, the more blood supply it needs but Atheromatosis kicks in and the veins cannot supply the blood. Hence, the bigger the penis, the… Read more »
And Kasper can make a dick go limp…
He does have a point.
I assume he does-probably3.5 inches in length?
There are those who enjoy even less, so . . .
He has other aliases, or a few people that can cause the same. Mother Hennipen is another, I mean Father.
There is so much obsession over penis size regardless of gender and sexual identification. In so many cases, unfortunately, that is the deciding factor in whether or not any action will take place. For me, I look at the whole package. I’m equal opportunity. What will turn me away is a self absorbed attitude, narcissism, racism, and stupid opinions . . .and a few other negative traits. . . .never the size of one’s penis. I have never bragged about my size, but I have received many flattering comments. I didn’t just brag, did I?
“74% revealed they are happy with their penis.” and “But why do people in general obsess over penis size?” The first one indicates the last one is not true. “The Community” and certain infatuated/compulsive members of society in general keep bringing it up for some la la reason. “Would you break up with someone or would you reject a hookup because of their penis size?” If you didn’t discuss any size requirements prior to hooking up or dating, you created a problem for both of you. “Have you been rejected before or did someone break up with you because of… Read more »
Hunter0500:
Read my contribution to this blog? You might find your answer already answered?
Musta been that Two Ships in the Night thing.
OR,
you were engaged in a somewhat suspect adventure?
I don’t care about size as long as you have a cock. But when I do get a big cock I worship it
me too…
I’ve had some top buddies with very large, 9+”, dicks who have been great lovers. They’ve been patient, love to rim, and attentive to my comfort and pleasure. Indeed, first time I bottomed, guy was 9″ and thick. Bottoming for guys like this has been great with minimal discomfort. Been with less attentive tops with 7″ or less who don’t like to rim, but just want to fuck whether I’m relaxed and ready or not. I experienced more discomfort with them than the big guys. It really is about the quality of the man and proves, once again, that the… Read more »
I’m a lil, lean dude with a ten-inch, beautifully cut dick. It’s been with me for almost seventy years so it’s no big deal to me, needs no assistance to engorge, I have never owned a cock ring, and I share pix of it. OTHERS make a big deal about it – because it is impressive and pretty. We big-dicked dudes have to learn how to not chase lovers away if we ‘weaponize’ it to brutalize others. I also cannot wear briefs, for obvious reasons, and boxers make me feel vulnerable. It’s boxer briefs or commando for me – but… Read more »
I’ve turned down some guys because they were too big. Anything over seven inches can be too much for me.
I do not brag about the size of my dick. I consider it to be on the lower end of average. No one ever turned me down for sex because of my size. I never turned anyone down because of his size either. I do like looking at big dicks and even playing with them. But if too big they can hurt where ever you put them. The biggest I took was probably 7.5 to 8 inches. He was the top and he just shoved it in and pounded away. That is what he likes to do. I was not… Read more »
I’ll have to agree with your opinion of the porn industries influence on male thinking towards size. I also believe that it gives some guys the impression that what and how things are done in the movies is how its suppose to be done in real life. I’ve had a few disappointing encounters where I felt their technique was fresh off the screen with no feeling, and a canned dialog followed with every position in the Kamasutra poorly performed. I like to build up to the happy ending by taking it slow and keeping it simple. Much more satisfying for… Read more »
“… he just shoved it in and pounded away.”
A significant number of our compadres are bottoms looking for hung tops to pound their asses. They make this clear in their profiles. And it’s exactly what those guys who are “pounders” want.
While it’s a match made in heaven for them, other bottoms who prefer a gentler protocol find themselves being pounded.
While not a 100% guarantee, clear communication in advance about what we’re seeking helps avoid unpleasant experiences.
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I preferer a smaller cock, as long as the guy knows how to use his cock and fuck me, that’s all that is really important
I think it has much to do with the visual impact of so much pornography, and starting in the 1980s, in the gay media/press, the worship of the eight-inch cock was launched. The fact is, a bigger member can be more awkward, painful and incovenient. It’s not for everyone. But my question was more to the point that guys that are 8 inches or more are so focused on it, and so many seem to be brutal tops. How is that a good lay?
I would rather get nailed with a guy with a 6″ dick and using it well.I have had guys with bigger cocks and not that good in bed.
The question, Does size matter?, has been kicked around way too much. Given two guys with similar overall physical attractiveness, personalities and lovemaking skills, the guy with the larger dick, in general, will be desired by most men and women. Bottom line, size matters. Is size everything? No. Let’s not over think the subject matter.
Size is not important….who it is attached to and how they use it is. I’ve met guys w/9 or 10″ and it was not an issue and other guys with 6″ and it was just no fun. It was not the size that either made it fun or not fun, it was the guy who was using it, their personality, how they approach things, etc.
I recently found out that size do “sort of” matter. One of friends is a bottom. Another friend and I double- fucked him recently and my other friend’s dick wasn’t long enough. It kept falling out so we had to try other positions. So size and a firm hard-on does matter when it comes to certain sexual positions. Also when an aggressive bottom is riding a dick, if its not long enough, it can keep falling out which can frustrate the bottom. So size isn’t everything, but it can determine which positions can be accomplished sexually.
Being a bottom the biggest i had was 7 an the biggest i sucked was 8 i would like to try bigger but with someone who is gentle with it
Unfortunately it seems every one is hung on size. No pun. I can’t tell you how many times a day someone asks me, “how hung” or “how big” on these apps. I’m annoyed with it. I now say, “I’m small” which is a total lie but then they stop bugging me. I’ve been blessed but size isn’t most important aspect in sex.
I love cock period, but a bigger one is nice, my lover has a thick 9″ cock and he is amazing! It’s been the best sex I’ve ever had and I’m always in heaven when he f*cks me. My husband has an average dick and that’s good too… giggles
I think or what I experinced is guys with large tools like to show thier gift off and generally like to top.. I’ve seen a few that are Bottoms only that also have big tools ..I guess it’s what u like at that point. Most bottoms with very small tools are always bottoms or men with ED. Makes sense Right. I’ve also noticed guys that claim to be tops either talk alot about what they want to do with you but never hook up or can’t host. I think there is more bottoms than tops on a web site for… Read more »
I have rejected people over penis size for a hook-up. Sorry, but a small (4-5″) dick just isn’t exciting, at all. Now, if I was in a relationship with someone and liked/loved them for who they are, I wouldn’t dismiss them for that. Referring specifically to fun or a hook-up. I love big cock, have yet to find one I couldn’t take. Over the years, I have had quite a variety. The biggest overall was the first black man I was with, he had right about 12″ and it was fat as a door knob. Yes, I took it all.… Read more »
The penis size stated on various sites and profiles get longer each yr. I’m pretty sure less than 2% of men worldwide are 8+”, and maybe 10% are 7+”, so the obsession with large/long cocks is a fantasy. I would gather that the majority fall in line 5.5”-6.5.
Happy hunting men, you might as well play the lotto if you’re looking for that elusive 2% cock.
I was poor white trash with a beautiful 8+ inch cock. It was my ace in the hole, so to speak. I’m now married for 30 years to a hot Asian man with a PhD who made millions in tech jobs and investments. We have a luxury life and I owe it all to my big cock. I still fuck him 3-4 times a week and it’s a great fuck every time!
I am a small very tight bottom. While some 10.5 thick monster cock may be fun to look at and in fantasy land; for me just too much. I have enjoyed a few thick 8-9s in my life, some really thick ones in the mix. I prefer6-8 and thin to average…but when it gets down to all of them have been fun! Over 9 and thick for me has not been fun…I like to smile feeling that delicious stretch and ache the next day, not bleed and agony. I guess I am just too tight for the larger ones…
“..do you brag about your size? Is size really everything in the gay dating/hookup scene?” Looking at the responses to those questions, the answers are “No” and “Yes.” Most guys who discussed bragging said they were average so they didn’t brag. The guys who were above average mostly said they didn’t make a point of it because potential connections didn’t. Most guys fell in line with “bigger is not better … too much of a good thing is not good.” Preferences generally were “average sized guys are the most fun”, physically and especially mentally. Smaller guys who used their equipment… Read more »
I have to say I like big black cock I’ve took some pretty big dick I love it big but if not I will give him a good bj and some good ass so we not end up pleased I always make sure my man is pleased and so am I always make him feel good and let him know I enjoyed his dick regardless of the size
I had a guy who was very small (4in hard) and he put it in, but I couldn’t feel a thing. I told him this wasn’t working. I need to feel something. The biggest I’ve taken was 12in and it was great, sore for a Lil bit during after but I was good. He took his time, and let me enjoy it, by slowly entering me. I had another guy who had 8in and a Lil quick on the draw, but he fucked me sooo good, I was sore for 2 days, a good sore tho. I’m a size queen,… Read more »
I’d like to think as one gets older (40+) it shouldn’t be a concern. When you are young and dumb, you probably want to experience it all and lust becomes confused with love. As we all age, other things should become far more important like: stability, trust, caring for one another, and helping each other to grow in character. Making love becomes less frequent, but when it happens, it’s better than any one night stand. It is unfortunate that social engineering via porn has made many think otherwise.
To me taking a bigger cock is a lot better than a smaller cock. The fill, and the hardness and the strength of a big cock is a big turn on!! Come to think about it, I do not remember ever getting fucked good with a smaller cock…
With L or XL, one never has to ask: ‘Is it in YET?”
If a man has less than a donkey dick when he responds to an offer for sex, and the person that sent that offer is so shallow, and petty enough to strike down the respondent, then that person really isn’t worth having sex with in the first place. Many of the shallow individuals that claim that they want a man with a donkey dick, can’t even take them without the whole damn neighborhood knowing that he just got skewered, and that is just the first two inches in. Many can’t even get the head of such a monster in their… Read more »