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How are you holding up this holiday season, guys? Who are you spending Christmas and New Year with? Do you have a boyfriend or a husband or a partner? For those of you who are going to celebrate it, how do you celebrate Christmas? Is it with your family, or chosen family?
Some of us here in the LGBTQ community dread the holiday season. We dread going back home to our family—especially when we are bringing our significant other—because of homophobic family members. Some of us, on the other hand, no longer have families because we have been thrown out of the house when we came out.
And then there are those of us who remain in the closet, which means we are dreading going home for the holidays because we are the family member who are “perpetually single.” But, the truth is, we have a partner of five years already. Only, we can’t introduce them to our family because to them we are “straight” so time and again we endure the questions as to why we are still single. Meanwhile, our younger brother or older sister would bring their girlfriend or boyfriend of six months to Christmas dinner. Of course, we are happy for them, but at the same time, we can’t help but think about the inequality and the unfairness of the situation. It’s no wonder why some of our LGBTQ brothers and sisters choose not to go home and spend the holiday season alone instead.
Anyway, if you are in the closet and everyone is with their family during the holidays, worry not, there are many things that you can do in order to celebrate. Why don’t you have a Christmas dinner with a friend you’ve met on Adam4Adam? If you’ve been talking with each other here on A4A for months on end already then maybe it’s time to have that first date.
Or, why not do a huge feast for yourself at home, complete with candles, music, and champagne. I personally like to be alone, I’m not a group kind of guy, so being alone with my dog at home is much nicer for me than being surrounded by 25 people from my family that I have nothing to discuss about and nothing in common with.
You can also choose to chat with guys on Adam4Adam via video call. Why not download the Adam4Adam app to browse guys nearby and did you know that the VIP access is free during the holidays when you use the app? So, hurry and download it now! Make sure to use the onelink.to/adam4adam link using a mobile device.
What about you, guys? How are you spending your holidays and whom are you spending it with? Share with us your thoughts and stories in the comments section below.
And last but not least… there are those of us who have outlived our family and by default, will spend The Holidays alone…but, not necessarily unhappily… . The Holiday Season is as much a state-of-mind- as it is a state-of-scenery. “Me, Myself & I” is company…provided…you love, like and enjoy being with self. Not all of us are miserable, lonely or disenfranchised…either from society at large or from family. Some of us are quite content and well-adjusted…inner & outer. The Holidays are what you make them & it is your choice how you wish to express them…you can be your… Read more »
Traits that turn me on towards another gay man are: RESPECT, HONEST, CLEANLINESS, MONOGOMY, UNSEFISHNESS, SPIRITUALITY, KIND YET FIRM, SMART
Christmas Day we’re having our annual family dinner with our 3 children joining us. My sons and I will set up the table in the family room while the women do all the cooking. We watch NBA basketball on tv, laugh and catch up until dinner is served. After dinner we open up our Christmas gifts. New Years Eve and New Year Day are usually quiet at my house. I look at it as unwinding time from Thanksgiving and Christmas holidays.
Same way I always do, assisting my VFW Post assisting homeless vets.
I am fortunate for me and my partner will be spending Christmas Eve with friends and will have a quiet Christmas together
From posts above this one as I write, being gay is not the total impediment recent Blog topics here seem to promote (Religion requiring reconciliation, FWB not being able to “really” work, and the Holidays being miserable). While sadly for some, the Holidays and life in general are sad due to their sexuality. We need to wish them encouragement. But for countless others, while their sexuality is part of their life, it does not constrict them overall. I am blessed to be able to spend Christmas Eve and Day with family enjoying their company, food, and presents, This year is… Read more »
Thus far there are no plans of any kind. I have one brother who lives 1000 miles away and we aren’t very close anymore. Parents and two siblings have passed away. I’ve never had many friends and having moved to the Midwest four years ago, I have no friends here. I’ve been single 18 years so holidays and formerly special occasions have more or less lost all fanfare so it’s a time for reflection. Some of it is wonderful, a lot is bittersweet, and some brings me to tears. Nonetheless, I remind myself that although I am damaged and flawed,… Read more »
LOVE AND LIGHT TO YOU ALWAYS!
I feel/have some of the same sentiments as Kasper for the most part. I love watching the biblical movies and the remakes, I love Christmas music (Gospel-Jazz) type though. I love cooking too. So, considering the present state of our country, I’m thinking about what this holiday is ‘supposed’ to be about vs. what it’s become about while I’m alone. Nighttime will most likely different, I’ll have company into the wee hours.
Dressing up as a leather Santa and buggering the elves. Reindeer have their own kinks. Ought to be a good Xmas Orgy this year. Traditions are important. Last year was Tiny Twink getting it from 8 inch Scrooge. And the Grinch getting the ginch from a line of Ho’s was a blast as well.
Ho Ho Ho
Alone. Been that way for the last 22 years. Single since Nov/99 (bf at the time decided that he wanted to go down on his ex outside a bar in Dayton, Ohio, so I dropped him faster than 2nd period art). Disowned my family Nov/11 (There’s only so much someone with an IQ of 146 (and a photographic memory to boot) can tolerate from the family when it doesn’t matter how red one can turn to prove oneself right when the family summarily says that ya don’t know your head from your ass even in an area that you know… Read more »