Adam4Adam blog readers, we are pretty sure we all have that “aha moment,” you know, that moment when we realized that we were gay, or bisexual, or transgender. What and when was that moment for you?
We are asking because we just celebrated the National Coming Out Day [NCOD] in the United States. And also because Demi Lovato recently revealed to Queer Eye’s Tan France during an interview that she had such a moment while watching the kiss between Selma Blair and Sarah Michelle Gellar in Cruel Intentions (1999).
In Cruel Intentions, Gellar plays the character Kathryn—a wealthy, popular teenager—whose hobby is to destroy people’s life for her own amusement and her latest project is Cecile (played by Selma Blair), a naïve and sheltered girl.
“It was definitely when I was young and should not have been watching Cruel Intentions but I did and it was that scene where they made out on the park lawn,” Lovato told France during Facebook’s Coming Out 2020 event last Friday. “I was just like ‘Oh wait a minute — I really like that, I wanna try it.’ And then when I was like 17 I did get down with that and that’s when I knew.”
The Stone Cold singer added, “I pretty much told all of my friends and my older sister (that I was queer) when I was 17. They all knew before I brought it to my parents and then to the public. Those were my three phases: Friends, parents, public.”
Lovato revealed further that she wrote some romantic songs about women though fans assumed they were about men. “I’m surprised that some of them didn’t figure out that some of the songs were for certain people. I was sharing it with the world, yet I wasn’t being completely obvious with what I was talking about. Music was my safe space.”
Lovato released a song in 2015 titled Cool for the Summer which is about a tryst with another woman during summertime.
All that being said, what about you, guys? How and when did you realize that you were gay, bisexual, or transgender? Share with us your thoughts and stories below!