Do you hate anal sex, guys? Why or why not?
Not everyone loves anal sex, just like the original poster (OP) of this thread who said that it doesn’t matter whether he is the one who tops or bottoms, he “absolutely hate anal sex.” He, however, wants to change that because he doesn’t always want to tell his boyfriend that he doesn’t want to have sex as he thinks that’s really unfair.
One of the users named juddkrasher said, “Being gay ≠ having anal. It’s an option. I prefer other ways to…bond. You aren’t alone.” On the other hand, user jklake advised, “look into intercrural sex. It was all the rage with the Romans and maybe it will be for you.” While a reader named CondorLane suggested, “Also jack-off lotion. You can get so good at handjobs that they’re as good as fucking.”
Meanwhile, user UpbeatBad reminded readers: “FYI, there are a lot of gay males who are not into anal sex.” Another user named CIearMind pointed out, “There’s not only top, bottom, and vers. Those of us who aren’t into anal are the sides. :)”
But what is a side?
According to Wikipedia, “the term side has been proposed by Huffington Post contributor Joe Kort for gay men who are not interested in anal sex.” Though not into penetrative sex, a side will engage in other forms of same-sex sexual activity such as mutual masturbation, intercrural sex, frottage, to name a few.
Some of the readers on the aforementioned thread above who are also sides said that they have had “hot sex” even though they don’t have anal sex. User DuncxnDonuts shared, “Don’t know if this has been said already, but you don’t need to have anal sex in order to have a good sex life! Some of the best sex I’ve ever had simply came from handjobs.” He, however, added, “I do agree with everyone that says this is something you should communicate about. Good luck OP!”
Going back to our question at hand, guys, are you into anal sex? Why or why not? What is your advice to guys who are not into it? Share with us your thoughts and stories in the comments section below!