There was a time in my life when I would get all choked up whenever Whitney Houston’s song Run to You would come on the radio because I could relate to its lyrics. Sometimes, listening to it would even result in a full-on cryfest, I mean, you know the song right? The first and second verses of this song pierce my heart; the second verse goes like this:
Each day, each day I play the role
Of someone always in control
But at night I come home and turn the key
There’s nobody there, no one cares for me
Oh what’s the sense
Of trying hard to find your dreams
Without someone to share it with
Tell me what does it mean?
I guess I could relate to it because during that time of my life I thought I would die single and alone forever, and that made me feel oh so lonely. And do you know what’s worse than this? It’s going through one relationship to another thinking we already found the one only to realize that they were not the right person for us. Or that it wasn’t love in the first place but we oh so badly wanted someone in our life we couldn’t see these things. Do you know the saying, “You think you’re in love, but you just want to be loved?” Yes, that about sum things up.
Anyway, now I look back and a part of me would say: “what a dramatic I have been,” but the truth is that many people feel the same way. Others say they’ve learned to live with it while some say they’ve learned to ignore this fear although some days the fear really weighs them down. Further, one gay man confessed that he had this fear of staying single forever since he was a kid, owing to this TV show he watched where a dead bachelor was found in his apartment. The bachelor, he said, had been dead for quite some time already and it was the smell coming from his apartment that made the neighbors complain to the authorities. His ramen was still on the table, untouched. This made an impression on him but he wasn’t alone, many respondents are actually afraid of dying alone and being found by others this way.
One guy on the other hand, said that he isn’t afraid of being single mainly because he doesn’t “think that far ahead.” He added, “Being single or having a boyfriend doesn’t even come to mind if you just live in the present.” Another said that “living alone and coming home to an empty apartment, condo, home, etc. is what I prefer and makes me the happiest.” While another gay man explained that he was, “Kinda hoping for it actually. Ten years in a relationship taught me a lot about myself.” Read the entire thread here.
But what about you, guys? Are you afraid of staying single forever? Do you feel like you will die single and if so, how do you deal with that fear? Maybe you wish to remain single all your life like some of the guys mentioned above? Do you love single life? Share with us your thoughts and stories in the comments section below.