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Hey, guys! Have you ever fantasized about having sex with men while crossdressing?
We are asking because we read a lot about how some guys get sexually aroused from crossdressing. Some men shared that they love to wear a dress and masturbate while wearing that dress whereas others confessed how they fantasize all the time about having sex with a crossdresser who happens to be either gay, or bisexual, and yes, even with a straight guy.
Yes, these online confessions included straight men who sleep with crossdressing men, ones who they find are “completely feminine, have little to no body hair, and are ‘passable.'” Passable is, according to this article we are quoting, “a term used when said crossdressing guys look like cisgender females.”
But that’s not all because we’ve also read confessions of straight men who fantasize often about wearing women’s clothes and having sex with other men but only when they are crossdressing. Or how they love to cross-dress and would fantasize about having sex with another cross-dresser. We say straight because these men have sex with women, have even been in a relationship with them, and only ever fall in love with women so you can imagine their confusion about their sexuality. Often, they would ask themselves why they would fantasize about having sex with other men while crossdressing?
Some gay men on the other hand, feel ashamed about it—perhaps due to fear of judgment—so they try to hide the fact that they cross-dress from their boyfriends or practically from everyone else, really. The same reason holds other gay men back from even trying or acting out on their crossdressing fantasies because they feared that doing so would make them “feel greatly emasculated.”
Whatever a person’s circumstance or fear is, one thing’s for sure and that’s crossdressing is a common fantasy according to a study conducted by sex researcher Justin Lehmille as cited by Anna Pulley. In fact, it is so common that crossdressing made it to the top seven most common fantasies “specifically homoeroticism and gender-bending.”
Further, the study revealed that:
- a fourth of the respondents, men and women alike, had fantasized about cross-dressing
- almost a third “had fantasized about trading bodies with someone of the other sex”
- and that “one in four men and one in six women had fantasized about sex with a crossdresser”
Pulley explained that Lehmille surveyed over 4,000 Americans of all genders and sexual orientations and published his findings on a book called “Tell Me What You Want.” Read the entire article here.
That being said, what do you think about having sex while crossdressing, guys? Is it something you’ve already tried? Maybe fantasized about? If so, we’d love to hear your stories and crossdressing fantasies in the comments section below!
Having sex while crossdressing or with a guy who does is just not a place I personally can get. I’m attracted to men. Guys who look like, act like, dress like, behave like the usual, standard, traditional, everyday version of men. Same goes for role playing and lingerie. For me, they’re all a distraction as opposed to an addition. For guys into any or all of the many options available, great! Enjoy! There is something for everyone.
Doesn’t make them less men because they wear stockings or heels. I’m muscular and a man, and it happened few times that I dressed up for bi men who were into dressed up guys, and I had a blast. It’s true that it takes a open mind, which some don’t necessarily have.
As I said, “For guys into any or all of the many options available, great! Enjoy! There is something for everyone.”
I think gay people are crazy. Or at least we play well being crazy. Some times we label us as straight who have sex with man. What’s is that’s supposed to be? what about saying crossdressing straight man who fantasies about gay sex. Never act on it. Hes married with children and 60yo and we have to believe that.? All seems stupid to me. Gay are gay. For experts. Gay is when you fall in love with a same sex person. Means . You dont need to have intimacy with. Just love. Bu sexual is when a one gender identity… Read more »
I think I’m in love! Lol
A commentary by a ‘real’ man!
Nathan is proud-of-you!
You let no fly in the gloss; no run in the stocking; no tear of the dress; no caking of the foundation; no globs of nail-polish or drop of the clutch!
You stand tall; however,
a flowered, Tent Dress, replete with hair up swept, held in place by a can of extra hold, lacquer, Aqua-Net hairspray; Putanna earrings… and a nice pair of Marilyn-Monroe, backless heels, might be something we all might try, once, on Halloween?
Just a passing thought…?
Nathan, Cross Dressing? I beg to differ! He has a Master Bedroom Suite, replete with a dressing room, dual toilets, dual sinks and a shower with quad shower heads. The only time Nathan cross dresses is when he travels from one closet to the other closet. The aforementioned is Nathan’s definition of cross dressing. He is proud of his ample penis and covers it with a fine example of masculine attire…where all-of-humanity-can witness God’s generosity! Size does matter, and hiding it under a pair of fish-net stockings undue the eye candy; not to mention, a slip; camisole; skirt; blouse and… Read more »
We need to chat.
Seems this is the new “cool/craze”, but count me out. I like a man that looks, dresses and smells like a Real Man.
That was easy……….
Lol. What if real men are never gay?
I agree with Kirt. As long as the guy smells like a man and looks like a man, good to go.
Just my personal “always wanted to”..Like the pic of the guy above..meet a guy, actually the same stockings..or “thigh highs” with nothing else, or maybe a black jockstrap…possibly even lipstick (red) of course…stockings maybe torn…
I like a guy in thigh high stockings and a thong and a cropped nylon tank top, but nothing else.
I always dress up when I take cock and I LOVE IT !! It really helps become submissive and enjoy the encounters that much more.
My fantasy has always been to have 5 men gang bang while I wear my sexiest panties, stockings, garter and nightie
Sounds like fun. I’ll pull my big girl panties up and be right over
We need to chat.
Not even remotely interested in cross dressing or being with a cross dresser. I like my men butch and not a chick with a dick.
Nope, nope and nope. Dressing in womens clothes, reminds me of women. I dont want to be with women. Its imagery. How you present yourself to the world is important. I would also not cross dress simply to hook up with a guy cause thats the only way he would be with me. Little more self respect than that here. Fantasies are a waste of mental energy anyway. Fantasy rarely lives up to reality. To say wearing womens clothes doesnt make you less masculine is very contradictory considering lingerie and dresses, etc, are the very representation of femininity. Stop rationalizing… Read more »
It’s just not my thing. sorry, I have had several guys ask me to dress but I always declined…once I had a guy ask me to wear a jock strap… even that was a turn off… but I thought what the hell.. I put on a jock strap.. thought I looked kind of stupid.. but it did turn on the guy I was with…he pulled off his pants and his cock was hanging half way to his knees…that’s when I got turned on…
I’m naturally effeminate [personality & looks] and was very hesitant about cross dressing in the beginning. But after a couple times I began to enjoy the excitement on the [straight, bi, gay, doesn’t matter they all like it] man’s face as he seen me in all dolled up or in some panties and stockings and heels. They make me feel sexy and desired as they lick their lips, look me up and down and grab my ass in whatever I have on. For those who want to try it, I say do it. They say don’t knock it till you… Read more »
To each it’s own but send the femboys, passable and cisgender females my way. I’ve had fun in bed with these types then a reg masc guy I’m just saying lol
I am married to a woman and consider myself bisexual. My physical attraction and feelings of love are, and always have been, overwhelmingly towards women. I’m not attracted to men in that way, and my sexual encounters with men are for my love of cock….I love having sex with hung men, being submissive for “domish” guys and servicing/worshipping their cocks and making them feel good, but I’m not into kissing or cuddling with them. I’m otherwise outwardly masculine, but as part of servicing mens’ sexual needs I get off on crossdressing. I haven’t worn women’s street clothes as yet, but… Read more »
Peter, couldn’t have said it better myself. Although I’m single but consider myself bisexual as well. Enjoy wearing stockings and heels occasionally and fantasize about doing it for a guy who gets off on it. Even shaved my legs for the first time this winter. I especially enjoy wearing chastity as it brings out my submissive and slutty side.
I find myself to be more attracted to transgender folks.. the femine aspect with a little extra. I have had a few guy guy encounters, and watch gay porn. …but find myself returning to trans individuals. I am still open to continue exploring my bi side with feminine men or masculine men. I just like having fun with versatile folks.
Don’t have any fantasies about cross dressers, in fact, something about that entire genre of human behavior and relationships repels me in such a visceral way. The crossdressers that are considered passable (by whose standards?), especially the few that go that extra mile with glamor makeup and sexy dresses or lingerie are actually creepy to me. And I apologize for my honesty. And I just don’t get how some straight guys could be openly attracted to that, knowing the full truth. It’s like they’re trying to fool themselves about being (at least) bisexual.
I’m physically and emotionally attracted to women, but with men I’m just into their cocks. I can’t envision myself developing a crush on a man, falling in love, or kissing/cuddling one. I love women, every inch of their bodies turns me on. I just have a thing for sucking cock and getting fucked by one. And I love to cross dress while doing it.
I’ve never seen a cross dresser look as fine in stockings as that man poised if front of the water tower in your pic. Most are OAFs (obese and fem) that I’m not that into. I’d tear that bottom up!!
I love dressing in bra and panties along with stockings. I love the feel of them. I have served several guys while dressed…it was great. I have also been fucked while dressed…….having my panties puled off and then being bent over and fucked was awesome…i tend to be more of the submissive type and being dressed adds to the submissive feeling
I’m definitely kinky, but not this, nothing to do with looking/dressing in any way, shape or form like a female, too much like drag. However, to each, his own, I’m pretty broad-minded.
Your attitude repels me, sorry. I love how gay men march every year to protest being told their actions were disgusting yet have trouble extending the notion of tolerance and acceptance onto others even more marginalized. The brain is complex and sexuality is thankfully opening to allow people to express themselves safely… well, almost, seems we still have a long way to go. To be clear, women’s clothes and makeup are contrived ….they do not magically appear on the female body, people have to chose to accept pink is girly and blue is manly… HA, pink used to be the… Read more »
I know, I studied history of fashion and you are right, and I agree with you.
Men also wore heels to compliment their calves…
Oh Fuck yeah Crossdressing is fuckin hot as hell! Especially the longer and more you invest into getting your special look. I am very masculine guy. But after much practice and many professional makeovers, I can present in several different ways. I can blend in and dress very plain Jane and be very demure. I pretty much go about my way in public very passable as long as I don’t have to speak with anyone. My voice will clock me everytime! I can dress elegantly, sexy, and make myself up, primping for an evening out and looking pretty fine. This… Read more »
Sorry but I like men not men who want to pretend to be women. If god wanted me to like women he would had made me str8 & I would had been born str8. Men can be sexy without all this crossdressing and pretending to a woman. Each their own, but for me it is a turn off.
I dated women the majority of my life, have never had the desire to wear women’s clothes or act as a woman. Most of women’s fashion seem torturous to me, and not in the least appealing. It is funny that as a little boy, I recall a story of my putting on my sister’s dance tutu – I was probably two years old, and it did not go over well, (and was told by siblings, that it was considered to be a sign of gay tendencies by our mom), so while I remember the laughs and my mothers anger in… Read more »
My boyfriend who is100% gay asked me to put a skirt, panties and thigh highs on and then fucked me in an adult book store while a crowd of guys watched and pleasured themselves. It was his fantasy and it turned him on and that turned me on. It was naughty, submissive and some of the hottest sex we have ever had. Was I passable? Hell no . When I put the g string on it felt good:the thigh highs gave me a rock hard boner and when I bent over in my skimpy skirt, he had full access to… Read more »
A married fuck buddy I have likes me to wear a thong. It exposes my ass, which he is interested in, while covering my cock, which he is not interested in. I don’t like thongs, because they seem too feminine, whereas I do like jock straps, which have a masculine association from sports, the gym, etc. In general, I am not interested in looking or acting effeminate, so women’s clothing, accessories, or behavior are not my style. Men’s underwear, however, is a big turn-on, for me and the fuck buddy, as is men’s athletic clothing, so there is plenty of… Read more »
I wear bras, panties, stockings and camisoles and my husband is neutral but wants me to be pleased. I have no desire to be trans and that is his main concern. I wear mostly undercover and uncovered at night when sleeping.
I like a few above have no desire to fall in love with a man, I am not into kissing him either, what I crave is his cock and cum, I learned at a young age that I love the texture of and taste of cum. I consider my self as bisexual, and answer the gender question as female, if they ask for sex it is male. I love the feminine body and love to give oral pleasure in fact I would rather do that then fuck. When I see a pretty girl my thoughts are always I wonder how… Read more »
Some of the most intense sex I have ever had is with a guy who is smooth and dresses up. He’s a total sub and I love it. After it’s over he’s a cute regular type of guy who loves baseball, fishing and the outdoors.
Hi im geena. Well thats my gurl name im actually a male. I love to cross dress whenever i can for men. And love to have sex dressed there are men that really love for me to be dressed for them. They like to play daddy and daughter while we have sex. Then there are others that only want me in male clothes. But i tell them that i only wear women panties and bras some are ok with it some aren’t. But there is someone for someone out there. We all have the same fantasy’s some just act them… Read more »
I think wearing sexy things is just a thing some need to really get in to that total submissive state of mind . I’ve only done it alone to enhance masturbation because that silky shit did make me feel extra sexy , and that little bit more horniness allows Me to cum just by fingering myself , or a Dildo . When i cum from anal penetration only the fuckin ‘ orgasm are insane , and I can goo a bit slower in and out then , but if I start really ramming myself imagining a real man in me… Read more »
I absolutely love to dress up in sexy and cute panties, camis, dresses and skirts. Even hotter when someone appertaining it. Makes me feel feminine and sexy. I’m a burly guy so not even close to passing as a bbw. Some guys like it and dress too, others don’t want any part of it and that’s cool. Whatever floats the boat
Nope…..not into it myself nor guys I’m interested in.
I am bimwm submissive oral bottom and love wearing another guys wife or girlfriend panties and lingerie as he fucks me.
I am masc in real life but turn submissive once around another guys hard cock.
I turn into a raging slut lol