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Do you love sucking dick, guys? Or are you someone who hates giving blow jobs?
We are bringing this up because someone on Reddit said that they don’t understand ‘total tops.’ He said, “So, I understand tops and bottoms. I understand those that are versatile. I even understand sides. But I don’t understand guys that don’t suck dick at all.” He added, “They like to call themselves ‘total tops’ and act like it’s some badge of honor not to go down on their partner. But how can you be gay and not like dick? Anyone who’s a ‘total top’ here, care to explain?”
We did a little searching, and found that a ‘total top’ or even a ‘total bottom’ simply refers to someone—whether gay, bisexual, or queer—who “have no desire to diversify their positional preference.”
Nowhere in the definition did it say that a total top dislike sucking dick, but one of the responders of the thread chimed in, “It isn’t just the sucking dick part, it is the entire attitude of a ‘total top.’ Whenever I hear total top, I immediately think insecure.” Further, he said, “Just like these ‘alpha’ males, they are like alpha testing software, they aren’t ready for production. Too many issues.”
Do you agree with them, guys?
Anyway, one gay man responded, “Right. Why do they have a problem with this lol. It’s not ‘internalized homophobia.’ Give me a freaking break Lmao.” He explained, “Some people are into dick, others aren’t. I am, but I’m not into ass at all.”
Meanwhile, someone who doesn’t like dicks also replied to the original poster (OP), “lol speak for yourself, enough with gays making aggregated assumption, I’m not into dick at all, there’s a rare occasion where I truly find a guy super-hot and masculine and suck them off but not because I like the dick and that rarely fucking happens maybe twice if I can recall.”
When someone asked him why he does not like dick at all, he responded, “I just don’t have a sub bone in my body, I don’t find dick appealing.”
Having said all that, is it weird for a gay guy to not be attracted to the penis? Do you, like some of the gay men on the thread, dislike dicks? And do you not also suck dick? Why or why not?
In this instance, I think it has to do with that idea of sexual fluidity. Maybe this person is attracted to physical male body itself and not the actual genitalia. Maybe they are attracted to men but only want to do the inserting? Maybe is is similar to how some gay men will still top a transitioned man who has only had their groin area converted to a female genitalia while still looking like a man everywhere else? At this point it also sounds like a personal choice. I have also heard of gay men who only like to do… Read more »
A “transitioned” man is a woman. A vagina is a vagina. Men do not have vaginas. Gay men do not fuck vaginas, or look at tranny porn with vaginas.
Ha! I call them morons. What active homosexual wouldn’t want to suck dick? Go lick some pu**y.
i think you just described a heterosexual, honey?
I beg your pardon? I was saying who wouldn’t want to suck dick?
I find it hard (no pun intended) to understand how gay men aren’t into sucking cock! It is my favorite sexual activity and especially getting the cum shot!!! Also some will put your cock in there mouth, but won’t kiss you!!! Very strange to me!
yes, kissing AND sucking, that pairing is SO very important .. in fact, if one ain’t without the other, then don’t even bother, honey! just DON’T!
Agreed wholeheartedly about sucking and kissing. I wonder if there’s another issue at hand: sucking and taking cum orally? Took me years and years before I let any cum inside my mouth.
As far as I’m concerned, that’s the reason I’m bi. I love to suck cocks and receive their juicy rewards. I also luv anal but if it’s not the same without first sucking the cock
The people trolling/posting these questions are too funny . Ok I’ll bite. So , some “ men” are more sexually fluid than others. For some gays top-bottom-verse, is NOT A PREFERENCE. These dudes truly IDENTIFY with their “ position” . for instant being a bottom is who and what they ARE not just a fancy or whim like what kind of undies theyre gonna wear today . Personally I don’t get the verse mentally,.. “ you fuck me now I fuck you and then lets fuck everybody ??? Lol. To me sex is a deep connection /experience I have when… Read more »
Agreed. Another yes/no, like/don’t like, black/white blog question.
Why would anyone think Gay guys’ feelings about penises and mouths, or penises and rectums, should fall only into one line? Worse even that some guys feel there’s something Gayly Wrong with a Gay guy who doesn’t like to suck, be sucked, or both Or fuck or be fucked or both.
Overt d’ Espirit:
You bring up an interesting & valid point about what Gay Males like [to do] and do not like [to do]…
and what reactions are elicited..
I do not engage in anal penetration or do I anally penetrate.
That has caused me much
disapproval and disinterest by other Gay Males who think that I am less than desirable for
not liking such anal antics.
Mainstream does not like to be challenged!
I can go one step further Casper. I really enjoy sucking dick but it depends on who I’m with. Maybe this is the norm! I can be with one guy and can really get into oral sex and then get with another guy and I don’t give oral sex at all. So I guess for me, it depends on the person I’m with.
Marcus:
I agree!
It all depends on what you are into to?
Some guys will accept another’s limitations.
Others,
will not and will dismiss you..
Is “fluid” really the right word?
I mean I get it, but it’s okay with me being a bottom if the top doesn’t like to suck dick, as far as I’m concerned he and his cock is what’s most important
It has been noted that an ejaculation tastes like :Mushroom Soup and smells like an open bottle of
Bleach?
Hence,
spermatozoa is tantamount to a “Bowl of Campbell’s Cream Of Mushroom Soup” within the vicinity
of an open bottle of Clorox!
To some,
it is the price one pays to suck and swallow and receive the “Fruits Of One’s Labor” from Mankind or
the avoidance of “Unpalatability”?
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What I wrote above was told to me, by an older man, when I was a teenager.
It took me a while to understand the analogy, but once I did, I did/do agree – whole heartedly!
It is a matter of Palatability:
However…
It can become an acquired taste!
I think it’s a personal choice, some guys like to suck, (I damn sure do), but for some they do not, and I think society has something to do with it. There is a stigma in American society that it is “shameful” or you’re a whore if you do. One of the reasons there are jokes and the like about it, why we called people “chicken neck” and such, because in one’s mind there is a little “guilt” about do it.
We should embrace the fact that sex is good and fun, and not shameful.
I guess I’m a whore!!! Lol
Yes you are! Inbox me…
Gay gays are tall, short, and somewhere in between. Their skin color can be dark, light and many shades in between. They come from every race on the planet. Some are heavy, some are light, many are in between. Some are muscular, some are twinks, some have dad bods. Some are fury, some smooth, some in between. Some like to kiss, some don’t. Some like anal, some don’t. Some like to top (only), some like to bottom (only), some flip. Some guy like to give blow job s (only), some like to receive (only), some both. Some swallow, some don’t.… Read more »
Very sensible, I need not say much; you’ve said already, kudos!
You’re as methodic, mature as I am in this matter; I don’t swallow, I love a nice, preferably cut-mid-sized dick on a man, love to pleasure him, gives me pleasure, to do so; from his handsome toes to his earlobes; all of him.
I have a buddy who is a “ total top” while i do like my cock sucked its ok with him as whe he fucks me i feel like hes making love to my hole. I als like kisses while fucking. I have more trouble with guys that wont kiss me while breeding me
I’m a “total top” because I DON’T BOTTOM…I don’t even like my butt touched.
That’s what I’ve always interpreted that terminology…top/verse/bottom refers to penis penetration.
NOWHERE in that does it involve oral.
As to me personally, I don’t like oral (giving nor receiving). I’ve been told I’m good at giving; but as to receiving, I don’t even get erect.. However, as I stated, that has NOTHING to do with “top/verse/bottom”.
I’ve been with guys who don’t like to suck. Okay.
I’ve been with guys who feel they are obligated to suck, at least a little. Okay.
I’ve also been with guys who like to suck but, give horrible head. What’s up with that?
I’m not just referring to young guys who have little experience. I’m talking about older guys who have developed zero technique over time. That is odder to me than guys who don’t suck at all.
I am a bottom; sucking cock is not my main focus. The top is, and the reaction I produce in his body while sucking can be amazing and that then makes the cock become my focus. My real issue I think is that I am not crazy about the taste of cum…I handle that by getting that cock into my throat when the cum starts to flow…feeling him pulse, pushing as deep as he can…that works for me. Just a bit of slippery cum as he pulls out is great; licking up his cock after…not so much for me. As… Read more »
Men laughing, next to each other in bed, and naked is such a nice sight. I’m a vers, orally, and a top anally. Life is not one sided and neither is sex.
I have a friend who is a top that loves to get head and fuck but he hardly ever touches my cock much less suck it, except as a token of affection , I don’t mind my mindset is giving pleasure to my partner.
if yahz ain’t down fo some hot wet juicy slurppin, then how can ya enjoy the seXXX as a whole, honey? ya gotsta have that some of that lip service before ya get down to the bump and grind!
There are not that many guys I find attractive to begin with, so I”m not going to also filter with some petty judgement about what I like in terms of fantasy. Reality is not fantasy. Too many gay men live entirely in their heads and miss the real connection to another human being.
Let me start here, I am a gay man, total top that loves to eat ass like it’s my last meal. Dick is nice to look at, maybe stroke while I am fucking my bottom, but that’s about as far as it goes. And to be honest, I’ve only met a handful of guys that make me want to receive head. I am open to lots of other things, body, exploration, kissing, etc. I take issue with the gays that are so limited in thinking, that they assume ‘self hatred’ or ‘internalized homophobia’, because someone does not like a dick.… Read more »
After reading all the interesting comments or beliefs here’s a honest answer how I feel. I’m married to a woman 30 yrs, we been in the swjngers world 25 and love it. We love watching each other play, she is Bi but doesn’t like men being Bi. I love creampies , sliding in her pussy after a guy or guys cum in her is my favorite!!!! I love getting sucked off, I start going to glorholes 15 yrs ago, in my mind at the time that wasn’t cheating. (Silly I know) I have topped some, bottomed a cpl times and… Read more »
Not saying there aren’t people like this…but it’s interesting how she’s fine with being Bi, but the man can’t.
I love sucking a nice cock. I can spend all day on one if he lets me. For me, a blowjob should be both ways. If I am fully immersed into what I am doing it translates to the guy I am sucking. He really enjoys the feelings that I am giving. I love to have mine sucked but have rearly found anyone who sucks like me. Then, there is others who do not like thst I precum from the time my dick is in his mouth.. I don’t like anal on me, tried a few times, just not my… Read more »
Feet. Touch my feet and I get nuts. NOT in a good way. Glad some guys like feet. I CAN’T stand to have mine loved. Incidental contact is fine. Maybe a bit of rubbing. Kissing? No! Sucking toes? NO! But if all that turns a guy on, great! Enjoy. Not a fan of having my nose or ears sucked either. But fine, I can put up with that for a bit if it turns a partner on. Pit rubbing, fine. Pit kissing or licking, fine if just showered. And while we’re at it, rimming. ONLY after I get to know… Read more »
“Nose sucked”?
I luv to get fucked and have my feet and toes sucked. I went nuts in a very good way the first time a guy did it to me.
Not big on anyone that is a total anything. To me it all depends on the man you are with and what part attract you. 🙂
Well, I totally get it. I have never pounded a male piece of ass, men have only pounded my ass. See where this is going. I have only been with men who have never sucked my dick, in fact I don’t like getting head, only like giving head and to cum by j.o. By myself. Men I been with won’t rim my ass but I will rim them. TOTAL TOPS, TOTAL BOTTOM. EACH THEIR OWN.
Sucking cock is the best part of two guys being together…. I am sure some do not like it, but that’s them, not me…
I don’t like sucking dick because I have a strong gag reflex. Has nothing to do with being passive or active.
I’m bi and I love sucking dick or dicks together and I love eating pussy so I just wanted to give my thoughts…I was in the closet for most of my life tho now I’m out to my friends and family and all but a select few people who I am quite sure would have major issue with this fact(I work un the music industry particularly concert production, and some of my peers would totally ostracize me if they knew that I was a very active cock sucker lol..anyway the reason I chimed in is that for years my only… Read more »
A total top is what I look for being a total bottom. I’m attracted to cock, not the person who it is attached to. I love to suck cock and be dominated by the guy sporting it, but I don’t like kissing and I don’t want a guy sucking me. I can have an orgasm just by getting fucked. I have never fucked a guy or had the desire to. I have had anal with females. I am physically attracted to females. So, I don’t know what category to put myself.
Why do you keep looking at Reddit for topics?
Because “we are the websites we keep.” They are a barometer, a looking glass, a curation, a clear representation of who we are deep down inside, behind the identity we present, the person we want people to believe we are.
i love giving head
Same here!! Nothing better than sucking cock and swallowing a nice load!!! Love nursing on a cock after I get the load!!! Making sure I get all of cum residue!!!
I Love Giving Head With or Without Reciprocation. Sucking Cock & Orally Pleasing Another MAN is My Favorite Sexual Activity. I Get Frustrated With The Guys Who Say That A BJ is NOT Enough – They Are unable To Find Pleasure in Just Oral Sex. I Say Step Out of The Way So That I Can Move On To The Next Guy Who Will Enjoy My Deep Throat Skills Of Sucking, Servicing & Worshiping His Cock!!!!
I think it’s two things. Personal preference or just wanting to please your man. It has been my experience that a guy enjoys a man’s penis. Because that is part of sex. But, in that aspect, a woman can enjoy that, too. So we can say, that’s just part of sex in general. Then there are guys that don’t like to have sex with a guys penis orally. They don’t go for it, but do it on occasion to please their guy when they really like their guy. I have never experienced a guy who didn’t like to have oral… Read more »
The likes and dislikes of gay men are as diverse as any group of people. I learned this early in my “bi” journey. I met a guy who was gay, out and proud. He thought any form of anal play was disgusting and fucking should only be for hetero couples. Blew me away
Frotting is a great option. While not as tight as some Tops would like, it can “get the job done.” One of my buddies loves to fuck; I’m not a fan but let him. One time he was laying on top of me, rubbing his hard cock along between my legs as we were face to face. I spread them open, inserted his cock between my thighs, clamped them on it, and began a slow thrusting motion up and down. He quickly took over, clamping his legs tightly outside of mine and fucking me between my thighs. I’d squeeze his… Read more »
I suck total top cock all the time. I am there for their pleasure.