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I can’t count the number of times I’ve read by now how some people knew they were lesbian, gay, or bisexual even before they hit puberty. Are you one of those guys? If so, care to share your story with us below?
That being said, there were also others who, once in a while, would wonder what their sexual orientation is. They would sometimes ask themselves while growing up: am I gay, straight, or bisexual? Such is the case of this guy (original poster or OP) who took to Reddit to ask the readers there about their opinion regarding this matter. Specifically, he asked:
How did you confirm or know you were Gay or Bi?
A pretty straightforward question honestly, I’ve never been too sure myself and have no dating or sexual experience with men. Asking cause I might have feelings for a friend.
One guy gave a pretty straightforward answer, he said, “Guys turned/turn me on and girls didn’t/don’t. When it came to crushes and daydreams or sexual thoughts or curiosities it’s always been guys for me, not girls.”
In addition, one guy revealed:
I always kinda knew. I thought about ‘I wonder what it’s like’ and wanted to try. Then a gay friend of mine and his boyfriend broke up and we started spending a lot of time together. And I realized I really liked him, and I kissed him and really liked it. I threw up afterwards (like an hour or two later), not because I was grossed out, but because I was so nervous my stomach was hurting and I had a lot going through my head about what this meant and how my family would take it when I told them.
Meanwhile, this gay man’s response is short but to the point but it is also somewhat similar to the previous ones. He quipped, “I mean I just kinda knew. Girls didn’t do anything for me. Boys did. Also, this was a clue.”
You can read the entire thread here.
What about you, guys? How did you know whether or not you’re gay or bisexual? What advice would you give to men like the OP above who are unsure of their sexual orientation? Share with us your thoughts and stories by commenting down below!
I hereby challenge anyone to come up with as offbeat a story as mine: Age 13, first day of gym class with swimming instruction….before getting in the pool, we go into the locker room to change…first time I’m in a room full of other naked male bodies. I already have hair above my dick, but as I glance around I notice nobody else does. Very embarrassed. Fast-forward to every time in that sort of situation thereafter: I casually (and discreetly) glance around each time to see if anyone has started growing their pubes yet. Fast-forward a few months and years… Read more »
Read mine Matt. A little different, but . . .
Sorry to break it to you, but you’re gay.
I guess it’s a matter of semantics and personal definitions, John. To me, “gay” = love, relationships and of course sex; whereas simply “homosexual” could equate to what I am – purely sexual but without the love & relationships.
And in what dictionary or common usage did you find that gay means “relating to relationships” while homosexual mean “sexual, without a relationship”? For all intents and purposes, gay and homosexual are synonymous in common parlance. For some reason unbeknownst to us (and presumably yourself), you’re trying to create arbitrary distinctions that don’t really exist so that you can avoid calling yourself gay. But as anyone who has read your post can tell you, you’re not fooling anyone. You’re gay.
Drop the mic!
There’s no denying you’re correct, John. Best I can say is, thinking of myself in the terms I used is how I can best cope with who I am and what I’ve become. As far as I’m concerned, someone who’s gay is involved in the gay community and that’s not me. Someone who has gay sex as a side hobby (for lack of a better word) and is otherwise involved in the hetero community – that’s me. And before I “drop the mic,” all I’ve said here is judgmental about myself only, nobody else.
I know I’m right. The best way for you to cope with who you are and what you’ve become is to stop denying the word “gay” describes you. You’re doing nothing for yourself or for other LGBTGIA+ people around you to deny it, especially when it CLEARLY fits. “Someone who’s gay is involved in the gay community, and that’s not me.” Congratulations on drawing still MORE meaningless, useless distinctions so you can make yourself seem special. You’re not special. Get the fuck over yourself. You need to go re-read the first sentence you wrote. Focus on that one. It’s the… Read more »
Sorry to enrage you, John. Perhaps if you were married over 35 years and had worked as hard as I have all these years to keep this secret locked in the closet you’d better understand. And as I had indicated in one of my prior responses, my approach is solely about myself and has nothing to do with the LGBTGIA+ community.
You have no idea of my previous marital status or “how hard I work.” Go sit and spin, you presumptuous self-loathing little twit.
Why does that bother you so much unless you’re hiding who you really are??
How about being the only one without hair? Trauma time.
That was me – late bloomer.
no hair on 13 year olds? Where did you go to school? Hair by 6th grade and fucking before that in the hood. White people are backwards unless when they screw their sisters.
It was 7th grade – I think some were still 12. At least as best as I remember I was the only one with hair. Can’t say I walked around the room and went “OK show me…nope…next?…nope” LOL
I think all these categories of sexuality are just distorted cultural phenomenon that largely serve the purposes of homophobia. We are purposely designed to be randy. Whatever might be the momentary target of the interest that generates doesn’t designate an individual as anything other than functioning perfectly, exactly as designed. Sooner or later… if you haven’t already… if you haven’t fucked it yet you’ve at least considered it… deeply!
It’s simple. If you only get turned on by one side or the other then gay or Hetero. If you get turned on by both then you Bi. I knew I was Bi as a kid. 12/13 as I would get hard watching the Dukes of Hazard looking at both tge Duke Boys and Daisy.(late 80s). I got turned on by DiCaprio and Jenny Macarthy. I had guy friends that we “experimented” starting with just jerking looking at swiped playboys, but where I was always willing to go farther(inside my head) I knew I couldn’t seem to eager, but tits… Read more »
Before I hit puberty, I was always a curious child. As some unsupervised kids have been known to do, I played show and tell with a couple girls and boys in the neighborhood comparing the goods so to speak and discovering the girls were missing something that us boys had in common. Could this be why they were called “girls?” Well, soon enough, the girls had something us boys didn’t have, and it caught my lustful attention. I knew had an attraction to both girls and boys. While my preference is toward the guys, I won’t turn away an opportunity… Read more »
You’re right Nutntoit: It may not be how I turned out, but that’s a beautiful and unique story!
I kind of envy men/women with that ability, “pan-sexual” you can sex/love both sexes!
I’m an opportunistic hedonist. If it feels good, do it. I’m probably 70/30 bi. 70% homo, 30% hetero. A hot guy always gets my attention, a hot girl will if there’s no hot guys in sight. I’ve done gay 3-somes and FMF threesomes. I haven’t managed a MFM, but I’d like to. In public I’m 100% hetero. In private it depends on who I’m with. I’ve had some very public sex both hetro and homo and enjoyed it greatly. Back when I was about 19 I ended up on stage in a live sex show, M/F. It’s one of my… Read more »
I’m probably going to fall into the oppotunistic hedonist category as well. My ratio is different from yours though. I’m 98/2 with 98% being into women and 2% being into guys. I have zero interest in men outside of sexual gratification. Most of the time I have zero desire to do anything with a guy at all. There’s nothing in me that can see an attractive/hot guy and be turned on as I would be seeing an attractive woman. I greatly prefer women and the feminie form but in the absence of that, I’ll hump male cheeks. Even in m2m… Read more »
It should be somewhat easy to self-diagnose. When jacking off who do you fantasize about, or which person is worthy of a second glance, what physical qualities attract you to a certain kind of person. Personally I just knew I felt different from my earliest recollections well before puberty. I may not have known what sex was, but I knew the boys were more attractive to me than the girls. It seems after puberty is when the path is determined one’s life will follow. Some guys follow their true self and some choose to deny themselves to avoid rejection or… Read more »
I remember being attracted to boys in third grade (possibly even as early as Montessori school!). We’d be out at recess, playing that we were airplanes. I always played this with Ron, another boy in my class. We’d ‘injure’ a wing and would have to help each other ‘fix’ it. It wasn’t sexual but definitely had some affection. Girl germs were also a thing at the time and I was a big proponent. No idea whatever happened to Ron but I knew I was a homo! Later, early junior high age, I fooled around with some local guys for a… Read more »
Oh, my God . . . I always liked girls, but in the sense that I kind of identified, I’ll explain. I recognized the beauty of females, period, I had girlfriends, but not as a male, like I was one of them, it was such a natural gravitation in that way, I combed my girlfriend’s hair. Nobody stopped me either or said anything, never tried to kiss any of them though. My mother use to ask me, “Peter, what kind of wife are you going to have?” I said, she’s going to have long black hair like yours, mama” and… Read more »
It depends on who’s asking. If it’s the guy in the picture above: you’re definitely gay.
Yet another depiction of guys by A4A who are young and light-skinned. Some diversity is needed.
And he sure doesn’t look content. He looks conflicted or as though he’s tortured about something or is a victim. More stereotypical “oh woe is us Gays”?
Why is this addressed as a response to me? It mentions nothing I said in my post.
“If it’s the guy in the picture above…” That’s why.
That’s not you in the picture. No one was talking to you.
No one was talking about you either.
What? Wait, “light skinned” and white are completely different, he’s clearly, of a Caucasian persuasion, furthermore what the hell, has color got to do with this subject matter? I’ll be honest in my question; did I miss something here, as it pertains to “color?”
When I was younger my family was homophobic, but I knew I liked guys, girls excited me, later as I grew with a open mind I found men gross, like the way they smelled and behaved, I found porn exciting than actual men, as I grew and understood, i began to like women as well more, I was happy being a curious teenager then an adult, when i became 24 I began experimenting with guys I found attractive and then women, found I liked both, a wet pussy, and a tight ass, liked sucking cock of a guy I like… Read more »
I started having sex when I was 6 or 7 years old.. I had no idea what sexy was.. never heard of queer or homo or gar or bi…. I just knew I enjoyed having this older man being my friend.. now I love sucking a big dick or getting fucked…
I have had a gay man suck me when i was in my teens it wasn’t till in my 50’s when driving truck that I experenced my first time that I played with a gay man so to this day I do play with a woman but perfer to be naked with a man More Gay here than bi
Much Ado About Nothing! Only those with nothing better to do emote about their sexuality! Labels, labels and still more labels. For what reason? Only if you are sexually active, does your sexual orientation matter. When you come out between Mommies Legs, you have no perception of what flips-your-dick and when you are on your death bed, your sexual orientation is irrelevant. It is the horseshit between birth and death that matters and when you are sitting on the Loo after having drunk your first cup of morning coffee, what comes out is neither pole nor hole! Now, how well… Read more »
When did it become the norm for gay males to deny the fact that bisexuality does indeed exist? Bisexuals are attracted to both sex’s and have intercourse with both sexes. Sorry to burst your bubble, but we are out there.
Jim- in my post above, I concluded I’m a closeted “homosexual” = just in it for the sex and that I just can’t get a boner for my wife or any women anymore (it’s been years since my wife and I made love, even though we still have a solid marriage). But I can tell you that on through most of my adult life I also was truly bi. I could get it up for my wife…until I no longer could.
Jim, The term “in the closet” for me is so negative. It is right up there with bullying. Most of those who declare they are “out and proud” look down on those who do not publicly parade their sexuality. These demanding individuals have absolutely no right to tell anyone else about how they present themselves. If anyone wishes to be reserved about their sexuality, meaning only letting those who need to know know, there nothing wrong with that. Be who you are. You need to answer to no one else. Especially, gay bullies.
Gay. The gayest. Super-fucking-gay.
And where is your acceptance?
The person responsible for not accepting himself in this conversation would be MattK. I fully acknowledge and embrace my sexuality. He clearly does not.
You’re right John – I don’t. But I’m happy, I like my life and my family – and the gay sex I get on the side makes for some nice gravy. And if I have to fudge some rules from the LBGTQ dictionary, so be it.
Yeah, but that is pretty cowardly, but as long as you’re happy and can look yourself in the mirror and your poor wife every morning, “so be it.” Maybe she’s getting a piece on the side, hope so.
I don’t believe you, how can you be happy, when you cannot except ‘fully’ who you are?” This reminds of an idiot on here who is “fond of black men, sexually” who is a racist fucking southern conservative white nationalist . . .really? “He has thing for nigger juice” this is a quote right outta “Monster’s Ball” starring Halle Berry and Billy Bob Thornton . . . This motherfucker wanted to eat my ass out, man! “MattK” and “Overt” women paraded, black’s same thing, Irish even to this very day! Declaring their’s, our rights, period, everybody’s, having to do so;… Read more »
He’s very possibly like the person (I’ll refrain from using the word “man,” because it hardly seems to apply) you described in the first paragraph of your post.
Enjoy continuing to live in your self-imposed delusion, Matt. The rest of us have bigger fish to fry.
Jim. “The Community” has its established Rules for Gay men, for some inexplicable reason. “Men who are sexually attracted to men” are supposed to behave and think in one certain way. Bi guys violate the rules and are looked at by certain/many Gays in the Community as “second class” or “unviable”. These same Gay guys demand to be absolutely accepted for who they are, but offer little/no respect to other “Men who are sexually attracted to men” who may be just a bit different.
I agree 100%, and we are the ones bullied on this very site.
Thanks for having my back, Jim. I’d have never imagined being bullied the way I’ve been in this blog post. If guys like John, Lamar and others want even more fuel for their fire, here’s one for you all in response to Lamar’s rant above: I’m as Left-leaning and minority-loving, and Trump-hating as they come, but when it comes to sex – only white guys get me hard. Go ahead – attack.
Who mentioned anything about that nut-job? Personally, I find your stance quite wimpish. I run into enough DL’s in denial, it’s just sickening these guys avail themselves to tuck and run back to the otherside of the fence so to speak; when it suits them. Not able to face-up to who they are sexually, while, hell, you’ve the whole damn LGBTQ having the balls to stand-up to who they are sexually. . .even those of ‘us’ fringe-groups who no longer have balls physically speaking. And then there’s you . . . lurking, lurking and hiding in denial, meanwhile married too… Read more »
So, internalized homophobia and not-so-internalized – indeed, very EXTERNALIZED – racism. You’re only making this worse and worse for yourself, Matt. But by all means, please keep going.
Wow, quite a few hostile individuals here. I guess I’m dealing with the wrong crowd, who no matter what I say will hate me for what I do and what I’ve become. Oh well…
I’m hostile to dishonesty, MattK, what did you think we were going to do, say ‘that a boy’, ‘good going, man’, give you a pat on the back, going along with wrong of your doing?
I don’t and won’t apologize, for damning your lack of integrity, your ability to lie to yourself, thus affecting someone else’s life. I’ve seen what this kind of denial has done to friends and family members with guys like you.
I keep telling you I don’t disagree with you. At the same time, I’m not asking for any “attaboys.” I developed in two completely different ways: socially hetero and sexually homo. It takes a lot to achieve happiness withOUT hurting those around me while carrying both out, but I’ve found my way. Sure I’m dishonest with myself. I’m not proud of it. But if there’s anything I am proud of, it’s that I have found a way NOT to hurt those around me. Hate me all you want – I get it. We have nothing in common aside from our… Read more »
. . .I don’t bother, give energy to “hating.” So, what you’re simply, and I do mean simply trying to do here, with us, is split hairs, MattK; we ALL grew-up socially hetero, and you know that?
BTW, MattK, I thought we had one more thing in common, “left-leaning and minority loving?” LMAO!!!!! Fraud!
Yes, for sure we have our far-Left leanings in common – I didn’t think it bore repeating. (Besides, this is a sex-related site, no?) All I’ve been trying to do is defend myself (albeit often weakly) for how I’ve been living my life. If you want to keep it simple, how about this? My needs/desires for guys is ingrained inside me and it’s never going away. I can’t control it, nor do I want to. But living a gay lifestyle has never been inside me at all and never will be. So I certainly live a life of contradiction and… Read more »
Men who are sexually attracted to men, should also look and behave a certain way to be attractive, according to these same gays. While, the true bisexual dudes don’t really give a damn about all that superficial crap. Yeah it’s true they will worship masculinity, but pretend that bisexuality doesn’t exist or just get hooked on all these labels. “Gay” men have been making up their own rules for decades now, based off of their own superficiality and lack of relationship (with responsibility) experience. As a result, you will see more of this inward sexuality questioning, because being sexual is… Read more »
Good question. Not sure I have an answer. Honestly more questions than answers. I love women always have for relationships. However, I enjoy sex with both men and women! More submissive with men and bottom. With women I tend to be more dominant. I like big burly bears and thick soft women with more curves than a country road. Never been able to choose just one for sexual play. Like I stated before I’ve never dated, or loved a man. I’ve had several sexual experiences as a cuckold in MFM 3somes. That would be my preference if forced to choose
it’s a fact.. the world sucks. they call it gravity..
I was attracted to boys before I was to girls. I school I would always try to get a glance in the gym shower room. I sucked my first dick when I was 14.Things seamed to change after high school as I was more attracted to girls. I married (and have been for 40 years) and have two kids. But, My wife completly lost desire for sex when she hit 50. I traveled a lot for work at the time, so I decided to try hooking up with guys in my motel room when I was on the road. I… Read more »
My sexuality has been an evolution. I knew at a young age I was attracted to men. I longed to be closer to them than to women. When my peers were talking about a “hot” female actress or model, I’d be thinking of male actors or models. As time went on, I learned this meant I was “Gay”. But then, decades ago, the only Gay men you saw in the media were flamboyant and feminine. Not only was I not like them, I was not at all attracted to men who were like them. So I “went Straight”. I dated… Read more »
Hunter dude!!!! you just described my life story. My mouth is wide open!!!
I knew at 3 or 4 years old but i didn’t know what it was. I didn’t think much about it but I’d preferred to do more girly things than boy things like sports. My first crush was on a boy in 3rd grade….then Michael Jackson when he was hot and Ralph Carter. It was what it was. I wouldn’t go back and change anything.
It would be really great if guys would stop using the comments section as a place to practice writing their third-rate (and OBVIOUSLY highly fictionalized) adult fantasies and instead actually address the topic of the blog post.
Thanks, from all of us who are trying to keep down our lunch.
Per what was asked… “Share with us your thoughts and stories by commenting down below!”
Newsflash: this presumably means thoughts and stories RELATED to the topic of the blog post, not random, over-written skeezy porn you wrote into a comment box while you were rubbing one out to a PornHub video.
Simple solution: don’t read the “comment” section.
I prefer my solution, but thanks for playing.
I knew at six. I only liked looking at the cute boys that were a definite attraction to myself being gay. I’ve had sex with woman, peer pressure that your straight basically but it’s not quite the same. Nine through thirteen was either playing sex or sucking dick. Highschool meant if your gay your going to get beat up everyday and you will have no friends. College was out time. Kinda road the line between gay or bi but as they say here “Your only gay if you take it”. Unsure people, if you fantasize abouthaving sex with men while… Read more »
I was “straight” for my adult life, up until several years ago. And then I had the strongest desire to suck a cock. I am still surpised how strong that urge was/is. Today, I will eat pussy, and fuck a girl – but I won’t heitate to get on my knees and suck a cock.
I am the same way.
Some people are trying to make a distinction between “just-sex” gay relationships and “romantic” gay relationship, with bi guys just interested in the sex part. But I wonder if that’s not more a reflection of their attitude to relationships in general? Women often drive the romance thing and guys play along because of 1) sex, and 2) social pressures, 3) and desire for children. It may not show any real difference in how they feel towards the relationship and may be why so many of those hetero relationships break up once those needs have been satisfied.
Before answering if I am bi or gay, I would first want to know WHY is that so important and WHY is that a focus point to be discriminated? Gay community fight for rights and inclusion but discriminate and attack bisexuals? Doble standard?
Bisexual do exist, I have been bisexual since my teenage years, enjoy sex no matter if it is a girl ( awesome feeling eating pussy) or a guy ( great to play woth a nice clean dick)
There is no bad in being bi. Kinsey said there’s a sliding scale that relates to only sexual attraction. One one end, desire for women only, and the other end, a six point scale, men only. This scale was invented for sex only. It didn’t talk about relationships, partnerships, and whatever the chemistry that “love” constitutes. It’s for this reason that you can be a 1 and hetero or 6 and homo. But these are numbers, and we’re all unique and different. There are 6s that look upon 4s as uncommitted 6s. There are guys that try to get poz’d… Read more »
I think the reactions by homosexual men are often based on insecurity, really. Bisexuality is perceived as a cop-out and a rejection by many of homosexuality. And, I think it’s due to the stigma that homosexuality still has to this day, despite the advances and shifts in attitudes over the last 15-20 years overall in all societies. And, I have to admit, I used to be hostile to the while “I’m bisexual” label. I think sexuality falls on a scale, like from 1 to 5. Let’s say, 1 equals heterosexual with no homosexual interest, 5 equals homosexuality with no heterosexual… Read more »
Ok guys this is very important. Since the Supreme Court can over turn abortion. We care be next over turning gay marriage, over turn rights not to lose your job housing, which is a patch work throughout the USA. It’s time to step up. Help your straight sisters. They are really scared. They were here for us several times. During the dark days of AIDS/ HIV, ending don’t tell don’t ask. marry equal etc. We can be next. Several States already starting this. We must stand together. Get involved in running, giving money, volunteers, This is the facts. Vote blue… Read more »
Sadly many will vote against their own self interest. Funny how many claim to be gay but will vote for a party that hates them.
Guys, let’s not start the politics crap here. And, you’re getting off of the subject matter in order. And, it’s a shame you have to take a “all or nothing” approach. Not all of us sign up for the dem’s ever increasingly leftist agenda that’s moved more left and socialist than staying common sense and moderate. You sound quite intolerant in your remark and honestly shouldn’t be comparing the right to kill an unborn child to losing marital rights. Good grief.
I know I am Bi for sure!! I was married to a woman and still have a GF but all through that time always fantasized about touching and tasting another man’s cock. I finally tried at 52 years old, and the experience was overwhelming. So, I crave and enjoy regularly the feeling of submitting sexually to a man in every way he desires and also love the feeling of being a man when with my woman!! I have enjoyed the best of both worlds
Here we go with the insecurity questions and responses. If a guy says he’s Bi, suddenly he’s ostracized from both the LGBTQ community for not being able to decide or the fear that he’ll leave a relationship with one gender to be with another (talk about inclusion, eh). Turn that back toward straight (or bi) women, and you get a very similar and insecure response. But here’s the thing that people haven’t really figured out. Both genders/all genders can find someone sexually attractive based on something other than a physical attribute, although a cute guy can often do it for… Read more »
So…….. here’s the problem I was seduced when I was around seven or eight and experience I liked and then when I asked to do it again he embarrassed me and fun of the whole class as if it was my idea in the beginning I am gay but I wonder if I’m gay because I was seduced by one of my peers in grade school and simply like the experience so much I never ventured out I always loved and respected women but was abused very badly by some of my peers in fifth grade girls of course being… Read more »
These questions are like, when I look in a mirror, who do I see?
Not sure how to define my sexuality. The thought of being in a romantic relationship with a guy does nothing for me. Actually is a turn off. However, me having sex with a guy is a big turn on. (I’m a bottom if that makes any difference)
I enjoy romantic and sexual relationships with women. Finding one that gets that I do like to have gay sex is pretty tough though.
So, to sum up
Women=relationships and sex
Interesting. Why is that? Stigma? Just curious. I run into bi men all of the time who are only open to physical sex with another man, but no intimate/romantic dating or relationship. What makes a woman more appealing there?
I found out at age 19 when I was stationed in Thailand. I thought to person giving me oral(my first) was female. She was actually a ladyboy and cute as all get out. I love sexing both sexes but if it’s same sex, let the be a fem or transgender who has female feature and smooth. Masculine, handsome or hairy men don’t turn me on at all.
They all look the same on they belly. Put a mop head on a knuckle head and all look like bitches, just like they all squeal like pigs when my ten inch cock slams home.
I’d bet my entire 401K that you have the world’s tiniest banana runt dick.
Have had awesome sex with guys who were “Conservatively Equipped.” They were considerate, thoughtful, and highly motivated for fun!
I’ve been stable bi- for about a quarter-century. Tested out the gay side in mid-30s with an odd motivation: the condom safe sex had a better chance of ultimate success with the tighter hole, but only a few girls would do. With the guys I was very picky & had a type and usually it was just for fun.
I’ve been happily bi since my first sexual encounters with my male best friend at age 16. It was the middle 70’s and no one at that age wanted to be harassed for being gay so most of us kept quiet about our tastes and desires. I examined my actions and could find no wrong is us giving each other sexual pleasure. I was still very attracted to women but my eyes had been opened to how good sex could be with another male. I concluded I must be bisexual and was never bothered by that. I am fortunate to… Read more »
Just be who you are in the moment. No need to limit yourself.
growing up in the 50s 60 allways thought about it was never approached by a gay guy if I had might have done more instead tried to be nNORMAL got married and still wonder have had a few expearances with guys and still try to hook up once in a whil and she dont know If I had been exposed when younger might have admitted to myself that i liked guys now have to hide it and doing so is diffacult MY advice go with your feelings dont spend your life questing yourself
Well I guess we all have that moment when we see someone so attractive they blow our minds the first time it happens. Kind of like the “who’s that?” moment. For me, I was 16 and at a basketball game my junior year of high school. This guy came up and sat next to me and I was so nervous I couldn’t even look at him he was so attractive. He was a wrestler and a year younger than me and I knew from then on it was men all the way. He caught me staring in the locker room… Read more »
I would like to think I am bi – but I am really confused at 65 – because I do love both men and women. I have been married three times – this last time for 25 years and still married..I love nothing more than hot and loving sex with a woman but I am equally turned on by a hot cock and especially a hot man’s ass! Something about it! When I was in elementary school my friend and I would play doctor and patient – examining each other in his bedroom – with the door closed. I loved… Read more »
Jeff, could you see yourself as also having a committed/emotional/loving relationship with a man as well? Or, is the sexual appeal only physical? It seems that most of the bisexual men I’ve met or have known in my life so far appear to be married/emotionally tied to woman, but seek and desire something physical with a man. Rarely have a run into a bisexual man who’s in a relationship with another man and then occasionally finds a woman for a sexual only romp.
I grew up in the 70s, and for me it was still such a strong taboo to be gay. I liked girls, but I fantasized about boys more than girls – I dated but I was so shy with the girls. A male buddy made a move on me one night when we were hanging out and it was fantastic…of course, I went through all the guilt feelings for enjoying it, but he confirmed it for me – I found it very confusing to be attracted to both sexes, but after found peace with my true self, I accepted that… Read more »
Even as I child I was fascinated with the nude body, male or female. As I reached puberty I had erections all the time but had never jacked off or cum. My first orgasm happened with another barely pubescent boy. We barely had pubes. We sucked each other and I came by rubbing my cock between his hairless ass crack. I was hooked on homosexual sex. I’ve been married to a woman 31 years. Sex with her is not distasteful however I way prefer man sex.
Out of total curiosity, why did you marry someone of the opposite sex? Reason I ask is that I have found it to be true in almost all bisexual men I’ve encountered in my life that they only seem to have emotional/committed bonds and marry someone of the opposite sex, yet pursue and sometime prefer sex with someone of the same sex, yet it’s only physical. Once that itch has been scratched, they go back to their regularly scheduled program so to speak.
Being “bi” is so much different than”gay” or “straight”. Frankly, I think life would be harder that way. It should mean you are equally turned-on by both sexes! I realized when i was 13 I was masturbating thinking about men.
I have no clue what I am, I began playing with dildos about ten years ago and absolutely fell in love with the feeling; and ever since then woman don’t even make my clitty hard at all but looking at a naked man or men really gets a quick reaction from my clitty. If anyone responds to this ask me anything you would like to.
I agree with the poster in the article. Who do you think about, fantasize about? Do you find only one or both sexes attractive in a sexual way? I’m married to a woman and enjoy sex in that capacity. I remember as a kid/teen having naughty thoughts about Daisy Duke, but also Bo and Luke(about equally). I remember watching George Michael(pre bathroom incident, lol), and Timberlake or looking at guys in the locker room(discreetly). However I also fantasized about Princess Di and doing the naughty things for her Charles wouldn’t. As well as Brittany Spears in that plaid skirt, mmm.… Read more »