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Have you ever had sex with a straight man, guys? If so, how was the experience for you? If not, would you ever have sex with a straight man who wants to experiment sexually?
Anyway, we are bringing this up because we stumbled upon a revealing thread on Reddit wherein straight men were asked by the original poster (OP) this question: “Straight guys of Reddit who have experimented with other guys, what did you think of it?”
One guy shared:
In college I was obsessed with sex and pretty much went through the entire catalog of sexual experiences. I agreed to a 3-way with a girl and her bisexual boyfriend. You know, it’s quite a thing to have a guy’s dick in your mouth and at the same time realize that you are not the slightest bit into guys. I finished him off though because that’s the kind of bro I am.
Meanwhile, another guy revealed, “Several years ago I hooked up with a coworker. It was much more intense than any sex I’d ever had with a woman. I really loved it.” Further, he confessed, “Actually I think about it quite a bit sometimes when I’m fappin’ it. With all of that being said, I’m not emotionally attracted to men like I am [with] women. I would definitely do it again though.”
His experience is a stark contrast to this guy who confessed that he has “made out with a guy before.” However, he said, that: “It didn’t feel special like when I make out with girls, there were no fireworks. I did feel insanely comfortable with him afterwards, but I didn’t feel attraction what so ever.”
Last but not the least, one guy shared:
I’ve hooked up with guys three times. I didn’t enjoy it the first time; he was very handsome and perfectly pleasant, but there wasn’t that excitement, that ‘omg I’m going to get laid’ sense that I get with women. I didn’t come.
I tried it twice more because I believe that sexual experimentation should be scientifically rigorous, and what the fuck kind of scientist can’t reproduce their results on demand?
Having said all that, UBC sociologist Dr. Tony Silva, author of the book titled Still Straight: Sexual Flexibility among White Men in Rural America, said that “straight men in rural America have sex with other men. And they are not gay, bisexual, or ‘just experimenting.’”
Dr. Silva explained that there are reasons why straight men choose to have same-sex relationships. For one, it’s because they, and we quote, “enjoyed receiving anal sex from other men because this act allowed them to experience pleasure, but without the pressure they felt when they had sex with women.” Another is because they “were lonely or wanted to experience human touch, but were unsure how to do so platonically in a way that felt masculine.” Dr. Silva added, “Sex helped them connect with other men in a way that felt masculine to them, ironic as that may sound.” Read the interview with Dr. Silva in full here.
Anyway, what about you, guys? Have you ever had a sexual encounter with a straight man? Share with us your thoughts and stories in the comments section below!
Oh, yeah, I loved it! I applaud “straight men” who at least experiment, whether it’s with a gay man or another hetero man like himself! Just as people from different races/cultures do, life/sex is too damn special, exciting not to. If nothing else, maybe, it could foster some understanding/empathy and acceptance . . . I mean, yeah, there will always be haters, but there’s also the more broadminded guys. Although, on a more of a downside, the whole male on male prison thing is really ugly, though.
I am sure all gay men appreciate your sense of validating who they are. You really ought to reread and reflect on what you wrote.
I did, after I wrote it, for errors, of which, there are none. So, what are you trying to say? I’m sure you have no idea . . . validation? Unpack that for me.
Why do certain Gay men consider it a big win to brag about whenever they may get a “straight” guy? There is a percentage of Gay men who would die before they’d ever have sex with a woman. The same goes for truly Straight men; they would defend themselves to the death before they would have sex with a man. There is a huge percentage of “straight” men who are more fluid. They may look straight, act straight, present themselves straight, have a wife, probably also are fathers, but given the right situation with the right guy, there would be… Read more »
I agree with you, wholeheartedly!
Straight males do not engage with other males…just as gay males do not engage with females. The preoccupation we gay males over straight males is not reality but fantasy.
Some of the ugliest motherfuckers I’ve ever had the displeasure of meeting, were absolutely, positively straight males. If I were a straight female, I’d consider the purchase of “Toys” rather than give it to trolls.
Straight, by definition, is the opposite; gay, be definition, is the same sex.
There are more things in Heaven and earth, Horatio, than are dreamt of in your philosophy.
And, there is reality… .
Here is another quote from Hamlet for you to ponder:
“Get thee to a nunnery, go. Farewell”.
Actually straight males often do engage with other males. Gay isn’t just about sex it’s about DESIRE and ATTRACTION. Many straight dudes who have had relations with other men had no emotional attraction to them. It’s just about getting your nerve endings stimulated for them.
You do have a point, to a large degree, unfortunately. For me personally, these encounters were just very organic, felt a closeness as ‘we’ just really got to see in each other something deeper than the flesh. These things happen when our ‘spirits’ engage, our energies, etc., through a buzz, music, art; whatever it is that you’re sharing; whatever brought you together within each other’s presence; that caused you to engage. I think most of us have said of somebody, “wow” I just love this dude/guy/man, something about them, aside from the flesh, but the affection manifested itself in the… Read more »
I agree that beyond the flesh, it is possible to love another guy. Some of my most ardent defenders in life are straight guys who I have developed strong fraternal bonds with in the community and neighborhood. These guys would go to the mat for me based on our energy, spiritual and other connections from chats, emails, community service projects, etc. While it’s secretly kind of a turn on, it’s also a sacred, tender, sweet thing that unfortunately we don’t see enough of in our society. I’m often moved when a straight friend comes up to me at a public… Read more »
some of the best sex I’ve had has been with “straight” guys who are actually closeted gay guys.
I’m a gay guy but almost exclusively only get with straight, or mostly straight guys. I’m not attracted to other gay guys, unless they have no hint of “gayness”. I’m not trying to offend anyone. You do you. Live and let live. I’m just attracted to masculinity. The more masculine, the better. I’m not looking for a relationship, so the straight/married guys are safer, as they aren’t looking for relationships either. I find the straight guys I hook up with are just looking for a sexual release, with no drama. They don’t want an emotional attachment as can happen with… Read more »
Eddie, you perfectly articulated exactly what I was about to write. I’m the exact same way. I never been on a real date or had a on-going relationship with a dude.
OMG I thought I was in a class by itself but damn Eddie you have defined me to a T, All of my encounters, and I am 56 have been with straight or Bi men. So I have never had a date or ongoing relationship only as I guess a Mr.stress for this married guy(female) we had encounters now going on for almost 8 years.
Toxic masculinity along with absolutely no human need for emotional attachment or support. Sounds like the recipe for a long, fulfilling life.
Am I the only one who loves toxic masculinity? Doubtful.
Same deal. Grew up in NYC around gay people, have gay relatives, but don’t really connect with gay men. I’ve had better experiences and intense friendships with straight and bisexual males, so much so that I don’t identify as a gay male anymore, only as a bisexual. Bisexual and straight men project less drama/neurotic/narcissistic behavior and vibe. There should be more studies on why this is, the social dynamics are different.
I’m still into women straight acting DL bottom, I would like to have a married top guy not for a relationship but it would be nice if he was only fuckn me,,,that way we we both stay DDF and that way he could cum inside me instead of a condom,,,,,
“A Hint of Gayness: The Story of a Self-Hating Homosexual and his Internalized Homophobia”
Yes, many times, as well as with bi and gay men.
While this is an interesting story the two inputs of straight men didn’t seem to enjoy having sex with another guy. I think the author could have found better subjects to include. As a gay man I don’t think sex with me, or another gay man is just okay or not as fun or sexy as they thought it would be.
Lately I’ve been having sex mostly with Dl guys, or guys who identify
as straight. It’s hotter someway, and when you are in the engaged with someone, most are really
into it,and not worried, who is straight, who is gay, who is bottom, who is top. It’s two guys making a
connection. Many of these DL guys told me, they realized at a young age they enjoyed both male and female.
As the stigma of gay sexuality gradually fades away; I’m seeing a lot more straight guys experimenting.
Oddly, when a gay guy and a straight guy are engaged in sex, it kind of works, as there is a clear understanding of how each other’s bodies work and how to satisfy that. It creates a really great sexual tension if there is a desire to try to satisfy each other. Also odd, are some of the slam-bam encounters with gay guys who finish, pull their pants up, and walk out as cold as a dead fish. No thanks. These kind of guys (I believe) have a sociopathy that will take them down a tough, lonely path in life.
I use to be like that,,,, I had a guy I would meet,,,before he would fuck me I would be all hot and horny,,,, I would suck him do what ever but once he fuck me and make me cum I was done,,,,,it was over I would come from under him and get dress and be gone,,, cause once I came I was a shame that I had let anutha man fuck me ,,, I wouldn’t think about sex with a guy for weeks sometimes months,,, I would think ,,ok it’s over not doing that anymore,,, then that feeling would… Read more »
You should do a post on married men. So many on here looking to get laid. Seems very common.
I’m a married guy who felt that I wasn’t getting enough oral sex. Hell who am I kidding, I wasn’t getting any at all. So I ventured out looking to see if the old adage that “guys really know how to please other guys was true”. Short story is that it actually found me. First experience proved that the saying was true. However, if my second experience would have been my first then I’d had been one and done. Which goes to prove everyone is different. I’m still nervous meeting someone and connecting with someone is still far and few… Read more »
Thanks for sharing.
Here in So. Florida, for sure, gay and hetero alike, it seems.
Sorry, these are closeted or bisexual males
Amen. Straight guys don’t get aroused over other men. Bisexual usually means horny enough to fuck anything, man, woman or goat. The straight guy fantasy is just that; a role playing game
100% agree. Straight “Heterosexual” men do not get aroused or seek sex with other men. And, when I have to hear about some guy who’s had more sex with men than I could ever imagine in the porn industry (a lot of Sean Cody men come to mind) and have to hear that they are straight, it’s a total eye roll moment. What a joke.
You’re bi.. period. It’s 2021.. who cares anymore?
I learned to give up on categorizing men and their sexuality–something else would always happen that would call into question the accuracy of the classifications. Also, I noted from a young age the pattern of gay men longing for straight men, seducing them, and then rejecting them after having sex with them because they were no longer straight. This is the very definition of self-defeating behavior.
The pattern of longing for straight men, I believe, is a thirst for what you never received earlier in life: the acceptance of straight guys. Seems we’re forever chasing that. Oddly, some of the coolest guys on the planet are gay guys who’ve finally figured life out and don’t give a shit about social classifications. Some straight guys also fit into this group of secure males who are smart, tender, kind, strong, masculine, polite, open, helpful, giving and cheerful.
I often wonder what am I,,,bi or gay,,, I still love women and sex with women,,,, I’m very dominant when with women,,,,, but when I’m with a guy I prefer a 100% top,,, I’m a 100% bottom I have never had a desire to top,,,in the street and with women you will never meet a guy straighter than me,,but behind closed doors with a dominant top I can be very submissive,,,,I also like to wear panties only when I’m about to get fucked or sucking dick,,,,what is my title ? Don’t everyone speak at once
The term is bisexual bottom.
No big deal, “taking a walk on the wild side”, “seeing how the other half (women-gay men) live-sexually.” This is very common among bi-men.
What makes you gay and what makes you bi,,,? If you are a top and still into women are you bi ? And if you’re a bottom and still into woman do that make you gay ? How do you separate the two
I remember the first time I was approached by a gay man (I identified as straight at the time, not having any same-sex experience). It was incredibly hot, once I “let go” and went with it….he not only introduced me to the pleasures of man to man sex, but also took my virginity! I was amazed how comfortable I was with him. I loved that he seduced me like that, and would love repeating the experience again and again!
The main reason I started having sex with men after becoming widowed at 50 was; Men were much more available. a guy doesn’t ask about your income, he doesn’t ask you to take him to a fine restaurant. He doesn’t ask you why you find him so especially attractive, etc., etc… Nor does he suddenly stop and say, Many guys are eager to suck your dick, and the first time you ever get rimmed,. which can be so incredibly hot, for sure, that’s coming from a guy not a girl. ” No. I don’t want this.” It took me at… Read more »
The real answer to this question is: no one knows. Just because you’ve had a fling with someone doesn’t mean you can tell whether they’re straight, bi, gay, or anything else. Sexuality is sort of like gender identity: the one and only indicator that you have is what the person tells you, and just have to trust them. Unfortunately, people lie. Added on top of that is the fucked up dynamic that exists of many gay men thinking that having sex with straight guys is somehow “more of a conquest” than having sex with another gay/bi man. Bottom line: no… Read more »
Thats deep ‘no one but you have access to knowledge about your sexuality “
I like sex. Sometimes it is with a woman. Sometimes with a man. I prefer to be with a man and bottom for him. Bi, gay, straight? I don’t know ( and don’t care). It’s about the person. For me it’s not black or white but many shades of gray.
I’ve had sex with a few “guy next door types. Married to women, with kids” before. Much is said about the ‘sexual spectrum’. I go back and forth on whether it really exists. You’re either straight or….. I question whether there is really a thing called “bi”. With that said, I’ve often thought about why women enjoy intimacy? Platonic friendship with other women, that involves some intimacy. I think that most guys are lonely. Most guys crave the same kind of intimacy that includes acceptance, human touch, and understanding. Most guys however see shame in in it, as we’ve been… Read more »
Paul from NYC here, I’m attached and very much attracted to women. But, while I wouldn’t openly admit this, I do enjoy being a total bottom with an older guy. On paper, I’d identify as straight, but in fairness, sexually I’m bi, at worst a closet bottom. With a man, it’s really just sex and about getting off. With a woman, it’s that and can be more for me.
Don’t care to go out of my way or even fantasize about “making it” with a straight guy. I’m gay —I’m into gay guys. I don’t get this obsession over bagging a straighty.
I come at this from 2 perspectives: I’ve been having on/off sex with guys since I was 18 (I’m now 62), but I’m deeply hidden in the closet, have been married for over 3 decades to my wife, and neither she nor anyone know I do this. Whereas my wife and I used to have a somewhat active love life, these days only gay sex gets me erect; my wife and I haven’t been at it in a long time. But I’ve never felt any emotional attachment to any guys; for me it’s all about the sex, nothing else. As… Read more »
Well I’m a guy that has gotten oral from guys but never penetrated a guy, i like ass but have no interest in penetrating, penis actually goes down with the thought. What does that make me? I have no interest in guys penis nor do I want kissing hugging cuddling etc. Am i selfish using someone but what if they want to be used. I dont think about guys unless I’m horny etc. Some had better oral then others and some you wouldn’t think they did it at all. With all the stereotypes gay,bi closeted etc.how about I just did… Read more »
Thailand was a good place to road-test all this. A legendary club no longer there would have you take 2 women, but they were trained to do rimming with tongue digs, some were 3-hole, and they could also work on each other. The rimming and 3rd hole are gay-adjacent playbook things many hetero guys don’t get from their S.O. Ladyboys are another baby step there. Famous for being good at oral, and usually noticeably more horny than many girls (non-horny girls are known as starfish). Also will do anal, usually receptive, though the prettiest ones apparently get customers who freak… Read more »
HOW can anybody who has sex with a person of the same sex be called “straight”?
Totally agree!! It’s laughable.
I think most of us are on some gray scale in regards to sexuality. I for one am 100% into men. I have never been with a woman and never plan to even try. Never been curious. Any man who seeks, is aroused, or enjoys sex with another man (or same for a woman) is not “straight” which I interpret as heterosexual. They are at best bi-curious/bi-sexual (maybe the better term these days is pansexual? But, we continue to muddy the waters here). So, it’s kind of frustrating to read some of these responses because I think we do not… Read more »