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When and how old were you when you first had a boyfriend, guys? Or perhaps, the question is: have you ever had a boyfriend? It’s just that some of us are not into relationships or are not actively looking while others just still haven’t found the one, or are have yet to fall in love or come out of the closet.
Anyway, we are asking because the gay men on Reddit are talking about this topic. One of them said that he had a boyfriend at the age of 28 and that they’re married now. On the other hand, several men said that they are already 28, 29, 30 years old and are yet to have a boyfriend.
“I’m about to turn 28. I’ve basically been out since college but nope, no experience and no one’s ever shown interest either,” one guy revealed.
His comment was seconded by another guy who shared, “Same, turning 29 this year.” He added, “And for anyone wondering, I came out right after high school graduation and I’ve never been anywhere close to being in a relationship. I would really like to fall in love for the first time though since everyone talks about how fun it can be.”
Meanwhile, one guy said, “I’m 37. Never even kissed a guy. I’ve given up.”
Going back to the original question, when and how old were you when you first had a boyfriend, guys? In addition, what did it feel like to be in your first gay relationship? Did you marry your first boyfriend like the guy above? More importantly, what advice would you give other men who are waiting for their significant other (SO) to come?
All I can say is that we all have our own pace, so while others may have had their first boyfriend already at 18, for some it’s when they were 28 or even older, and that’s okay. Finding the one is not a race and as the song goes, we can’t hurry love – unfortunate, but true.
However, I also believe that if we are looking for love, then we should exert an effort and put ourselves out there. If you’re on Adam4Adam app or website, then you might want to check our article titled Online Gay Dating Resolutions to Make in 2022. Or, why not start with downloading the Adam4Adam iOS/Android app here if you don’t have it yet on your mobile? You’re missing out on a lot by not downloading it.
Having said all that, what’s your first boyfriend story, guys? Sound off in the comments section below.
My first boyfriend I met at 18, lasted 8 years. We fucked like mad for the first 3 years and then fucked other guys when ever we wanted to. When we broke up he left me with a house and a business, so I was set for life. I’m 65 now and a multi millionaire.
Wow. Sounds rough. *eye roll*
Life’s tough for boomers. Someone has to support rent boys though.
Life’s not tough for us, it’s tough when lil millennials and Gen Xers feel they are “entitled” to whatever they desire without sweating to earn it. You actually sound like one of those “rent boys” you mentioned.
Oh I have a very hot younger husband now (he has a PhD and has more money than me) that I fuck 3-4 times a week. At 65 it’s really all I can handle any more. Just 2 years ago I was not happy when he came too fast. Now I can’t wait for him to come. Before Covid I could still plow plenty of hot guys at Steamworks in Berkeley or 442 Natoma, not pretty much anyone I wanted, like 10 years ago, but enough. You though, seem to be a sad hateful bitch…Too bad.
I love it!
A multimillionaire posting on a free sex-site!
Have never had “a” boyfriend. Not interested in locking down into a long-term, monogamous relationship. Most guys I’ve met over the years haven’t wanted that either. We agree it’s more of a fairytale, heterosexual notion suitable for a minority of gay guys. It can work, but is rare. I gracefully shy away from guys with profiles indicating that’s what they seek. Have probably missed getting to know some really great men, but not wanting to create any difficulties.
Are you interested in romantic relationships at all – even if they’re not monogamous? Do you think that polyamory would suit you?
Good point! I’ve had a handful of ongoing FWBs for 2-17 years. Two of the guys separately introduced (coaxed, pushed) me to a love aspect. It was hard for me to say “I love you” to a guy at first. (“Really, how gay is that!?”) But I’ve become comfortable with it and realize there’s a strong bond of caring with my other long time FWBs as well, not expressed with the others, but it’s there. Polyamory? Probably not exactly, but there aspects of polyamory brewing.
Awe, it was sweet, actually. We met the first week I came out, we were both so sexually shy, lots of deep kissing, fondling, we really took our time trying this and that, making each other cum as it was just so very good to just kiss, taste and touch another man.
I would hope nobody ever gives up on the idea of finding love. A genuine commitment of deep love is so superior to the fleeting moments of passion or lust. Once you find yourself in such a place you’ll understand how it feels to cherish (and feel cherished by) someone beyond ones self. Sorry if it’s too mushy for some.
Not giving up, but at 78 there is little point in holding one’s breath waiting. I believe I was 7 when I first articulated the thought to myself of having a great love affair some day: someone as madly in love with me as I was with them. Hasn’t happened yet.
My first boyfriend and I met at a party on Long Island. I was 27. He was 29. We wound up taking the same train back to NYC. We chatted all the way, exchanged numbers and set up a date for three days later. He called me the next day and asked if this was going to be a single date or a relationship. Since I had never had a boyfriend, I said a relationship. It was very dramatic. We were on again off again every week. He always seemed to push my buttons. We rarely did anything outside of… Read more »
It didn’t work out thank you God
I have been playing around with men off and on for a time while i was with a woman. Now that has changed. I have found a boyfriend Sept 2020, in a strange turn of events in a 4some at a hotel. He is 31 and i am 50. We played some, but was about 3 weeks after that evening that we began to talk on phone and eventually spent weekends together. Even though we are in a distance relationship, we still talk and spend weekends together. He and I are monogamous and do not even think of having other… Read more »
So mine is a def tale from a very different perspective- & I was a late bloomer I call it At 25 yo – It was a guy abit older than me ….as I had been seeing a few different guys older as well but he seemed nice until he started wanting to out me which I think what a fucking asshole as I did like him but at the same time for a young 25 yo like myself taking a year to figure out if it was M2M attraction or just admiration as I do lift weights and I… Read more »
I was married to a woman for almost 10 years. We loved each other, still do and are close friends. We have two beautiful sons out of the deal. I messed around with boys all my life. It was so quick and easy. The idea of a boyfriend grossed me out. Along with several gay sexual practices. At the ripe age of 35, I was invited to a local gay rodeo fund raiser. I didn’t know a soul. This young man sat down beside me and as the afternoon passed and the beers were consumed…..things started to progress. We dated… Read more »
We were dating for about 6 months. We ended up breaking up when he lied about cheating on me. I was in the Navy and he wasn’t. I had weekend duty, onboard the ship I was stationed on, which meant I had to work Friday through Sunday and I would get off Manday after regular shift. A friend invited us to go to his ranch over the weekend for horseback riding. I told him to go and have fun. When I got home Monday afternoon, I asked him point black if he had sex with the host, and he told… Read more »
It wasn’t all that great. As only having 8 inches, he didn;t quite “measure up” to my standards.
I was introduced to my first boyfriend by a mutual friend. We moved in together 22 days later and have been together 42.5 years, married for 8 years. If you are serious about a LTR, each of you have to be committed to it and each of you have to give up expecting it to be a 50/50 relationship. Each of you have to be prepared to give 70/30 or maybe 80/20 from time to time. If this is to withstand the test of time, he will have down times when you need to give 80%+ and you will have… Read more »
Well put. Relationships, long term ones, are all about compromise and communication between mature, agreeable adults.
I met my b/f in 1981 We got married in 2014 been with each other ever since
My first two were disastrous. They were nothing more than a learning experience that I took with me forward. One was just plain psychotic and the other I couldn’t trust in the end (long story). It takes a few months, even longer, to really get to know the REAL man you’re dating. Everyone puts their best foot forward typically when you first start out. Once things settle is when you see the real man behind the curtain.