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Did you have an active sex life last year, guys? If so, how many guys did you sleep with on 2022? More importantly, do you really count the number of people you slept with?
We are bringing this up because a netizen on askgaybros asked the users on the website what their “body count” was in 2022 and “who showed you the best time?”
First and foremost, “body count” in dating and relationship is the phrase used to refer to the number of people with whom one has had sex with. The term is reportedly “often used about men and is often seen as a way to measure a man’s sexual prowess in recent years.”
Anyway, one guy replied that the only guy he’s ever had sex with was his boyfriend, and not just last year but ever while another guy confessed he never had sex last year but that “I masturbated myself a lot.”
Further, a guy shared that he had his first kiss last year, while another man revealed that he had sex with two guys, “about 40 times with each one of them.” Meanwhile, one guy confessed that his number is six “though two were guys I dated, so I was getting laid a lot more then that number would indicate.” He added, “Best was the more recent boyfriend, handsome young French dude who had never been with a guy before who I met at school.”
But is it healthy to keep count of your sexual partners?
According to the University of Melbourne social scientist Dr. Lauren Rosewarne, “It’s neither healthy nor unhealthy to keep count of your sexual partners — it’s just data.” Further, she explained, “The unhealthy aspect is obsessing over this and deeming the number, be it high or low, as somehow reflective of your worth as a person.”
Having said all that, do you even count the number of people you slept with? Do you disclose that number to your potential bedfellow or to your partner if they asked about it? Would the number of men your potential S.O. had slept with bother you? Why or why not?
Personally, I think that body count shouldn’t count. Whatever a person’s number is, what matters is that he had not hurt or forced anyone to bed—himself or the other party for that matter. And more importantly, he had practiced safe sex, because today, we have plenty of condom brands to choose from out there, and we can also opt to sign up for MISTR’s free PrEP services.
However, I do think it would bother me if these numbers reflect the guy’s self-worth and if it is used to bolster his ego. If, you know, he sleeps around in order to earn himself bragging rights.
Thoughts? Share it with us in the comments section below.
Is A4A inquiring about “Conquests” or “Dismissals”?
In the Gay Community, “Countables” aren’t always the end results of “Mathematics”?
Usually, it is either “Wishful Thinking” or rather the multiplicities of “Imagination Overload”?
Last but not Least –
The “Culmination” of having watched two many “Porn Flicks” and inflicting “Synapses Brain Death”?
I would have a line of 3-4 guys, waiting outside my room for me to plow them at Steamworks in Berkeley. So many bottoms, so few tops.
Wow, really? You know what’s so sad about this post, you know it’s ‘actually’ relevant with some folks.
My memories of the blond marine, who looked like a young Nick Nolte, and was married to a woman I picked up in San Diego and showed him how it felt to be fucked. Are not… sad. They are joyous. He loved it. Kept dropping his dick before he came and saying… HE DID NOT WANT IT TO END. But he finally came and I COULD SEE HE WAS SHOCKED, BECAUSE HE REALIZED HE WAS NOW QUEER. There was a tense moment when he looked mad, but I gave him a “you must be joking” look, and he pulled on… Read more »
. . . So, did you give him a number, what number was he? (Eye roll) Only if the hat fits = if you’re one of those kinds of guys that actually “counts” was/is the subject.
I put him at #35 of the top hottest fucks I’ve ever had. Keeps me from being so “sad” like you are.
Yeah, you’re right, there is a sadness, a bit heavy-hearted at times . . . for the world, period. There’s a lot of really fucked people doing really fucked-up things to each other, I opted-out, won’t be one of those. These, are really “sad” people in the world.
Again, that is reinforcing one of the lowest elements of being gay. It should never be about numbers.
I totally agree. Quality over quantity
But quality in quantity… is fantastic.
Straight guys are notorious for keeping tabs!
It is a matter of ego and power:
“The More You Ride, The Smoother The Saddle”!
“Ego and power” exactly! Like I said earlier, “gay folks mimicking the sexual roles of hetero’s; though an antiquated notion “notches on the belt or spreading the seed.” Again, which some gay folks are deeply in denial of; built into-within their sexual behavior/s. Say it again “It’s inevitable,” because it’s a societal kind of hierarchy associated with masculinity; toxic behavior physically-mentally for hetero or gay, period; possibly, some ‘narc’ undertones thrown in. In my profile, it actually says, “quality over quantity.” I’m going for healthy: spiritually, mentally in that order, which translates into physically . . . I won’t sell… Read more »
Even you – on rare occasions – will afford Kasper his contributions!
I make my points; however, facetiously but those points have truth.
In our Society,
“Manifest Destiny” is still about expansion…Sow Your Wild Oats!
Only when warranted, true. But here’s the other thing, who, because it isn’t “God’s” (Creator’s) manifesto, that’s for sure.
Nice of you to acknowledge my contributions even if begrudgingly?
A compliment = a compliment and I’ll take all that I can get!
Lmao, dude, “I give the devil his due,” but ‘only’ if/when it’s due.
IKR? who really wants to have a notepad and pen handy and actually literally mark down all the times you’ve sexed a man? when you that horny, you really don’t want pen and paper, what you really want is lubricant and condoms, honey!
Numbers work for my investments too, not just for my joyful sex life…. MUCH JOY !
I am an orally submissive with a TOP side. I sucked off and swallowed 72 loads of cum in 2022. I ate ass and fucked a bunch of holes as well. So, I’ll say I had about 133 sexual encounters. Most were very good and a few duds as well.
I have to admit I paid for about half of my encounters as I am spoiled and flush with cash.
Was a wonderful world sexually in 2022. I expect 2023 to be just as hot or even hotter. Maybe it’s climate change? Who knows!
To “crotchcleaner”: I must ask you this and hope you’ll respond: When you said you paid for half of your encounters, do you mean half the guys you slept with were prostitutes?
How many STDs did you treat?
I stopped getting STD’s years ago with a little 3% hydrogen peroxide and a straw. NEVER HAD AN STD SINCE….
The trouble (Maybe trouble is not the word) once you swallow one load, you are hungry for more and go on seeking another, then another….
You could seek employment in a “Sperm Clinic”?
LOL… you go boy!!!!!!!
That’s awesome dude! Wish I was on the list!
I don’t keep a running total but this got to wondering how many guys last year. I think it was 6-7.
I am a virgin for 2023…unfortunately.
is 20 a lot?
I had 20 different guys, is that too much? I’m single and not out.
20 is a good start. lol
2 Sadly, And I Got Rid Of Them Both. One Wanted Me To Support His Alcohol Habit Everytime We Get Together, The Other One I Had To Go 20 Miles To Go And Get And Bring Back To My Place And Take Home, He Always Had Alcohol In His Hand Also. So Yeah, 2(alcoholics) In 2022… Damn, What A Shitty Year 🙁 I Wish Upon A Shooting Cock To Bring Me A Descent F**k Bud This Year (as if that’ll ever happen)
I spent quality time with four good FWBs last year, having sex several dozen times overall. So my “body count” sucks, but my satisfaction level is doing just fine!
Oh hell, no… We’re supposed to keep track? I have a Gloryhole in my house and I suck at least one cock a day. If I kept track, it would be a very high number… I’m a slut and I love it.
I don’t consider guys I have sex with as body count or (actually) data points. I “vet” guys before jumping into having sex to get an idea of who they are as a being and a man. Simple discussions about who we are, what we’re looking for, and most importantly what we have to offer each other. No long discussions. Easy stuff. A small number of guys find them to be “too much work” or make odd or evasive statements. They’ve indicated they’re not guys I’m going to get with. Most often it’s a “go” and then the sex is… Read more »
How about Beads on your “Abacus”?
7 different guys, 12 encounters.
well i only got 2 blow jobs from guys last year but j/o alot ive been with my husband for 24 years but the older we get the more of a whore he has become and i wont touch him he isnt safe and i refuse to catch anything he gets.so we are nothing more than roommates at this time and he dont seem to care if a guy can get hard he will ride it no matter looks,size color,job or any other criteria.he would rather throw away 24 yrs of us being together than keep his ass in his… Read more »
Why are you still there. Fuck being a room mate jacking off in another… leave or be quiet. You must enjoy it unless one of is using the other to pay the bills.
I’m 100% ‘guilty’ of doing this. I’m bi-married and completely hidden in the closet, but I get my discreet action catch-as-catch-can. Much to the chagrin of a number of guys who’ve already given their biting feedback, I’ve kept a very specific and detailed (and discreet!) diary of every sexual encounter I’ve had for the past 10 years. In 2022, I had 14 encounters with 9 different guys. Over the past 10 years, I had about 140 experiences with nearly 100 different guys. It doesn’t stop there: At age 62 now and having had my first gay sex experience when I… Read more »
As a Straight-leaning Bi guy with a live-with gf, it can be difficult to ‘get away’.
that said? I had sex with 11 different guys in 2022:
7 here in Fort Lauderdale, 4 while I was in the Denver area for the month of August.
(much higher quality men on A4A in Colorado than in South Florida btw.)
3 of the experiences were really *excellent* encounters, the other 8 were perfectly fine. No total duds, I’m happy to say.
Thanks for askin. Good luck out there in 2023, men. 😉
I’ll be in Fort Lauderdale in May. Maybe we can get together.
!!!Ah, ha, just as I’ve been saying; this place “Soflo” is for the vulture’s when it comes to people, generally speaking, across the board, in general, lmao, the weather is gorgeous, though.
I would say just one, but over multiple times. I enjoy a certain body shape. My problem my dick is thick… it look ordinary to me. I guess after years of my complaining how most just suck the head nor gag if the go further. Last I met this one someone who I fucked good but they prefer sucking best, This lil pretty MF has very sexy body, but couldn’t take dick. That mouth sucked, teased and played with my dick it seem like hours… edge and stopping me from coming. When I finally dick come that mouth was like… Read more »
Why would anyone glout about how many guys they played with that’s personal
Good question dwz5234 – I do it for a few reasons, but they’re all personal (for me); not. See my post above. I will admit I occasionally gloat with a f*ck buddy I have on a4a, but it’s all in good fun, so to speak.
To be honest I lost count
Do you find the large “body count” hot or scary or a combo of both? I find it a combo but the excitement far outweighs any fears, especially since I only/always play safe.
like Keith Sweat and LSG once sang, “my body all over yo body, yo body all over my body, my body all over yo body .. is yo body, BABY!” oooooohhh! ♥
I used to keep count but stopped. Way too much work and not all that important. While I’d like to find 1-2 regulars, that seems impossible these days. My last encounter was an orgy, I sucked and bottomed for 4 different guys.
Keep in mind the ones who brag the most about their conquests are generally the ones getting laid the least.
Your thinking about farts dude
My lifetime total is about 8,000 beautiful men. I loved 99% of them. I would plow 10 guys a night at the old 442 Natoma St. sex club in San Francisco (IT CLOSED IN 2019) Some may think that’s excessive, but what on this earth beats fucking? Nothing in my book and you should indulge as much as possible. They play 18 holes of golf, hitting a stupid ball in a hole in the ground. No one says they should only play one hole and stop. Anyway, life is a banquet and most poor suckers are starving. NOT ME!
Way to go man, that’s great!
Hey Clyde can you elaborate on the 3% hydrogen peroxide and the straw thing
I’d suggest a piece on “active” vs. “healthy” sex life. The former is necessary but not sufficient for the latter. And the latter is what matters. So “body count” as a measure of sex life is misplaced. After many encounters, I’ve come to realize the best sex is when there is a connection, not just another “body” to add to the count.
Anyone who keeps count of how many “sexual conquests” he’s had in a particular year has bought into dated and irrelevant definitions of what a “real man” is or does. Gay men don’t have a lot of compulsive sex because they are “horny”. It’s all about self-validation and is directly related to our experiences earlier in life feeling different, rejected, bullied, and being told we are less than “real men”. There are loads of men in the gay male world who have tons of sex but are starving for genuine connection. (They often have substance abuse issues). This is the… Read more »
I’ve been exploring fisting. 2022 I set a goal of getting fisted at least twice a month. I usually surpassed my goal, except when I was waiting for my mpox vaccinations. I had 78 fisting sessions. some guys were repeats so much fewer than 78 separate guys in my count.
So do we count blowjobs or does it have to be fucking to count? Guys I’ve fucked or been fucked by probably 30-40, many multiple times. Blowjobs in the hundreds probably for 2022
Here’s a concept, how about instead of a “body count”, maybe an “anniversary count” with someone special. Extra bonus, maybe a lower “STD count”?