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Have you ever been propositioned by a straight male friend? How did you handle his proposition? And are you guys still friends until now?
Anyway, we are bringing this up because a man on AskGayMen asked, and we quote: “Has a “straight” male (or friend) approached you asking for discreet sex?” He explained, “I am currently in a similar situation, although I am the “straight friend” curious what other similar situations you guys have run into.”
One respondent confessed: “My straight friend, after I came out to him as bisexual was pretty chill and normal.” He added, “But one day I got snap from him and he asked me if I was down to give him a blow job. He is a tall 6’4 bearded whole ass man. Crazy times.”
Another guy, on the other hand, said:
<blockquote>Yes. An old college friend and I hook up occasionally. He identifies as straight.<br><br>
He’ll come over to my house to play video games, watch TV, and get a little drunk. If he wants to mess around, he just pulls down his pants and we get busy. I think he likes the lack of pomp and circumstance. And he likes that I can and will do things women won’t (or can’t).</blockquote>
Meanwhile, one guy revealed that he hooked up with a lot of guys who are straight and curious. However, he said, “Almost all of them panic afterwards and then destroy our friendships.”
But do straight men really have sex with other men? Aren’t they simply closeted gay men?
The answer is yes, straight men really have sex with other men.
Tony Silva—Assistant Professor of Sociology in University of British Columbia and author of Still Straight: Sexual Flexibility among White Men in Rural America—explained that “sexual encounters with men simply do not affect how straight men perceive their identity.”
Further, he said that apart from sexual attractions or behaviors, there are many factors that shape a person’s sexual identity like “social contexts, romantic relationships and beliefs about masculinity and femininity, among others.” According to Silva, “Straight men who have sex with other men are not necessarily closeted, because they do genuinely see themselves as heterosexual.”
Having said all that, have you ever been propositioned by a straight friend? Did you hook up with them? If so, did that destroy your friendship? Share with us your thoughts and stories in the comments section below! Who doesn’t love a straight man?!
I have been propositioned by straight acquaintances/friends several times over my lifetime. The first one that I can clearly recall was when a co-worker and I were both around 27. He was married. I was not. He and I would hangout often after work and on the weekends. He confided in me that he no longer cared for his wife. One night, while at my place after a night of bar-hoping, he said he promise to kiss me before f__ing me. I nervously laughed off his proposition and changed the subject. I was a closeted neophyte at the time. But… Read more »
We need to become more enlightened, more liberal, about the term “Straight”. Strictly speaking, a truly Straight man would be sexually attracted to only women. Simple. For decades, perhaps centuries, certain men, upon adolescence, have found themselves attracted to men sexually, but were not attracted to, even repulsed by, what it meant to be “gay”. Stereotypically, and well supported in the media, “gay” men are fem, flamboyant, feather-wearers. Legions of gay men have chosen to present themselves otherwise (as Straight) often not acting on their attraction to other men or chosing to reveal that attraction only to those who they… Read more »
I, wholeheartedly, agree with you. A classic “Straight” male is not going to be sexually aroused or willing to engage the same member of his sex. However, the old adage, “A Hard Penis Has No Conscience” sometimes rings true and there will be males who will be sexual for sex sake and turn a blind eye to the sexual identity. Sex = Sex and there are those males who do not confused the issue as there are “Those Whom You Date and Those Whom You Fuck.” Some males understand the whole pic and act accordingly. They are straight but will… Read more »
I’m sorry, but any guy who actually performs any kind of sexual interaction with another male DOES NOT get the title of “straight”. Just as any guy who performs any kind of sexual action with a female with the title of “gay”.
Do you ever listen to yourself? Why not try some community service and begin to undo the tired old flawed sexual pigeon holes that clearly are little more than homophobic crap?
Sexual identities are acquired, cultural artifacts that reflect no underlying biological reality whatso ever. Why do you continue to promote the same tired paradigms that inflict so much harm?
Yes, not by a fried… but a guy in the village I used to live in. I was 9 or 10 and he was about 14. He repeatedly harassed me with the proposition, showed me his penis (erected) and even offered to pay me. I was afraid and avoided him at all cost. A few years later he married a girl and as far as I know they are still married. He did it with other straight guys until they all got married…
Twice in my life. First seniors in high school. Playing pool, he wants to bet. I had no cash with me and told him. Said winner gets jacked off. Guess who lost. second time was in my mid 30’s working at remote site. He kept saying saying your gay, you want this and grab his package, stuff like that. One time he followed me into restroom kept saying you want this…..I said only way was for him to pull it out and place it in my mouth thinking he wouldn’t do it. And he did, then grabbed the back of… Read more »
Where would this “straight” friend land on The Kinsey Scale? Anyway, yes and it was wonderful.
I’m out. All my friends and regular associates know I’m gay. I’ve been propositioned by 3 different “straight” men. (1.) The Priest (RIP) at the Catholic church where I was organist. He invited me to his home (the rectory) to pass the hour between early & late Masses. We became friends. His proposition surprised me. He rationalized his vow to celibacy only meant no women. I was male so for him it was OK. He did NOT “molest” me–it was absolutely consensual sex. We became regular lovers for 2 years, till he unexpectedly died (unknown aneurism burst). (2.) A straight,… Read more »
Yea, I’m bi and my straight buds hit me up too. Actually my straight friends hit me up more than my bi or gay friends do lol. Doesn’t seem to cause any weirdness, we play if we’re in the mood.
Your straight friends … AINT STRAIGHT!
I’m a black gay male, age 57. I’m out to my coworkers, close friends and immediate family. I met my straight buddy, a white male, age 53, back when Yahoo Messenger had adult rooms. We used to chat about sex and his fantasy of having anal sex performed on him. He was molested when he was younger and afterwards he realized that he really liked it. So for years all he did was fantasize about being with someone and using a brush handle or anything shaped like a dick to ride. So after several sessions of webcamming and cumming with… Read more »
It’s no big deal, I’ve met many guys that were just experimenting, some guy were into what was deemed “taboo” on two counts: doing it w/ a black man and of course the “man on man action’ aspect. I know they’re married w/kids these days, no harm done
You should consider the mind-sets of the imprisoned, I’ve met some, it’s like because of being imprisoned, they learned to appreciate sex with another man, it’s just “feel-better sex.”
Never.
Oh hell yes i have been propositioned by many of a straight friends..most don’t follow through at first..you know give them time to work up the nerves to take it to the next level…but trust me when they are ready, watch out it will be wild bumpy ride until they get their rocks off..Most will walk away and consider you as another notch on the belt ,but then the slight few will love you for ever .. All power to a straight man who has grown up enough,that we as gay men have it pretty good..We can and do get… Read more »
I had a straight friend pull a slick one on me and arranged a bisexual tryst for me and him and his girlfriend. I never kept my desire for my friend a secret. That being said, I never pushed myself on him either, but he knew. As our friendship grew into more of a brotherhood, we would make “jokes” about sex with each other but it was all just slap and tickle. We typically would spend a great deal of time together but this week he told me he would be out of town, so I was really surprised when,… Read more »