If you’ve been on dating apps for any amount of time, you will probably have had more than one person message you with just three letters: “Hey.” That may be exciting the first few times when you’re a dating app newbie, but it quickly loses its appeal when dozens and dozens of strangers only have that to say to you.
When you find yourself not getting any responses on a dating app like Adam4Adam, it may be because this is all that you’re doing and it may be time to change your approach. If you want to change things up, here are some suggestions.
1. Read their profile so you have something else to say
We don’t make people fill out profiles for no reason. It’s there for you to get to know the other person better and hopefully come up with a great conversation starter. Do they say that they like books? Ask them what they’re currently reading. Did they share that they are movie buffs? Ask them their opinion about the films of Bong Joon Ho. Both of these are better ways to start a conversation than just saying “hey.”
This is also a reminder that you should always fill up your profile on Adam4Adam. You’re tired of people just greeting you with “hey,” but what do you expect them to do when all they know about you from your profile is that you’re a cisgender bottom?
2. If the profile is blank, check out their pictures
They say a picture is worth a thousand words. If you peruse the photos in a user’s Adam4Adam profile, you’ll be sure to come up with at least a few opening lines. Are there a lot of photos of the other person playing a sport? You can ask about it if you’re unfamiliar with the sport. If you also play it, then that’s even better because now you have something in common with the other person. You can talk about that!
Same as with the user profile, this should also be a reminder for you to upload a variety of pictures to your profile. Besides the fact that it is harder for you to stand out when you’re just another set of abs in a sea of abs, you really can’t expect people to start a conversation with you when you’ve got an empty profile and all they know of you is that you have abs.
3. Try out a pick-up line
Pick-up lines are tricky and they don’t always work, but they’re honestly preferable than just “hey.” At the very least, the other person can find it funny if it’s a particularly corny line. If you’re witty, the person might find it interesting and engage you in a conversation.
We’d like to hear from you guys about pick-up lines. What are the ones that have worked for you when you’re trying to pick up a guy? What are the ones that have worked on you? Share it with us in the comments section below!