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Hey, guys! One of our loyal blog readers named MattK has a question for you. He emailed us and suggested this topic because he wanted to know if you prefer your sex partner’s body hair trimmed, shaved, or if you want him to leave it au naturel.
MattK’s message reads, and we quote:
“At 59, and having had gay sex since I was 18, I’ve seen the body shaving/trimming trend (mostly among gay guys) evolve over the past 20 or so years and I don’t like it or understand it. OK – I do understand guys liking the hair above the cock all shaved because as I’ve heard it described, it’s “all clean.” But as a longtime married/closeted guy, I turn to gay sex because of the nature of the male body – it has hair on it, it’s grainy, it’s firm, it’s bumpy, and it’s anything but smooth (even those with naturally smooth chests)… add it all up and it turns me on. I don’t want a male body that’s shaved to make it seem more female feeling.”
But what do others say about this matter? Some say that they accept their partner just as they are so whatever it is that their partner wants to do with their body hair is fine because, you know, it’s theirs. This guy, for instance, shared that his hairy ex waxes mainly because body hair was “such a pain with clothing and sweating and warm weather.” Another one said that he prefers the natural look, the “well-groomed version” as well, but that doesn’t mean he will reject anyone who shaves or waxes. Conversely, a man said that he prefers his man to be smooth/shaven because he wants to feel his partner’s skin.
However, one respondent said that “gay men don’t generally prefer anything.” He added, “One thing that is great about gay preferences is that they are extremely varied, and unashamed about that variety.” Lastly, a respondent said that it’s not the physical characteristics that matters but what’s inside. He said, “I personally like my men with a kind heart, a good sense of humor and whatever hair that makes them happy.” He added, “Often physical characteristics lose importance in the face of engaging personal characteristics.”
But what about you, guys? Do you prefer that your sex partner shave, trim, or leave their body hair as is?
Thanks for your email, MattK. And if any of you dear readers have a question for the rest of our Adam4Adam users, please don’t hesitate to tell us about it in the comments section below or you may email us at [email protected]. We’d love to hear it!
Completely natural, I’m into men not prepubescent boys. The shaved male body looks completely unnatural.
100% Agree! (says the author of this)
It’s ultimately up to him, and his comfort-level. Now, personally, weather you’re blond, red-headed, brown-haired, black-haired and/or hairy, wow! I love hairy men, as I an not, if I was, I’d have a really low-cut beard. I love hairy bodies, too, limbs, etc., I love the look and the feel.
I HATE bald dick. If you wanna trim and shape it up, that’s fine. The waxing has got to stop. I like my men to look and feel like men.
Agreed again! Hopefully we can start to buck this trend!
So I don’t shave my balls to attraction some one else since u won’t see that until I get naked anyway. I shave because a tongue sliding against the skin of my balls feels so much better than tongue against the hair on my balls.
Let’s cut the “Political Correctness” bullshit about looks and bodies do not matter! Each and both matter initially and for a good part of our youth. It is what stiffs-the-dick that gets the ball rolling in gay relationships as it is for straight relationships: there needs to be some physical ——> sexual attraction…regardless of overt or sublime. As we age, the physicality changes and socially, unless, we are genetically predisposed to youthfulness and a robust metabolism, we are going to wrinkle, enlarge and shorten. What hangs between our legs; what we sit on or the frame and beam of our… Read more »
I prefer to have it neatly trimmed. I also neatly trim mine. It can look ragged to me if it’s not neatly trimmed. Plus I go to the gym 6 days a week and my chest is developed nicely from weights. The definition in my chest shows better when I trim. I don’t shave my chest. I just make it look neat and clean looking. I have a man Trail and trimming hilight it nicely.
These questions only end up reinforcing the ideas that our bodies are not okay as they are.
uh? why do you see it like this? Maybe you should read the post again…some people have different opinion and it’s nice to hear.
If everyone thought their body was “okay as they are”, nobody would move and nobody would be okay…
Hair man for GODS SAKE WHERES THE HAIR!!! SO love a nice bush to dig in and the hair on legs, mmmmm please quit with the smooth look just not natural and not needed!!!
SHOW ME THE HAIR!!!
Another winner – yea!
I like a man mostly natural. I do appreciate shaved or trimmed balls since I like sucking, kissing, and licking them.
Being the one who initiated this (and spreading my comments all over), I have to ask you this, Tim: One thing that really set me off against the trimming/shaving thing was awhile back when I went down on this guy who had shaved his dick hair. I opened wide and pressed my face against his midsection and I’m guessing he had shaved above the dick maybe 1-3 days previously, so it was all nubby and it totally grossed me out. That’s what really set me off about all this. Don’t you detect that when you go down on a shaved… Read more »
Like getting stabbed in the face . , but I like Him groomed , and it does make a cock look bigger to me if He trimmed a little . Like I commented before , I prefer to not have any say in the matter . I want Him to tell Me what to enjoy . Shit I’m hard thinking about it .
totally agree with MattK quoted above. I want an all natural man. Don’t like shaving. Trimming isn’t so bad though. I can’t even count how many times my face has had stubble ‘burn’. It’s like someone rubbing sandpaper on my face. Even shaved chests or butts. Just not fun for the ‘other’ guy. Give me natural man – hairy or not.
I like trimmed/shaved. It’s not hairy or a smooth body that makes a man. A real man has a heart and can show kindness and love to another human being. (Male/Female)
Yes, trimmed or shaved. Love it. I lost all my hair in 2003 from chemo and love the feeling. Hair came back and shave or trimmed
everything, but legs. Hate getting hair in the mouth when sucking cock or balls. Your choice, but prefer trimmed/shaved, I enjoy and except anyway a man of his choice. Your choice, mine is smooth or trimmed
I love the natural man… I see the build of the man..the face of the man..the attitude of the man…then if I am lucky I would get to find out where the hairs are…and by the time I reach there… I just enjoy what is there and thank my lucky stars that I actually got that far… nevertheless… I love to see hair around a man’s dick… I love to rub my face in it…
I have a fresh comment here (not another “yea!”) I also love burying my face in a hairy bush while taking in a nice big dick, Speedy.
I’m mostly a bottom so the stubble ‘burn’ I get can sometimes be even more annoying!!!
LOVE hair and a bushy nice bush!!!…being a naturally hairless person my self (Thanks mom)I have ALWAYS been attracted to hairy men!!!…something about hair just says “MAN” to me…hate to feel that shaved stubble against my already hairless skin…lol…bring on the bears!!!!!
Chalk up another one for the au naturel guys!
If a man is naturally smooth I can deal with it. But he must have a full bush. I love hairy men. A guy who shaves his body is a woman. I have no time dealing with fags
I like natural guys….I’m not attracted to bears or overly hairy guys but I do like the masculinity of body hair….I have a naturally smooth chest…no hair at all and wish I had some hair…however I have pretty hairy legs, a nice trail and a hairy hole…I trim my pubes, but would never shave smooth
My steady guy does no manscaping so I have to suck his fuzzy balls and that’s not totally enjoyable. I like shaved balls and shaved cock base as well.
Men who don’t keep their bodies in shape should keep their bodies hairy ,but a man with muscles ,especially if they are well defined, should definitely be hairless.You can’t feel skin or muscle definition if the body is covered in a furry mat.
I don’t mind a little trim but a shaved smooth body is a total turn off…
I respectfully disagree, you see the muscle definition
I agree Jim. Body builders shave their legs, chest and arms for competition because they are judged and the definition is better defined shaved. Muscle definition can be seen on ordinary guys as long as it’s not too much hair.
I honestly don’t care. Shaved, trimmed or natural I’ll take the dick anyway I can get it.
I prefer guys the way they are naturally, with a couple of minor exceptions, which are not dealbreakers.
I do like shaved balls. I love licking and sucking balls, and don’t want a mouth full of hair.
Pubic bush – I prefer it natural unless your pubes are so long they are longer than your cock or fully cover it. Trim it nicely, but do not shave it. I am not hung at all, so if I do not trim you won’t see my little dick.
“Goredeck”..you are hysterical…lol…love your comment!!
No idea what you are saying?
You gotta have fun with it at the end of the day.
It’s up to my partner comfort level, However, I like all-natural, or trimmed neatly, but not shaved or waxed it does absolutely nothing for me
I prefer all-natural or neatly trimmed
Am not hairy here, but wish! Luv hot manly hair (dont care where), trimmed can look sexy, but left natural gets me hotter!
I like my men hairy, the more the better.
“leave their body hair as is.” Let’s see..
One of my buds is smooth everwhere except for his neck, face and head.
Another is covered with peach fuzz everywhere except for his head.
Others have moderate/average amounts of hair in all the usual places.
One is a furry bear.
All of them leave their body hair as is. And I take them all as is.
I like all body hair except two areas… nasal and ear, those are areas that should always be kept under control/shaved… that ventures into caveman, versus man. Areas feared to be of concern by a man: unibrow, hair on the upper arms/shoulders, over the back, back of the hands, top of the feet, over the buttocks, do not bother me a bit. It’s ironic how some men (often elderly) will shave their face and neck, but they will have hairs from their ears and nose showing, its absolutely disgusting. Why shave their face at all, if they are going to… Read more »
I was introduced to shaving by a fuck buddy. It turned us both on. When my body hair turned gray, I began to always shave/trim it. I started to introduce this practice to other fuck buddies, who also got turned on by shaving/trimming/buzzing their underarm hair, pubic hair, etc. I don’t get why this is such an emotional issue–do what you like with your own body, seek out the body type that you prefer, and have a fun time.
NATURALLY SMOOTH!!! If I wanted hair/fur, I’ld turn to beastiality.
I don’t like a shaved body , like a swimmer , or whatever , just groomed . i don’t care about chest hair , but trim the pubes if you want me to go down on You . But if He’s a very Dominant , and a tiny bit rough with me , which I Love , I Love to be like a scared little lamb , and I feel like I can not dare to mention about the hairs in My mouth , or He’s going to make a point about shoving his cock all the way down My… Read more »
NATURAL all the way. Shaved seems feminine, or worse, pre-adolescent.