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We asked you before what do you use Adam4Adam for and majority of those who participated in our survey said that they use Adam4Adam to look for hookups (47.91%) while others said that it’s to search for friends with benefits (FWB, 35.45%). Which leads us to this question: how often do you hookup with someone, guys, and do you think one of your hookups or FWBs could turn into your long-term or lifelong partner? What if, in the long run, one of your hookups or FWBs tells you that they want something more, that they want to have a serious relationship with you—would you give them a chance?
More importantly, do you think that hookups can lead to love? This research suggests that yes, hooking up can lead into a serious relationship, granted, their survey participants were heterosexual couples. We’ve seen it happen many times here on Adam4Adam though and there’s one thing in common in those instances. And it’s that while they weren’t looking for someone serious in the beginning, in the end when they saw that there could be something more, they talked it out and gave each other a chance.
This only goes to show that we never know where a hookup can lead, that while it may have started out as a dinner or a drink with a stranger or a massage that you gave to a client, what happens next may surprise you both. I guess the question is: would you be willing to give a hookup or an FWB a chance if they asked for it, even if you are not looking for love?
They do say that love comes unexpectedly. It comes and it happens even though we are not looking and personally, we believe that there’s someone out there for everyone. That there’s someone out there who thinks we are just the right amount of perfect even if we ourselves don’t think that we are enough.
What about you, guys? What do you think? Share with us your thoughts and stories in the comments section below and don’t forget to download the A4A app here if you don’t have it yet on your mobile.
Happy connecting, guys!
Off course the answer is yes. I met my partner of 17 years on a hookup app, so one never knows.
“Latinbttm32″…you hit the “nail on the head”…SO true man!!!
My hook up was 40 years ago, last week. Love him more now than then.
I think a hookup can lead to more. My biggest deal-breaker in the past has been the guy who is desperate to “be in love” or “have a boyfriend”. Blind neediness is a breeding ground for resentment, jealousy, and disaster. That is precisely why the honest-to-goodness hookup can surprise by becoming more. The players go in without an agenda. The start out on common ground, agreeing on an important decision, and they can be free and open because there’s no emotional pressure and there’s no need to put up an image. What you get is exposure without vulnerability, honesty without… Read more »
This is concise, profound, and insightful; I agree with it. ….. Well said.
I think it definitely can, though very unlikely. I have developed strong friendships over the years from hookups so serious relationships are indeed possible.
Been on A4A for the better part of 12′ years now…have met my share of great FB’s and FWB (very happy about that)…but alas it has NEVER grown into more than that with any one…I tried a few years back to make a relationship out of a hook up I met here, turned out he STILL just wanted to fuck random guys…it’s a nice thought (hookups leading to love) I sure it can happen for some guys!
I find there are TWO kinds of men on A4A “physically unavailable or emotionally unavailable”.
For me it turned into 2 of my closest friends, the benefits and everything. I’m grateful for Adam for that.
I met my boyfriend on a hookup app and we been together 2 plus years now. It was as they say love at first sight. We can’t get enough hugs, kisses and cuddling and of course intimate time together. All I can say that there are guys that want more than just a hookup.
Maybe it is possible, it’s probably happened a couple of times, but I say that it is highly unlikely. It’s been my observation that guys who want to hookup only want to hookup, regardless of what they say, they show no interest or put any effort into anything more then just sex! It’s even gotten hard to get anyone to meet without promising sex! They don’t want to meet for a drink, or get a bite to eat, or even have much of a conversation first, they just want you to show up at their door and fuck. It’s sickening!… Read more »
It’s never worked for me. Last guy I was seeing – we met on another app In July 2019 and hooked up, he wanted to keep seeing me, I agreed – he broke up with me right after Christmas 2019. I wasn’t trying to get as invested in the relationship as I did. I’m feeling like a worthless piece of shit right now, and I never got any closure as to why he was breaking up with me.
I met this guy several years ago on craigs list, thought it would be a one time hook up, well it just so happens that we now live together and are in love with one another, I can’t imagine being with anyone else, he is 35 and I am a young 56
Yes I met my last BF in A4A it lasted 7 years no longer together but it can happen.
“HOOKUPS TURN INTO SERIOUS RELATIONSHIPS?” Of course they “can”. Two guys in Hookup Mode COULD connect and end up “happily ever after “. But what do we mean here by”SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP”? Do we mean the “white picket fence with a dog and a garden thing which aspires to mimic the whole married heterosexual couple monogamous thing”? Or do we mean the “Friends With Benefits thing that goes on for years if not decades where we’re part of each other’s lives?” Personally,, I don’t hit up guys who say.they’re seeking long term monogamy. Good for them but we’re not a match.… Read more »
Spite of being married with children, I’ve been hooking up with guys for about 15 years. Just sex, no relationship, just fuck buddies. It was my escape from my reality, never intending to fall in love. About 8 years ago, I hooked up with this one guy. We agreed to hookup again a few times and became fuck buddies. After about the fourth hookup he told me that I turned his world upside down. Seemed fitting, he turned mine right side up and everything just fell into place. I had been in a marriage of obligation (young and foolish, when… Read more »
I don’t know. I’ve kept several fuck buddies for +15 years and I think I am fine having them as fuck buddies. We were not compatible in other things other than sex so.
I don’t think i would ever date someone from a hookup site. When it come to dating I have high standards. But when it come to hookups I lower my standards I’m only Interested in the adrenaline and dick size.
I met my younger bf on a hook up site 12 years ago on his 21st BD. He is now 33 and I am 64
My last relationship began as a hookup. We met online via a hookup site. He was at a small sex party and invited me over. Needless to say, that day turned into a 5 year relationship and a 15 year friendship.
definitely. a sexual connection can sometimes be almost spiritual. if you don’t connect sexually, both loving beagles won’t make up for it. you must be able to connect on every level & where or how you meet doesn’t really matter.
sex right away can tell you a lot about a person. much more than chatting for hours, going out to eat, or taking a walk on the beach at sunset.
if the sex doesn’t work, the relationship won’t either.
I met my husband 22 years ago in an unlikely place after a year of hooking up when ever I was in town due to being an over the road trucker I decide to move to his town and see where it would lead.Of course I didn’t know he already had a partner.You know the old wives tail oncE A CHEAT ALWAYS a cheat.well after 20 years of him cheating and swearing he wasn’t I caught him over and over again but I loved him and even told him I would try being in an open relationship but he kept… Read more »
The vast majority of gay men in south Florida cannot get there, its about sex, only, regardless of their age. It’s possible, just not very likely;
I’d be more likely to win a lottery and probably happier too, lmao!
Although it has never happened to me personally, yes, I do believe it could happen. In fact, I would probably consider it myself, once you know the body and the sex is good.
Yup. Random hook up in A4A 11 years ago still going strong – much more than just a hook up now.
There are those us not looking or wanting relationship. I know its possible to find a long term sex partner though. I had usual for years. Doesn’t mean were moving in together.
I met my Boyfriend in the woods, 10 years ago. So yes they can.
I met my husband of 31years LOOONG before there were “Hook up sites’. Remember a thing call “Cruising and Pick-ups”? Anyway, we were both cruising a roadside rest area late one night, I gave the universal signal(3 flashes of the brake lights) and he followed me to my home. After about 6 months of the most awesome friendship I’ve ever known he said he wanted to try to build a relationship. His first one lasted 7 years but didn’t end well, I had been divorced only 13 months and neither of us were looking for a relationship. It just happened.… Read more »