Here at Adam4Adam, we want our users to find themselves in relationships that are fulfilling and make them happy. However, not all relationships work out, and sometimes you need some time to get over heartbreak.
Whether you’re a young guy going through your first real heartbreak or someone whose current breakup is hitting them really hard, here are 10 tips we hope can help you get over the pain and move on.
1. Take as long as you want
Everyone has a different schedule when it comes to overcoming grief, and you shouldn’t be forced to move on if you know in your heart that the time isn’t right. If you think you still need more time to grieve your relationship, then by all means, do so.
2. Let the tears fall
If the relationship that just ended was in any way important to you, then it’s perfectly normal for you to shed a tear or two. It’s a great way to let all the pain out, and you’ll probably feel better afterwards.
3. Find someone to talk to
Once you’re all cried out, you can also reach out to friends and family who you know will understand everything you’re feeling. They don’t even need to give you advice. Sometimes all you need is a sympathetic ear so you can clear your head and your heart.
4. Work out
Sometimes, you can’t work out the tangle of emotions that you’re feeling. Sometimes, the best thing to do is to keep your body occupied so you don’t dwell too much on your feelings. Exercise also has the added benefit of releasing endorphins, which triggers positive feelings in the body.
5. Have casual sex
Speaking about keeping your body busy, very few things can do that like having sex can. If you pick the right person, you’ll end up feeling really good afterwards. However, keep in mind that this doesn’t work for everyone, and in some cases might even be a worse decision to make. Be absolutely sure about your intentions before going out to have casual sex after a breakup.
6. Get a hobby
Keeping your mind occupied is equally as important as keeping your body occupied when getting over a breakup. Maybe you’ve always wanted to learn to play the guitar or learn how to speak another language. There no better time to start than now.
7. Get back in touch with friends
Admit it, when you’re in a relationship you sometimes end up neglecting your friends. Now that the relationship is over, try reaching out to friends you’ve lost contact with because of the relationship. Who knows, they might just be the sympathetic ear you need.
Again, this isn’t something that going to work for everybody, so be very sure about your decision before heading out to the clubs. But if you’re sure you’re not going to end up a drunken mess by the end of the night, then go ahead and dance the night away.
9. Conduct a relationship post mortem
If looking back at all that went wrong with your relationship is something you can handle, then by all means, do so. Listing down all the bad things in a relationship can help make you realize that perhaps its better that it didn’t work out. From there, moving on will probably be easier to do.
10. Plan for the future
Now that you’re back on your own, take the time to look at personal goals you may have set aside when you were in a relationship. Look at what you can accomplish and start making plans to do it.
To our Adam4Adam blog readers who’ve also survived tough breakups, what advice can you give to move on? Tell us all about it in the comments section below!