Would you say that you are on the kinky side or are you guys vanilla when it comes to sex? And what if your partner wants a different thing in bed than you do, would that be an issue for you? 

If you are the vanilla type, would you try and experiment, get out of your comfort zone, and experience new things in bed all in the name of love? Or if you are the kinky type, would you try and “settle” for vanilla because you can see that your partner feels uncomfortable and awkward when going along with you and when acting out your sexual roleplays? 

What does vanilla sex and kinky sex mean to you, anyway? One Redditor said he prefers kinky all the way because he “can’t get hard if there are no gags involved.” Another one said pretty much the same: that he is a kinky person because for him, “vanilla seems a bit boring,” a sentiment that seems to be wildly popular among the respondents in the thread. On the other hand, others say that while they prefer kinky, they “make sure there is some vanilla in-between.” And of course there are also others who are fans of both—they said “kinky or vanilla, ice-cream either way.” And here is my favorite answer out of them all because I thought it was witty: “As the saying goes, sex is like pizza. It’s good no matter what. Unless it’s kinky pizza…which is friggin amazing.”

But what about you, guys? What do you prefer, kinky sex or vanilla? And what if your preference is not compatible with that of your partner’s, would you stop dating them? What if you feel awkward doing the kinks that your partner prefers, or maybe you even find them distasteful or you feel turned off by them or vice versa? What would you do? Share with us your thoughts and stories in the comments section below.