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How big is too big, guys? And is big always better?
A gay man on Reddit is wondering about the same thing. He shared:
Hi y’all. Recently started talking to/messing with an older guy. He’s in his mid-40s and likes to throw gifts my way pretty often. Anyways, recently he got me a dildo that reads 12.1” on the box which to me seems almost unsafe. I’ve only ever used one that is around 5 or 6 and could take it fairly easily. How should I approach using this thing? I’m definitely interested in trying but I guess I need advice or something.
The post garnered a lot of comments. Some of them were sharing stories about toys up there gone wrong, while others were saying how long they could take. This guy below, on the other hand, gave readers a quick anatomy lesson. He said:
Ok, anatomy lesson. After about 6” or so you hit the sigmoid bend and then you can go like 18” before you hit another bend/dead end. So technically there’s no physical limit. The deepest toy I’ve taken is about 16-18” total. Comfortably I can take toys in the 12-15” range without any discomfort or anything but you gotta practice and use a lot of lube for depth play. If you want recommendations or more info DM me. Often depth play accompanies width play so you practice both. The sigmoid bend feels really really good when relaxed. At first it was a little weird. DO NOT EXPERIMENT DEPTH WITH A TOY THAT HAS NO BALLS/STOPPER END. I’ve lost a toy up there before and had to get it removed (they put me asleep and massaged it out of me).
If we are talking about how long is the rectum in inches or how long it can accommodate, then these pieces of information are easily searched for online. Going by this doctor’s article where she revealed the many things she fished out of her patients’ ass, YES, the rectum is spacious and yes, it can accommodate many things, BUT, it doesn’t mean it should. Meaning, things can go wrong, it can lead to surgery, even infection aka septic shock, and the worst thing of all: loss of life. Needless to say, this means we’ve got to be careful about the things we put in there. See the list below of the things that the doctor said she got out of her patients’ ass:
Bedposts, doorknobs, mayonnaise jars, candles, a small pistol, a grocery and newspaper combo, a 12-inch long and 8-inch-wide salami, tennis balls, an aluminum tube, axe handles, soldering irons, and a frozen pig’s tail to name a few.
Read more here, here, here, and here.
Anyway, reading the guys’ replies on the thread, some of them said they can accommodate 6 to 8 inches and anything beyond that is considered big. What about you, guys? What size is too big for you? Share with us your thoughts and stories in the comments section below.
Maybe the ‘gay man on Reddit’ should stop taking gifts from internet strangers. Reddit seems to attract a lot of dimwitted whores and opportunists.
Although at first I was thinking there was no way, but I have a FWB that can get about 9″ inserted and it is quite girthy (akin to a typical soda can). It was a slow entry, but once my body got used to it, it was the best sex I have every had, felt so fulfilling (pun). And I guess because of the snug fit, I could really feel the pulses when he came, which made the best sex ever even better!
Frank Zappa once quipped:
“Anything You Cannot Fit In Your Mouth At Any One Time Is Wasted”!
It especially applies here…
as
ultimate size determinism –
depends
on the cavity capacity
and
the absence of the Tonsils!
I prefer at least 8″to a strong 9.5, anything bigger I can’t enjoy it,, I’m not saying I would turn it down but I like to enjoy the dick,, and Ive had times when I tried to run and the top held me and made me accommodate his big dick,,and I also enjoy suckn and lickn a big dick,, I’ve had dick fetishes since I was young
I think the girth is as important as the length.I only use pre-cum as a lube. so the BEAUTIFUL feeling of the penetration is special from the start. I usually deep throat him first to get a feeling for his cock. An 8″ cock with a 6″girth seems to be a nice size for me. 12″ dildo with lube are really are not as enjoyable. .
Good idea to Google “anal fissures”.. Once you get one (or more) of these you will re-define what you will allow into your asshole. Very painful and they don’t heal quickly or easily. The body always speaks. Ignore it at your own peril.
I’m guessing that means basically anal worts. I had a best bud who I heard screaming like he was dying, I think they were cutting or burning them out. So glad I’m not anally wired.
Anal Warts are caused by “HPV” infectivity and they can be gripping and
tenacious!
However, they can be removed by any competent Dermatologist!
They can also be a predicator of “Anal Cancer which is 100% caused by
“HPV”
Farrah Fawcett died of “Anal Cancer” in 2006.
Correction:
Farrah Fawcett was diagnosed with “Anal Cancer” in 2006; she died from “Anal
Cancer” in 2009.
And Kasper – The Anal Cancer is still here and irritating us every day.
Hey Kasper, are you a Doctor?? I’m sure you’re NOT, Stop giving your gayborhood advice which is always 95% Wrong. Just stop, you don’t know everything or anything…Do a little research and educate yourself. Disinformation is wrong.
He’s been the comment section’s favorite mindless gasbag since day one.
Only 95%? More like 113%. Dude is a fucking monkey spank.
. . . I sure, I don’t know, but he did indeed die of HIV/Aids, after multiple visits to the “Red Door Clinic” just sayin’.
Man, that is a scary picture of you. Damn!
Too big? How about 7″ larger than the author of this blog?
For me, this brings up another related question: Can the size you take be gradually improved or expanded with practice? I do agree there’s a limit for me, but that doesn’t mean I wouldn’t want to slightly expand it….BUT…not at the chance/risk of no longer enjoying smaller ones.
C’mon people. What’s the avg size worldwide? Google it. Only a very small percentage exceeds 7+, 8+ is minuscule. Stop using gay math when exaggerating about penis size. Get a grip. How about not worrying about size and just enjoy what you have and the other person has. Damn.
Relax…it’s a Just For Fun article…talks about Toy size, and how big is Big, and asks for personal experience… it’s just a for fun article.
Just have fun with it.
Absolutely!
Which I have espoused many, many, many times within these Blogs!
They are for fun and general involvements – not codicils for “The Constitution”!
I like Toys. Some are just a bit too Big like inhumanly Big, and I love using them when I’m really going for it….but, mostly my Toys are just Large. Larger than a Real Man would be, Large. But, when it comes to a Real Man fucking me I like 7.5/8in. and THICK. I had one amazing Top who just knew how to give it to me, but His Beautiful Big Dick was thin, and that’s the only time I felt discomfort from bottoming….oh well, He had amazing Low Hanging Balls that would just slap, slap, slap, slap, away forever… Read more »
With all the hype there seems to be about size both on A4A and in porn, the reality appears to be that it is visually appealing, but cums at a cost. That is, a 12″ X 6″ eye candy cock stimulates the imagination and desires, but when a bottom is confronted with riding a huge cock, there are some consequences. First, it may not fit and some preparation will be in order to enjoy that volume such as stretching in your off time and requesting that he not pound you into oblivion! Second, size seems to be more of a… Read more »
I don’t really like “toys” I love the real thing, orally, and size has never really mattered, but I don’t bottom anally either just so it looks good, my last lover was quite small, but I loved ‘him’, all of him, head to toes and his personality.
Same here. I want the real thing and size don’t matter to a certain extent. I’m happy and comfortable with dick between 5 and 8 inches.
“Ain’t Nothing Like The Real Thing”!
His needs are simple!
Touché! Touché! Touché!
Marcus, when I lived in NYC, back in 96′, I was on a date; I think it was called the Boom or Splash or something like that, anyway, there was this big handsome bro dancing on the bar. When I tell you this dude was HUGE, in length and girth; unbelievable, he must have liked me or something because he just stayed in front of me, teasing and playing. I told my date; he must have heard me; “that can’t be real,” this dude wanted me to touch it, it was indeed real! I’m guessing it must have been about… Read more »
Wow. I never seen anything that big in real life!!!! Hope this don’t sound stereotypical, but I wonder what’s the significance for our loving God, to create a black guy with a 11-12 inch dick, 8 inch round and then create an Asian guy with a 3 inch dick. All men dicks should be 7 to 9 inches.You have nice stats by the way.
Thanks, man, but imagine ‘if’ I hadn’t inherited an extra set of my mother’s chromosomes; I’m a (XXY) what I would have been like; might have been like (king James) the professional b-ball player; a b-ball player myself, makes me wonder, but hey, I’ve excepted ‘who’ I am and ‘still’ the great genes, aging slower than most.
I you that you know, I’m sure; everything’s a puzzle for ‘us’ humans, the “why’s and wonder” of it all.
I’ve seen some really handsome Asian men, though, I’m very open-minded, but to a point, lol, and so are some of them, too.
If your cock is 5 feet around, even I can’t take that…
Hi guys. Over the years Ive never been a size dude. I been fucked in 50 years I estimate Ive deep throat and been fucked about 1800 times not including a few gangs bangs. One of my best ucks ever was in Atlanta, nice guy, younger. His dick was 6 inhe long, but thick as hell. Thickness of say a beer bottle. Good strecth but even better he just kept fucking my ass, moving to my throat, then back to my ass. in 2 hours he cummed 6 times. amazing. To the extreme my last fuck buddy was a big… Read more »
What is the name of this “Porn Film”?
Nobody does Kasper
Ahh… The time a beautiful Thai boy told me my dick was too big for Thai men, and then he promptly sat on it and took the whole thing. Or the time a cute Vietnamese boy was giving me a massage and I started getting hard…. he sat on it too. Life is great with a big cock
Not to burst your bubble but it sounds as though these “boys” were basically hookers (aka: massage) and would have sat on any size.
Clyde is another one of the full of shitters on here…
I am a smaller bottom; and I am very tight. Thick girth is a problem for me; though one worth the time and effort to solve at times. As for length I like anything 5 or 6 to 9. I have one semi regular top who loves to pull me tight and ease his very thick 8 1/2 in. I can feel that one pass the bend and I love it…eventually lol. When I am relaxed and that dick is buried deep I just melt into a serious mound of jelly shaking and moaning while riding that big dick. I… Read more »
Your experience reminds me so much of me. I had a good friend who used to wear a 10″ sleeve for me. It always took a few minutes to slowly push it inside me, but once it was fully inserted it felt so overwhelmingly good. He loved me in the missionary position, and I would pull my feet up, making my position accommodate the deepest penetration. In that position I thrust my hips forward and back, making the dildo bottom out, but never come out too far. I this position I would be completely obsessed with the feeling of being… Read more »
I just love a Big thick Cock! Girth and big heads are the best! I’m always in pure ecstasy when my sweet hole is being loved! And gay men seem to have the bigger ones from my Sexperiences
One picture of a guy elbow – deep into another guy’s ass …there’s nothing this side of Dumbo the Elephant that’s not too large for some guys.
I love to look, touch and play with a huge dick, but I prefer around 6.5 – 7 is perfect for me. I always wonder what health related issues these guys who take 10 or 30 dicks a night up their arse encounter later in life. I see them online advertising no dicks/loads refused and then they advertise the # of dicks/loads they’ve had. I don’t participate (seems rather whoreish) but it does make me wonder what is it that makes them want so many and what health issues (not STD wise) they encounter and how do they take that… Read more »
That’s what I think of when I see a guy’s profile ass picture displaying his open black hole. “No interest in putting any part of my body near something the has probably been part of ‘now trending on Social Media.'”
You just continue with that; smart about the obvious.
Sounds like one of my best buds (the aforementioned in this thread) he was great energy, you know, but he could have two or three guys in a 24hr period, which of course, caught-up with him, unfortunately.
He decided all too late to settle down with one man, but he was already infected, so that didn’t last long, never can forget how I held him as he literally sobbed, so did I actually, fuckin’ traumatic.
I can take a 7-8″ cock up my ass quite comfortably, but if it’s much larger when they bury it in me as deep as they can they hit something hard and it hurts bad. I asked my urologist why a big penis hurts me like that and what are they hitting. He said they were hitting my tailbone and of course it would hurt! Fuck! How can someone bend their cock around that! Anyone else have this issue ? Is there any way to overcome this? I want more!!
For me, a 7″ – 8″ tool is what I can generally handle comfortably. There are exceptions. Some tops are just better than others. Tops that are only in it for personal pleasure are generally the worst. Also, the position has a lot to do with how much I can handle, and uncut cocks generally cause me less pain.
In terms of a real cock, there is no such thing as too big. One of my friends was in town this weekend and bred me with his fat 9 1/2″ long uncut cock.
I love BIG COCKS I also love huge butt plugs and xxl dildos. I just love the feeling of my hole being stretched open and it being stuffed full! I also love being DP’d… I’m a power bottom, and love it.