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Adam4Adam gay readers, have you ever had sex with a woman before? If so, did the experience turn you straight?

We are bringing this up because Dr. Joe Kort, a sex therapist based in Michigan, has sparked a massive online debate due to the controversial remarks he made on one of his Tiktok videos. 

Dr. Kort said that straight men who have sex with men are not gay. He said, “When straight men have sex with men, it’s not a gay thing, it’s a guy thing.”

He added, “What I mean is, in general men have more transactional sex with one another, in general women don’t. So when men have objectified sex where it’s just about the act, it’s just about getting off, people man-shame him.”

Further, Dr. Kort explained, “When straight men have sex with men, they’re still straight, it doesn’t erase heterosexuality any more than when gay men have sex with women. They’re still gay. It doesn’t erase their homosexuality.”

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In a separate video, Dr. Kort cited reasons why straight men have sex with men. First, he clarified that he is a gay man attracted to men and so he had sex with men. Straight men, however, are not “attracted to the man, they’re attracted to the sex act with a man.” 

He then explained:

We have a sexual orientation that’s to whom we’re attracted to: male, female, both, neither, a blend of both. But then we also have an erotic orientation, the things that get us off, the things that bring us to orgasm, and our culture thinks that they should be the same and they should match and they don’t.

Often, people’s sexual interests and their erotic interests don’t line up but it doesn’t mean they’re any less the orientation or the identity that they say they are. So let’s end this bullshit and understand that straight men can be fluid and they can have sex with men.

Of course, viewers’ reactions vary, from: “Are you kidding, this is a joke, right?!” to people asking him to “just come out, bro.” 

Dr. Kort is, in fact, openly gay and married under Reform Judaism to a guy named Mike since the year 2000. The couple then legally married in 2005 in Massachusetts. He also shared on his Tiktok video that he came out in 1977 when he was only 14 years old.

According to his website, Dr. Kort is “a leading expert on sex and relationships” and his specialty is male sexual fluidity. He specializes in the following as well: “Out-of-Control Sexual Behaviors (OCSB)/sex addiction; Relationship Problems and Marital Conflict; Sex Therapy and Sexual Identity Concerns; Depression; Anxiety; and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.”  

Anyway, some say that a guy who had sex with a man is only gay if he wanted to or desire to do it with a guy again. While some netizens, on the other hand, think that men who have sex with men are, without a doubt, gay.

But never mind what other people think, guys. What do you think? Do you think that men can have gay sex and still be 100 percent straight? Do you perhaps agree with Dr. Joe Kort? Why or why not? Share with us your thoughts and stories in the comments section below!

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