A gay man on Reddit is asking if you’ve ever heard about the term “heteroflexible?” Moreover, is there anyone among our Adam4Adam blog readers who identify as heteroflexible?
The man related how he met a guy at a party with whom he had a very interesting conversation. The guy shared that he is in an open relationship with his girlfriend, and that he has been with a couple of guys already before but that “he isn’t bisexual but rather ‘heteroflexible.’
When he asked what being “heteroflexible” means, he was told that “you’re heterosexual, but you wouldn’t say no to having an affair with a guy or fapping to a guy or having a sexy time with a guy.”
The original poster (OP) of the thread then said, “For me, it sounds as ridiculous as claiming ‘I’m totally a vegan, but sometimes I eat meat.’”
Further, he added:
I find this term ridiculous at its best and homophobic at its worse. Like there’s nothing wrong about feeling that way, but like dude, that’s totally bisexual. It is funny to see the mental gymnastics people nowadays are doing just out of fear of assuming their sexuality.
The OP, however, clarified that it’s just his opinion and he’s asking readers for more information about heteroflexibility that hopefully would help give him a “different point of view.” Read the entire thread here.
So, we did a bit of digging and according to Healthline and we quote: “A heteroflexible person is someone who’s “mostly straight” — they usually find themselves attracted to people of a different gender to them, but occasionally find themselves attracted to people who are the same gender.”
But how is heteroflexible different from bi-curious and bisexuality? One netizen explained:
Heteroflexibility is under the bisexual umbrella, it is just a more specific way of describing your attraction. It means that you are mostly attracted to different genders than your own, but sometimes the same one. Bisexual just means that you are attracted to multiple genders, and heteroflexibilty fits that definition too.
To elaborate, she even attached an image:
As to how heteroflexible is any different from bi-curious, another netizen has a simple and more straightforward explanation. She said, “Heteroflexible means you know you can sometimes be attracted to the same sex, bi-curious means you don’t know but you’re open to figuring it out.”
Having said all that, what about you guys? Have you ever met someone who’s heteroflexible? Moreover, would you say you’re heteroflexible, bi-curious, gay, etc.? Share with us your thoughts and stories in the comment section below!