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A gay man on Reddit is asking if you’ve ever heard about the term “heteroflexible?” Moreover, is there anyone among our Adam4Adam blog readers who identify as heteroflexible?
The man related how he met a guy at a party with whom he had a very interesting conversation. The guy shared that he is in an open relationship with his girlfriend, and that he has been with a couple of guys already before but that “he isn’t bisexual but rather ‘heteroflexible.’
When he asked what being “heteroflexible” means, he was told that “you’re heterosexual, but you wouldn’t say no to having an affair with a guy or fapping to a guy or having a sexy time with a guy.”
The original poster (OP) of the thread then said, “For me, it sounds as ridiculous as claiming ‘I’m totally a vegan, but sometimes I eat meat.’”
Further, he added:
I find this term ridiculous at its best and homophobic at its worse. Like there’s nothing wrong about feeling that way, but like dude, that’s totally bisexual. It is funny to see the mental gymnastics people nowadays are doing just out of fear of assuming their sexuality.
The OP, however, clarified that it’s just his opinion and he’s asking readers for more information about heteroflexibility that hopefully would help give him a “different point of view.” Read the entire thread here.
So, we did a bit of digging and according to Healthline and we quote: “A heteroflexible person is someone who’s “mostly straight” — they usually find themselves attracted to people of a different gender to them, but occasionally find themselves attracted to people who are the same gender.”
But how is heteroflexible different from bi-curious and bisexuality? One netizen explained:
Heteroflexibility is under the bisexual umbrella, it is just a more specific way of describing your attraction. It means that you are mostly attracted to different genders than your own, but sometimes the same one. Bisexual just means that you are attracted to multiple genders, and heteroflexibilty fits that definition too.
To elaborate, she even attached an image:
As to how heteroflexible is any different from bi-curious, another netizen has a simple and more straightforward explanation. She said, “Heteroflexible means you know you can sometimes be attracted to the same sex, bi-curious means you don’t know but you’re open to figuring it out.”
Having said all that, what about you guys? Have you ever met someone who’s heteroflexible? Moreover, would you say you’re heteroflexible, bi-curious, gay, etc.? Share with us your thoughts and stories in the comment section below!
I have a facebook group for heteroflexible men. It means what it says.
They are heterosexual, but not rigid about it. Their primary relationships are with women,
but they have physical attraction or enjoyment with men. Some are on their way to being
bisexual or gay, but mostly, their gay sex is incidental to women, or with both.
If the Penis works for both holes…
the owner of the Penis is Bisexual.
is a female a little pregnant?
It’s not that basic. There is space in-between bisexual and heterosexual. A bisexual man would be 50-65% gay, but a man who is 35% to 10% gay would be heterosexual. A bisexual can have a relationship with either a man or a woman. A heteroflexible only has relationships with women, but can have sex with men.
You are writing in circles!
A straight man does not have sex with another male!
A male who has sex with another male – regardless of occurrence – is bisexual. There is no other way to assess this?
A woman is never a little-bit-pregnant; either, she is pregnant or she isn’t. A “heteroflexible” male is bi-sexual.
Either you are classically straight or you aren’t? The in-between is bisexuality.
Nope. 50 shades of grey, remember?
It’s not something gay men get to decide.
Haha with the erasing of may helpful laws that say men can decide what any gender does or chooses to do with bodies that aren’t theirs. (I don’t support this line of thinking in the least but media has made it true!)
You “heteroflexible men” group is just bunch of gays. Gays have deep friendship relationships with women, in fact deeper than their superficial sexual relations with other gay men. That is 100% the description of your facebook group.
YOU ARE RIGHT and according to my personal experience with “straight” dudes and heteroflexible men and to what friends and acquaintances have told me; all these men are just men who prefer being with a woman for social and personal life fulfillment but prefer 95% sex with men because it is more convenient (quick, better bjs), NSA, no hassle (fish,blood,pregnancy) and drama free (marry me,date me,you are mine). They tend to be selfish about that, meaning wanting to hang out just enough before and after sex or even no hanging out at all but I never minded.
You’re both wrong. For example, one guy in the group meets another guy once a month for sex. That’s all. Hetero the rest of the time. It’s his own definition. He has zero emotional interest in men. He is not bisexual. A bisexual can have a relationship with either sex, it’s not just about sex, it’s about relationships, too.
Have these men tell their wives/girlfriends they get butt banged and suck dick , “but it’s only once a month” but the rest of the time I’m straight and see what happens. The end result will be the same as if he confessed to banging another woman. I doubt telling her that you are heteroflexible will help her understand.
ok yeah call bisexual by any other name you’re still having sex with a man.
FUCK THAT – that’s BISEXUALITY ALL THE WAY screw trying to split-the-hairs on that ‘Hetero-whatever’ description!
This is why I missed the old gay community back in the early 2000s when people used real sexual orientations that made sense and the only ones that have always made sense to this day are Heterosexual, Bisexual, Homosexual, and Asexual (not the false rebooted version of today’s Asexuals). When the whole LGBT community was formed, that slowly but surely gave birth to society trying to use more and more false labels to make everyone who’s not entirely out to use them. And as the years gone by more letters were tacked on LGBTQ, LGBTQI, and now LGBTQIA+ which goes… Read more »
Dyson: The “Real” Gay Community formed in the early 1970s. The concept of a “Gay Community” was begun in the late 1960s. They, The Community, marched and protested to be both seen & heard. They began the real movement and so – by the time – the early part of the 21st Century began, whatever Gay Community you encounter and were a part of – was already well established by the Gays in the late 1960s and the early 1970s. Today, there isn’t much of a “Gay Community” as it has allowed itself to be a spectacle…to be seen, heard… Read more »
I agree 100%. I’m just glad I was born growing up in the 90s into this era knowing who I am and what I’m into than being born in the late 20s because people will tell me all kinds of things they think my sexual or gender is or isn’t supposed to be especially in school, that will literally confusing me and drive me so crazy I probably end up being an alcoholic lol. And I’m still thankful of having parents and teachers teaching me growing up, the differences between Male and Female, our genitalia, and that what we are… Read more »
Next they will want another color stripe on the flag…Or one of their own!
You sound like the religious right who said once marriage is opened beyond man and woman, then another group will want to Wed who knows what
Much like the Democratic Party in the US years back. That Party that once said “no” is now is soooooo accepting of LGTBQ+ individuals.
Do you really think the republicans accept you?
What would the reason for that be exactly?
I wonder what color they’ll want?
I know a man who had sex with another man only twice in his whole life. In the military, he woke up to find he was getting a blow job from another sailor, so he let him finish the job. Another bent over and offered his ass to him and he fucked him. Aside from that, he only had sex with women. So he was heteroflexible, but barely so.
You’ve been watching too many porn films of the 1960s – 1970s. That scenario of which you acknowledge is part of any wishful “Gay Man’s” Fantasy!
I’m so tired of gay men pampering themselves by pretending all men are gay. They’re not. Some are flexible, some are bisexual, but only a few are gay. We are less than 20% of the population, deal with it.It’s ok to be a minority.
Most what we are discussing is academic?
Sex does not always follow logic and so, what is being discussed, is legitimate if not always logical?
Just be bi for Dick’s sake. You are 100% right.
Once you go gay, you can never go away! There are just different stages of accepting your gayness. Proof: not a single gay man has become straight under the pressure of society or “coversion therapy”. Explanation: since gayness is still the “forbidden fruit”, it is a sexual orientation attractor and once you try it, it is impossible to reverse. If someday sexuallity becomes less of a focal point, people would start changing it according to their mood, the way some change the color of their hair.
I love getting buttfucked, but I don’t think about if I’m involved in a relationship with a woman.
As a bisexual man, I find the term and “distinction” as odd as someone who thinks after three sexual encounters with men they are still ‘bi-curious’. I think you can have one or two encounters being curious after that dude? Of you’re going back for a fourth time? You’re bi.
I used to be bisexual like yourself at one time. And when I was having sex with women at the time, it took me awhile before I even start having sex with men. I had sexual desires for men to be considered by others as bi-curious since I haven’t have sex with one. But after my first sexual encounter with a guy and I had my first orgasm from him, I knew without a doubt I was bisexual, I knew I was way before that but being 100% sexually satisfied by a man confirmed it. It didn’t take me several… Read more »
I love putting my face in someone else’s crotch. What sex they are doesn’t matter much to me.
Heteroflexible = Bisexuality…
Whichever way the Wind Blows…
no matter the word…
no matter who speaks it
no matter the application…
you attach “Flexible” as a “Suffix”…
It is Bisexuality!
God, are we becoming such a dumb-assed society…
we can’t even speak truthfully about who we like & what we like…
we have to invent “Idiotic vocabulary” to justify our choices?
It’s because these days , those that use terms like heteroflexible just want to sugar coat things.
as in sexually….”fluid”
How is this any different than the “idiotic vocabulary” of made up genders? Isn’t this supposed to be the community of acceptance?
There isn’t any thing different?
I believe in Community, but when you have so many splinters coming from the woodwork, the splinters bog everything down to the point that the whole is lost?
‘We’ in this respect, do not except wooden nickels. “Acceptance” but within a certain context.
i guess if you can twist your arms and legs into knots while having sex with a woman, then you are considered heteroflexible, honey?
It’s been said that for every person, there’s someone waiting to be found. Who said it first, I don’t know. At one time there was just man and woman, and primal instincts took its course without a label attached to it. How long that lasted, no one really knows. Now, a zillion years later, we have a multitude of sexual identifications that have been . . . . identified, and defined. Now we have men with vaginas, women with penises, and men and women with both. Now come the labels we put on ourselves and others, like gay, bi, lesbian,… Read more »
Not speaking from persoinal knowlege, but I would think if you lay with a lesbian, you might have to lay with two in order to get the full experience. But then we might have a new term…lesbiflexitolerant. Just a thought.
I don’t know . . . I know a few lesbians with bigger balls than some men, but they have no interest in guys or another lesbian with a penis! I’m sure there’s one out there just as twisted as me! Good times.
I think if the timing is right and the opportunity presents itself, 60% of straight men would try some sort of male on male sexual activity. Some straight men bond deeper with other men than other straight men do. A one on one overnight fishing or hunting trip could lead to some serious fireworks if the mood is mutual !!!!! So I think hetero-flexible exist even if it’s only a one time sex session!!
I think only 10% or so of men are 100% Straight. The rest are on the Sexuality Spectrum, except for those other 10% or so who are 100% Gay. Many “Straight” guys present themselves as such because they don’t fit the ” Gay” stereotype. So given the right potential partner and situation, they’ll engage in man to man sex .
Ah the gays, always suspecting the straights in hidden gayness LOL It doesn’t work like that darlings. It’s just your wishful thinking.
your right even more percentage as younger generation come older.i would say 90 percent will
It happened with me. A young friend was visiting for the holidays and every night he was courting a different girl then come home and tell me all about it. One night he stayed home and we had dinner and watched a movie. I took a shower and on my way to bed, I told him he could sleep with me if he were interested. He looked surprised. He didn’t know till then I wasn’t straight, but was quick to inform me he was flattered but wasn’t gay. I said, I get it, but if you change your mind, take… Read more »
Maybe even more. It was a normal thing in the past e.g. Ancient Greece. It happens in nature. It’s all about societal norms.
I remember a female friend told me I was heteroflexible before years ago when in reality I was bisexual at one time. She confused the hell out of me explaining the differences between that and bisexuality and I’m like scratching my head like it sounds one in the same to me lol. So I just told her no girl I’m bisexual and anyone who’s sexually attracted to both genders are bisexual too. I refuse to fall victim to using crazy labels made by society, to (feel straight) while living a lie about my true sexuality. It’s no wonder many men… Read more »
Previous to reading the article, I rolled my eyes and declared this to be bisexuality. Thankfully, I read the article and received an enlightening education.
At this point, I don’t pay a lot of attention to the labels guys give themselves. How they choose to describe themselves is ok with me even when I’ve crazy glued my lips to their crotch and have all 11 inches down my throat. My current FWB face fucks me, while watching pussy porn and tranny porn. He identifies himself as ‘nasty DL’.. (and bisexual) told his wife to be at age 17, we have great sex. We are all individuals. I’ve met plenty of outwardly straight guys who really need to have man to man sex on some kind… Read more »
Sounds like a bunch of malarkey to me…!!
who needs a label? if I was gonna use one it.be.tri.sexual !!!I try anything sexual with guys an girls
I love having sex with both men and women. But I wouldn’t marry a man, or consider developing a relationship with a man.
Glutton for punishment, aren’t you?
Ummm the ‘sexual’ part refers to sex, not relationships.
Sorry, but the sexual part refers to gender involvement. This is why you can have married couples who do not have sexual intercourse. That’s right, our sloppy abbreviation “sex” means sexual intercourse, copulation, because sex itself refers to gender.
Heterosexuality and homosexuality both referred to the emotional interaction relative to gender. This is why psychologists differentiated between homosexuality and homosexual behavior, as between long term prison inmates who would never desire another man on the outside.
Honestly, this is why I think a mere action doesn’t prove a thing about a person’s emotional essential position.
Sex is a biological phenomenon, gender is socially defined. The original definitions do refer to the biological phenomenon of physical attraction. This new terminology comes from socially imposed shame associated with homosexuality, hence the need for ‘normalizing’ term, i.e. a guy doesn’t have to be ‘homo’ to fuck other guys. But anyone is free to self-identify in any way they wish. I simply don’t think terms like ‘heteroflexible’ are either needed or helpful.
Just another politically correct word for BISEXUAL, why do idiots have to change things?
To keep you on your toes Jim!
Bisexual: you’re willing to have sex with men or women (including Transsexuals).
Heteroflexible: you’re willing to have sex with anyone who is LGBTQQIP2SAA, Straight, or say they’re one (or more perhaps) of the over six dozen sexualities certain “experts” claim there are.
. . .In a word “coward/s” here’s another word “denial” with a dash of self-loathing + fear of . . .
That describes Hitler, and we all know what he did!
Well, lmao, if the hat fits, he was very kinky with his niece, at that, lol.
Here’s the deal, this alleged new term is an attempt at disassociation of duplication = same thing occurring “man on man sex between bisexuals.” They’ve not reinvented the wheel.
With all these labels, is it possible that guys like me get left out? I am: early 60s; married to my wife over 30 years w/ kids; been sexually active with guys since my late teens and have always remained 110% hidden in the closet; continue to love my wife & my life and have never desired to get into a relationship or fall in love with a guy. BUT I enjoy sex FAR MORE with guys than with my wife. So… “by day,” I’m as hetero (acting, socially, etc.) as any totally hetero guy. What IS my “label?”
I don’t know why everything has to have a label….very few people are 100% straight and very few people are strictly gay….sexuality is a spectrum…..isn’t it good enough to just say I’m “MSM” (man who has sex with a man). It’s much simpler, allows for sex with females (if so desired) and defines the situation without delving into minutiae that no one agrees upon (and in many cases becomes the subject of a lot of hate and negativity!).
Funny how a dozen years ago the talk was about refusing labels. But now so many say if your genitals accidentally mash against a matching pair … BAMMM!! You ARE bisexual.. I met a man who was strictly straight in society. But he knew that being deprived of women for the next 20 yrs meant either abstinence, masturbation or find a boy. No kissing, just get on your knees before getting bent over. A high school buddy of mine didn’t have much choice one night. And for years after that I would travel to visit the man who usually drank… Read more »
Just another label, take one / make one, if you like. Personally I find labels limiting and exclusive.
Lgbtxyx, can we add another G on there for Montana ranch jands with goats? Needs to be simply not straight.
How many times has AA changed up their dependency group name?
Labels have a bad habit of changing from adjectives to nouns, at which point stress and contention begin, and sometimes bigotry, and counter-bigotry [gay men becomes “gays” who then lash out at “breeders”.] I find the bowl is getting so thick with alphabets, that the individual flavors are getting lost. After I admitted that I was gay, I eventually came to accept that there can be bisexual people, who, incidentally, were the guys with whom I had the most fun sexually. But I also discovered two tiny variations that I found no need to label. There were those who just… Read more »
I for one don’t care what they call themselves. if I am part of their fun in a club, park, or bed I am all in. Let them be who they want to be, why all this bitching and telling them, no ur gay, bi, or str8. Besides I have hooked with so many men, and the only words is hi, and thanks afterwards. As long as we both had a great time who cares. Especially if ur at the other end of a glory hole, it could be trump for all we know. lol,
I don’t really care what these new terms are now a days. I enjoy getting pussy and enjoy getting dick.
Answer: It means you are a closeted bisexual.
Yet another straight guy-obsessed gay baiting article ala A4A **rolls eyes** I identify as bisexual these days socially, I admit my attraction to both males and females, and was never in the closet, no reason to be. If I remained in the closet, I would have missed out on a lot, the closet doesn’t do anyone any good. A platonic female friend I’ve known since high school had to get tested for STDs because the guy she was seeing turned out to be a closet bisexual, and was getting screwed in the ass by strange guys he was picking up… Read more »
Heteroflexible means you’ve learned that a skilled male cocksucker can give 10 times better head than the most skilled female, and never see it as an obligation for which jewelry may be expected..
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Totally agree!!!! Skilled male cocksuckers, rimmers, kissers and nipple players can make me cum multiple times!!!!!!Females don’t even come close and I had my share of both!!!
Everything can passion into enough time that this isn’t just an old man for a little eoooeate and I t text to talk AKA recently remembering Google and me at a close up and where we talk to text it’s waiting to record my next care because it does not heal itself even when it’s more or less this climate is more in friend and I don’t ever want to deprive those things in the shadow of words more involved with what I’d actually never be involved with and that won’t wait staying at in New where it may very… Read more »
The guy in the caption picture with the tee shirt on, is looking dam good in those fitted jeans!!! Lol Nice phat azz!!!!!
I consider it prefer females, but will have sex with a guy. Really are too many names for the same thing. I think “Pan” works the best
An interesting & unique bent of the “Heteroflexible” routine! While in High School, there was a boy who used to brag that is was very “Democratic” with ” A certain part of his anatomy (his penis)! Since he lived in a “Democracy,” why not be “Democratic” across-the-board. Being Democratic with his “Anatomical Part” removed the concept of sexuality from his declaration and prevented Homophobia or any kind of a backlash. He used a neutral word to describe and proclaim his bisexuality. Its neutrality got him the attention and sex he wanted but it did not get the reverberations of such… Read more »
I like that. I’ve always said, “I am equal opportunity.” My way, I’m less likely to be called out by a Republican!!!
According to my personal experience with “straight” dudes and heteroflexible men and to what friends and acquaintances have told me; all these men are just men who prefer being with a woman for social and personal life fulfillment but prefer 95% sex with men because it is more convenient (quick, better bjs), NSA, no hassle (fish,blood,pregnancy) and drama free (marry me,date me,you are mine). They tend to be selfish about that, meaning wanting to hang out just enough before and after sex or even no hanging out at all but I never minded.
If you’re bisexual it means you go to Dairy Queen to enjoy a cone that has vanilla, or chocolate, or a twist.
If you’re heteroflexible, you go to Baskin Robbins because you want 31 flavors.
Touché! Touché! Touché!
Even Kasper – The Friendly Ghost – could not have worded it better!
May you parachute deep into Camp Lejeune and be eaten alive by a myriad of hot, muscular and ungodly horny Marines!
That was definitely clever! I bet Hunter never comes back empty handed. Or maybe he never needs his hands
When, I, Kasper hit-the-mark, it is always a bullseye!
Being trans,, thers no denieing that I’m attracted to the opposite sex as well as STRAIGHT men,but straight men (if ther is such a thing)are lil scared to addmitt that they could be sexually attracted to transgurls, and that just how it is .
“WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO BE HETEROFLEXIBLE?”
It means that you are trying to use the latest buzzwords to describe something that already has a name: “bisexual”
I think context is important because this notion cannot exist without laying on top of a spectrum. Nothing is black and white or always 50/50. I believe in things that allow fluidity, spectrum and organic range. That’s at least how I can see it given I like to entertain the idea on the opposite end of this working scale; homoflexible. It’s just a more precise description in my opinion of where these things fall on this sexuality scale. I do see how it can be homophobic however and problematic with people not fully owning their truth.
I identify as sexual. Figure that one out Father Smartie-Pants. Got a Facebook group for me?
If pussy were my primary residence, then cock would be like my vacation home; and when it comes to THAT property, I care less about who/what “manages” it than I do the condition of the property itself…if that makes sense??
Heteroflexible means that you’re too scared to call yourself “bisexual” or “bi-curious.”
Good Lord, lose the freakin’ labels already. Use that appendage between your legs to consentually and mutually pleasure yourself and others. Does it really matter who, what, where, when or how? The labels mean NOTHING!
If there is this ridiculous notion about heteroflexible then surely there has to be homoflexible, 80-90 percent gay but every once in awhile we may get a hankering for some slash and a nice set of tits.
I’m in a relationship with a woman, but I do enjoy being a bottom occasionally. For me with women, I have affection and seek intimacy, they’re where my heart lies. However with men, it’s just sex. While I would just say I’m bi, I could see how it would be called heteroflexible, if I had to elaborate my preferences.
Ok, so if staighties can claim Heteroflexibility I’m assuming gay men can claim Homoflexibility as well. 90% gay but every once in a while some vagina and breasts are on the menu.