Interview: Alexa Abraxas Talks About Being A Minority, Transphobia, and Never Giving Up
Singer, actor, and model Alexa Abraxas is a stunning beauty that hung out with us at Montreal Pride along with her fellow Adam4Adam models Matthew Camp, Stevo Trann, River Wilson, Cory Kane, Alam Wernik and Arad Winwin. Alexa took part in our photoshoot and participated in the Pride festivities and we couldn’t be more proud since she breaks new ground as Adam4Adam’s first transwoman model.
Alexa also set aside some time to answer our questions. In this interview, she talks about what’s it like being a minority many times over, transphobia, and how important it is to never give up. Read all about it below!
Adam4Adam (A4A): Who are you? What is your story?
Alexa Abraxas (AA): My name is Alexa Abraxas and I’m a singer, actor, and model. I’m originally from New York City but moved to LA last year to chase my dreams in the entertainment industry. I feel within the last year I’ve accomplished a lot and I’m very proud of myself.
A4A: Were you surprised when Dave asked you to be part of the Adam4Adam photoshoot and Pride festivities in Montreal? Why?
AA: Yes, I was quite taken aback as I always thought Adam4adam was strictly a gay website/app. I was very happy and pleased to be chosen to represent the trans community and even more pleased to learn that I was the first.
A4A: Do you think trans folks have enough exposure in the LGBTQ+ media, apps, websites, blogs and websites?
AA: Unfortunately, I don’t think trans men and women have enough exposure or a big enough voice to make an impact. We have been belittled, bullied, and killed for many years. I feel as though we are finally getting to a point where we can make an impact. It just takes time, energy, and effort.
A4A: What do you think of series like Orange Is the New Black or POSE?
AA: I think shows such as Orange Is the New Black and Pose are finally shedding a light on the Trans community and giving us a more solid platform to express ourselves.
A4A: As a trans person of color, what is the hardest thing/things you went through in your life?
AA: For starters, I am a minority in every aspect. A woman of color and trans. I’ve been bullied from a very young age for being colored and for being part of the LGBT community. While many people still don’t know about me, many do. It has always been a struggle for me to feel like I fit in and can be myself, as it has been for many other LGBT people.
A4A: We noticed that you love men when you were here with us. What are the most important things you are looking for in a man when you date?
AA: When I date a man I seek ambition, compassion, loyalty, and integrity. I also can’t help but like a man who takes care of his house, his body, and his family. I am a woman that’s true to myself, therefore I seek a man that is true to himself.
A4A: Have you ever experienced transphobia coming from the LGBTQ+ community? Why do you think?
AA: Yes, I’ve definitely experienced transphobia within the LGBT community. Many trans girls attack and cast judgment upon each other based on their bias of physical beauty. While there are many gay men who love and accept us, there is an equal amount who simply don’t respect us. I think as a person of the LGBTQ community, in my opinion, we need to stand up and defend each other as a community as we already have enough hate coming from the rest of the world.
A4A: What message would you like to say to other trans folks out there that don’t have your confidence about who they are and are still hiding in spite of living their life to the fullest?
AA: To every trans sister and brother, to every other gay and lesbian, never give up hope in yourself and always stand up for what you believe in no matter how many people tell you it’s not right. You can lose your beauty, your money, and your material possessions any day, but if there’s one thing you can’t lose it’s your self-worth, self-respect, and dignity. There’s a difference between looking in the mirror and loving yourself and closing your eyes and loving yourself. The difference is one is physical and one is internal. Chose to love yourself and know the greatness that’s within you amongst all.
A4A: Do you still experience insecurities about who you are? And what makes you go ahead and keep on going to reach your goals in life?
AA: I still struggle with insecurities on a daily basis. I don’t think one can ever be truly happy with their appearance, as humans we are changing every day. However, I remind myself of my inner greatness and my ability to love unconditionally and always be kind to others. I have been rejected many times for different jobs. I’ve been told I would never make it in this industry, but I’m constantly proving to myself that I can do it. I remain humble and I jump at every opportunity I can to make our planet a safe and better place. It’s examples like these that help me to keep going in life.
A4A: Which word describes you best?