So, why are you still single?
How often do you get asked this question guys and how do you answer friends and family members when they ask you this? We are talking about this topic because we hear this question often enough during family and high school/college reunions or even during intimate gatherings with friends that it has become the dreaded question of all time. Maybe that’s an exaggeration but gosh, even strangers online ask this.
I guess what irks people about this seemingly innocent question is how it somehow suggests that being single is wrong, which of course, is not. Anyway, we took to Reddit to check how netizens respond whenever they encounter this question. Take a look at some of their clever one-liner answers below which are sometimes funny but at the same time, are dashed with a bit of truth.
- Why are you in a relationship?
- I won’t settle for a mistake.
- I just am.
- Because I haven’t found the right one just yet.
- Because I’m not really into you.
- Why should I not be single?
- Nobody can afford me.
- I do a credit check first.
- Because dates always end up resembling job interviews which is a huge turn off.
- I’d rather be single and happy than be in a relationship but miserable.
There you go, guys! And here is a bonus; a response I heard from my college professor in marketing which I thought was brilliant: “Because I have not found my market yet.”
What about you, how do you answer this question? Sound off in the comments section below.
NATHAN WRITES:
Regardless of how long you are with someone; someone dies first and the other someone remains.
Hence, that someone is alone…so, what is the point? Be your own best friend; have affairs; pay your own bills; enjoy your own company.
When death comes, it didn’t/doesn’t matter who you were with; you die alone; you only need someone to put you into the Earth.
You will never know who visited/visits your Grave. And, after all who knew you dies, no one will ever know you existed!
Nathan, your comment makes me so sad. Life should be lived to its fullest, be it with someone or by yourself; although it is awesome to create memories with someone. And just like the theoretical butterfly effect, what you do puts in place events that will effect generations to come, even if you aren’t here to see them. For me, I choose to focus on an amazing life rather than my final breath on this earth. Perhaps I read your comment wrong, and if so I do apologize, but it just came off to me as so hopeless.
INVALPARAISO:
i appreciated your comments. I was in the Military for 38 years.
I have a certain way of looking at life…since, I saw far too many lives taken so, unpleasant as it appears to be, I am a realistic.
Life is how you choose to live it.
Yeah, it is depressing…and one of the most depressing topics I’ve seen on A4A. “…put you in the Earth.”? Your body may go in the earth; your soul and spirit live on. “No one knew you even existed”? Impossible. This post sounds like a suicide note. It’s no wonder that atheists commit suicide at a higher rate than the general population. Atheists who are single and live alone are probably most at risk for suicide. Living alone past a certain age (65?) is hazardous in many ways. Regarding this topic as a whole, it is depressing because it reflects the… Read more »
ISOLTRJOCK: George Washington was born 22 February. 1732 and died, 14 December, 1799. He was 67 years of age. He has been dead, virtually 220 years. Is living just 67 years but being dead virtually 220 not an absurdity? Who put him into the ground? His wife, Martha, a Human Being who, she, herself, died in 1801. Who remembers the Human Being? No one… because everyone who knew George is also dead. What is remembered is what he did but no who he was. That is reality… . Next time, you read a blog, use what is between your ears… Read more »
Response: (in a friendly tone and with a smile) “You know? That’s one of those questions that really should not be asked.” Only people who qualify as “total jackwagons” would ever ask a question that personal, that insensitive, and that insulting. People with no sense of manners. The very reason they don’t know why you aren’t in a relationship is the very same reason they have no reason know…they don’t know you well. If their nose gets out of joint over your answer, hey, it’s their nose…their choice. Now, not to say if you brought the topic of Mr. Right… Read more »
cuz i already have a matching set of hats and t-shirts, in other words, been there did that!!
I suppose it’s a turnoff to other guys when I tell them that I’m single because my husband was murdered by a meth head. He was “The One”, and that was taken from me, so I probably shouldn’t do that if I want to meet and date guys.
I’m very sorry that happened. I would suggest not mentioning it until you get to know the other person. It would freak me out and I’m very accepting. I would not know what to say other than I’m sorry. That’s what I’d do, however, I’d never ask the question in the first place. I’m very sorry for your loss. I hope you find peace.
SCOTT:
I, too, am sorry for what befelled your Love.
He lives within you. Remember him well, and if there is both a God and an Afterlife, he is already with you.
I lost my Love on a Battlefield, in 1967.
ONLY THE DEAD HAVE SEEN THE END OF WAR…… Plato
JOSH:
Well-written; yet, simply stated!
Nice to read a comment by someone who obviously has more between his ears than what hangs between his legs!
WIlfred Owen wrote of the same realization in his WWI. poetry.
How about “Because I decided to quit after the last a’hole bf who I managed to not murder in his sleep ‘or in his awake!!! Im too pretty to go to jail”!!!
Because boyfriends are like boats; expensive, time-consuming, and major upkeep. It’s rather enjoy a ride on someone else’s once in awhile and let their BF do all the work.
I say “Why do I want to be tied to someone’s bullshit and then have him sue me for half of my money when we divorce?”
“Because nobody dates anymore; they’d rather just fuck whoever’s. Yeah, I’m good with that!”
I agree…
Well I have to say And wanted to comment to a lot of the 7 comments so far here Ht sounds like a lot of your jaded and it sounds like a lot have been involved with people that probably weren’t “ the one “ And even as much of a romantic as I might be I don’t believe that her natural one I think there are people that you can be wet and there are multiple possibilities out there but wouldn’t you want just one person and see how it goes and see your way through years after and… Read more »
You sound more like a female living in a fantasy world. There is no such thing as ‘love’. Something made up by writers and the movie industry.
The question “why don’t you have children?” is precious also
Because I like sitting in my underwear and farting on my couch. I’m very straight that way..
Because too many people have restraining orders out against me.
Because I’m a jerk and nobody likes me.
Because that funky rash never subsided and the docs still can’t figure out what caused it.
Because I’m only allowed out on a day pass.
Because I only ever meet dumb f$#ks who ask me the same exact same question.
Because I’m so hung that nobody can take it. (The least effective one, I reckon.)
It’s the same answer regardless of what they say. The real answer in their head is, “I haven’t found the underwear model that will meet my expectations of perfection”.
Excellent comment !
wait… you’re asking geeks on Reddit what they say when people ask them why they are single and they don’t say, “because I am a geek on Reddit”? Something is wrong with the data…
When someone asks you why you are (still) single, just take the compliment. They are asking for one of two reasons: First, they are concerned about your happiness (rightly or wrongly) or they think you are a great person and you should be with another great person.
Maybe… but why would someone would have “to be with another person” ?
I personally don’t like the compromise of being with another person…
I do like to share things with another person (travels, dinners, etc) but I can also do that with a very good friend.
Dave:
I do agree with you as my prior posts portents.
You can choose to be with someone, anyone, if you want but it isn’t a prerequisite to happiness.
There is a flip side to #10 “I’d rather be single and happy than be in a relationship but miserable.” I know of two long term couples who are not suited for each other. One from each couple, complains to me about their relationship, a lot. So, I asked why they are still together? Their answer was “I’d rather be in a bad relationship, than none at all. ” Yikes !
i’VE BEEN MARRIED SINCE THE FIRST DAY IT WAS LEGAL. HE TRAVELS EXTENSIVELY FOR HIS JOB, SO WE REACHED AN AGREEMENT THAT WORKS WELL FOR US. i’M HEAD OVER HEELS IN LOVE WITH HIM, SO I VERY RARELY PLAY.
Good for you for being open about it. I’d never marry anyone who was not agreeable to the aide that we are not going to be exclusive forever. I think that idea has destroyed more than a few heterosexual marriages.
Can’t find a true non flamboyant fem who I don’t have to convince that I’m sincere. Forty five years of only wanting fems and transgenders isn’t a fantasy. All i ever get is someone masculine wanting sex ONLY. Not into masculine, handsome or hairy.
When you’re dating, you have to sacrifice too much alone time.
Because what kind of guy I’m looking for isn’t the kind of guy looking for me. What does make me sad are those talking about being with somebody for years (or more) while my longest rlnshp. was ~6-9 months.
Nice to see you posted this topic on my bd.
Which, BTW, had an ex dump me via a “Dear John” E-Mail on my bd.
Because most people are looking for Mr. Perfect instead of Mr. Almost Perfect.
Heh heh! Back when I was marriageable age, I was asked that question a lot, mostly by mothers looking to matchmake for their daughters or their friends’ daughters. It was back in the day before it would have been socially acceptable to say “Because she doesn’t have a cock!” or “Guys can’t marry guys!”
Many of the men who want to “marry” are looking for a substantial dowry.
I only ask this question if I’m interested in that individual in an intimate way. It’s a pertinent question. However, it may be less egregious to ask someone if they’d like to have a drink or coffee (now or later). If they say Yes, it still doesn’t answer the underlying question, “Are you Single.” which might also mean “Are you available?”. Not the same thing. Honesty is the best policy.
“I’m on a break.” Which is true. I Was in a 5 year relationship an after it ended, I dated a couple guys and it didn’t click so I took a dating break. It has been 21 years now, so I doubt I will ever have another BF or husband. It’s actually now to the point where my head doesn’t even go to the dating place. I was on a date last August–it was one of those “where a friend and I were headed somewhere and “…we’re going to meet my friends” dates where his friends happen to have brought… Read more »
My best way up thinking about it. When you are in a relationship you are happy one half of the time and mad the other half. When you are single you are happy half the time and lonely the other half. So you trade loneliness for anger same difference to me. You are still happy half the time
That’s pretty much the way I have come to think about it, and I deal with loneliness much better than I deal with anger. My usual answer it the most truthful one: “I suck at relationships.”
I wasn’t always, however, I’m single now, smarter/older about ‘who’ I am to me and because of that, I choose to be single, until, he and I; someone where “we’re worthy” of one another can make a go of it. It’s about the right dynamics at the right time…
However, gay men are their own worst enemy, always reacting sexually first…to many just never learn.
I won’t be accepted as the person I am. I’m not smart enough for anyone
My response is typically “I don’t know” or “If I knew, then I probably wouldn’t be single anymore.” The first one is a bit more accurate, because the second response gives the wrong idea that I might want to be single or that I choose to be single… honest to god, I don’t know, but I’m starting to feel broken about it. Time isn’t stopping for me and goals aren’t being met. At this point, I just HAVE to assume love isn’t out there for me or that he missed me, because otherwise, I’ll never get anything done in my… Read more »
The only man I would even consider doing the work a relationship requires is married to someone else.
Serious topic but I just want to comment that Matt Camp looks irresistible in white briefs and white crew socks.
My answer is “I wish I knew”. & that’s mostly due to my only times being in relationships were between the ages of 22-26 with the longest being 6 months. Here I am 47 & still wondering why I haven’t found anybody. It also upsets me to know that my sister & her hubby dated for 9 years before getting married (& they’re still together). So family events aren’t really fun because I’m either by myself or having to hang out with my younger cousins. BTW, don’t get me started on the phrase we always hear “you’re exactly the kind… Read more »