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Recently, we asked you how it feels to have a huge penis. One Adam4Adam blog reader commented, “Sometimes turn the blog to micropenis guys. I know there aren’t a lot of us, and we hide most of the time. It’s a tough life to lead if you’re gay. Hell, even if you’re not. Luckily, I found, late in life, a man who doesn’t give a shit. Ah, love.”
That comment reflects something many men rarely talk about openly: how penis size expectations can shape confidence, dating, and sex in the gay community. The topic came up again in an online discussion when one gay man asked for advice about a new relationship. He wrote, “The guy I recently met has a micropenis.”
Then he explained his situation:
Pretty much the title. I feel like shit, because I think he’s really handsome and I enjoy spending time with him, but we’ve fooled around the other day and his dick is very, very small (I’d say 5-6cm). He’s a vers top, and I’m vers bottom. I’m not a size queen, but I just don’t feel attracted to this part of his body. I honestly don’t know what to do – I don’t want to hurt him, but it feels like no matter what, either he or I will be unhappy. Any advice?
Some commenters focused on honesty and compatibility. One person advised ending things respectfully rather than continuing a relationship built on doubt: “If you already think that either you or he will be unhappy, you know you should end it. He doesn’t need pity, and I’m sure he’ll find someone who likes him the way he is.” He added, “There will be someone more suitable for you, too. Don’t feel bad, but do be decisive and act on how you feel for both your sakes.”
Another gay man echoed that idea, emphasizing that being direct might actually be the kindest approach: “There’s no point in trying to spare people’s feelings when you break contact with them. It will hurt their feelings; that is unavoidable. Plus, he has a micropenis, so he knows exactly why, too. But you shouldn’t put this off or prolong it, because you’ll only be wasting each other’s time. All you have to say is you’re incompatible, and it’s best if you see other people, nothing more.”
Others stressed that kindness matters most, regardless of the outcome. One response highlighted the importance of respect during difficult conversations:
“Just don’t be an asshole about it. People are incompatible for a million reasons, and it is OK. What is not OK is belittling people to feel good [about] ourselves. Just be kind and have an honest breakup.”
Not everyone saw the situation as a problem at all. Some men said a smaller penis wouldn’t bother them in the slightest. One commenter joked, “Why can’t this happen to me? Love small dicks lol.”
Another perspective focused on expanding the definition of sex and intimacy beyond penetration: “Sex is more than just penis-in-bum. If you like the guy, get creative.” However, someone quickly replied that for many people, penetration still plays a central role:
“For a lot of people (myself included), that’s a major part of it, though.”
Meanwhile, some commenters were simply curious about the logistics, asking:
“How can they top with a micropenis? It doesn’t even go in.”
Lastly, others pushed back on that assumption, arguing that size doesn’t necessarily limit pleasure or playfulness: “Micros can be more fun and just as playful.”
Having said all that, what do you think, Adam4Adam blog readers? Would a micropenis be a dealbreaker for you, or could attraction and compatibility outweigh size expectations? Have you ever dated someone with a micropenis, or are you someone navigating dating with one?
Further, how much does size really matter for you when it comes to dating? For some people, it’s just one part of the body, but for others, it can affect sexual chemistry and compatibility. When a relationship has potential but something physical gives you pause, what do you do? Do you break up with him or stop hooking up? How much weight should one body part carry in deciding whether to keep seeing someone? Share with us your thoughts and stories in the comments section below!
If he is my btm his penis size will not matter. He will not be using it any way – cause I will pounding his hole and throat!
Hope you at LEAST BLOW your bottom buddy and make HIM feel good ALSO :)!!!
Don’t worry..if he don’t suck his btm off that guy will be cheating all over town.
I’m married to a woman, but I’m a 100% bottom when with men, I have a 7.5 dick, but I don’t use it when with me, in fact I don’t even like for men to touch it, I like being with men because I love the way it feels when a man makes me cum handsfree . Only with his dick, it is a wonderful feeling to cum while getting fucked, I also enjoy sucking a man off,
My kind of btm! I like a DL guy and/or any guy who knows what he wants and enjoys doing what makes him and his top feel good. You should be proud that you found someone to make you cum hands free. I have a great btm that makes me cum multiple times plus while he is getting pounded I make him cum hands free. He tells me it is one of the best feeling he has ever had.
I have sucked a few micro dicks. Coax them out from hiding. Very hot
YEP – one of my FBs is on the SMALLER side but he DEF loves the NSA attention I give his dick, especially since his wife never touches it!!! LOLOL 🙂 And he’s a nice CHEERFUL dude also!! Especially when he SEXPLODES! 🙂
I love smaller penises cause I gag easily but love sucking. Got 4″ recently and was amazing.
As Frank Zappa once quipped: “Anything You Cannot Put Into Mouth At The Same Time Is Wasted”!
There are men out there that appreciate smaller cocks and I am one of them. I survived two bouts with head and neck cancer that required a jaw reconstruction and I can no longer open very wide so smaller, slimmer cocks are all I can suck well. When it comes to our cocks, we must all play the hand we are dealt so rock what you got guys!
Hella YEAH – as OFTEN as possible 🙂
Micro penis is a REQUIREMENT for me. Its an indicator for ‘TOTAL, TOTAL BOTTOM’ with no intent to fuck or be aggressive. Short, white, hairless and under 5inches are my guidelines.
Cool man – bet all those DUDES love getting YOUR attention 🙂
I love sucking cock no matter the size. Would be hot because it’s easier to get it entirely in my mouth without worrying about the gag reflex. He could pound my mouth to his hearts content!
“Micropenis” reads to me as clitoris, which is a total turn-off. Nothing is worse than a female pretending to be male and preying upon gay men who seek each other. I do need at least five inches for manual and oral satisfaction.
Why couldn’t he be one of the most masculine guys made to look like a milksop for tactical reasons…. Just to be funny!!!!!?????
To each his own,some like the peewees,some like the ass openers
Hot is hot. I’ve had 4″ drive me crazy, and 9″ bore me. Very small ones on a bottom are not a problem.
I don’t have a micropenis as per definition, but mine is small. 5inches on a good day and thin. Always felt self conscious about it. Teased in high school gym class. Rejected by potential “lovers”. It’s not easy. But when you find the right man, all that is left behind….
Not for me…my first man on man experience was a tiny penis. I was so disappointed. I need a dick as big as mine or bigger that has no problem getting hard.
I get frustrated with a tiny dick that doesn’t get hatd.
I think it will come down to if we have been dating for a while and there is a good connection. I am a versatile guy, and when I bottom, I get more out of the intimacy/connection of bottoming than the feeling of the dick in me as being pleasurable. If there isn’t a good connection and I am bottoming for someone with a small penis, than I might still do it, just so I don’t feel the time is wasted, but I don’t think there would be a repeat? I feel so horrible saying all of the above. I… Read more »
I think the issue comes down to the unrealistic expectations of size queens (all of whom should be burned at the stake). *Love* is the issue… solutions provide themselves. If a man’s endowment is more important than his character, something is wrong with the assessment, and it isn’t his package. I have been with men with smaller packages, and found that they were often *far* more worthwhile than guys with huge dicks who thought they didn’t have to do anything… or that they were intrinsically “better,” just because their schlongs were big, and drug addiction, disease status, or general stupidity… Read more »
Ok.my experience w/ guys w/ MP’s haven’t been good ones mainly cause in the majority of them the guys behaved like DOM Tops
.. bossy, demanding… And totally out of the blue. Never came up prior… And given the logistics, that’s a pill I just ain’t swallowing.
Just want to add that based on just a few comments here it seems that if there was ever a time to create a community– Men With Small Penises & the Guys Who Love Them–it seems that that time is n’ow.
I’m vers and big dicks are nice to look at but smaller and thinner are more comfortable. Leaving your hole gaped is a turn-off. If you slip right in with no lube that’s a turn-off. I’m even better with no fucking at all cause being licked and sucked all over makes for a better explosion in the end. Suck my nipples and jack me off and we can go all night long.
If have taught me one thing, it’s that I enjoy penis in my mouth. It doesn’t need to do anything more in order to take up residency…. In perfect theory…. But life throws curveballs….. SIKE!!!! I love men, and yes on a case by case basis…. If they appear to womanly, I can’t see the MAN (SUBJECTIVE), but if I can clearly see the MAN, I may just tell my family we’ve been searching for his penis this whole time (SUBJECTIVE)…. But God MADE me GAY (OBJECTIVE). Ergo, my penis never in vagina make OOPSIE BABY. Lol bring it on… Read more »
Tried to give you a Thumbs Up, but that feature is broken, for me at least (sent a flair into the A4A Help Desk about it.) As I type, you’re -1 … tried to get you to 0. Can’t agree more about “I enjoy penis in my mouth.” Cock size? I’m pretty demanding. If a cock is going to get into my mouth, it has be attached to a good man who understands good regular hygiene for it and the rest of his body. Size? For sure, a large cock doesn’t make a guy great. Many hung guys are anything… Read more »
Im a top, so a bottom with a micro dick doesn’t bother me if he can get hard and stay hard the whole ride and cumm with me. I like playing with all sizes
I’m a white fag for black men’s use … so they don’t care about my dick at all … unless they’re holding onto it like a handle while they pound me
Had an FWB a while back. He has since moved away. We chatted several times and decided to meet. Just before we met he said, “I have to tell you something.” I knew he was over 6′ tall and was built (massively built). He said his cock was not even 3″. Not being into anal, that didn’t matter. He was very attentive and caring in bed. A whole pile of fun! I could stimulate his cock with my mouth and fingers in ways I couldn’t with other guys with large cocks. When I took him between my mouth cheek and… Read more »
I thought we knew the same person! I had a FWB Massive build 6’4″ alpha looking. 2″ dick.We had the most intense times. He was married to a woman and loved to get ducked after intense, long foreplay. when we fucked i was always amazed how much cum blasted out of his cock. he moved as well.
Being a total bottom, I appreciate a cock that will fill me up. I’ve sucked a couple of micros and enjoyed it, but when it comes getting laid, I want to be able to feel it deeply.
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God I hate to say this but it would be a deal breaker in a monogamous relationship. I’m a total bottom and I just like larger cocks. And since being fucked is my absolute favorite thing about gay sex it would definitely be an issue
It’s not the size of the instrument, but how well you play it…
Or the nautical version: It ain’t the sea, but the motion of the ocean”.
I’m pretty oral, period, so, I think it should at least appealing, regardless of size; my ex had a very small one, but that was only one aspect of his total body, as a very oral and hump-loving man.
Yes.
Can someone please tell me why I can not give a thumbs up or down vote, it keep telling me I can’t vote for my own comment, when it’s not my comment I trying to give a up vote to, does anyone know what going on with that ?
I cannot give a thumbs up or down on anybody’s statement because it says I cannot vote for my own comment. This has been happening for over 3 days now and I have not voted on anybodys.
Well I see it’s not only me, I appreciate it
He was an Indian Guy (East Asian)—Wonderful date or not, who can remember? At one fecund point in my 20s, I purposefully dated 100+ men over a couple of years to get the experience of dating under my belt (a skill lost on LGBTSGLOMNI folk) and Raj (just to maintain our racial picture) popped up, fun date, invites me to his place. We’re doing the monkey make out and he’s been boasting about all the things he wants to do, get done, do to me. He whips out his penis and….actually he more of plucked it out of his underwear…… Read more »
Honestly – I love a small dick. His dick in my mouth, my nose buried in his pubes and his balls rubbing my furry chin. Grrrr! If he needs to pound my asshole, there are all sorts of options these days…dildos, vibrators, extenders, tongue, fingers. It’s all about pleasing each other…isn’t it?
Dunno, never had the opportunity to encounter one. Then again not a big fan of having to ask: “Is it in YET…”?
If you have a micro penis your ass better be really good. Or your oral play better be amazing. Half these guys are lying about loving micro penis. I need a real man fucking me, not Michael Jackson.
As a bottom, a mircopenis would do nothing for me. If a guy has a micropenis and is looking to suck me off, then all good. I let a guy with a micropenis fuck me once. It was an awful experience and will never try it again.
As a decently endowed vers top, I usually fck guys with a smaller dick, but I have also bttm’d for guys who are on the smaller side and they knew how to use it quite well. I wasn’t disappointed. As a vers top, I’m normally turned off by size queen bttms.
As a so professed VERS that leans to being a Bottom at times I can honestly say size does matter. Not exactly a Size Queen but I do have a preference of 6.5-9 inches for sexual satisfaction (oral.anal) but would make an exception if someone was very hot and sexy and in the heat of passion. I have struggled with 6.5 yet could handle 10.5 during intense passion. Too small or micro dicks will never satisfy Me long term but physically I cannot handle more than 9 without an attentive Top. Everyone is different and how creative/ imaginative in the… Read more »
To me, it feels just as sexy to have some knocking on my back door; they don’t necessarily have come in.