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For some gay men, size can feel like currency in dating and hookup culture. But what does it actually feel like to live with a big dick every day? Is it empowering, inconvenient, or simply normal? Does it affect their clothing choices, gym confidence, or sexual compatibility?
A gay man online recently posed a candid question along these lines, and it naturally sparked a lively discussion. He asked, “How does it feel to have a big dick?” He added:
As a guy with an average-sized dick, I wonder how it feels for guys with big dicks? Does it come with any inconveniences? For example, do you prefer bigger-sized underwear? Does it move often? Does it take more time to get an erection? I’m curious about your perspective.
While mainstream porn and locker-room bragging often glamorize size, many gay men online pointed out that living with a larger-than-average package isn’t always as effortless as it looks onscreen.
One common inconvenience mentioned was surprisingly mundane. As one commenter bluntly put it, “Sometimes when you sit on a public toilet, the head of your dick touches the inside of the bowl, and it’s disgusting.” Someone agreed and said, “Exactly this. The shudder of horror when this happens. I am so happy we installed elongated bowls in our house. No more laying it on the seat and folding it down to pee.” It’s not exactly the glamorous side of being well-endowed, but it’s real — and apparently relatable.
In addition, others compared the experience to handling something powerful but familiar. “Ever see a fire hose out of control? It’s like that. To be honest, it doesn’t feel like anything. It’s just there. You’re used to it because it’s been with you since the beginning.” Somebody was unable to resist and replied, “Hopefully not since the beginning.” This comment, in turn, garnered another: “That would be an interesting day in the delivery room.” Humor aside, the point was clear: for many, size doesn’t feel extraordinary. It simply feels normal because it’s all they’ve known.
Interestingly, some gay men said they didn’t even realize they were considered “big” until others pointed it out. “I never knew I had an oversized one until I started getting comments.” This shows how self-perception often changes only after feedback from partners.
Meanwhile, porn culture also came under scrutiny. One man observed, “Porn has done irreparable damage to men and thinking anything less than 7 is ‘small.’” It highlights how exaggerated standards can distort perception and undermine self-esteem.
Further, one commenter shared, “I’ve been told that I have a big cock. I’ve never had any trouble finding guys to fuck, most seem to really enjoy it. However, the last two guys I tried to fuck last week said it was too big, and I had to stop. The first of the two just couldn’t go through with it at all once I was all the way in. The second one had me jerk off till I was about to cum, then have me slide in and give him my load.”
Daily life can also require wardrobe adjustments. “I have to be careful about what shorts I wear to the gym (no, I don’t get hard at the gym) because even on soft it can be revealing. Also, I hate wearing briefs in case I do catch a random boner because this thing tries to escape.” Another added, “I hate underwear, they are always too restrictive. But I love that heavy swing you have when walking around naked.” Practical trade-offs, it seems, are part of the package.
Having said all that, Adam4Adam blog readers, what are your thoughts and experiences? If you’re well-endowed, what’s something people misunderstand about it? What are the pros or cons you’ve experienced because of your size? If you’re average or smaller, how has size perception shaped your dating life? Comment down below!
I wouldn’t know because I am small. Not because I watch porn, literally small, like 95% of the guys I have hooked up with have been bigger. Had the question been what’s it like to have a big dick in your mouth or your ass, then I’d have quite a bit to say. One of my favorite big cocks is an ex, and we’re still friends and fuck from time to time when we see each other (live 1000 miles apart) and his is Black, uncut, lots of foreskin, long, and fat… like 9.5″ X 7″ and I love when… Read more »
Stfu that had nothing to do with nothing definitely not the topic at hand. It wasnt share the story about how your hole become loose and gross. It’s was a mature discussion about endowment. Where in this conversation you saying you love to get bred is relevant. Grow up
These hos will turn anything into Slutty Story Time. Most of them are married old men who can’t tell their grandkids, so they tell anyone else who will listen, even if it’s strangers on a blog.
Yeah we may be old we may be married we may even have grandchildren but we’re really good cock sucker. And we’re grateful to have a nice hot cock in our mouth or ass
Someone, come pick up their grandma.
Damn. You sound negative.
You and Mike are obvious incels.
Me too! It’s not just the size of the dick; it’s about the gentleness of the top with the big dick. Once you get used to the size, and your anus acclimates to the size, it’s all good. Gentleness during penetration is a sign of concern on the part of your top.
Agree. I have been with plenty of ‘gifted’ Guys and it is all about how attentive they are to a Bottom. Dated a Guy 8.5×6 that hit the sweet spot every time because he was a skilled Top and more of a true lover (biggest mistake was ever letting him Go). Went out with a Dude 11 thick that checked all the boxes but he really wasn’t into anal which was shocking because he was SAF, GL, great kisser but he thought anal took too much effort because most Bottoms could not handle him. It was HUGE quite honestly……fun to… Read more »
LOL……been there, done that. Hooked up with a Guy that was HUNG like a Bull…..really thick like a beer can, and had a good 8-8.5 in length.Oral was a challenge based on his size but when it came to anal he said “I will let you decide what will be easier for you”. I was able to RIDE Him and then we tried doggie but he preferred Missionary so he could look you in the eyes to see you were enjoying it. After a few thrusts I had to tell him to stop because it was painful. He did call… Read more »
I can tell you what its like to have a big dick..inside me! Extasy!!. Nothing like that feeling of a big thick dick sliding in me, thrusting deep, filling my hole completely.
I agree with you completely, Jack. I feel the same way you do.
I don’t believe I am as big as some bottoms say. I’m a grower, not a show’er. I have seen hundreds of hung men and been with a few of them, but I am confident with what I have. There are too many size queens out there and it’s a turn off for me. Yeah, I like big ones too, but some guys don’t know what to do with theirs, or they are just big bottoms, wasting all that good meat. I am like, can you share some of that? I totally understand why some women feel the way they… Read more »
And how is that? How do they feel?
Spoken to a lot of women throughout my adult lifetime. Many think it’s a waste of dick. Haha.
I’ve never had the problem myself but…I’d like to know why most men that are of “large size” are all BOTTOMS?
Here is my suspicion, using non factual numbers to help create a way to understand: If ten percent of population is gay we have to come up with ratio of bttm/vers/top. Online presence suggests there is less than a third top and that possibly can go for vers as well. So bottoms are making up half the market in my home state. And then finding a hung top, the treasure really becomes the unicorn. Oops. That just flowed without realizing the danger of a stiff, pointed, glittered arse poker I have noticed in my USA traveling that there are pockets… Read more »
My partner is huge, and he is definitely not a bottom at all, but he cares about my pleasure, because my pleasure gives him pleasure.
Also, what’s it like having a gaping hole?
Look in the mirror… that face hole looks gaping to us
Oh BeHave as Austin would say!!!! 🙂 LOLOLOL
You took a poll of “us”?
Let the questions and numbers rock!
How did I miss it?
Do tell!
It’s a serious question. Anal doesn’t do anything for me personally. My “body count” is four guys with many dozens of sessions with them over the years.
They’re 5″-8″, one with some serious girth. I’m tight. They like it that way. When I see a guy who’s hung, I quickly think “No. That’s not gonna happen.”
Wondering what it’s like to look at hung guys (8″, 9″, or more) and know you’re “open for business.” As has been asked, what are your thoughts and experiences? If you’re well-holed, what’s something people misunderstand about it? What are the pros or cons?
Interesting. From my perspective I mostly think..”I wonder if THAT could happen”
Only about twice in my life have I thought no that is not going to happen. You can imagine.
They are out there
I would imagine that the guys swinging those ten plus inchers and/or the guys who are so girthy that you absolutely need a porn star as a partner in order to experience penetration would be the ones with stories that they don’t have it as easy as most people think they do. It has to be lonely or sad when you have a partner that looks at you for the first time naked and either has fear in their eyes or down right rejects you. As a versatile guy with an average dick, I can say that the idea of… Read more »
An eight inch cock is a big one, don’t be so humble.
Surely it drains the blood supply from their brains?
Some of the HUNG DUDES have their BRAINS in their DICKS!!! 🙂 LOLOL They think they are God’s Gift to the Gay Community ~~ SAD JOKES!!!!!!
Similarly, when I have bottomed… the most pleasurable experiences I’ve had were with men with 7″ to about 8.5″ erect penises. And more important still… is how the guy topping goes about the act. A super guy whom I used to meet with regularly has a penis that’s about 8+ when fully erect, and a bit girthier than average too. “KC” was always type person concerned with his partner enjoying everything to the max while having sex. After a comfortable amount of foreplay, he’d get me into a good, vulnerable position… then generously lube both his firm member and my… Read more »
Yes M ny many moons ago I started to chat with this stud in an AOL Chat room BIMM. I was trying to learn more and yes I was Horny. I chatted up this guy with the long screen name, Horsehung Cowboy or something like that. He was nice, interesting and chatted back. His hole thing was about not being able to get any cause his wife did not want it. That he tried with other women and same thing. I thought it was just talk cause internet. Anyhow we met for coffee. Not only was he nice but he… Read more »
I can honestly say the only way that I have been able to handle 8 or more is to use the desensitizing creme that numbs the entry………otherwise it is not happening. Same goes for oral……when I know I am going out with a BIG Dude there is a gel that counteracts the gag reflex and I can do my thing. My current BF asked me about previous partners and how do I make it look easy when most struggle and once I explained he was a bit more understanding. He said I am still a bit tight and require lots… Read more »
According to a friend (straight) who claimed to be large, it could get caught in his pants and cause much discomfort, and difficulty adjusting in public. His father, who is hung like horse, lets it dangle down his pant leg for all to see. I don’t understand why guys don’t do what I do (or used to do), which is to wear it up along the zipper, where the folds of cloth hide the bulge. I had to start doing that in high school to conceal my frequent erections. The size comes from a longer stem, which is not where… Read more »
What real man hides his erections. ..what is this nonsense???
(it sounds like you tuck your penis to make it look like you have an vagina).
The fact that you know how hung the father is, that’s a a whole different dilemma! You sound super scandalous!
And, by the way, my straight friend never let me see it or touch it.
Yes, a downer, when he would talk about it to tease me.
So it’s HIS WORD against YOURS!!! He COULD be LYING 🙂 !!!
Having a big dick is allot of fun! Especially, when you walk into a sex party, the men all pause when you walk into the room. Then all of the btms try to attack you and drain all of your energy by getting in a queue line. Luv having a big dick because I like seeing my btms struggling on my dick while I am pounding their hole. All of my btms tell me yes it hurts — but it hurts good!
I’m curious to know if large manhoods are hereditary or a random occurrence.
Physical traits are Hereditary and not LUCK of the draw types of occurrences :)!!
It’s great having a big one buried balls deep in me
Guess all the guys with big dicks are too busy to respond to this……
No, it’s just that there’s not all that many of them out there to step up to the line and respond. Look at the statistics, the overwhelming number of men are around 5 1/2 inches. Sure, porn stars are hung, but their big dicks are what get them into the movies. Everybody really has to stop comparing themselves to the professionals.
I love my big thick cock. It’s 11 inches and thick like a bear can with a nice big balls with big loads and big mushroom head. The guys love it. I love guys especially sucking it and taking it all the way down . I love guys also taking in their tight ass. I use lots of lube fucking their tight ass. Plus, love guys with big cock.
Is that monster cock cut or uncut? You should absolutely show us a picture of it in this thread.
Andrew Carr for President!
Isn’t there already a big dick in office now?!?! Papow!!!
Big PSYCHO with a SMALL DICK is MORE like it!!! Altho it’s better than Cuntella with NO DICK!!!! 🙂 LOLOL
As LONG as he GIVES ALL of us an EQUAL OPPORTUNITY with him and his CUMCANNON :)!!! LOLOL
I have ‘compressed’ down to 5′ 6″ at almost 73, weigh 130 pounds, am ten inches engorged, and have no erectile issues. My endowment is just normal to me. I do NOT wear boxers as I don’t like OleBoy vacillating as it wishes. I cannot wear briefs as they’re too confining. Boxer briefs are a godsend since they keep OleBoy ‘parked’ on my left thigh. I do have a herd of longtime lovers who are attracted by my unusually huge phallus. While the downside is that most cannot accommodate me anally, that gives me a great excuse for only engaging… Read more »
Id like to give it a try! Where are you located?
Again, why not lift it, point it up at your navel, along your zipper line, which also prevents ITCHING?
I think the question would be better if it was more concise. Most of the answers are coming from hung guys that are NOT tops. If you read Eric’s last sentence, he shares that. I realize how awkward those moments must be. Everyone expects an hung guy to be a top. I’m sure there are a lot of bottoms that express frustration unfairly.
My perfect partner.
Interesting subject matter but my brothers, size don’t matter all the time. Technique, skills, athleticism, passion, patience, creativity, etc are very important. My best friend has a perfect 7.5 inch medium thick dick. He’s a great kisser, passionate at nipple play, oral and very patient. Dick stays brick hard the entire session and he smells amazing from head to toe. Some sessions last on and off for hours. I put him up against any 9- inch horse dick stud out there.
HELLA YEAH man – he must have a TWIN BROTHER cos one of my BEST BUDDIES is EXACTLY the SAME!!!! YUMMY and hot from head to toe 🙂 My “brother” is thick as a brick tho!!!
There’s been many a time in a group situation where I have the biggest dick in the room. Having the biggest dick in a group comes with certain “responsibilities,” which can become exhausting and take some fun out of the situation.
Another benign Blog Topic?
Scratch, don’t be rude. We gave you the floor on the big titties blog.
I believe every guy would love to experience what it’s like being born with a large penis at some point in their life.
I believe that as well. Good point..
“Getting your ass up high for the down stroke” lol, for my “long black limousine”, you gotta know “how to move your ass.”
I’m a bi top guy with a bi wife and never really thought of myself as having a big cock. Once I started to top man, everyone started telling me they love my thick 7.5 inch cut cock. I have made a few men cum just from a good fuck and love doing that!
Besides some average dick sized guys being misinformed leaving them in us big dick’ed “ones who got away” column their are no downsides or complications with having/getting to experience a bigger than average dick. Once people have all the facts and have them right about penis size it’s just fact Size Does Matter. Bigger the better. The rare part(s) about larger than average penis’s most guys don’t know is over shape and glans penis shape/size (“penis head”). A curve up beginning 3/4 up the shaft with a big mushroom head is IDEAL to touching/tapping even pounding the prostate and hitting… Read more »
Wrong. Bigger than a turd risks damaging the rectum, which is delicate tissue. Ask an ER nurse or proctologist.
It’s all in the preparation. People DO put things in their butts that will damage it. My length and girt is pretty big, not a monster. And I prep a bottom before I go plowing in. It makes a difference.
And I really like the big ones and can take them nicely; only the big ones give an assgasm. I prep well, stretch, and have a great time. YMMV.
I am 8inch,not to fat with 3/4 veins,is that big!The biggest cock i ever enjoyed was a middle eastern guy,not just long but thick and a hanging hairy sack,I respect it!!The question is would like to know is why do men shave their private areas??
As a bi guy who enjoys giving oral, I really appreciate a man, or a woman, who shaves down there. First of all, it looks and feels very sexy to me, and second, my tongue enjoys licking smooth skin much more than it enjoys licking hair. Taking a man’s smooth shaved balls into my mouth is a wonderful, shared pleasure! And hair around the anus is a no-go for me.
Hair removal leaves stubble, cutting or shaving leaves pointy sharp ends on each hair. Trim only. Hair also has scent glands, and is protective. You put frames around your artworks, don’t you? Pubic hair is a frame and draws the eye downward. It also displays individual variation. I am not built like my brother or my father, so even if endowment is genetic, you don’t know who you are taking after.
I Agree buddy!! Or at LEAST trimmed and short!! Don’t need a mouthful of FUR anytime!!! 🙁
PLEASE… don’t change the subject….. it will invite all sorts of comments / taking up space while veering far from the intended subject. ** You’ll see !
I have a big thick cock. It is almost 12 inches with a nice big mushroom head, thick like red bull can and very big balls. I am a shower not a grower. like being a top and bottom too. I love guys big also. I love the challenge of a big cock too. I have no trouble finding underwear too. Guys look at my cock while in the gym etc and smile at me. Sex with a big cock is fun. I try to get off as much as possible.
CUM to my place ANYTIME hot thick COCK KING 🙂 Wanna TRY you on for SIZE 24/7!!!!!! 🙂
I wish I had a big cock because I would flaunt that thing all the time.
Hung guys have it easy. They are so desired.
Locker room, speedo, compression shorts, sweat pants, show it off and fill it out.
Get sucked and worshipped.
I was robbed!
Desired by eyes, not necessarily by throat or rectum.
If you’re hung and can go to distance, you hear the words it hurts a lot. btw, how do you define hung? for me its 9 or larger. Some guys say 7.5 is hung. I am 8.5×5…So not too shabby
A true 7.5 is definitely hung.
Thick and CUMFILLED to the MAX of COURSE!!!! 🙂 with some HUGE smooth BULLstud balls to GO with it 🙂 HEAVEN!!!!! LOLOL
The average size of an erect penis is 5.1″..look it up on Wikipedia…so a guy that is 7″ is hung…is he huge? No but he is hung when he is almost 50% bigger than the average size…I consider 7″-8 1/2″ hung…9″ and above starts the huge category in my opinion…
If the goal of this article is to get us to feel sorry for guys with big dicks, it’s NOT working. LoL
As someone w/ a bigger member I can not wear tight clothes, too uncomfortable. Gray sweats in public are out. Difficult to find a comfortable position. Hard to find bottoms in my area willing to try.
Ok Cock4urpleasure, we gonna need proof. We detected suspicious activity from your profile. Doesn’t sound really hung or dom. Why would a dominant man “hide” his dick in public???
Same problems. I avoid sweatpants because I’m not on the 24/7 whore-offer prowl in my casual life. Not all LGBT folk are offering/seeking sexual attention constantly. It’s an instant turn off if some talks to my cock. especially as an already hypersexualized/objectified Black man.
Where the HECK do you LIVE MAN?!? CUM and MOVE to my area and you’ll have them BEATING your DOORS down!!! And I LOVE gray sweats – SO EASY to slide off a COCK KING :)!!!! Especially when they are going commando!!! 🙂
Sometime turn the blog to micro-penis guys. I know there aren’t a lot of us..and we hide most of the time. It’s a tough life to lead if you’re gay. Hell, even if you’re not. Luckily, I found, late in life a man who doesn’t give a shit. Ah, love.
Sometimes you feel like a NUT!!! 🙂 LOLOLOL
I didn’t completely know/understand during my first forays in my teens—with girls and then one guy Walter in high school who was at least 12 inches at fourteen. It wasn’t until I became more active/Out after 18 that I got first compliments—I thought they were being nice—then I had to shop for condoms that would fit, not hurt and not break—which is how I got to sitting home trying on Magnum XLs and Trojan XLs (to this day insanely cheaper when delivered with groceries from Fresh Direct.) sexually active, regularly with men, topping I had read a lot so I… Read more »
YUMMY to the MAX COCK king – CUM to my town and I’ll buy a FEW Hundred condoms for YOU to USE on ME!!!!!! LOLOL 🙂
Larger shower here, never thought anything about it until I got into HS sports and the locker room towel pops started. They can put a hickey on it quick. Never had a real problem with toilet bowls. Getting it out before I start to piss has been an issue. I have larger nuts and I’m hairy, too, so sweating is an issue. I only wear Under Armour boxer briefs because they’re soft, prevent sweating and keep my dick in place but allow some movement. Guess I’m lucky with the bottoms I’ve hooked up with. They’ve been prepared and had no… Read more »
Damn I would love to see that dick, I have a big dick fetish, well I have a dick fetish, I love looking at dicks, playing with them, sucking them,, getting fucked, But guys I am married, so please don’t tell anyone
For me, it’s not the size of the dick, it’s the gentleness of the man with the big dick. It’s about his intention to not abuse nor hurt you with his huge dick. It’s about him being gentle and letting your body acclimate to the size of his penis. If he really cares about you, he will be gentle and slowly teach you how to relax and be receptive to his large penis. That’s been my experience with tops who have large dicks.
Floppy.
Like carrying around a kielbasy.
I have no idea what it’s like to have a big dick. Mine is a nice average size of 6 and 1/2 in.
But I sure as hell know what it’s like to have a big dick inside me and it feels amazing
You are above average…5.1″ erect is average…and I am not saying that because I am 5.1″ when erect..I am 6.5″ erect like you…I am a grower not a shower…probably 3″-3 1/2″ when soft…I am not hung but I do like that my dick grows almost twice the flaccid size…I am above average…nothing more, nothing less…
It is horrible! I trip over it regularly. The masses run away in terror whenever it is unleashed in public!
Silly question. What is it like having blue eyes. What is it like having two nostrils. Anyone else to add to the list?
I wouldn’t know, since I am about average at 6″. But I would enjoy hearing from those who are well-endowed. I’ve always been curious why so many hung men prefer to bottom. So, if anyone has any input on that, I’d be interested to hear it. Frankly, as a versatile person I have found that technique is generally the most important factor.
I know the pleasures I give to bottoms. I’m girthy and long. I have stamina. They love it and quake. I wanted to know what that was and found it. It almost always requires girth, and length and stamina really help. I can go for a long time if my bottom is up for it. Same answer when I bottom.
as an hung top…. I will say… with a big dick comes big responsibility… depending on the man some like to showoff other like myself don’t… Only the man im with need to know my dick…not the world… I stop going to bars because gay men and horny women feel the need to feel if its real… being groped is very demeaning… so sometime Its hard to know if someone like you are if you are just stud service…
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Back in my 20’s and 30’s I was an unsanitary slut. Probably why I didn’t get fucked much, particularly in semi-public situations (hiking trails). Guys didn’t like pulling out dirty, particularly with no place to clean up. Today, I’m the exact opposite. Can people share what the do to clean their hole in advance? Especially when they know they’re going to take a long one?