(Photo Credits: Screengrab from Jesse Kortuem’sOfficial Facebook Account)
U.S. hockey player Jesse Kortuem has publicly come out as gay, saying that the hit queer sports drama Heated Rivalry helped inspire him to embrace and share his sexuality. Kortuem’s announcement drew widespread support from fans and LGBTQ+ advocates, reinforcing conversations around the power of media representation and how it can impact personal journeys.
Kortuem, who played defenseman and center in various leagues, shared his story in a heartfelt Facebook post on January 13. He described feeling the need to hide his sexuality for years while involved in hockey, a sport he loved but where he feared the reaction of teammates and the wider hockey world if he came out.
He noted that a weekend with the LGBTQ+ hockey organization The Cutting Edges helped him connect with the community. “Standing on the ice, wearing your jersey that represents both my sport and my community, felt like a bridge being built over a gap I had lived with for decades,” Kortuem wrote in his post.
Further, Kortuem described himself as someone who tends not to share much publicly, but said Heated Rivalry had “sparked something in me.” He credits the show for giving him the courage to go public with who he really is and for helping him realize it was finally time to tell his story. “I realized it is finally time to share a journey I have kept close to the vest for a long time,” he said, emphasizing how long he carried the weight of keeping his sexuality hidden.
Growing up as the youngest of four boys in Minnesota, Kortuem said he often felt out of step with the traditional expectations of masculinity that surrounded hockey culture. “As a young teenager, I carried a weight that did not seem to fit into that world,” he wrote, calling his earlier years a “constant state of dichotomy.”
He acknowledged that even after coming out privately to friends and family, he never felt safe enough to be open with teammates while playing adult hockey. “I spent every week in a locker room with guys I respected, yet I still did not feel safe enough to tell them who I truly was,” Kortuem wrote. His fear of negative reactions kept him closeted for much of his adult life in the sport.
The turning point, he said, came in 2017 when he participated in the annual Sin City Classic, a major LGBTQ+ hockey tournament in Las Vegas. That experience, surrounded by other gay players, marked a shift in how he saw himself and his relationship to hockey. “From that moment forward, life has never been the same,” he said.
Kortuem closed his statement with a message of encouragement for others struggling with their sexuality in sports. “This is my story. It is not everyone’s story, but for what it is worth, I thought I would share because I want to speak to the athletes out there who are still in the closet or struggling to find their way,” he wrote. “I want you to know that there is hope and you’re not alone. There is a life and a deep happiness waiting for you on your path. You will get through this, and it is going to be okay.”
Heated Rivalry is a popular drama about two rival ice hockey players who fall in love, and its portrayal of gay athletes has resonated widely with fans and athletes alike. Kortuem’s coming out underscores how LGBTQ+ representation in both sports and storytelling can shape real lives beyond the screen and the rink.
Wishing him much happiness. Soon there will be a time when this “coming out” thing won’t be news- worthy. I seen the trailer to the series “Heated Rivalry” and it was sizzling.
never played in the NHL
While I’m still on Hold at my local library for Heated Rivalry, I have been able to check out two other books in the Rachel Reid series on Hockey players. One online and the other hardcopy. Way better than online porn. They’re a fast read. Not literary classics or anything, but they’re a way to spend a few hours with characters who are solid, a tad broken, but solid. A refreshing break from people who constantly say “The whole world sucks. It’s awful. We’re all doomed.” I’ve been telling people around me lately, “regardless of the ‘News’, people are meeting,… Read more »
The local library gave me Heated Rivalry as an ebook download today after a reasonable wait. It’s the first in the series. Have blown through the first quarter of it. Easy to see why it became a Netflix and media wonder. Not as “smooth” as the later books that the library could first deliver. Especially, when it comes to man to man physicality and mental thoughts. The later books flowed a bit smoother. It seems Rachel Reid might have learned some things. Makes me wonder a bit if the author is a female. Not worried either way. The series is… Read more »
I really don’t see the hype. I tried. But nope.
he so handsome, honey! good for him, i wish the stud well ♥
There’s WAY more than just ONE gay man in Professional Ice Hockey whether they have the BALLS to CUM OUT or NOT!!! AND in ALL the other Professional Sports Leagues also. Anyone with a BRAIN can deduce that from the REAL number of Gay and Bi men in the UNIVERSE!!!!! 🙂 MANY MANY more ~~~~
I don’t get the excitement. I’m sure that he’ll be a lot happier in his personal life now and that’s great. But, it isn’t as if he’s a player in the NHL or other major league, where he would be risking his career and millions in endorsements by coming out. He even played in an LGBTQ tournament a few years ago, according to this article. If he hadn’t credited “Heated Rivalry” for his “coming out”, his announcement would probably have been basically ignored.
Some people’s ho-hums are other people’s big deals. You don’t know much about the gay community, apparently, even after having read read the article.