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Recently, my straight male buddy was snooping on my Adam4Adam radar app when he noticed something. He asked me, āWhat does it mean when a guy says heās āmostly straight?ā Look, many guys are saying that on their profile.ā He proceeded to show me some examples.
Thereās this guy whose profile said, āIām a tall, masculine, mostly straight former professional athlete. Iām married to a woman but also love sucking a nice thick hard cock. I love to give head. I love licking balls and I love watching a guy cum. Iām disease free and plan to stay that way so you must be as well. Iām mixed Black and Italian. I rarely do this but Iām super horny.ā
Another reads, āMostly straight but have had gay/bi experience. My kink is humiliation and degrading sexual encounters. I get turned on being made to service men or women. A big turn on is to be orally servicing you while you look online and choose who else to invite over for me to service.ā
Meanwhile, someone also wrote, āDiscreet, mostly straight bear. Hairy body and ass. Ideally looking for an older, married white guy for a regular FWB situation. Big plus if you are average to small endowed as Iād like to try and bottom. Cut men only.ā
Other profiles followed similar themes: āIām mostly straight but only into older top dominant daddyās only.ā And: āMasc attractive fella mostly straight.
If you got a big dick you love showing off and wanna break a noobie in hmu.ā
Anyway, I told my friend that sexuality has always existed on a spectrum, but today more men are finding words that express the complexities of their desires. One of the buzziest terms popping up on dating apps like Adam4Adam is āmostly straight,ā also known as heteroflexible. This label describes a man who is mainly attracted to women but occasionally feels sexual curiosity or desire toward men. He may not identify as bisexual because he doesnāt seek emotional or romantic relationships with men. His interest might be limited to specific acts, fantasies, or situations. For some, āmostly straightā indicates a willingness to experiment. For others, it offers a way to explore same-sex encounters while still identifying mostly as straight.
These profiles show how flexible the label can be. Some men crave only oral sex with other men, while others enjoy submissive play or one-time encounters without pursuing romance. It tells potential partners that while the person identifies as straight, heās open to specific same-sex activities.
Psychologists sometimes call this heteroflexibility, acknowledging that sexual orientation isnāt strictly binary. Studies show many men experience varying degrees of attraction across genders even if they never act on it. āMostly straightā gives language to desires that donāt fit neatly into āgay,ā ābi,ā or āstraight,ā especially for those who fear social stigma. Critics, however, argue that it can also be a way to avoid confronting deeper same-sex attraction or to keep encounters discreet.
Having said all that, what do you think, Adam4Adam blog readers? Have you ever met or hooked up with someone who identified as āmostly straightā? Did their behavior match the label? Do you think āmostly straightā is just another way of saying theyāre bisexual, or does it capture something different? And for those who use the term yourselvesāwhat does it mean to you? Share your thoughts and experiences in the comments section below.
It means lots of men like to suck cock ,swallow cum and get fucked in the ass on the DL.
You nailed it!
I must admit, you described me to the T, I’m straight acting, And I’m married to a woman, and I’m very submissive to dominant men,
But your not Mostly Straight or BI
I act straight around family and friends,co workers, Because I still enjoy sex with women that makes me bi, But I do have a feminine side that comes out depending on who I’m with behind closed doors, I’m a100% bottom, like I said I prefer dominant tops and I’m very submissive to dominant men, sometimes after the m2m sex, I like to lay in a man’s arms, I think that kinda makes me gay , Maybe ?
I donāt give a dam about the labels. I love sex with interesting, sexy people.
That’s how I am. I don’t identify with labels. I’m sexual. That’s all.
“ACT STRAIGHT” is a BULLSHIT term…. Do you mean “ACT MASCULINE”??? DUH???? Act str8 implies that BEING str8 is BETTER than being gay or bi. I ACT like MYSELF and have NEVER wanted to BE STR8!!!!!!!!!!!!
I think 98% of the people in this blog knows exactly what I meant, but it’s always someone gotta twisted and make it what it’s not,, no one implied anything was better than the other.”
Well those are not Mostly straight at best they are BI i am married to a women but love having sex with men too i am not Mostly Straight i would be BI at least
Mostly straight? A little straight? Somewhat straight? Kinda straight” Sorta straight? a bit straight? Once in a while straight? Once in a blue moon straight? Occasionally straight? a tiny bit straight? Theoretically straight?
Lmao, if you have to question.. then you’re not str8..
absolutely right? positively right? undeniably right? unquestionably right? night and day right? heavenly right? hellishly right? righteously right? religiously right? gospely right? unimaginatively right? obviously right? Godly right? Angelically right? catechistically right?
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Andrew Dice Clay said it best!
Heads it’s hair pie, tails it’s balls across the nose! Either you do one, the other or both. No right or wrong, only what makes you happy. Screw labels.
I don’t think our sexuality is as easily defined as our society would like to think. Ancient history is replete with examples of Male2Male intimacy. Look at the Greeks and Romans. One guy I was communicating with suggested I do a search for ‘The Sacred Band of Thebes’. I believe our Victorian Society of the 19th and 20th Century has conveniently left out certain historical facts that didn’t suit their narrative.
I believe that if we really knew how many men actually had attraction towards other men they repress, we’d be surprised.
Africa is how far back homosexuality goes . . .
It’s been years since Tavis Smiley, had Isaia Washington (black) who was the on “Grey’s Anatomy”
called someone on set a faggot; Shoda, rightfully so; fired him ‘she wasn’t haven’ it’
on her set.
He went on an odyssey of sorts, to Africa and discovered that before the invasion of the
British, homosexuality was right out in the open and celebrated, complete with fallacy like
symbols!
The very first, “gay pride celebrations” of the world.
yo, Lamar you been redin’ wikipedia?
Right after getting kicked off Greyās Anatomy show , he converted to MAGA. Heāll say anything. Next week , he might be Jewish or Jehovah Witness, or both ! LOL
Some men have attractions toward other men, but they’ve not felt the need to act on them. The desires are small and have no driving forces. These guys are like Window Shoppers. Others have attractions toward other men and they’ll act on them if and when they meet guys they’re comfortable with and can be in comfortable and safe settings. These guys are Opportunists. They reveal their sexuality only to those they feel need to know (close friends, family, or partners). Other men have attractions toward men that are so deep they drive every facet of their being. These Guys… Read more »
a man’s attraction rate is as varied as the man himself. no secrete formular to it. when the siren alarms, you can act upon it or not.
I agree sexuality exists on a spectrum, but I also thing that Heteroflexibility may simply be a form of denial. I do the deed, but deny what I am. Coming out is a process, denial seems to be a step at least for some.
Straight to the next one as my old friend used to say…
gaily forward to the next one?
The word “homosexual” didn’t even exist until the 20th century. It is a relatively modern concept. Before then it was accepted that men and women had intimate acts with members of their own gender. The surprise wasn’t that it occurred regularly, the surprise was that some were exclusively active with their own gender, and didn’t play around with both. I have a very good friend who is “mostly straight.” Married, four kids, adores his wife and loves being a family man. But we occasionally are intimate. I don’t think he’s a closeted gay man. I think he’s mostly straight, but… Read more »
your friend is not mostly straight; he is bisexual.
I don’t label others. That’s their privilege, not mine. I am gay. Doesn’t matter that I’ve had lots of sex with women, nor does it matter what label you want to put on me. As Audre Lorde said: “If we do not define ourselves for ourselves, we will be defined by others – for their use and to our detriment.”
More silly semantics. I’ve been happily married for decades while getting the gay sex I lust for on the side and completely in the closet. “By day” (as in, in my daily life’s routines), I’m not “mostly straight”; I’m totally straight. “By night” (when I get laid by guys), I’m as gay as they get.
I understand exactly where you’re coming from
It must very burdensome (ask Hegseth) lol, I think that’s why he drinks excessively. If you can face yourself, you can face anything in life. Be honest with yourself, firstly.
yo, Lamar don’t be nun’ to qu’k to point da fingr Lil Nas X got his drug problum!
He’s a different matter altogether; as he’s already out, I think he’s at some sort of crossroads in his life, personally.
I was always under the impression that Bisexual means you were willing to have relations with either male or female regardless of romantic or sexual activities. I also understood from Bisexuals that they often have a preference of one sex more than the other instead of a 50/50 split. So I am confused by this term “Mostly Straight.” It literally sounds like what I grew up understanding Bisexual men or women to be.
Per my comment above, it’s all semantics. Everyone’s different of course. I’ve met many guys and some lean more toward homo; some more toward hetero. Then there are those like me who are totally straight in their daily lives but in bed all I want is the male genitalia.
@BiMM it’s not actually semantics at all Words mean specific things especially in a sexual context. If “in bed all you want is the male genitalia”, you’re not straight. You’re gay, closeted, and DL. “Mostly straight” means you mostly have sex with women and occasionally get in the mood for a guy. Bi means you have sex with more than one gender. If all you want is to have sex with men and you are a man, then what you are describing is homosexuality through and through. Just because you pretend to be straight or you act it out in… Read more »
You sound like you’re a psychiatrist who specializes in treating guys like me. Maybe you are or maybe you’re just well read on this complex subject. At any rate, I appreciate your response. I guess, personally all that matters is that I enjoy a happy life – and I do. At the same time, I have always made certain to keep my sexual side far away from my wife and family so as not to hurt anyone. If there’s an inaccuracy to your assessment, it’s that I only “act” straight. That’s not the case. My personality is inherently straight. It’s… Read more »
TOO BAD you are a PHONY to your WIFE and FAMILY dude!!! If you wanna live a LIE and tell everyone you are “HAPPY” keep on with your DELUSIONS buddy!!!!!! What a SAD JOKE!!!!!!!!!!!
To “You’re not straight” … Throwing the Red Flag. You’ve posted anonymously … “You’re not straight” ties to no A4A profile.
Without a profile standing behind it, what you say and spew has zero substance and value.
Stand up behind your balls; post under a profile … especially before you dare to shame or insult or advise/tell anyone else about how they chose to live their life.
The “Mostly Straight” or “Straight Acting Guys” I’ve met usually have said they have one female partner (a wife or a long term girlfriend) and she’s the only female they have sex with. They have sex with men as it can be arranged with hookups or FWBs. Their female partner is usually unaware, but some times they are. These guys generally are far from the typical Gay stereotype as they’re not feminine, flamboyant, fairies. They’ve never felt a fit to that mold and “went functionally Straight.” The Bisexuals I’ve met have said they have sex with different female and male… Read more »
What does āmostly straightā mean?
Sounds like bi, but more preference of women.
it is bi, the skewing is irreverent Bi =Bi whether you trick with a man once a month or a woman once a week. the occurrence numbers are benign
The Bi guys I know are attracted sexually and/or emotionally to more than one male and female. They generally don’t have one main partner of either sex, but some do. They may do hookups and could have FWBs. They usually are open about their sexuality. The Mostly Straight guys I know have a wife or female partner. They’re mostly all are fathers/dads. They have sex with more than one male partner (hookups and FWBs). They keep their sexuality private, not denying it if asked, but they don’t broadcast it. The key difference for the Mostly Straight guys is they have… Read more »
Hince why the name is a “huh?” moment.
That’s like saying “I’m a vegan, but I eat steak on my birthday & 1 day each month”.
Did OP ask, so what aspects of another man intrigued you?
I do not care if a penis is attached to a gay, bi or str8 curious man.
Out of curiosity, how do labels help you?
My favorite line: bottom curious has grabbed the back of my thighs, pulling me into him with all his might on each thrust and says,”I haven’t done anything like this before. ”
It is at this time I get the harness out and start up-sizing! Once the 2nd sphincter has been enticed, I can tell if more girth is needed.
I consider myself a very very freaky man, I love sex rather it’s with a man or a woman, I’m married to a woman and I have a couple other women I have sex with as well, I must admit it seems the older I get the more I want to be with a man, I enjoy being a bottom and sometimes I like to be in panties, I have excepted the fact that I am bi/gay, I’ve been acting straight for years, but if I had to make a choice, it would be my wife no doubt, Even though… Read more »
My best friend is mostly straight. He ain’t never kissed a guy or sucked a dick. His obsession is a nice phat round ass on a man or a woman. He loves to have his dick sucked by a man or woman. He is presently married to a loving woman and have kids. He have no, and I mean no interest in dick at all. When he see a hot man or woman, his focus is on their ass. When he’s with a guy, it’s strictly getting his dick sucked or fucking the guy. After he nutt, he is completely… Read more »
iām mostly straight. Iāve been by since I was a teenager. I had a lot of fun when I was young and sexy but now Iām in my mid-50s and my sensibility and my sexuality have run over one another. I havenāt had sex with a man in four years. 95% of the people that are interested in me( and vice versa) Iām not interested in Itās different with a woman-if sheās got big tits a big smile and a fat ass. Iāll fuck her. but with dudes itās a different story. Iām looking for a connection. I want somebody… Read more »
I like to fuck a guy from time to time, but I’m not attracted, I don’t care to be affectionate , I could never see myself partnered with a man. I try very hard to make this clear up front. I’m really just there to get my prostate pounded. I’ll totally return the favor and suck a cock and play with it. But that’s it. Anything else, I’d rather have a woman for. I’ve heard it called bi and heteroflexible
The only person who really knows what a self-label means is the person who creates it. That being said, I think of myself as bisexual leaning straight in pretty much the same way I think of myself as libertarian leaning conservative. If you think of labels as guides rather than definitive statements, it helps a lot.
Sexuality is such a weird but fluid thing. And I really think it’s never quite fixed and can evolve in One direction or the other or even back and forth during one’s life. When I was very young and first started figuring out my attraction to men, I considered myself more straight. And I found that I formed emotional romantic bonds much easier with women. I used to joke that I was 60/40 with a 60 being straight. But I realize a lot of that was a self-deception. Because in retrospect, I realized vastly more of my sexual fantasies and… Read more »
I have been this way most of my life. Married or dated women but occasuinally get my rocks off with men. I like to be in control in most aspects of my life. My wife knows I run the household and control the finances. I like to man handle her a bit in the bedroom too and she likes that. But when I am with a guy, I want to be the bottom and get controlled. I want him to take what he wants. Not really into being dominated just controlled, if that makes sense.
I’m pretty much the same, I’m very masculine and dominant in my everyday life, I’m the man of my house, I pay the bills because a woman doesn’t want a soft man that they can push around, But when I’m with a man, I’m very different, I’m a 100%bottom, I prefer a man that like to take control, and take what he wants as well, It gets me off when a top somewhat make me feel weak as a man, may seem strange but this one guy had me answer my wife phone call while he slow fucked me, and… Read more »
New queen, same closet.
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Well there are 2 roads people tend to follow when it comes to sexual orientation and sexuality Road number 1 these are the folks that has their sexual orientation firmly established at an early age and theirs are etched in stone and Road number 2 is that they are still people out there throwing shit up against the wall and seeing what sticks and penciled in silly putty as far as me i follow Road number1 and that has not changed and it is not going to
“Mostly Straight” is a delusional category by the coward CLOSET CASES out there!!! GAY/Bi/Str8 – the three terms for sexuality ~~~ along with ASEXUAL.
The question is Why are you so mad ? A DL/closet/bi guy must’ve took your man, It’s crazy how some openly gay guys have it out for DL/closet/bi guys, notice I stated (SOME), what is the problem ? And they always want to tell someone how to be gay, Let a person live the way there choose, But why so much hate ? You probably one of those queens that runs your mouth a lot, (A MESSY QUEEN) YOU ARE SO MAD AND MISERABLE AREN’T YOU
No one STOLE my man, you LOSER!!! I kicked his ASS out š Guess again MORON!!!! The ONLY miserable QUEEN is LOOKING you in the FACE in the MIRROR everyday Mr Enjoy it!!! š SAD old CLOSET CASE š
Sometimes they’re just hard to figure out, or it’s hard for them to figure out. Or they may be bisexual, but that is not an option in their culture. I am currently sucking off a guy from Afghanistan. I don’t know if he is slowly opening up, or just using me as a substitute or what.
im sorry but you can say you are barely curious or mostly straight but if you are looking for what they are, youre all bottom
Even though I love spreading my thighs for real men,sometimes I like to be the woman. Occasionally , I have been known to slide in a woman. I thought about conversion therapy because I would be a fabulous straight top for women. There are times I think about pussy when Iām having sex with men. Maybe I’m just an stud!
And MAYBE you’re DELUSIONAL too dude!!! LOLOL Nope nevermind ~~ YOU DEF are delusional!!!! š
Don’t laugh, but I’ve often thought about male to male intimacy as an almost sacred thing among guys. I’m not sure if it’s because of a lack of emotional fulfillment growing up? but it can be intoxicating to be able to flirt with a guy and later have permission to experience physicality and intimacy. I’ve had LTR boyfriend relationships with single and married guys, as a married man. As a formerly married guy (to a woman), I always enjoyed being understood and fulfilled having one on one sex with another guy. It gets complicated when you start having a love… Read more »