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Spitting: some gay men love it, while others are absolutely repulsed. It’s one of those polarizing topics that sparks discussions or debates among gay men online. But why does this seemingly simple act evoke such strong reactions?
For some, spit is a major turn-on—a symbol of raw, uninhibited passion. It can be a tactile way to enhance intimacy or add an edge to sexual encounters. Spitting during oral sex or onto erogenous zones is often portrayed in gay porn as an act of dominance or submission, amplifying power dynamics. Many enthusiasts view it as primal, an unfiltered expression of desire. Others say the act makes them feel connected to their partner on a deeply animalistic level.
However, not everyone feels the same. For some men, spit is an instant mood killer. Take for example our very own Adam4Adam blog reader called terminator222, who wrote:
I noticed a lot of porn lately consist of spitting. When I see a person getting head, and the giver spit on the dick, it turns my stomach. When a person spit on a person’s asshole, that’s a huge turn off. If a person spit in a person’s mouth or anywhere on them, it grosses me out. Spit kills the mood for me! Most times spit stinks. I wonder how other guys that respond to blogs feel about spit/spitting. Thanks.
For many, the aversion to spit stems from hygiene concerns, sensory sensitivity, or personal boundaries. The texture and smell can be unpleasant for some, while others associate spitting with disrespect or degradation.
Interestingly, spit has been fetishized in certain subcultures. Known as “spit play,” it can range from spitting on specific body parts to swapping spit in ways that blur the lines of traditional intimacy. It’s about pushing limits, exploring taboos, and embracing kink.
And then there’s the humor of it all. The meme “Hawk Tuah,” inspired by the sound of someone gathering spit to hurl it, has taken the internet by storm. While it’s meant to mock the act, it also underscores how deeply ingrained spit has become in discussions of sex and intimacy.
So, Adam4Adam blog readers, what’s your take? Does spitting add to the experience, or is it a hard pass for you? How does this act factor into your preferences or boundaries in the bedroom? Do you think the current portrayal of spit in gay porn influences expectations in real life?
Is spit a secret weapon or a surefire mood killer? Do you find it hot or not? Why or why not? Share your perspectives, stories, and preferences in the comments section!
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How about a topic of “growing older” as a gay male? true, it won’t be a popular blog title but it will be a polarizing one. also, how older gay males are perceived and acknowledged and on sex sites?
I’ve had much more enjoyable sex older than I ever did younger.
Happy to play with young guys, but I’ll only hit up those who say they seek older guys, and clearly say they aren’t looking for a Sugar Daddy or “someone who’ll accept ME for all I am and will take care if me the rest if my life.” Get some balls please. I’d get a Poodle first.
rather demanding, aren’t you? according to the liberals, it’s all good.
I AGREE WITH SCRATCH ON NEW TOPICS!!! How about sharing ideas on different ways to PLEASE Your partner.Things and ways to turn each other on.
I have come across this topic about aging gay men over the years on this site and other blogs as well. It appears to be discussed from time to time, here.
as with virtually every other blog titles so it is always a repeat discussion?
It is so disgusting. Do not spit on me. Do not spit in my mouth. Do it, and the sex will stop.
The only time I find spit necessary is during penetrative sex and we don’t have any lube, lotion or anything else to use. I always looked at spitting on someone as nasty, aggressive and mean-spirited. To see someone give a sloppy blow job with wads of spit dripping is a huge turn-off to me. Also a wet sloppy kiss is a turn-off. I was watching porn one night and witnessed a dude spit directly in another guys mouth. Gross!!!
Lmao, hey, you took all the words from my mouth, verbatim, there’s just nothing to add to that, thanks.
A LOT OF “CERTAIN” GAY MEN THINK IT IS “HAWT” TO SUDDENLY SPIT ON YOU OR YOUR DICK AND ASS IN THE MIDDLE OF SEX………….
I >>IMMEDIATELY<< SAY GET DRESSED AND GET THE FUCK OUT OF MY HOUSE!!!………
WHY DOES SOMEONE THINK SUDDENLY SPITTING ON SOMEONE IS CUTE OR SEXY??….
Not to get graphic, but this is the most disgusting topic/activity.
The only time I have ever found spitting appropriate is when having anal sex and the water-based lube gets a little dry or sticky. Otherwise, it’s simply rude. If you spit on my face, mouth, or body then it’s game over.
Spit on my hole yes, in my mouth NEVER
Over the years I’ve had guys get me on my back laying next to me while kissing. They’ve dropped down and spit in my cock and then come back up right away to kiss me as they then stroke me.
Wait, was I supposed to not be turned on until they spit?
Absolutely love a saliva lathered shaft & hole whether its mine or his, while not actually spitting mouth watering sex is very erotic to me