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Pubic hair—love it or leave it?
Over the years, gay men’s grooming trends have fluctuated, and lately, there seems to be a growing embrace of natural looks. As someone who’s noticed this pubic hair renaissance, I’m all for it. But I have a question for the Adam4Adam community: Does your body type influence what’s expected of you in terms of grooming? And how do you feel about these expectations?
This topic sparked a discussion on Reddit’s r/askgaybros. The original poster (OP) of the thread shared their happiness about going natural, saying, “I am hairy as nature intended. I’m so glad to not have to shave everything anymore and deal with razor burn and bumps.” For some, the idea of letting their body hair grow freely is not only liberating but also practical.
Others prefer the aesthetic of natural hair, as long as it’s maintained. “Trimmed, yes. Dagoba jungle, no,” joked one gay commenter, emphasizing the importance of balance. Many readers agreed that personal preference and hygiene matter more than strict adherence to trends.
However, societal pressures still loom large, especially for certain body types. Twinks, in particular, often feel expected to stay smooth. “I like twinks and prefer guys with a smooth torso, legs, and ass, but I don’t mind pubic hair at all,” admitted one respondent. Similarly, another shared, “A twink or more skinny man should be hairless,” reinforcing the stereotype that slimmer guys should groom extensively to fit a particular image.
On the flip side, some readers were critical of these stereotypes. “Be yourself,” advised a commenter. “Same way with beards and tats—everyone looks the same. Gays are herds of cows always following the latest trend.” Their point highlights the importance of individuality over societal norms.
Whether you’re bare, trimmed, or proudly rocking a full bush, grooming preferences often boil down to personal comfort and confidence. While trends may shift, what’s most attractive is authenticity.
Now, Adam4Adam blog readers, it’s your turn to weigh in! Do you feel societal expectations influence your grooming choices? Are you team natural, team smooth, or somewhere in between? Let’s hear your thoughts and stories on pubic hair preferences in the comments section below!
I LOVE a good bush on a good man. I love it full but trimmed is nice as well. If a guy shaves smooth I can deal with it as well.
I’m in my 20s too – You must be living under a rock, because I hear guys talk about this sh (and more) all the time
Ugh! A4A blogs are becoming more and more bland with these baseless articles. Maybe I’m just way too young on here to really care about any of this shit. Sorry not sorry for my brutal honesty and lack of maturity. I wonder if these blogs are catering to more older men in their 50s and 60s because I don’t see anyone in my 20s age group or other young guys in their 30s and 40s seeing any other this shit as relevant or relatable towards us younger folks or our interests. And I wish they start pushing out articles that… Read more »
YIKES!!!!!………….
BITTER AND ANGRY AS HELL MUCH???……..
Bitchy YOUNG queen?
Perhaps instead of whining you might suggest some article topics. And what’s with the ageism? It’s not very attractive.
if you are way too young to read the shit, why are you on a free, sex site? Can’t you afford to use one of the “Pay for sex apps” or perhaps a free site saves you money when someone takes a look at your ugly ass and refuses you?
Silva, before A4A asks, what articles would you like to see on here? I’m willing to bet that they are open to hearing from you. I’m over 65 and I like to groom what pubic hair I have. like the other posts on here, there is nothing more of a ‘buzz-kill’ than giving pleasure to another guy and getting a loose pubic hair in my mouth.
No i dont think being young is your problem, I think being a dic* is. For real.
Oh, one more thing…..Take this part to heart……Life goes by so fast, for real kid, you’re in your twenties enjoy it…you blink and you’re in your forties or so on….Life flies by. And for the record I’m not that old but even I know that yes it is very very true that you or myself could not kiss a man or hold hands with another man in public if it were not for others that came before us…They are to be thanked and not put down in any way by anyone.
what they’re saying is true… simply suggest topics here in the comments section and the A4A team will write it. They do listen to the readers’ suggestion, you know.
If you don’t like A4A articles don’t read them. And I suggest you familiarize yourself with the major health crisis that adult gay men experienced in the 70’s and 80’s. Those of us who survived are thrilled to have made it till now, With your attitude you’ll be lucky to make it to your 30’s without someone sticking a shiv in your back. (Not that a gay man would do that to another gay man. But you might be mistaken for being less gay and more of an asshole.). And who wants a mouth full of pubs?!?
I know of a few gay guys who killed another gay guy. It happens.
Don’t worry about the kid. He’ll either wise up or get fucked up somewhere along the way.
“If you don’t like A4A articles don’t read them.” I have always adored that response by someone who’s responding to someone who doesn’t agree with their strict view on a topic or issue. The only way, a reader can know if they like the article or agree with it is to actually read it. To late for “don’t read it”. Maybe the “don’t read it” person could just accept that not everyone lines up with their view and should Scroll On. If you disagree, please don’t read this. Right up there with, “if you don’t get this email, please let… Read more »
He’s an angry elf!
Silva, I remember talking to a woman in her 60’s when I was 22. We were discussing Timothy McVeigh and the bombing of the Federal Building in Oklahoma City. She was a black woman who lived through segregation, and she wondered, “How can that young boy who bombed that building be so angry?” She had MANY good reasons to be angry. Yet, she wasn’t. So I ask, Silva, how can you be so angry about PUBIC HAIR or a little article? Life will come for you soon. Good luck.
Did someone not get hugs from mommy and daddy growing up?
I prefer to stay completely shaved, although I don’t have a preference with the man I’m with.
Still prefer shaved balls and shaft, neatly trimmed pubes.
Pubic Hair “Style”?
Is A4A considering adding this as a profile category like “Penis: Cut? Uncut”? “Pubes: Shaved? Trimmed? Bushy?”
Until society in general sees us all walking around naked showing our pubes, conforming to about “societal expectations” for them seems highly neurotic and paranoid. And ever so ever “Gay”.
if it is marketable, it will find its way…capitalism at its gayest…?
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Well I have been shave my public hair ever since I was in high school I’m a 60 year old man and I still shave it but that’s just the way I like myself I don’t mind public hair on someone i just don’t like picking hair out of my mouth so yeah I would prefer if it was groomed or shaved but that’s just my preference everyone has there own thing that they like and I’m not here to judge what others like
Trimmed or shaved all the way gets me rock hard. It looks sexy to me and enhances the experience.
too much public hair or too long public hair requires a trip to the barber to get the teeth cleaned.
What is Phfft? The last sound a pubic hair hears before it lands on the floor. Just spit them out.
Happy Holidays!
No, I don’t care what the general public thinks, it comes down to, what the two intimate individuals feel, quite involving people that aren’t in y’all’s life, stop giving people power over yourself.
I prefer shaved smooth. I don’t like hair in my teeth.
Men have hair. Men fart and belch. If you get them riled up during sex, they sweat. Intense deep kissing might make them drool spit on you. Do it all well enough and they’ll spew sticky, sometimes smelly, gooey cum in or on you.
Do we need to discuss anal? Even douched, there’s gonna be shit.
Hair is an issue?
So you’re into that pre-pubescent look? Nasty!
Trimming to keep hair out of your mouth. When I used condoms I trimmed to avoid catching when putting it on or taking it off. Not really needed otherwise
Very turned on by the ‘70s pornstar look. Full black bush. The smell of musk is intoxicating to me
I’ve had a pubic hair fetish since I was 7 or 8 years old when my teen neighbor exposed himself to me. For me the hairier the better. I love how a dude’s bush looks, and especially how it feels against my face and hole.
Shave groin and balls smooth every other day. My bi wife like me smooth and when she licks and sucks my balls, I’m in heaven!
I like a man that keeps his pubic and body hair neat and trimmed. I keep mine neatly trimmed as well.
I don’t have a preference for the guy I’m with – anything is sexy. Personally, I shave my balls because I like the heightened sensitivity. Love having my balls licked and sucked.
I keep mine totally shaved smooth. I loved that ever since I was about 13. I tend to like guys who at least keep it trimmed. I love going down on a nice hard cock and it’s kind of nice to have it smooth
Yet another area commercialized by businesses preying on gay men. Natural is wild, and sexiest, unless it’s so long and deep you can’t find anything. Shaving leaves stubble. Pubic hair is there for a reason. It also serves as a visual lure and frame for your genitals. Do you hang pictures on the wall without frames?
I prefer men that is shaved, smooth, I like to see nothing but dick when I’m with a man, no hair, sometimes when I’m sucking a man off I sometimes leaks his cum from my mouth and I have to clean him up, l much rather lick him clean rather than licking his pubic hair , I sucked one guy off and because it was so much cum I wasted a lot of it, and he made me lick it up , he was very hairy and I really hated it, I’m also smooth, it’s make me feel sexy and… Read more »
Hair. Have some please !
As a MIDDLE-AGED Bi guy, I’m not the biggest fan of hair on my own body. I prefer to be waxed (yes, it can be painful) but I LOVE the result. Hell, I’d get LASERED if I could afford it. I can be with a lover who IS hairy, but I do prefer that my partner does some trimming at a minimum. At the risk of sounding like a complete slut, the groups I’ve been involved with, I have rarely seen guys with an unmaintained jungle. Why should you not do grooming below the belt?
I have, and love, on a guy, a 100% natural bush..
I have been smooth for many years. It started with a medical procedure. I like how I look and feel. The smooth skin is an added erogenous zone to enjoy. For me it is a pleasure to enjoy.
I also like how it looks and feels, just to be smooth down there, I only have hair under my arm and my mustache, I ever shave the hair between my cheeks,, I enjoy being smooth, especially when either I do it myself are a man rub my body with oil, it makes me feel sexy and hot
Prefer pubic hair. Once sucked a guy who was shaved and his razor stubble was sharp, felt like I was sucking a dick with pins and needles at the base! I was like WTF! LOL…feel like men are up for being emasculated and don’t even know it. Shaved pubic hair, shaved legs, shaved underarms, fingernail polish, etc. It’s disconcerting. If a guy’s pubic hair is shaved, it’s not a deal breaker, but do feel that some guys do it just to make their dick look bigger, whether it is already big or smaller than average. Unless you look like the… Read more »
I prefer being clean shaved
Well, a reasonable amount of hair works or it can be completely shaved. I definitely want a fresh smell down there….hair or no hair.
Yes…I’m older (64) and totally hidden in the closet but hardly a rookie to gay sex. If I’m making love to my wife, I enjoy her silky smooth body. If I’m having sex with any guy, I like his course, hairy (but not overly so) natural body, any/all body hair included. I’m forever haunted by a disturbing (to me) memory from about 25 years ago: I hooked up with a guy. Went to his place. Went for a quick BJ. Pulled his pants down, got down on my knees and OMG – he presumably shaved his whole private area 2-3… Read more »
i love the idea of being shaved down there and around the chest area as much mire sensitive to touch
I find a jungle down there to be a turnoff. Trimmed or bare is good.
I shave mine bare.
I like a dude that’s naturally smooth, I find it sexy and a turn on for me. Especially since I am strategically hairy in moderation which many guys seems to like about me.
I want a guy with some hair Some guys shave looks like a kid with a big dick
Not really into shaved pubes, but I do like trimmed pubes on some guys. Though, something about black and some Latin guys that have a bush at the end of a happy trail and it travels to the butt and crack. It’s somewhat a weakness when I’m down there.
I’m not a fan of pubic hair; I very much prefer men I have sex with to be smooth, bare, or shaved (hairless). However, if the man has good hygiene, a built physique, and he keeps his pubic hair neatly trimmed, I can make an exception…As for myself, I do not like seeing pubic hairs. I’m completely waxed (Brazilian); smooth and bare. I find the smooth and hairless look erotic, sensual, and aesthetically pleasing.
I totally agree, it’s just something about being bare , I’m a closet bottom and I prefer my tops clean shaved because I like to suck and lick the dick , sometimes I like to spray a can of whip cream all over and around the dick and at the very end I like to lick him clean, no hair please, but I will not turn down a big hairy dick either, especially if it some good dick,, I think it’s just so sexy to see a hairless man with a big dick
Bring on the jungle! I love the sensation of a nice furry bush against my face with a cock in my mouth. The hairier the better!
My balls and shaft are shaved and my pubes are trimmed. I love how sensitive my balls are when they are nice and smooth. I prefer the same on the guys I am with, but if he has a smooth body then I love it when he is completely shaved – huge turn on. If a guy has a full bush I can deal with that but don’t enjoy the hair getting stuck in my teeth so I roll over and give him access to a different hole – problem solved!
That’s always a great option, and I’m always ready to spread my cheeks
my take on the subject being a submissive bttm Its hair if the I stay natural if the guy I’m with likes it or wants it trimmed or smooth thats the way it goes….it grows back
Submissive here as well, and that is what any good submissive bottom should do, if he had a steady top, he should let him have it the way he likes it
I prefer trimmed or smooth for the men that I’m with. I myself keep myself shave smooth
I don’t mind a little trimming, but honestly, the more hair on a man, the hotter he is to me. And if I get a pube or two in my teeth, so what? The first guy I was with in high school, I found one of his pubes in my mouth after our first time together, and I put it in a scrapbook of pictures, right next to a picture of him. I find it a turn on to see it there and remember our first time together.
Prefer guys with at least some hair. Completely shaved reminds me of a prepubescent boy. Not a look I like. If I happen to get a pubic hair in my mouth spit I it out and keep going. It’s not the end of the world or mood killer.
I love a hairy bush but love the balls shaved. It is a huge turn on for me. Love a dark hairy bush. Shaved makes me think of being a kid. Trimmed is all right too.
Don’t mind a guy that shaves his balls. That’s cool with me, but a full untrimmed bush is hot as hell. Of course I have a major pubic hair fetish thus the reason I like guys that way. I have never trimmed or shaved mine and never will. Just love the musky scent they give off.
Trimmed is hot, but not real picky have seen some sexy ass bushy dicks and love it
Always love a cock with some pubic hair. Prefer trimmed but not close cropped. Need some hair to nestle my hose in as I go down to the base.
I love a thick, natural bush, untrimmed.
The problem here is the word “style,” which should not be applied to people’s bodies, only clothes, or hair on the head.
Mother Hennepin’s “style” is to troll.