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Bottoms, what do you love about getting fucked? Gay tops: what do you love about topping?
As we all know, sex is a deeply personal and varied experience, with each individual finding joy in different aspects of connection and pleasure. For bottoms and tops, specific moments and sensations often stand out, creating memorable experiences that enhance their sexual encounters. In this article, some gay men share their favorite aspects of their roles, providing a glimpse into the diverse world of sexual enjoyment.
For many bottoms, the sensation of being penetrated brings immense pleasure. The feeling of fullness and the depth of penetration are also key elements that bottoms often enjoy. The psychological aspect of surrender and trust adds another layer of excitement, making the experience both physically and emotionally fulfilling. The ability to please their partner and the mutual exchange of energy contribute to the overall satisfaction. One gay man revealed, “When you feel that ‘open up’ feeling.” Another guy agrees with this, he said, “Top or bottom for me it’s the same. I love that feeling of the first penetration.”
Further, one bottom shared, “Obviously getting my prostate hit but that’s too obvious so I’ll say the best part of having a dick in me is how I can always tell I was recently fucked in the last few hours and it’s really hot as long as the guy wasn’t too big or aggressive then that feeling is actually painful but when it’s not, it really turns me on when my hole feels freshly fucked.”
Meanwhile, a vers guy [short for versatile, someone who is comfortable and enjoys both the top (active or giver) and bottom (passive or receiver) roles in sexual activities] shared, “As a bottom, it’s the anticipation of their cum inside of me.” He added, “As a top, I like it when they reach back and grab my balls or I like hearing them moan with pain/pleasure. And watching their cock flop.”
Having said all that, for tops, the act of penetrating a bottom can be incredibly gratifying. Many tops find pleasure in the control and dominance they exert during sex. One top explains, ” The looks and sounds of the bottom as I move inside them. Giving them the pleasure they want is a turn on and an ego boost.” This rhythmic sound and physical connection can heighten the experience, creating a powerful sense of intimacy and arousal.
The physical sensations of penetration, combined with the visual and auditory cues from their partner, can significantly enhance the top’s experience. The dynamic interplay between giving and receiving pleasure fosters a strong bond, making the encounter more intense and enjoyable for both parties.
In conclusion, the dynamics of sexual roles within the gay community are as diverse as the individuals themselves. Whether you’re a bottom reveling in the physical sensations and connection with your partner or a top enjoying the control and pleasure of penetration, the experiences and preferences are uniquely personal. This exploration of what makes each role enjoyable highlights the importance of communication and understanding in sexual relationships.
What about you? What’s your favorite thing about topping and or bottoming? Share your thoughts and experiences in the comments section below!
Once we’re too that point, I love the way it feels for a cock to penetrate me and eventually slide all the way in. A good top gets into a rhythm that pleases us both, and kisses me deeply, and wants to get in a variety of positions. I also want it to last, none of that 5 minute bullshit. I can take it for a long while, I am on of those bottoms that can go 2-3 hours with ease.
I have only been done for 35 min befor top lost it. Would love togo 2-3hr.
I love tops who can keep going. There’s nothing like a long luxurious pounding
I had a fuck buddy that loved long fucks and we made it a point to try and fuck for as long as possible. We did 4, 8, 12 and then the longest one of all …24 fucking hours. I never pulled my dick out of him for the whole 24 hour period. I pissed in him a couple of times and it felt great! I even napped on my back while he sat on my dick. I was 55 and that was the last time I could ever do that kind of time frame. I’m 68 now and 20… Read more »
I really enjoy being penetrated , getting fucked just feels good, I love it when a man tells me to spread my cheeks for him to run that pipe inside me,,the feeling of anutha mans dick sliding in and out of me, and I love that fact that anutha man want me in a sexual way, and it’s something about being submissive and letting anutha man have his way with my body and letting me know my role as a bottom,,, I also enjoy it when a top thrust in me when he cumin,,and I also enjoy the feeling of… Read more »
BEIING A TOP…………
CUMMING INSIDE HIM AS I KISS HIM……KNOWING WHEN HE LEAVES THERE IS ASTILL SOMETHING OF ME INSIDE OF HIM HE TAKES WITH HIM……
DIRECT DEPOSIT LOL!!! LOL!!! LOL!!!
LONG-TERM GAINS! LOL!!! LOL!!! LOL!!!
QUALIFIED DIVIDENDS!!! LOL!!! LOL!!! LOL!!!
I’m a top. The best parts (there are several) of topping are the penetration, the (sometimes) plunging sounds and cumming inside. The initial penetration feels so good, I relive it several times by pulling out and going back in. I try to minimize pulling all the way out because some bottoms don’t enjoy it as much as I do and I think I might be pushing too much air inside my bottom’s gut. I enjoy topping a lot, especially bb. I so wish STIs didn’t exist. If they didn’t exist, I would be topping bare every day.
Never stopped me. I still love breeding raw ass. Must have loaded up hundreds of them over the last 20 years, and still can’t get enough. In fact, condoms always have been and always will be a deal breaker. And don’t ask Daddy to pull out, either. I’m gonna flood that ass.
I love it when top pulls out& goes back in a lot. Lovethe feeling of first penetration.
Oh John, you sound like a dream! Love both the sensation of the spray of cum inside… only thing better is feeling my ass being stretched. Cock, toys, whatever.. that stretch is heaven. Wish I could submit to it every day.
I agree about the completely pulling out. Looks dumb in porn & makes me think it’s forcing air in the bottom which will result in “passing gas”.
Pulling out and seeing my dick turn into a gigantic Snickers bar!
Nobody appreciates a dirty fuck. And you, sir, are both. 😀
And I’m not into beastiality. So go sit and spin, shit-for-brains.
When I’m a TOP: I LOVE to rim a guy’s ass…making him wet and then slowly sliding my cock into his waiting hole.
When I’m a BOTTOM: I LOVE the feeling of a guy shooting his hot load deep into me which usually will trigger my release at the same time. I love to be in a missionary position to kiss and watch his eyes when he releases into my ass.
Ron kissing is key along with rimming
I would say I’m versa-top. 70% top 30% bottom. When I top, I like to make the bottom guy feel good with minimal pain. I look at his facial expressions as I enter inside him. I also enjoy the sounds his ass makes from the friction and the wetness combined. When I bottom, I enjoy feeling the hardness of the guys dick as he magically open me up fully to accommodate him. I also like the sounds my tight ass make from the friction of his hard dick squeezing inside me fucking me in rhythmic motion.
As a Total Bottom…The feeling I love is the spreading of my legs for a Man to fuck me, and everything about physically giving up authority over my body, and surrendering to a Man.. when I have sex with a woman it is because, over time we have hit it off, and we are mutually attracted to each other, and the day or the evening just follows that natural course… When a MAN is going to Fuck me… it’s because He came over knowing He was going to fuck some bitch ass, and I am so horny to surrender to… Read more »
I agree,,when I’m with women I’m very dominant,,it’s a big turn on when they submit and let me do as I please to them,,,so I feel like me being a total sub bottom I should surrender my total body to a real mam,, where I’m from if a guy let’s anutha man fuck him he a bitch,, but the man who’s doing the fuckin is the man,,,that’s why I say a real man,,,so I enjoy it when a real man take my ass and ues me as his bitch,, I surrender my ass to him,, I also enjoy it when… Read more »
I’m a bottom and I love the feeling of a man spreading my ass and filling me up. I love feeling taken and feeling him pound me until those last couple desperate thrusts and then he comes inside me. There’s nothing sexier than feeling another human being take pleasure in your body and being penetrated. With hookups I like doing it on my hands and knees so there’s a degree of anonymity and domination, but with guys I know and feel more intimate emotionally with I love being on my back with my legs up in the air so I… Read more »
Well put,, very well put
I used to be a top! When I met my husband 25 yrs ago in NYC we both were tops. For the first 3 months in your relationship we sucked and jerked off only. All the time during this period he was teasing me that one day he was taking my virginity away. One night we were in bed watching 2 hot guys wrestling on tv. Not 5 minutes passed we started wrestling in bed. He was in such horny mood that he said “ the loser is going to take a dick!” Really?! Well he had such a strong… Read more »
Bottom here. Enjoy the intimacy. The body contact, the hot breath on my neck. The moans of pleasure that comes from my partner as i totally submit. Watching his face with each thrust and when he cums in me. Our 2sweaty boddied together! Him staying in me after he cums for as long as possible. Knowing i gave him the ultimate pleasure and that he gave me the ultimate pleasure .
Vers here: Fave things about topping: that feeling of my hard cock sliding in and out of those big hairy pillows – pure ecstasy; owning the bottom and making him my bitch; &. my orgasm inside his ass and letting out a loud moan he witnesses knowing he caused it. Fave things about bottoming: spreading my legs and hole for him to take me as his; the physical act of his cock deep inside me; & jerking my load as he pounds me into submission. Bottom line to all: It’s all amazing virtually every time, every role, every position.
I’m a total top. I love having the control of fucking my bottom expecially if he is a power botton. What a turn on. I love doggie style watching my cock going in and out of his ass. Verty hot
Jerry , you must be great! You used to fuck my lover. Some nights he has called your name in his sleep. He’s kicked me many times while spreading his legs!
Love the initial penetration – his cock opening me up, that little bit of pain as he pops through my sphincter – and then the long (hopefully!) slide, filling me up.
Getting pounded is awesome to, but love feeling every inch of those long slow strokes moving in me.
About what I like about be boddin
As a bi bottom my favorite sex act done to my body is being rimmed to a full body shaking and trembling orgasm. My favorite thing to do to a top is to tease his dick through his sexy underwear or jockstrap, pull his soft dick out and give his dick a hands free blow job while massaging his balls and taint. I love feeling his soft dick hardening in my mouth as I pleasure him. I love the buildup of knowing his dick will start pulsating, throbbing and shooting his man seed in my mouth. I love a large… Read more »
Being rimmed is also a wonderful feeling,, I am also a bi total bottom,, married bottom (woman) I love it when a man spread my cheeks and blow ,kiss, lick, suck, on my sweet Honey hole before he fuck me,, it really brings out the bitch in me,, and I also enjoy it when a man let me suck his dick and let me have his seed,,when he pushes his dick to the back of my throat while holding my head and let me have it straight down and dont let me go until he’s done,,,it feels good to know… Read more »
Foreplay can be as sexy as actual fucking. I agree with you.
My favorite thing is that Topping and Bottoming isn’t just about anal sex. It can apply to Oral as well and to kissing. There’s a lot more to Gay sex than just ass ass ass!
LOL – topping and bottoming describes anal. Oral is oral.
In oral, someone’s getting penetrated and someone’s doing the penetrating. Just another hole with a cock in it and one way or another somebody is above and somebody is below. Someone is on top and someone is on the bottom.
But be a purist/traditionalist if you wish.
I love beings wanted by a man. As a bottom knowing a man is hard for me and feeling his hands all over me directing me for his pleasure is HEAVENLY. It’s also amazing to feel them slide in balls deep. To hear his grunts of pleasure knowing it’s my hole that’s pleasing him. My favorite is him cumming in me though. Knowing I got my reward for being so good for him and hours later feeling wet still? Love that
Aa a bottom, I like a number of things. Emotionally, I like to have a controlling top directing me. One that just takes me when he wants. Stripping me naked. The humiliation of the whole thing, being spread & having my most private place being exposed to someone else to see especially if others are present. Physically, I like the initial penetration of a large penis even if it’s hurts a bit. I lik it when my top goes balls deep with that first penetration. I like the feeling of being held down foemr this. Sometimes the top is to… Read more »
I’m versatile/top, but mostly top due to so many bottoms are drawn to me. As a bottom and top, I like to pleasure. On rare occasions I’m selfish and just want to shoot my load. However, for the most part I like it when I hear my partner moan. It turns me on. When I bottom, I like how the top closes his eyes and moan things like “shit”, fck, or “Oh God”. I don’t want it to stop, but usually it means they are getting close when they start saying it loudly and trembles. The anticipation of his load… Read more »
sex is beautiful when it’s w/ the right guy, a good part is the arousal, the kissing, the touching, the fingering…to be penetrated is amazing but it depends a lot on the position. i enjoy doing it missionary so we can kiss, watch the eyes. Of course i love it running my hands on his chest… If it’s doggie than there’s an animalistic feel of rawness to it like beast being bred… both very different. lastly the spooning. a slice of heaven
I have a question. I’m a mature bottom with a trim ass but not as appetizing as it was 10 years ago. Nonetheless, it’s very firm. Speaking of 20 years ago, that’s the last time I was penetrated so I’m very tight. The question is this. Would a top be attracted to an older tight, tight fuck?
I didn’t come out til I was in my 40’s.Some of the best sex I’ve had was in my 50’s and 60’s. Somehow, your technique kept getting better, whether topping or bottoming. Slow tantric movements on the penis tip and shaft, or deliberate stimulation in areas of the anus. I still have twinks that love daddy stuff, but I find I enjoy sex now more with guys in their 40’s – 60’s. They are experienced and know how to use their parts. They understand that cumming is just one part of the whole act. Often the best part is after… Read more »
I think many tops who like mature and older bottoms would enjoy a nice tight sweet hole bttm. I personally prefer mature bttms with a tight hole, and others I know do too. With enough lube to slowly guide you in and patience from both the top and bottom, it’ll be a great experience, especially when it’s raw.
Total Bottom man here. What do I love about it? Like nearly everyone has said….the initial penetration, the stretch…all the way in….then pull all the way out and do it again…several slow but steady plunges to open me up….pulling all the way out each time and pausing. I want to feel that “initial” penetration until I am stretched out a bit. Then bury that load deep in me. The soreness of being well fucked that lasts a day or two is marvelous. Sometimes having a man (or two) take me to lunch or dinner after I am full of their… Read more »
Bottoming, I’ve enjoy dilating my hole by sitting on a guy’s tip while it is self-lubricating. The control that you feel, easing his member inside your clean, wet tube is amazing. Watching the look on his face when your anal ring snaps around his glans. The slow, wet penetration is a total turn on. The rectal nerve endings being totally stimulated. The feeling when you finally are open and sitting on his ball bag and pubes is the best. I love riding for awhile, hearing the fuck sounds, watching a top’s face as he plays with my nipples, my hard… Read more »
With my first gay sex, I bottomed. Not sure why? I’m now vers and love both, equally. The bonding created by sex with guy who is in sync with you is beyond description. Trying to please one another equally is a turn on. It’s not about dominance, but equal sharing. Body parts working together. Neural sensations, sounds, pheromones, and visual sights are all part of it. I used to think that to keep a cute guy with a big cock, that I had to bottom. No more. It has to be good chemistry and a willingness to share equally that… Read more »
Bottoming in a missionary position is a total turn on, cradling a top between your legs. The feeling of his meat exploring the different regions of your gut is amazing. Especially a guy with a big head on his cock. I’ve had cocks of all shapes and sizes. Somehow 7.5″ is a perfect size with no pain. Watching a guy’s face while your ass is pleasuring his cock is a beautiful thing; playing with nipples, holding his buns as he pumps, cradling his balls as they slap your buns…..it’s all hot! I had a bf who put out massive amounts… Read more »
The best feeling for me is bottoming for a man I’m totally in love with. I love how his hairy body presses against me. He patiently penetrates as he kisses me and whispers “make room for daddy”. Thrusts go deeper, breathing gets heavier, and I hear myself begging for more. I love when his warm seed is inside me, yet he still thrusts until I also cum (if I haven’t already). Laying still our bodies still engaged until we drift off to a blissful sleep.
I’m vers. My first gay sex oddly, was bottoming. I met a guy at work. Younger, blonde, blue-eyed, life guard type, of dutch heritage.I was married with kids at the time. When this guy and I came out to each other, it was a first for both of us in our early thirties. He was single. One saturday, I went to his apartment. We eventually got naked, tried BJ’s and eventually he pushed me down onto his bed. After a lot of kissing and making out we stripped down naked. As it turned out, he had a beautiful 8″ penis… Read more »
I’m a bi bottom who enjoys the sensation of being penetrated by a large cock as well. Haven’t experienced many loads in my ass but have swallowed mostly. However, the one time that someone came in my ass, it was awesome. I was dripping for hours. Almost didn’t make it home in time when it all oozed out of my ass. Lol. Craving more.