First off, Happy Bisexual Visibility Day, guys! We observe this occasion on September 23 each year to “recognize and celebrate bisexual people, the bisexual community, and the history of bisexuality.”
How many of you here are living their lives as out and proud bisexual?
We are asking because according to Pew Research Center’s study, bisexuals “account for about four-in-ten LGBT adults in the United States.” But did you know that bisexual adults are “much less likely than gays and lesbians to be ‘out’ to the important people in their lives?”
Today we raise the Bisexual Pride Flag as we mark #BiVisibilityDay. The flag was designed by activist Michael Page in 1998 to give the bisexual community its own symbol. #AlwaysProud pic.twitter.com/OtXDzKkUZv— CNN Philippines (@cnnphilippines) September 23, 2020
This is probably because “they don’t feel accepted and supported not only in the society but also within the LGBT+ community.”
In fact a study found that, and we quote:
- bisexual men are less socially accepted as opposed to bisexual women, gay men, and lesbians
- Only 8% of the respondents felt there was “a lot of social acceptance of bisexual men”
- 46% said there was “only a little or no social acceptance for this group”
- among bisexuals, 40% reported in 2013 that they had “ever been subject to slurs or jokes”
- 31% said they had been “rejected by a friend or family member because they were bisexual.”
The myths surrounding bisexuality aren’t really helping any. There’s a popular notion that bisexuals are, among many others:
- sluts and are always on the lookout for threesomes
- just going through a phase
- just confused
- they are attracted to anything that moves
- they simply can’t pick a side: straight or gay
So, going back to the question at hand, do we need Bisexual Visibility Day?
The answer is yes. For as long as inequality and these misconceptions and myths persist; for as long as there is a need for awareness and there’s a problem regarding its social acceptance… yes. Yes, we do!
#BiVisibilityDay ❤️💜💙— Jayne 🏳️🌈🏴 (@HellsHarlot402_) September 23, 2020
In case you didn’t know, I’m bisexual.
No, I’m not confused
No, I’m not going through a phase
No, I’m not unfaithful
No, I’m not alone
No, I’m not invisible
No, I’m not a slut
Let me make this easy for you: I’m attracted to the person, NOT their gender pic.twitter.com/X4Qecviy4z
Canadian actor François Arnaud, who is known for his role as Antonin Rimbaud in Xavier Dolan’s I Killed My Mother and as Sebastien Raine, David Rose’s former boyfriend in Schitt’s Creek, has a perfect answer to this question.
Arnaud publicly came out as bisexual ahead of Bi Visibility Day through his official account on Instagram. He said that in the past he’s let “other people’s assumptions of straightness stand uncorrected” because of “stigmas of indecisiveness, infidelity, deception and trendiness.”
Arnaud wrote: “Masculinity’ is a most fragile currency, ready to nose-dive at the first sign of vulnerability or difference. It’s really fucking scary to give up your privilege.”
He added though, that staying silent will not do either. “But here’s the thing. Silence has the perverse effect of perpetuating those stereotypes, making bi guys invisible, and leading people to doubt that we even exist. No wonder it’s still a chore to acknowledge bisexuality without getting into lengthy explanations.”
Arnaud finished his statement by saying, “So yes, labels are frustrating and words, imperfect. But I’ve always considered myself bisexual. Not confused or trying to look edgy. Not disloyal. Not ashamed. Not Invisible.”
Happy #bivisibility day, guys! Share with us your thoughts and stories in the comments section below.