First off, Happy Bisexual Visibility Day, guys! We observe this occasion on September 23 each year to “recognize and celebrate bisexual people, the bisexual community, and the history of bisexuality.”
How many of you here are living their lives as out and proud bisexual?
We are asking because according to Pew Research Center’s study, bisexuals “account for about four-in-ten LGBT adults in the United States.” But did you know that bisexual adults are “much less likely than gays and lesbians to be ‘out’ to the important people in their lives?”
Today we raise the Bisexual Pride Flag as we mark #BiVisibilityDay. The flag was designed by activist Michael Page in 1998 to give the bisexual community its own symbol. #AlwaysProud pic.twitter.com/OtXDzKkUZv
— CNN Philippines (@cnnphilippines) September 23, 2020
This is probably because “they don’t feel accepted and supported not only in the society but also within the LGBT+ community.”
In fact a study found that, and we quote:
- bisexual men are less socially accepted as opposed to bisexual women, gay men, and lesbians
- Only 8% of the respondents felt there was “a lot of social acceptance of bisexual men”
- 46% said there was “only a little or no social acceptance for this group”
- among bisexuals, 40% reported in 2013 that they had “ever been subject to slurs or jokes”
- 31% said they had been “rejected by a friend or family member because they were bisexual.”
The myths surrounding bisexuality aren’t really helping any. There’s a popular notion that bisexuals are, among many others:
- sluts and are always on the lookout for threesomes
- just going through a phase
- just confused
- they are attracted to anything that moves
- they simply can’t pick a side: straight or gay
- greedy
- unfaithful
So, going back to the question at hand, do we need Bisexual Visibility Day?
The answer is yes. For as long as inequality and these misconceptions and myths persist; for as long as there is a need for awareness and there’s a problem regarding its social acceptance… yes. Yes, we do!
#BiVisibilityDay ❤️💜💙
— Jayne 🏳️🌈🏴 (@HellsHarlot402_) September 23, 2020
In case you didn’t know, I’m bisexual.
No, I’m not confused
No, I’m not going through a phase
No, I’m not unfaithful
No, I’m not alone
No, I’m not invisible
No, I’m not a slut
Let me make this easy for you: I’m attracted to the person, NOT their gender pic.twitter.com/X4Qecviy4z
Canadian actor François Arnaud, who is known for his role as Antonin Rimbaud in Xavier Dolan’s I Killed My Mother and as Sebastien Raine, David Rose’s former boyfriend in Schitt’s Creek, has a perfect answer to this question.
Arnaud publicly came out as bisexual ahead of Bi Visibility Day through his official account on Instagram. He said that in the past he’s let “other people’s assumptions of straightness stand uncorrected” because of “stigmas of indecisiveness, infidelity, deception and trendiness.”
#BiVisibilityDay #FrancoisArnaud 🌈🙌🏻 pic.twitter.com/QnZ3yhgFCz
— David Opie 🌈 (@DavidOpie) September 20, 2020
Arnaud wrote: “Masculinity’ is a most fragile currency, ready to nose-dive at the first sign of vulnerability or difference. It’s really fucking scary to give up your privilege.”
He added though, that staying silent will not do either. “But here’s the thing. Silence has the perverse effect of perpetuating those stereotypes, making bi guys invisible, and leading people to doubt that we even exist. No wonder it’s still a chore to acknowledge bisexuality without getting into lengthy explanations.”
Arnaud finished his statement by saying, “So yes, labels are frustrating and words, imperfect. But I’ve always considered myself bisexual. Not confused or trying to look edgy. Not disloyal. Not ashamed. Not Invisible.”
Happy #bivisibility day, guys! Share with us your thoughts and stories in the comments section below.
Bisexuals are Homosexuals whose dicks or twats work both ways. The rational is…the best of both worlds… .
Bisexuality, as it is defind today, is usually sexual not necessarily psychological?
What is never mentioned is…in the long run, when the brain reins in the genitals, the Bisexual usually settled down with either the same sex or the opposite sex.
The prowling-around ceases when the brain has to work overtime to stimulate the genitals; hence, Bisexuality becomes a passing phase as old age equalizes us all.
Thanks for defining bisexuals, Kasper. (Actually, not thankful.) I know that “the best of both worlds” is a hip catchphrase, but actually being bi is about being attracted to the person, not their gender or gender expression. Your comments about brains reining in the genitals and brains having to work overtime to stimulate the genitals make me wonder if you’re talking about yourself more than bisexuals. In my experience, bisexuality has not become a “passing phase as old age equalizes us all.” Indeed, it is society that coerces individuals to settle down with either the same sex or the opposite… Read more »
because everyone needs a trophy….
I agree that most bisexuals don’t tell the people that are in they’re lives speaking from experience I lost someone that I cared about very much because I’m bi and some people just can’t deal with it, the people in there’lives would look down on them is how they feel All I can say is that since I decided to just be myself instead of others in this world want me to be I’ve been so much happier with myself then b4
Here’s what I think:
I’m gay. I find that the scariest and most important thing for people do is to be themselves. Hiding who you are implies that you’re doing something wrong. Haters are fueled by that. When you just live your life people can see more clearly for themselves how much variety there is in the world. You can’t please everybody. They don’t need to know the gory details of your sex life. But they don’t need to see you living in fear either.
There’s not enough time in this planet to be something you’re not.
Gee, Dave, I can’t think of one single reason why we need “Bisexual Visibility Day”. Especially when the article says they don’t particularly want to be visible. Is the special day an attempt to attone for the sneers and jeers of the other 60% over the years? What governing body or organized association created this day? Who actually comes up with this crap?
they dont because they are scared…
I think that visibility simply shows the world that they exist and that it is ok.
And yet we bisexuals are ostracized by most gay man as “confused”. I can’t tell anyone the amount of times I have been told by gay men “to pick a side”. Most gay ,male look down their holier than thou noses. No we don’t need a day of recognition, we need to openly accepted as after all gay’s demand the respect most of those same people deny us.
I’m pretty sure the world already knows they exist. What if they’re not scared and they simply prefer not to put up with all the BS over sexuality that is out there? What if they don’t want to be associated with the loud and proud crowd? Are they somehow defective? When you assert they are all scared it implies a stereotype in mind. Surely you don’t think they’re all the same, do you? You know, just like gay guys are all the same. Right? (sarc) I feel compelled to again say that sexuality is not THE defining attribute for most… Read more »
So for you Bisexuality is like necrophilia? wow you are troubled man!
No. I do own a human skull from my old days studying A&P decades ago but I don’t have sex with it. Nice deflection, though. I did use to suck my own dick and fuck my own ass so maybe we can have a “Guys Who Can Suck Their Own Dick and Fuck Themselves” day. People like that SHOULD celebrate since they can have gay fun without the gay or str8 BS.
Libertarian Queer!
TOUCHE!
Dave:
Necrophilia is doable…
as long as the body is still warm. If it is still warm, it is still flexiable and flexiability means different positions…variety is the spice-of-life!
gross
Oh, surely you’ve stopped for a cool one before on the way home from work, haven’t you?
Libertarian Queer!
I was half-joking with Dave.
We acknowledge Homosexuality; Bisexuality; Asexuality; Pansexuality; Transexuality; so, why not acknowledge other forms of sexuality…Necrophilia; Beastility and Scatology.
If we are going to represent all the many forms of possible sexualities why not the forbidden? I do not practice them and most human beings do not either, yet they do exist and there are online sites were each is represented in its completeness.
I enjoyed your sense of humor!
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/National_Coming_Out_Day
This INCLUDES bi people too!
Interesting that you (mis)interpreted the article’s statement “much less likely than gays and lesbians to be ‘out’ to the important people in their lives” as “don’t particularly want to be visible” (my emphasis). These sentences do not convey the same idea. Bisexual Visibility Day is not an attempt to “atone for the sneers and jeers of the other 60% over the years,” as you suggest (or ask). It’s to reinforce the fact that the “B” in LGBTQ is actual thing and not just to be lost in the middle of that acronym for queerness.
Articles like this show how much privilege we have. First world problems indeed.
R ference TedTalk by K. Bowler, “Everything happens for a reason and other lies I’ve loved.”
Spoiler alert:. I am about to give away the punchline.
Life is hard and beautiful.
We have to remain in a state of want or we atrophy.
Is there anyone else who’s noticed how all this labeling and recognizing every element of society as distinctively different is counter productive while creating precisely what you all are trying to put and end to? Realize that all this shit is divisive as fuck! Could we just have “human” recognition and call it a day, celebrate our commonality and not our differences. Fuck this shit gets old. Why are there Black Americans when the Irish Americans, Italian Americans don’t drag all that shit around, were just AMERICANS Baskin Robbins 52 flavors PLEASE stop this well meaning ill founded societal illness… Read more »
You must be high or intoxicated or something, man, nothing you’ve said, makes any sense at all.
“Well-meaning, ill-founded, Black Americans-baggage???” Check you faculties, then write something intelligent, please, thanks, (eye-roll.)
Um, he didn’t mention anything about any “Black Americans-baggage” Lamar. Check your faculties. That looks to be something you came up with. I assume the confusion on your part is the result of your life long quest to find somebody else to blame for your own inability to understand how the world works.
The article acknowledges that The Community isn’t accepting to Bisexuals; until that happens how can anyone in The Community expect society to? The article also pushes that Bisexuals should “come out.” Why should anyone push/force their sexuality on people to whom it just doesn’t matter? Doing so does not enhance acceptance; it causes discord and division. Further telling young people they “must” “come out” fosters stress on teens they just don’t need. Often to the point of suicide. If someone feels they need to “come out”, fine. That’s their decision. No one has a right to force that decision on… Read more »
3 negative comments, you, Jim and libertarian…always the same…
(eye roll)
refused to allow my rebuttal yet again Dave? Speaking of a bully wanna be. You can’t have an open debate when you refuse to allow views even your sorry ass disagrees with
Nobody asked for your opinion. Read the article again.
It’s about understanding, human sexuality, which is not an easy thing for those rigid of a mind. I guess what amazes me, is that bisexuality like homosexuality has been with humanity forever. . . and yet, the ignorance thus hate, still here. The unknown is always something to fear, among those who fear difference period.
I personally don’t. We all have June as PRIDE MONTH to celebrate who we are. Why do we also need a specific date?
& before people say anything, this encompases ALL of us.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/National_Coming_Out_Day
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Based on my own experience, and I identify as a gay man, I think a lot of gay men have issue with bisexual men because they, more times than not, are either in or only find value in a committed and emotionally bonding relationship with someone of the opposite sex. Yet, they “scratch that itch” with someone of the same sex and then retreat back to the comforts and support of a traditional heterosexual union. That perceived behavior tends to fuel insecurity and/or frustrate gay men in general. It makes gay men feel that they are only good enough for… Read more »