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I’ve read this question online many times already: should you shower before or after hookup?

The debate regarding this matter rages online, with others saying that whether to shower before or after a gay hookup is a matter of personal preference and comfort. My answer to this question is: why not both? I mean don’t we feel better when we’re freshly showered not to mention our teeth brushed clean? Should this even be a question? But what about you, guys? What’s your take on this?

Don’t we all have a common dating or pre-hookup gay ritual to observe? It’s called grooming. This can involve activities like grooming facial hair, manscaping, or taking a shower to freshen up. Additionally, some gay men might engage in mental preparation, such as setting boundaries or expectations for the encounter. Others may even choose to indulge in a self-care routine, like applying cologne or moisturizer, to feel more confident and attractive. Overall, these rituals serve to enhance one’s appearance, boost confidence, and mentally prepare for the upcoming interaction.

But why go through all this ritual of sorts?

Some gay men prefer to shower before a hookup as a way to freshen up and feel more confident about their cleanliness. But this can also be seen as a considerate gesture towards one’s partner, ensuring that both parties are starting the encounter feeling clean and refreshed.

On the other hand, some people may prefer to shower after hooking up as a way to wash away any sweat or bodily fluids and to feel refreshed following sex. Showering after a hookup can also be a practical consideration for maintaining, you know, personal hygiene.

For other gay men, showering before and after hookup is a must because “Good sex is with a clean body and one that ends with a shower together.” This seems to be a popular answer because another replied, “Both! always before and I expect the other person to be freshly showered as well. If the sex is as good as I hope than a shower will be needed after too!”

Meanwhile, a gay man complained in the thread: “People that don’t shower BEFORE a hook up are THE ABSOLUTE FUCKING WORST… how you expect me to eat your ass when it smells all funky and shitty… Or to suck a dick that smells like funky cheese and has white gunk all over it!!! That’s so fucking disrespectful.”

Further, one guy confessed, “I never expect a hookup but I do plan ahead just in case. I don’t go and meet someone specifically for a hookup, I usually go to a bar and get a little tipsy and dance for a bit. I’m not going to get into what I like about it because I like to keep my sexual desires more private. I always shower and ‘clean up’ before I go to the gay bar.” He added, “I will always shower afterwards anyways because it’s going to go one of many ways. I’m gonna be covered in sweat, someone else’s sweat, or someone else’s man syrup.”

Ultimately, the decision to shower before or after a gay hookup (or preferably both) depends on individual preferences, comfort levels, and the specific circumstances of the encounter (was it planned? Was it maybe spontaneous?). Communication with your partner about hygiene preferences and expectations can also help ensure a mutually enjoyable and comfortable experience for both parties.

Having said all that, what do you think, guys? Has showering and tooth brushing ever gotten in the way of a great sex for you before? Would you have sex with someone who is not freshly showered? Share with us your thoughts and stories in the comments section below!

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