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I’ve read this question online many times already: should you shower before or after hookup?
The debate regarding this matter rages online, with others saying that whether to shower before or after a gay hookup is a matter of personal preference and comfort. My answer to this question is: why not both? I mean don’t we feel better when we’re freshly showered not to mention our teeth brushed clean? Should this even be a question? But what about you, guys? What’s your take on this?
Don’t we all have a common dating or pre-hookup gay ritual to observe? It’s called grooming. This can involve activities like grooming facial hair, manscaping, or taking a shower to freshen up. Additionally, some gay men might engage in mental preparation, such as setting boundaries or expectations for the encounter. Others may even choose to indulge in a self-care routine, like applying cologne or moisturizer, to feel more confident and attractive. Overall, these rituals serve to enhance one’s appearance, boost confidence, and mentally prepare for the upcoming interaction.
But why go through all this ritual of sorts?
Some gay men prefer to shower before a hookup as a way to freshen up and feel more confident about their cleanliness. But this can also be seen as a considerate gesture towards one’s partner, ensuring that both parties are starting the encounter feeling clean and refreshed.
On the other hand, some people may prefer to shower after hooking up as a way to wash away any sweat or bodily fluids and to feel refreshed following sex. Showering after a hookup can also be a practical consideration for maintaining, you know, personal hygiene.
For other gay men, showering before and after hookup is a must because “Good sex is with a clean body and one that ends with a shower together.” This seems to be a popular answer because another replied, “Both! always before and I expect the other person to be freshly showered as well. If the sex is as good as I hope than a shower will be needed after too!”
Meanwhile, a gay man complained in the thread: “People that don’t shower BEFORE a hook up are THE ABSOLUTE FUCKING WORST… how you expect me to eat your ass when it smells all funky and shitty… Or to suck a dick that smells like funky cheese and has white gunk all over it!!! That’s so fucking disrespectful.”
Further, one guy confessed, “I never expect a hookup but I do plan ahead just in case. I don’t go and meet someone specifically for a hookup, I usually go to a bar and get a little tipsy and dance for a bit. I’m not going to get into what I like about it because I like to keep my sexual desires more private. I always shower and ‘clean up’ before I go to the gay bar.” He added, “I will always shower afterwards anyways because it’s going to go one of many ways. I’m gonna be covered in sweat, someone else’s sweat, or someone else’s man syrup.”
Ultimately, the decision to shower before or after a gay hookup (or preferably both) depends on individual preferences, comfort levels, and the specific circumstances of the encounter (was it planned? Was it maybe spontaneous?). Communication with your partner about hygiene preferences and expectations can also help ensure a mutually enjoyable and comfortable experience for both parties.
Having said all that, what do you think, guys? Has showering and tooth brushing ever gotten in the way of a great sex for you before? Would you have sex with someone who is not freshly showered? Share with us your thoughts and stories in the comments section below!
ALWAYS! Otherwise, gross. And if you aren’t showered, we’re not getting it on.
For an initial hookup, absolutely! Once you know each other better, there might be some variations. One guy I was head over heels about (and vice versa – heels over head) had a smell that used to drive me crazy. I’d have him go to his office without any deodorant. By the time he got home I was ready to tear his shirt off and dive into those armpits!
needs to be asked?
You’d shower before a date but wonder if you should shower before asking a stranger to eat your ass?
Au Naturale?
shower before and after must its called personal hygiene.
Cleanliness is next to Godliness?
You may have changed your screen name Kasper, but the pointless non sequiturs that you post and bizarre capitalizing instantly give you away. We still hate you.
not him sorry
Was there meeting where you were appointed Keeper of Our Single Lockstep Opinions and Communication Thereof?
Exactly!
There is nothing better than sucking a freshly washed cock. And if he don’t shave or has a hairy body I love the was his hair holds on the fresh clean smell and taste.
Now quick somebody get over here and get in my shower !
Shower is a must,, my dad always told me , son always keep yourself clean,, you never know when something mite happen and you’ll have to the the hospital or you mite get a unexpected blowjob,,well I’ve received many unexpected blowjobs from women in my life and still till this day,,but my dad didn’t know I’d be giving blowjobs and getting my ass ate and fucked,,I love the smell of a man,, a clean smell while I’m suckin on his dick and balls
“son always keep yourself clean,, you never know when something mite happen and you’ll have to the the hospital”
Isn’t that like moms & clean uw in case you have to be rushed to the hospital?
You’re absolutely right that comes down from grandmother and trickle down,,so in other words,, always wash your ASS BOYS
I shower before and after just being clean & being a hygiene freak is my thing..
Yes. It is a turnoff when you are sucking a guys dick and all you can smell is the rank of his asshole.
soooooo true
I shower before sex, whether I do it by myself or with my partner. It just makes good sense to be clean before jumping into bed with someone.
I shower before I jerk off so yes, I always shower before sex.
“I shower before I jerk off”
Never heard anybody say that before.
Yes, I usually bottom, so I want to be clean inside and out before sex. And a freshly showered partner on newly changed sheets is great, whether for a romantic tryst or some rougher play.
If on a first meeting, WHY IS THIS EVEN QUESTION!
With my FWBs, we usually shower ahead, sometimes together for fun.
But with my FWBs, I’ve worked a meeting or few that I get to have them “as they are”. It has always been good, but one bud did have “exhaust” issues that I found. No problem … I just worked around that one time. Got one bud fresh off a 30 mile bike hike … aweseome smell of a hard worked man!
Be with a clean man or a woman,,, a clean man makes me want to suck his dick for him, especially if he clean with some nice premium cologne on just the right amount,,Mmmmmmm’ let me suck them babies out of that juicy dick for you,,when I’m around my wife or other women sometimes they tell me they want to eat me up cause I e clean and smelling good
Before and after
If I’m with a man I make sure I shower after he’s done with me,, I will not go around my wife or anutha women smelling like anutha man or man sex,, cause it is possible to smell man sex on a man if he doesn’t shower and clean his self up,,,, but I must admit sometime I enjoy laying around with him with a wet ass before I get cleaned up,,,I like when he leaves me with a wet ass, I like the wetness of a well fucked ass
I’m impressed by these answer. Proud even.
YES!
BUT THERE ARE SOME MEN WHO LIKE IT RIPE AND PUNGENT SMELLING…..
Yes. Gross! There is one guy in my area who’s ads say something like “I love eating ripe unshowered azz”. Ewww! I can only imagine what his breath must be like. Haha! I chatted with him once. I said I preferred freshly showered. He said he was clean, as he showered the day before. I guess to him, he considers that to be “freshly showered”. Just NO!
I don’t think those who’ve commented have touched on the best thing about the pre-sex shower: It’s getting into the shower with the other guy and sudsing each other over, making out, going down on one another, scrub out the asses, digging the tongues inside the cleaned-out asses. Now That’s a pre-sex shower I love taking! As for hygiene, fucking clean bodies and the like, but of course – goes without saying.
Best response yet. You said what I wanted to say. Just want to add to it by saying we both brush our teeth/ whole mouth for about 5 minutes and gargle with minty mouth wash
first. Then take the long, hot bathtub bath scrubbing from head to toe. I like to lick everything during sex!!!!!! After sex, just freshen up at the bowl in the bathroom.
No better way! And yes, better the breath, the better the kissing.
Definitely shower before and after….love showering together, frotting, playing with the other guy’s cock..mmm
To me, it’s a no-brainer. You’re going to meet a hook-up, you make sure your body is fresh and clean. The odds are overwhelmingly in your favor that the guy will prefer a body that’s sweet smelling as opposed to rank and sweaty. If he likes raunchy, you work that out for the next meeting.
For sex with a Man…always showered and squeaky clean.
For sex with a woman…most of the time no, not necessarily…but, I do wash my junk thoroughly because, women talk to other women about their hookups, and the Man’s package.
And, I expect vice versa… A Man has to be showered, and clean. I don’t want His *musk* or any other *funk*.
A woman can be …a woman.
IMHO “Stink is Kink”, and that’s not a kink I enjoy.
for the first time it is best to do both, shower before so you don’t smeill and after just in case they have bugs or you have a mate who doesn’t know you are seeing others and you don’t carry their scent on you. I have met many men who wear to much after shave or cologn and you can smell it on you after sex.
My wife knows all the cologne fragrance I wear,,, mostly cause she buys it, so rather I’m fuckin a woman or getting fucked by a man I shower before and after, and rather I’m eating pussy or sucking on a sweet dick I keep travel size mouthwash in the truck,,,my wife is a kisser and much as I hate it ,,it seems like she wants to kiss more after I’ve sucked on a dick,,,
I want my guy to have a clean ass because I love rimming him.
My only question goes to the statement that you shouldn’t bathe/shower EVERY day because it removes things your skin/hair need.
& with this article talking about 2 in 1 day…..
Now, if you’re dirty from work or exercise, it would be good manners to clean up beforehand.
Both before and after! I hate going down on a guy that smells like ass or B/O. I prefer smooth guys since they taste, feel, and smelI so much better during sex. I love fucking in the shower too! I love to make out and get each other off, then jump in the shower and suck and fuck there too. If that sounds like you then hmu at emitwennuf at Adam in Reno!
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