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Does anal sex feel good?
Not everyone loves anal sex, but what about you, guys? And if someone else were to ask you what anal sex feels like, how would you answer them? Also, how true is it that anal sex is only pleasurable for the top or the person who’s giving?
We’re bringing this up because a similar question was posted in a forum asking gay men if anal sex is truly pleasant. Going by his question, it seemed like he didn’t enjoy his first time and he even wondered whether he was bisexual instead of gay, prompting readers to suggest that OP (original poster) might be a top or a side.
One respondent shared, “My first time was frustrating. He tried to just use spit – which isn’t lube! It wasn’t until I took control (rode him ‘cowgirl’) that I saw a glimmer of the pleasure of getting fucked.”
He added, “Next time was better. And it just got better and better.” The man then advised, “Lube is essential.”
Further, one gay man said:
Receptive anal sex is definitely pleasant for some men. Absolutely. Totally. I’ve fucked some men who couldn’t get enough of it.
However, not all men enjoy being fucked. It’s not a compulsory part of being a gay men. That’s why there are tops as well as bottoms (and versatile men, and even sides) – because we’re all different.
So, you don’t like being fucked. So what? Fuck someone instead! Or, maybe you’re not into anal sex at all, and that’s okay too.
Meanwhile, one reader replied, “Honestly, it’s not, and I’m not sure why it’s made to seem like it is. Most get used to it and in their mind it’s pleasurable.”
Having said all that, Adam4Adam Blog readers who love anal sex, what does anal sex feel like? How would you describe the feeling? Most importantly, what tips would you give to first-timers on anal sex in order for them to minimize pain and make the experience pleasurable and sexy?
Share with us your thoughts and stories in the comments section below!
This is only relevant if you’ve been penetrated!
Hence, it can only be debated by those who have been penetrated and not by those who have not!
A simplistic but profound summation of the blog’s title!
Kasper remains “nonplussed”!
Crucifixion by a penis cannot be enjoyable?
Kasper remains “nonplussed”!
No, that is not accurate. The lead in asks…”What does anal sex feel like?”. “Does anal sex feel good?”. That is a question for BOTH bottoms, and Tops. Had the question been, “What does *penetration for a bottom* feel like?”…. then you would have a point. (Receiving) Anal sex to me is immensely pleasurable on many levels, and when a Man is inside me it feels like my body shrinks down in size as the Top Man is fucking me…it feels like my ass is made for taking Him, and the gliding sensation of a Man’s Hard Dick going in… Read more »
We haven’t heard much from Tops in the responses to this topic. I wonder:
Physically, how it Is better than/different from a handjob? A blowjob? A Fleshlight-like device? A vagina?
Also, mentally, how does Dominant/Submissive come into play? As we’ve read in other topics, not all Bottoms are Submissive (some are Power Bottoms who dominate and control the sex act) and not all Tops are Dominant (some like being told what to do when where and how with their penis to meet the demands of the Bottom).
A compliment to my secondary commentaries by a wise and introspective “Homo
Sapiens, Sapiens!
A confirmation of what I implied by my initial contribution!
Kasper remains “nonplussed”!
I am aware of what the question(s) ask. Since there are those who do not enjoy
penetration; there are those who do not penetrate.
I assumed, rather incorrectly, that those who read my reply would make the
aforementioned assumption?
Hence…
MEA Culpa; MEA Culpa; MEA Maxima Culpa!
Kasper remains “nonplussed”!
Is Father Hennipen your other name to post by on here, because you two are like two peas in a pod.
Kasper, I like the way you summarized that. I concur wholeheartedly.
Nowadays everyone is entitled to say how they feel about something, even if they have never ever actually felt it it. So even if someone has never given or received anal, they’re entirely entitled to express how they feel it should feel. Like maybe they feel it should make them feel empowered because they’d feel they would be a Power Bottom if thy bottomed. Or maybe they’d feel it should make them Dominant if they were to top. Or maybe it would make them feel Submissive if they submitted to a master as a bottom. Or maybe it should hurt… Read more »
Darling!
Kasper will “Thank You” for your “Approbation” about having the “Constitutional
Right” to free speech and free expression!
Kasper is humbled by your “Divine Degree” that it is always better to express one’s self
instead of remaining mute and inconsequential!
Kasper is, forever, indebted to you! May you live a “long and prosperous life”!
Kasper remains “nonplussed”!
You are so right. Getting fucked was the farthest thing on my mind. It just really repulsed me. Any video of story with anal I would stop reading/watching. Having tried it , I can’t get enough now, and love being fucked deep.
Kasper remains “nonplussed”!
When it comes to anal sex, my experienced top and bottom buds have confirmed that I’m just not wired for it. It it feels at all, it hurts. Even after extensive lubing and much patience with insertion. Some of my top buds have narrower cocks. I can take them without pain, but feel nothing pleasurable. I’m happy to “take one for the team” and will support their efforts verbally and physically as they plow away until they ejaculate. After that, we move on to other fun.
Now a days at 79, I’m more a bottom than a top. I used to be both. It’s odd, but my butt hasa mind of it’s own. It lets in who it wants, I don’t always have any say at all. When it’s good, getting fucked it wonderful, and if it’s bad, I can’t wait for it to be over. Some many guys want sex, but they don’t all seem to do it very well.
Though primarily a top, I’ve bent over on occasion and taken a decent pounding. I’d have to say that about 75% of the time it’s mostly either hurt or not been terribly noteworthy. However, there’s that 25% when I’ve been in utter heaven where the top’s c*ck appears to hit just the right spot (repeatedly), causing me to moan uncontrollably. It’s a magical feeling inside me that I find very different from any stimulation of my own c*ck. And for that reason, I’d still bend over again in the future.
I first had anal sex as a teenager I have been both a top and a bottom. Without a doubt I enjoy being a bottom much more than being a top. In most cases yes at the beginning it may hurt a little but once my hole opens up. Wow it totally feels amazing unless you have bottomed it’s so hard to describe. I love to ride at first to let my hole open up slowly at my pace. Then after that I love to get on my knees doggy style with my top totally in control until he has… Read more »
I absolutely love bottoming. The first couple of times can be a little painful or uncomfortable, but once you get past that, it’s great. I prefer bigger uncut cocks, but open to whatever a guy has to offer. I can also take it for hours. Once a week, I was hooking up with a guy that was over 8″ and it was fucking fat, and he’d fuck me for 2-3 hours and unload balls deep in my tight, hungry hole. As far as what it feels like… it’s a bit hard to explain, but to be opened up… just fucking… Read more »
I also feel the same way. Luv long thick cocks that pushes against my prostate and makes me leak while being fucked
I tens to leak a lot when being topped. Hitting the prostate feels so goooooood
A long cock to push against your prostate? The prostate is just 2 inch up the opening!
It does take a skillful man to give a good fucking. I have found for the most part guys under 6″ lack the confidence to give a good fuck. Just my experience.
I’ve cum from receiving anal. So yes I think it’s a wonderful thing. I have been hurt by oversize cocks before, so now I make sure my ass has been appropriately opened by my partner before penetration and that they’ll only go so far. If I can take them all I will, but I hate the bottom of my ass being pounded into. Not into pain at all.
I’ve never had the pleasure of cumming from getting fucked, and hope that at sometime I do! I’ve seen it in porn, and know guys that have had it happen to them. I even made a guy cum multiple times when I fucked him, he was so sensitive that he came every time we fucked.
I’ve chatting with a lotta guys that say they have never came while getting fucked,,, I can’t remember a time when I didn’t cum while getting fucked,, I’ve read many of the comments and the word wonderful has be used alot,,, I use it alot when describing what it feels like to get fucked and it’s a wonderful feeling when guy hits that spot inside you and may you cum with his dick and his dick alone,,,witch is a big bonus,,,if your hole is able to take the dick with much pain getting fucked feel so fuckin good,,,,and the fact… Read more »
In my encounters it has always depended on the experience of the top. My first time of being penetrated, the top knew how to make it comfortable and enjoyable. It was the first time telling a guy to “fuck me” in the middle of doggy and missionary was great. Other guys I have met don’t know it takes a little more time to get penetrated and good lube is important. I love doing anal having a guy inside of me going deep feels like I am being properly done.
Chevy. Vega?
Maverick?
Javelin?
Gremlin. lol.
corvair, lol
Ford Edsel, lol
Love being fucked. The first guy who was hung like a horse. It hurt so bad at first he wanted to stop. After penetration beyond that initial point it turns into such a pleasurable feeling. The first time .y cocktail exploded without being touched in any way. I love being fuck and I am a masculine bi sexual male!
I totally understand,,, I’m a masculine DL married guy,, I still love women and pussy and I love fuckin women in the ass,,,but behind closed doors with masculine dominant top,, I love the feeling of a good hard dick up my ass,, like I’ve said before I think more and more straight acting guys are getting fucked these days,,and more of them are curious and thinking about it,,,so if it’s any curious guys reading these comments,, just do it,,it is a wonderful experiences with the right top with some good dick,,,
*See my reply to Kasper below* Regarding preparing for receiving Anal…clean, but do not clean too deeply or you will activate your bowels, and never be clean and right… LOTS of good lube so the gliding sensation feels more natural…or less lube if You want to feel “challenged”.. Use progressively larger plugs, and toys to find acceptable comfort levels for penetration… I remember early on feeling pain and discomfort when I would stuff plugs, and toys into my ass….but, I was just doing those things the wrong way…as it is a part of our body, and not just a hole… Read more »
I have been both top and bottom, as a bottom for me it was enjoyable depending on the guy I was with. I met a guy we were together at least 3 times and he was great all the way around. Good looks, younger and a very nice package. When starting out yes there was some pain but got better. I can still remember the nervousness before he was coming to my place knowing how the initial entry would feel. But once I see him and we get going that nervousness turned to pure pleasure. I had been with another… Read more »
I don’t know if my comment will be voted down like the others that posted before me, but here’s my 2 cents. As a Bottom who actually enjoys bottoming I understand it can hurt if you don’t both physically and mentally prepare yourself for penetration. Unfortunately, there is a concern I have toward Tops who never bottom that do not understand the necessity of prep work that many Bottoms go through cleaning themselves. Some Tops can be oblivious or even inconsiderate toward our prep time. Then to physically & mentally prepare, I like to use a toy or buttplug to… Read more »
I’ve had the best of both worlds when It comes to anal. I love being the bottom for my partner. It does give me pleasure when takes his time getting me ready for penetration. Does it hurt? Not really but it does depend on how well it’s lubed and played with. He’s pretty thick and long so when he’s in you know it. As far as me topping, I will only top when asked too.
I think anal sex is the absolute best. No matter how you start out either a gentle spanking to get the blood flowing, or a blow job to start the turn on process or just petting. Then to be placed on your back or all fours feeling his fingers stroking the lube between your cheeks and the slow but urgent penetration sliding all the way balls deep. Like the inhale of fresh air and the exhale of relaxation. Then his musk takes over and he has to breed you and fill your anus with cum. Feels ever so femme and… Read more »
Me too! Much rather be fucked than blown.
I have a bottom friend who repeatedly experiences what he describes as prostate orgasms prior to ejaculation during anal sex.
I’m vers. but love the feel of a nice cock fucking me
Tops, no such thing as too much lube. Bottoms, relax. This may sound gross but the best advice I ever got was to try to “poop’ the cock out sheer magic. And if you like the guy, or are both horny and in an alley somewhere it can be really great.
Agree with you best bottoming tip I got for my first top was to act like you’re pooping when his dick was slowly sliding inside me. Keep breathing and don’t forget lube lube and more lube
I am bisexual. With men I am a bottom. I love the feeling of being penetrated. With the right angle, which is obtained only through communication, the guys dick rubs the prostate causing me leak precum like crazy. I also self stimulate at some point and it make my orgasm very intense. Being fucked is not a passive thing, you have to stimulate your dick while he stimulates your p-gland
I agree to a point as I would say 50% of the time I do not need self stimulation, a good top massaginf the prostate with his cock with get me to cum hands free
As a strict bottom, I can say the feeling depends on the size, motion and sensibility of your partner. I’ve had huge dicks that hurt and others that feel amazing because they took the time to make sure I felt other stuff than pain. You’d be surprised what the body and mind can block out when your focus is elsewhere. Small and average dicks feel good to me when I have feelings for who it’s attached too. Anal sex is not black and white. It’s a very grey experience with many factors and variations that can make it the absolute… Read more »
I love anal sex once the initial pain/discomfort subsides. I love all positions, but some more than others. From a mental perspective, it’s incredibly fulfilling and satisfying knowing that I’m pleasing my partner. The mental part helps me deal with the physical part – the deep thrusting, the occasionally fast motion, having to interrupt the fucking because more lube is required. But nothing is as fulfilling as when I look in my man’s eyes as he cums in me. The shear pleasure words can’t describe.
Since I am a top the only way that I can discribe it as having to take a shit really bad
Im bi and absolutely love getting fucked. Wish I could find an endowed top here in Denver for daytimes
I have same issue where I am at. Love spreading legs and getting fucked, hard finding a nice dick who wants it.
Anal Sex can be both enjoyable and frustrating! 1.Enjoyable because you like who you are with and they take there time and it feels good; 2. it can hurt because, on the other hand , the person is ruff & forceful
You’re absolutely spot on with 1 and 2. For some anal sex/penetration is a learned process…for others it comes as a natural art. While a bottom can pretty easily “learn” how to accept a cock…a top has to be there and learn what the bottom can accept and enjoy. The one think I detest about anal sex is “anger sex”…any top who gets carried away inflicting pain for his own pleasure should be stopped immediately. I ended a 3 yr relationship because with a total top because he just couldn’t grasp the concept that sex should….must be a pleasure for… Read more »
If well lubed, the rough part is the best………
It took a lot of false starts and awkwardness to develop the bottoming later in life as a bi- male. In the early attempts it felt like every capillary there was about to rupture if he moved in further. It could be a showstopper for everything. With persistence and yet more lube I got to where I could take most sizes and it started feeling better. Though I still frequently have to urge the top to apply more lube or go slower. Had one gold-star top just totally shove it in despite the pain. Not cool. In Atlanta there are… Read more »
I’m a little different. In my everyday life more top dominant. However, when I’m alone with a MAN I’m a submissive cum dump. Love to be “taken” by a man used for his pleasure. So physically I don’t know what I feel. Mentally it feels AMAZING ! To have him use me. Make me take his cock in my mouth, pinch my nipples make me moan in”pain/pleasure” (thin lines for me”between pain and pleasure) After he cums and we’re laying there to sxual bliss knowing I’ve made him feel good is what I want/need.
I started out as a bottom, long ago, and the first time hurt. I made him pull out, and when I got that cool breeze feeling, he went back in. At that time I learned one of the first tricks of painless bottoming. You have to work with your body’s reflexes. People think the top creeping in and then fucking will make it not hurt. The key is to pull all the way out and wait a minute. The bottom’s rectum is conditioned to push out when it is full. So you have to back out. Then his muscles relax… Read more »
Well, FIRST off the title is misleading. That being said, for ME, my first experiments as a young YOUNG teenager were fingers and objects and were very enjoyable. The first TOY I found to use was a hard plastic vibrator and in a desperate attempt I made the mistake of spitlube. At first it wouldn’t go in, then suddenly it was in and I was in excruciating pain.. but that subsided. And I figured out what I had done wrong. The actual sensations depend on my preparation and mind set. If I’m not “feeling it” then it’s not comfortable, if… Read more »
It’s incredible, but that’s from someone who was once in love with someone who also was in love with me, we knew just what to do, very in sync with each other’s bodies. I knew when/could feel when to go harder and softer to prolong enjoyment, loved the way he would flex his anal muscles.
Now, it’s just methods of masturbation.
J’ai toujours trouve le sexe anal répugnant, a certains mec qui ne sais pas et qui ne veux pas tout simplement pratiquer les préliminaires avant!
Roughly for those who are French impaired: I have always found anal sex repugnant. Especially when guys don’t understand the importance of foreplay. (Google translator)
As usual!
You are so very right!
hi am a older male love the feeling of a hard cock in me hard or slowly i can cum with out touching my cock awesome feeling
It takes two to tango. To enjoy bottoming you need a top that’s considerate, patient and knows what he’s doing. Be in charge when you’re getting penetrated, ask your top to prepare you with his fingers or a toy before. Keep communicating and pause if it starts hurting, breath, relax and let his hard dick slide gradually into your hole. It helps if the top stays still.
I am a life long bottom. My experience was the same as one of guys in the article. The first time was very uncomfortable but it got better and better each time after. There are several things that can make the difference between heaven and hell. Size does count. For me, there is such a thing as too big. Also for me, position matters. One of my partners loved doggie style and that was a lot harder to take. Missionary was much easier, especially at first, even when he was very big. If I haven’t been fucked for a while,… Read more »
It was fall of 1978 back when condoms were only for birth control. Upon getting picked up in a mens room stall and taken back to an older guy’s apartment, this 18-year-old had an agenda: After a thorough 69 session, I wanted to get f*cked first, then flip him over and f*ck him back. I laid face down on his bed. Knowing he was about to pop my cherry, he lubed me up a lot. He then slowly lowered his 8-incher inside me – reallll slow. I was naive about this, wondering “what’s the holdup?!” So I pressed on his… Read more »
Since I was in Jr. HS I have loved to have a cock in me. I have never had my cock in a man since then. But stil love to be used by MEN. At 79, I have had many pleasurable experiences. Lube and sensitivity is essential for pleasure.
I’m a bi married man with a bi wife. I’m primarily a top but have one special male lover that I bottom for. For years I always just topped him but for the last couple of years I have started bottoming for him too. It doesn’t hurt since he’s careful and I know to lube and dilate my ass properly. I get little physical pleasure from the act but but tremendous mental pleasure knowing that a man I feel so deeply for is getting such pleasure from me. Now we flip fuck every time we meet!
Anal sex???? YES YES YES!!! I was 15 the 1st time I had anal sex. It didn’t hurt, it was uncomfortable because my top didn’t know what he was doing. Now 20 years later, I’m still a bottom and I still love it!! I blow at least 2 loads when I’m getting pounded!!! Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely love PUSSY, but having a cock working my hole drives me fuckin wild everytime!!!
Absolutely love being fucked. Missionary is my favorite. I can be very vocal asking to be fucked and telling my top what I want. They seem to enjoy that, as do I. The feeling is very intense and my orgasms are the best. Nothing like being wrapped around a guy when he cums inside you.
I enjoy missionary position. When a guy is on top and nailing me down inside of my ass the feeling is so good. I tell them to take as much ass as they want for as long as they want.
There’s nothing better than when the initial penetration happens and my bottom takes a cock, ecstasy
Want to try this so i would like details on how to make it work for my first time .toys are fun but have been told real is awesome
As a true bottom,I have only had penetrative anal sex once…… that is by a man…… but plenty of times with dildos. At that time, honestly it hurt….. at least at first that is. My mind set can be seen by my name here….. “the gurl within”. Giving pleasure to a Top is pleasure for me. To this day, I can’t wait for it to happen again….. and I will do so WILLINGLY!
Im a botttom got to say I love it sucking him and getting him hard then ride him and then pounding me feels great can’t get enough love the black guys mostly what I prefer blows my mind enjoy it very much
The first time I had anal wasn’t exactly planned. I didn’t know if I wanted to try anal. We had done other things before. I woke up to him playing with my ass, rubbing the head of his cock around my hole and gently trying to push in. I let him do this for awhile. I agreed to let him go all the way. To his dismay, I got up to get a condom which I regret now. Anyway, he said I should get on top to ride his cock since I would have control of how fast it went… Read more »
I hate it. Never got the hang of it so I prefer not to do it.
I was a total top for many years until I began to think about some of the responses I saw from my partners, and I wanted to experience that also. Here are some essentials for me: 1. A good clean out obviously, but also sit awhile to adequately “drain”. 2. Find the right lube and use it both on the sphincter AND find a good lube injector. With practice you’ll find the right kind. Many masturbation lubes are not good for fucking. 3. The “bearing down” slightly when he’s penetrating is essential for me, and arching my back seems to… Read more »
I am a submissive bottom who has been fucked. I love it and want more of it. Does it hurt? Some, but for me that is part of the pleasure. If it doesn’t hurt some, especially that initial penetration, I’m not satisfied. Real cock versus dildo is lightning vs the lightning bug. Real is better if for no other reason that I don’t know exactly what he is going to do next. There is an almost Zen calm when I’m getting fucked, the entire world is my ass and the cock sliding in and out of it. After a good… Read more »
I can relate,,I have tried dildos but they do nothing for me,, I may use one for a few days to open my hole up if I know I’m going to get fucked and I had not been fucked in a while but i get no satisfaction sexually from it,, for me it’s the idea of being with anutha man , a masculine dominant top that gets me off,,, the idea of him making me submit to him with that dick,,,, I’ve heard many gay and bi sexual guys say married guys make the best bottoms,,,so I try to live… Read more »
I consider myself more of a bottom, but have topped a clean ass occasionally. I definitely prefer bottoming. I love having a guy laying on top of me fucking my ass with his hands holding onto my shoulders for leverage. Its great just having a guy in total control just using me for his pleasure. The key for me in being a bottom is cleaning myself out as much as possible before the chance of being topped. There is nothing worse than having the sensation of having to go when a guy is pounding my ass. Do yourself a favor… Read more »
I surprised that no one has mentioned the use of poppers to relax the sphincter muscle to get past the intial pain of penetration
A guy I used to meet up with was an avid poppers user. I was going to try them but once I researched what their ingredients were, what they do, how they work, and their safety, I passed. Yes, even beer is not really good for you, but poppers most definitely aren’t. It’s any guy’s choice to use them or other drugs. I make my choices too, informed ones.
I admit they aren’t good for you but a lot of stuff we try isn’t, correct? But I do like fucking a guy out of his mind high on poppers. He is loose enough to get in, hard as a rock, and willing for me to move him on any position. The high passes in a minute and I am already balls deep so he gets tight again.
As a top when I tried them I get super hard during the rush but can’t cum. The bottom who likes a marathon likes this.
…I am a bottom who loves this. Yes poppers are not good for me and I seldom use them. But to loosen up for initial penetration….then to “lock down” on a hung top…nothing better…especially if he is thicker than I can normally comfortable handle.
I like using poppers to loosen my man hole up but they can/will lower your inhibitions and you can or will loose self control over safe sex so being aware of that is the key. Even the most disciplined on safe sex using poppers is a risk. Thankfully I never had risky sex but know I easily can because of the desire to experience bareback and being bred and poppers only enhance that. User beware and be careful.
I am a bi-bottom. I can be a submissive or a power bottom depending on the preferences of the Top. I love the feeling of a Top penetrating me. I like it a bit rough. So, hung Tops with stamina are my favorites! I like the feeling of being sore down there the next day. My favorite all-time bottoming experience was when a Top (FWB) had another Top there as a surprise! It was so hot that I allowed them to DP me! Was sore for a week and loved every minute of it.
All the comments about lots of lube and slow penetration are right on. To me it feels amazing to be well fucked. I just recently began to experience, multiple, full body, anal-only orgasms. Even before that, I felt sorry for all the men who deny themselves the chance to experience it. I understand that there are guys who aren’t into receiving anal sex, but I would never have known if I hadn’t tried it.
You are so right,,, I think it’s a new time and day,,, I’ve said before I come to realize that it’s plenty of straight acting guys out there getting fucked or want to but afraid to act on it,,,if you are afraid of getting outed find you a guy in anutha city,,, I never play in my city,,, I have a wife here in Alexandria and a BF (Daddy) in anutha city,,yes I travel to get fucked
Love the Top Bunk and Bottom Bunk. Being the bottom a cock with a bit of girth and length seem to hit all the right spots, it seems a smaller cock tends to just poke your insides and not hit anything. Had a friend who well did me right, I came without touching myself , he did it all from the insdie.
it hurts?
I have been searching for a long, long time for a man who would be interested in fucking me, with no success thus far. I “came out” a few years ago as a non passable CD, with a passion for dressing in lingerie, and have wanted to experience anal. I have only inserted small butt plugs so far but the thought of replacing them with a hard cock some day is all I think about.
Believe me, it’s awesome !
It is a wonderful feeling once you open with the right top,, just idea of a nutha man sliding his hard dick inside me makes me want to cum,,,, I have never put on a full lingerie out fit but I do enjoy wearing a pair of panties,, and I have a wife beater tank top that I’ve cut off right below my chest that I wear with the panties,,my wife buys and throw panties away all the time,,,so ots hard for her to miss them,,but I don’t put them on until I get behind closed doors with my man,,,they… Read more »