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So, I’ve read a pretty interesting question recently, and the thread is quite popular, too! The original poster (OP) asked, “Have you ever been in love? Like real love not hook up or crush?” He added, “What age were you and did it work out?”

Love is a complex and deeply personal experience that can leave us feeling both exhilarated and vulnerable. It’s a universal emotion that has inspired countless poems, songs, and works of art throughout human history. But how do we know if we’ve truly experienced it ourselves? Here are eight questions to ask yourself to help you determine if you have ever been in love.

1. Do you prioritize their happiness above your own? Love often involves a willingness to sacrifice and prioritize the well-being of your partner.

2. Can you be yourself around them? In love, we feel accepted and valued for who we truly are, flaws and all.

3. Do you miss them when they’re not around? Love creates a deep longing to be with the other person, even when they’re not physically present.

4. Do you feel a deep emotional connection with them? Love goes beyond physical attraction and involves a profound emotional bond.

5. Can you envision a future together? When you’re in love, you see your partner as a part of your future plans and goals.

6. Do you communicate openly and honestly with each other? Love thrives on trust, transparency, and open communication.

7. Are you willing to support them through the good times and the bad? Love means being there for your partner through life’s ups and downs, no matter what.

8. Do you feel a sense of peace and contentment when you’re with them? Love brings a sense of calm and fulfillment that can’t be found elsewhere.

Reflecting on these questions can help you gain insight into your own experiences with love. Whether you’ve been in love once, twice, or many times over, each experience offers an opportunity for growth, connection, and self-discovery.

Anyway, having said all that, here are some popular answers to this question: “Twice. Head over heels all-encompassing love, soulmates if such a thing existed. First died (together 4 years), married to the second (over 20 years),” one gay man replied.

Another shared, “I was 19 and I fell in love with a straight guy (of course), and we became best friends, played in a band together, and shared an apartment before he got married.” He added, “However, I didn’t know I was in love at the time. It wasn’t until years later and he moved on to other projects and no longer had time for me that I fell to pieces. It was like going through a divorce. That’s when I realized that I had been in love that whole time. And that I was probably gay.”

In addition, someone responded, “I’m still in love with my very first boyfriend: we’ve met 13 years ago, immediately fall in love with each other, and are still together (with every year being better and better).” While another one said, “Started dating my husband when I was 24 and we have been together for almost 25 years. I know it sounds sappy and corny, but he is the love of my life and my best friend.”

Meanwhile, there are also those who said they have never been in love yet ever like this one who replied, “No. I wonder if it’s possible. I sarcastically wonder if the world is collectively gaslighting me that it’s possible.” He added, “I never even let myself consider the possibility for so many years; now I’m at least out to myself but that’s so unfathomably far from being in love….”

Another interesting reply reads, “I don’t trust that feeling of liking somebody. Make me feel like a cringy creepy person thinking about one person all the time. Not good for my mental health. I’ve learned to kill it like a cockroach as soon as possible.”

Admittedly, love isn’t always easy, and it doesn’t always end in happy endings either like the experience of this guy who shared, “Twice, and both times devastated me. It makes me hesitant to love again, because the heartbreak is so all-consuming and really disrupts my life.”

What about you, guys? Have you ever truly been in love? How did it go for you? Share with us your thoughts and stories below!

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