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Do A4A users lie about their height here on Adam4Adam? If so, how did you feel when you met them in real life and it turned out that they lied to you about their height? Did they still get a second, third date from you? Moreover, does height matter to you? Would you say that height is a major factor or even a deal breaker for you when it comes to choosing a partner, boyfriend, a hookup etc.?
A survey says that yes, majority of gay men have height preferences but that “these preferences were dependent on the participant’s own height,” meaning, taller men “preferred shorter partners, whereas shorter men preferred taller partners.” Further, they found out that men who “preferred a more dominant and more ‘active’ sexual role preferred shorter partners, whereas those that preferred a more submissive and more ‘passive’ sexual role preferred taller partners.”
How true is this for you, guys? Meanwhile, some of the gay men in Reddit have spoken and they’ve confirmed the findings of the research but it’s not quite what you think. For instance, those blessed with towering heights said that it’s because when you’re already tall—when your height is already 6’3,” 6’5,” or 6’8″—it’s rare to find someone who is taller than you which kind of makes sense when you look at it that way. But the challenge lies in the fact that indeed, when you’re that tall, people expect you to top which, of course, we know is one of the myths in gay sex.
Having said all that, do LGBT people lie about their height online? The Redditors said that yes, they’ve met some who apparently lied about their height, but is height a deal breaker for them? Some said it is while others said it isn’t. Lying, however, is another matter, they say. They think that if a person lied about their height, then they can only imagine what else that person is lying about so no second date for them, thank you very much.
What about you, guys? Do you care about height? Do you have a height preference? Is lying about height actually a thing online and offline? Sound off below!
Why is this even an issue? We all have our preferences and this is a bullshit topic. I’d be more interested as to why A4A hasn’t addressed it’s locator issue, that shows most of us hundreds if not thousands of miles from our actual location, and no refreshing does nothing to rectify the damn problem.
jim, contact [email protected] our team will assist you, the blog is not the place for that.
Try assisting your thousands of other members,while you’re at it. It’s not a problem that just affects one or two people. It’s a totally endemic problem for MANY people.
Support team is probably working on it with our dev team in this case.
however the same has been mentioned in other blogs
All due respect Dave, this issue seems to fall upon deaf ears.
Send me an email with description, and your username.I’ll forward it directly
A4A is a creation and the creation is this site; it is, by design, a functionality, replete with all the manifestations of Man’s creativeness.
The Internet is the prime example of functionality. Humans use it because of its functionalities…such as purpose and timeliness. The internet serves its creator(s). When the creation fails to serve its purpose, Humans become enslaved to the creation. Humans are not Perfect; neither are its creations.
Hence, the duplicity of Human Nature and Function: Humans are their own best friend and their own worst enemy…and what it created can come back to bite!
Jim, you can probably just forget about it if you’re on a PC using a wired network, and maybe even if you’re on a WiFi network, too. Your ISP will shunt your traffic to whatever server pleases them and it may not be anywhere near your city. If you’re on a VPN a similar thing can happen as well. When I go VPN my IP address goes to a server several states away. I suspect those types of networks and those types of devices tell A4A where the server is and not you. When I’m on my cell phone, though,… Read more »
With 5 Thumbs Up as I type this, Jim Markus, looks like you’ve got company with your question. For me it’s also a matter of profiles that have few categories filled in and virtually no text descriptions. Somehow these are “approved” and added to the site. Programming or a policy for Minimum Completeness would certainly help. And, “contact support” as an answer isn’t Customer Focused. Especially when the log is lighting up with several.instances of negative Customer Feedback about frustrations lately.
Height, not unlike weight, age and girth…all represent Western Civilization’s concept of power and domination. I am 6′ 3″, 210 lbs., and remain strong and straight. This is a “genetic pre-disposition” as my father and brother were all within an inch of my height, and build. Wearing a military uniform, I commanded respect and leadership because I look superb wearing a uniform and I knew how to carry myself wearing the uniform. Uniforms, particularly, military, are designed to accentuate the width of the shoulders, emphasize the chest,the square of the back, hug the waist and the buttocks and legs…and zero… Read more »
“Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere.” ~ MLK
Agree, A good tailored suit accentuates a man’s body too. 6’1 175 pounds, broad shoulders, 32 inch waist, slight bubble butt, defined thighs and legs is the ideal look. Prince Harry is a perfect example.
Marcus: It is the nature of a well, designed article of clothing to define and accentuate the positive aspects of the anatomy. I do squats so my butt remains firm and rounded but I am 73. Perfection becomes increasing incremental but, none-the-less, I work it well and thoroughly. I have a personal trainer who works me well and I give him what he wants. He likes an older man. He is 41 and I am 73. He is well-trained and he keeps me fit and trim. I have been exposed to “Agent Orange” so I do exhibit the exposure symptoms… Read more »
Impressed that you manage to stay in shape. So proud of you. Really sorry to hear about your battle with agent orange. I will pray for you and hopefully you’ll pray for me. We all need prayer. Appreciate your response my friend. Take care
No, height does not matter. That is such a superficial question.
Definitely – height matters! I stand at 6 foot and someone too short is bad for my posture. (To me) correct posture and direct eye contact are critically important. I find both difficult to maintain when the other is substantially shorter although not nearly so difficult if the other is taller. Just a personal preference …
This is silly. Height preference is not limited to GBT, it someone women prefer shorter men, some prefer taller. it’s just whats attractive to you.
Everything and anything can be a “deal breaker” for certain gays. As has been said here by many posters, too many gay guys demand acceptance of who they are, but are intolerant of others in many assortments of what they hold as non-negotiable. Weight, race, ethnicity, age, financial position, top/bottom, feminine/dominant, anal/no anal, kissing/no kissing, furrylsmooth, monogamous/friends with benefits/hookups, safe sex/risky sex, cock length/thickness, political beliefs, religious/atheist/agnostic… They and other attributes are all on the table. So of course, many gay guys hold height as a deal breaker.
So many conditions to catch ones eye. Those guys with discriminating palates spend a lot of nights alone in an empty bed.
I am average to short and I like to top tall guys.
I have met guys that have lied about their height, and for the life of me, I cannot figure out why. When we see you in person, we’re going to know you’re full of shit. A lie is a lie, so it makes me wonder what else you lie about. While someone that lies may still be worth a fuck, I would never date a guy that lies, it’s just not worth it. I met up with a guy, and his pics were spot on (looked just like him, was fit and tones), but based upon him saying he was… Read more »
Not sure why the issue of LYING isn’t being looked at. I don’t care what they lie about, if they lie, I have no interest.
When I cruise for guys for sex hookups, here are my criteria: 1. Be SAFE & clean; 2. Be cute/good looking (at least in my eyes); 3. Be in good shape. If you pass my 1-2-3 test, I could care less how tall or short you are. That all said, at 6’4, 220, I find hot and sexy having, say, a 5’6″ small light younger guy in my arms and cradling and kissing him like my boy toy. At the same time, it being so rare I have sex with someone my height or taller, the occasions I do fuck… Read more »
LOL at the title of this blog! In short, YES! I venture to say that the statistics Pareto 80/20 rule applies to most things in life. About 80% of gays are bigots of some sort and they discriminate about age, height, weight, looks, body, dick size, the number of rings around one’s anus to what ails ya! We’re all entitled to our likes and dislikes. Or are we, because most of us operate from a place of ego and not humility? I have friends who’ve never slept with someone else out of their own race. I always thought our likes… Read more »
You took the words right out of my mouth!
That, was so powerful and TRUE, thumbs-up on every last syllable and noun, lol! right-on!
I’m 6’6″ and I’m really kinda freaked out by guys my height. I see them in a crowd and how they stick out above everyone…..then realize I stick out like that as well and I get really self-conscious about it. I will also say that most people assume I’m hung like a buffalo because of my height. I’m not complaining, because that assumption has gotten me laid countless times. I’m above average, but I’ve been with guys much smaller than me physically who had me beat downstairs. One of my best sexual partners was only 5’3″….if his head hadn’t been… Read more »
Thanks, Dave, for this discussion. I like how you stir up a discussion that some may feel insignificant, yet that are moved to chime in, giving the question more relevance than they perceived it to have. I, myself, am 6′, 142lbs, slender, and toned. I love my height. It’s interesting that I used to have a desirable height requirement of 5’11” – 6’2″. It was a fantasy. Two of my three partners were 6’2″. However, now, I find myself very attracted to both tall and shorter guys. It really depends on other characteristics (personality, body type, etc.). For example, if… Read more »
Same here, I used to be attracted to taller than me only…now I like many sizes, maybe maturity, or maybe my brain stopped fetishizing a certain height, I don’t know… But whatever the reason, I get to enjoy different guys 🙂
Beyond Bohemian’s and Dave’s comments here, as well as my own above, I think there’s one thing we’ve all left out: When you’re horizontal with a guy, what the heck does it matter how tall or short he is – that is, how can you really tell??? LOL (Sorry – that was meant for a little levity…well, sort of.)
What changes is the distance, from where you begin, to where you end!
The taller the person the more distance you travel; the shorter the person the less distance you travel. It is all relative; it is the journey you take that makes the beginning so hopeful and the end so satisfying!
Why hasn’t anyone addressed the Lie issue. It’s the lie that gets me. Whether it be age, height, weight, or all of the above, as I have encountered that more than once.
Guilty as charged! I list my height at 6’4, but in reality, I’m a half-inch shorter than that.
Wadd – I’m curious the extent to which guys have lied about their heights to you? Obviously my adding a half-inch is meaningless. Have you tried to hook up with guys who list themselves at, say, 6’2″ then turn out to be like 5’10”? If so, how would they expect to get away with that? Age and weight are a whole other matter. I don’t fudge either, but I know many do, which is just plain stupid.
Of course they do. People in general care about height as well as other things.
I think men moreso than women generally care about height. I’m 6’1 190 pounds and my Dad was 5’4 220 pounds. He hated being short and stocky. My Mom had to cut off and hem all his pants. Growing up in church, he use to marvel how good I look in my suits. He was very mean and aggressive and I know that was because of his height. My point is I think height def a concern in the gay community because i think taller guys are sexier and more confident than shorter guys. I noticed the average guys in… Read more »
I like this article because it’s so true. I’m kinda tall at 5’11 in height. I’m usually attracted to taller men, but short guys need love too! In my experience dating I found out recently that shorter guys who I’ve dated turned out to be sweethearts, while the tall or muscular type of dudes (most turned out to be A-holes)! So size really shouldn’t matter! It doesn’t make up for decency, a great personality and respect
I generally don’t see height as I’m usually the tallest guy in the room, but I am suddenly aware of a weird juxtaposition when I do encounter guys my height or taller. My attractions are how good looking (cute) a guy is and how he carries himself. A lot of hot short guys out there, Hollywood is full of them. I’d be just as excited with a Chris Evans or Casper Van Diem as I wouId a Hemsworth bother. I think a square jaw, killer smile, neatly trimmed sideburns and sparkling blue eyes are just as hot as some massive… Read more »
Not really, but I’d prefer a guy 6” either way (I’m 5’10”), but chemistry is the key.
I could care less about height. We all the same height when fucking
This is stupid. Stop trying to “height shame”. We all have likes and preferences. But I don’t judge people on things that they have no control over. We have no control over our height, skin color, nationality, cock size, etc. So I’m not going to be judgy and make an issue over such things.
I don’t get ‘why’ some of you are complaining, you’d be surprised or at least you shouldn’t be; many gays or whatever orientation, height or size of one’s stature, IS of an importance! I’ve actually seen, height preferences in some profiles: “someone taller than me”, “someone no taller than myself”, yeah, they’re out there, its not unheard of. I’ve had men ask me, “is my lack of height or size an issue?” Whereas I’m concerned, I have no choice, being in the stratosphere of height, lmao, I just do not believe, though, that ‘if’ you’re less than say 5’7, that… Read more »
I see plenty, of cute and handsome, rugged short men, they’re usually more aggressive, like ‘nature’ gave them a little something extra, testosterone? Just as long as he’s really a nice guy, they’re really great in bed. I have many types, the world is full of beautifully desirable
men. You just have your own sense of beauty to see it in other all around you, regardless. The world is a lot more beautiful for those of us
whom recognize beauty in general.
I am 6’5″ and 240 lbs, do the gym 6x a week. I’ve had so many negative reactions to my height and body size that I’ve actually downsized me self on profiles to 6’2″. I have no problems with men of any size as long as they are HOT. Just spent a night with a 5’2″ man who blew my socks off.