How important for you is someone else’s profile picture on A4A Radar, guys? Does it affect your decision to meet someone face-to-face?
For many, someone else’s profile picture is important. Remember the saying “A picture is worth a thousand words?” It’s because a picture alone tells us many things about that person.
First and foremost, what’s a profile picture?
It is defined by sproutsocial.com as “a photo that appears in your online accounts, regardless of whether it’s a social media or professional site. Each social media site has its own unique way of displaying profile photographs as an avatar next to an account name.”
While most of us think our profile pic is simply just a random photo, but the truth is we are actually sharing our personality on the internet. According to sproutsocial.com, it gives others a glimpse on what we like, how we are feeling, whether we are extroverted or introverted, conscientious or chaotic, open-minded or closed-minded, pleasant or disagreeable, neurotic or emotionally stable, simply by how we portray ourselves in our profile pics. Read more here.
Anyway, going back to the question at hand, how do you deal with hookups who do not resemble their profile pic at all? We scoured the internet over what gay men had to say on the matter and one guy shared:
Oh yes! Met a guy while I was in grad school for a drink. He sent a few pics and we set a time and place. I arrived early (I’m very anal about time keeping) and ordered a martini while I waited for a while. I noticed this guy was staring at me but thought nothing of it. After fifteen minutes he came over and asked if I was <screen name>. I replied that I was and he said he was <screen name>. We chatted for a bit and then I left – there was no chemistry and he was just too pushy for sex for me to be interested.
Meanwhile, another said:
When I was 25 or something I agreed to meet someone who said they were 32. I went to the location outside his place and saw him, clearly over 50. I immediately thought if he’s going to lie about something so obvious, what else has he lied about? I just walked past him as if he wasn’t the guy I was supposed to meet, made a U-turn sometime later and walked back to my car and left.
He then sent a message, something like ‘I guess I wasn’t up to your standards.’ I played dumb and said nope, I didn’t see you there, there was just some other older guy there so I left. He offered a new meetup but I said the trust was gone since he didn’t show up.
Further, a guy shared that this happened to him many times. “The main one was a guy in Ipswich who catfished me three times.” He added, “Fucked him the first two times, the third time I said no and told him why.”
Having said all that, what about you, guys? Do you walk out on them? How many times has this happened to you and what did you do? Share with us your thoughts and stories in the comments section below!