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How often do you have sex, guys? Moreover, how long does sex normally last for you before climaxing?
We’re bringing this up because a gay man is wondering about it and even posted this question online to solicit ideas and opinions on the matter. As to why he was curious, he shared how women would talk about this and how they “usually say it should last like an hour or more.” He explained, “This is probably due to the fact that women can ‘cum’ multiple times during sex, while Men can usually only cum once before feeling completely drained from their will to live.”
The guy also explained how sex in porn movies lasts for “like 30 minutes or so” while he and his boyfriend have sex for “about 10-20 minutes counting the time we are doing everything but ‘fucking.’” He added that they are perfectly okay with that, because although they like having sex, they, of course, also enjoy doing other stuff “like watching series and playing games, so sex lasting for that amount of time is perfect for us.”
One gay man replied to his question, “Depends how good it is. Ten minutes of good sex is always better than an hour of bad sex.”
Meanwhile, one guy said that 5 to 10 minutes is enough for a quickie but 15-20 minutes would do “if you want to add in a little foreplay.” Further, he added that if you wish to “savor the moment with your partner,” it should be 30-45 minutes but if you “want to explore specific kinks,” 45-60 minutes should do it. Anything over an hour, he said, will bore him out of his “fucking mind” as his “general preference is around 15 minutes.” Read the entire thread here.
Anyway, I don’t know about you, but I’m not really looking at the clock when I’m doing it. Plus, I agree with some of the points the guys raised. As stated above, there’s such a thing as a quickie, a time to savor it, and a time to explore your sexual boundaries and kinky ideas with your partner. In short, the time that one spent having sex varies, depending on the mood.
But what about you, guys? How long do you think sex should last? Share with us your thoughts and stories in the comments section below!
Sex lasts as long as it does,
Affection can last forever.
First statement, agreed. Second statement, sometimes affection isn’t even necessary.
Yes, there is that “dichotomy” between sex and romance.
I been with some guys I made it last all night but have been with some I wanted to get done fast
That’s really an in the moment kind of thing so there really isn’t a relative timeframe. Sure, you should be able to control yourself which is what I think this question is really about. My wife and I would have intercourse for literally days before I would climax. Several times almost giving myself a heart attack and other times with her or with another man it can last minutes, hours…so there’s really no answer to this question other than learn to control yourself. Think about your partner more than what’s going on with you and it’s easy…breathe.
30 minutes, honey
Define “sex”…Is that anal only?? Or does that include any oral or foreplay etc, as well?? Just the anal part I’m good with 15-20 min max; enough for two or three positions and then he can finish–if it includes oral and anything else too, then total maybe 30-45 min tops…all of THAT though is contingent on the connection of course too…if it’s really good then time becomes less relative; if not, well, then, ANY amount of time can be too long :/
five minutes in public, 25 minutes or more in private .. as long as you make sure to set your alarm clock just before EJACULATE TIME, honey! ♥
It’s no concrete general time frame as to how long sex should last. It depends on the ones involved. I personally like my sessions to last at least an hour. This is from the first kiss to us both achieving our climaxes. Kissing and oral sex only about 5 minutes and actual fucking, changing positions frequently for 55 minutes taking short breaks/water breaks as needed.
You read my mind here Marcus. I have a great bottom and we really enjoy each other, sometimes our sex sessions are an hour or more. However, this is not all anal. First, let me say as a guy in my 50’s I still have the need to cum multiple times. Having a sexy bottom that loves to bottom for me, makes sex allot of fun when I am shooting out the 3rd or 4th nut. We start with a long sexy kiss, which instantly gets me rock hard. He knows how to make daddy feel good with his mouth… Read more »
Sounds like all the BBC porn I’ve watch
LOL – Sounds like you are watching some good porn.
Stat, I’m impressed with your writing skills dude. I usually don’t read long responses, but you captivated my interest with your clarity. Beautifully written, clear, descriptive account of your sexual love making. It reminded me of reading a good book and can’t put it down.
Thanks! Your post piqued my interest, plus this topic is something I liked and wanted to share.
Marcus:
Stat took “The Evelyn Wood Speed Writing Course”!
So articulate & succinct, too!
Kasper, I didn’t think his response was short and brief at all.
HAHAHA
Hugs & Kisses!
That, is the ‘extraordinary’ making love, not just mere “sex” you’re describing a whole banquette as opposed to just a snack, talk about a “love hangover.”
Ultimately, when I run out of blackberry jam, baby.
“blackberry jam” ? ? ?
“It’s a blk thang,” lmao! It’s a reference from the movie “Ray.”
45 minutes to an hour with the right partner!
One great big “Depends.” For me at least, an all-out experience that includes an opening sex shower, making out/grinding, mutual s*cking, rimming, and fucking, at least an hour. For 3somes or groups, add another hour. For quick BJs on the run, can be as brief as 10-15 mins.
There’s no “should” when it comes to sex for me. Sometimes, a bud and I will “attack” each other mercilessly and extensively until we both orgasm (once or more) and fall back on the bed exhausted. Sometimes, time is limited so we “get ‘er done”, covering the major points and having us both orgasm quickly because that’s what time permitted. Sometimes, we can spend a long time, gently kissing, caressing, and cuddling each other with orgasms being optional. Sometimes, one of us decides to “treat” the other to a trip to an orgasm with no requirements that we orgasm as… Read more »
Sometimes, we even die-in-bed!
When I’m with the ole lady it Last about 20 to 30 min and I’m done,,,wen I first started meeting me on the DL I would get fucked and once I come it was over,15 minutes flat I was ready to go,,,, but nowa days I’m still on the DL but I can lay there and get fucked as long as the top want to fuck,,,all I gotta do is get in what ever position he wants me in,,,good dick will keep you wanting it
The best sex for me, is that which lasts for hours. The best sex I ever had lasted 7 hours. The only reason we even stopped that day was because I had to go to work.
I can’t stand a guy that pumps into me three or four time and then cums.
Best for me was a weekend business trip with a bud. Sex Friday evening through Monday morning. Business meetings mornings where we were apart. But then… A major league baseball game. A couple of fine dining dinners. Numerous stops at pubs. Making out in parks and city locations, but no public sex, 28th floor room overlooking a major US lake and the metro airport. We played in the elevator, on the bed, in the bath, on the couch, on the balcony. Middle of the night one of us would wake the other, too. 13 orgasms when all was said and… Read more »
What has worked out the best for me is having a fuck buddy, not a hookup, not a boyfriend, not a husband. The emphasis is on having a friendly person with whom to have sex regularly, and this usually is separate from other concerns or situations that exist. These concerns (like being married) or situations (like work) determine how much time is available, meaning that sex has to fit into that window. Two hours seems about right, from undressing, making out, oral pleasuring, fucking, afterglow, cleaning up, a last kiss, etc.
Not so big on timelines for sex. It’s more about the moment. If it’s passionate and romantic it can take a while but there also comes a point where you’re tired and you just want to cut. Putting specific timelines on sex takes away from the emotions. You can have hard-core passionate sex and be done in a minute and it’s good for both because the emotions involved. So ending thought. Stop worrying about the time and just worry about enjoying one another.
Studies have shown that the average length of sexual intercourse (hetero) is 6.5 minutes. I guess I have never been average! With my lovely bi wife, assuming time spent of foreplay is not considered, we usually fuck for at least 20-25 minutes. I should note that I take steps to make it last as long as I can before I cum. The exception to this is something I experienced several times when having FMF threesomes with some of our bi girlfriends. These ladies were all multiorgasmic and I adore that in a woman! When with two women or two men… Read more »
There is of course, no right answer. If we are talking about just anal sex, I have experienced guys who can be very satisfied after 10 minutes and another guy who could go for 2 hours. Truth be told, as a bottom I am good at 20-30 minutes. 2 hours was crazy, multiple orgasms without stopping, and an inability to walk for a day.
for me, it really varies! if you’re so horny, five minutes tops will suffice. i had an experience that we played for two hours coz we’re trying to cum but we both didn’t give up. lol! we even went to relax in the bath tub and came back to bed until we came. yes!
good thing we didn’t have other things to do and had time to enjoy it.
Best sex for me was 3 hours on a Saturday afternoon on my bedroom floor. Getting pound deep and hard by a beautiful 11 inch dick while enjoying 2 fresh bottles of poppers.
I have never done poppers,,, please tell me what it does for bi and gay guys please
OMG I love poppers. Makes every aspect of sex crazy good. From kissing, to nipple play, oral and anal. Topping with poppers not so good until your are really ready to nut and have driven your bottom crazy. He can popper his brains out while you watch him shake and shudder. Fantastic visual and if he can hold out with the actual cum you can make it a mutual thing and then a hit of poppers is a total ORGAZM! I’m fond of lots of popper foreplay but love, just love, having my nipples worked good while being sucked and… Read more »
Have tried poppers because a good offered them. They did nothing for me. Then I researched their safety. I won’t be trying them again. But it’s your choice to use them or not.
If either of us can still get it up then keep going until we’re both drained.
With ED pills, I think 4-5 hours with a couple of breaks and lots of cuddling and kissing and nibbling but of course more of the intercourse
Have the best sex you can have as often as you can get it. Stop overthinking
at least 45 minutes but prefer over an hour. some of my favorite lasted about 2 hours.
I agree that you shouldn’t put a numeric value to it. Sometimes things are great & you take your time…while others are shorter.
If you put a time to it, you’re going to wonder what’s wrong if you don’t reach that measurement. If you go over, then you wonder if your time amount is too low….but reverts back to the former issue if you don’t reach that mark.
I’m big on long sex sessions that include an emotional connection. It can include talking, laughing, making out, some oral, flipping and sometimes multiple orgasms. Memorable sex is with someone who wants to pleasure you as much as you do, them. I love receiving multiple cum loads and having a partner stay inside me for a while after he cums, including; lying together, feeling tantric pulsing, touching, half-sleeping, soft talk, etc. Long sessions are wonderful. I think it is the difference between simply objectifying someone for a quickie, or about a caring and curiosity about who the guy next to… Read more »
2 mins in a “tearoom”, 2 hours in the bedroom, 2 days in a hotel/motel room (break for housekeepers and maids though)