Have you ever been into an open relationship, guys? If so, how was it for you and your partner? Did it work out? Are you still together? If you haven’t yet, would you enter into an open relationship? Why or why not?
We are asking because we stumbled upon a thread discussing this topic, the original poster (OP) asked the gay men on Reddit for advice. He said that his sex drive is “super high” while his boyfriend’s is “extremely low” and it’s gotten to the point to where all they do is “maybe jerk off together occasionally.”
He reiterated that his boyfriend is not cheating, and that he won’t cheat either which is why he will talk to his boyfriend about opening their relationship first. He explained that he is “such a physical person and am definitely needing more than what I’m getting.” Further, he added that he has no emotional desire to be with anyone else but his boyfriend and that “everything else is great.”
Lastly, he said, “So I guess what I’m asking is, how did you keep your relationship together with one person open? And the other not? Or how does it work for you guys?”
One of the readers admitted that he is in an open relationship with his boyfriend; that he is on the same boat as he has a lower sex drive compared to his partner. He agreed to let his partner see other people sexually as long as it does not interfere with their relationship. The aforementioned reader offered him an advice, saying that “trust is key.” He added:
<blockquote>Explain that you are a more sexually active person than he is and that’s okay, but it might be better to open the relationship in order for both partners to feel comfortable staying together. Being honest with each other about the implications of this openness while communicating thoroughly while it occurs is the key to making it work.</blockquote>
Another reader, however, has a different opinion. He said that it’s “very hard to successfully go from a monogamous relationship to an open one, especially when the motivation for the change is a mismatched sex drive.” He also cautioned the OP that his “partner is all but guaranteed to feel like he’s not good enough for you.” Further, he suggested, “If this mismatch is sufficient to lead you to consider fucking someone else, it’s probably a better (and less cruel) idea to simply end the relationship.”
Meanwhile, another reader said that communication is the key: “Communicate, communicate, communicate. Don’t lie, don’t hide anything and listen to your partner’s concerns.” He elaborated, “It’s about you and your partner.”
Having said all that, what about you, guys? Have you ever been into an open relationship? What advice would you give OP? What would make you agree to open your relationship? Share with us your thoughts and stories in the comments section below!