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Hey, guys! Previously, we asked you whether you prefer kinky sex or vanilla.
Simply put, kinky sex is when you enjoy kinks like role-playing, power dynamics, or fetishes. Of course, it bears noting that not only should the activity be consensual but also there should be “direct communication between partners about desires and limits to make sure that it is a pleasurable experience for everyone involved.” This means that talk about boundaries, safety and comfort should be made as some activities like “slapping, whipping, or bondage” can be “dangerous” and painful. Read more about it in detail here.
Meanwhile, vanilla sex is defined by the urban dictionary as “sex that involves no twists or kinkiness, and no S&M. Basically plain regular sex. Typically sweet and happy and very lovey-dovey.”
Naturally, our readers’ answers to the question above vary. Some of you said they are in the middle, that they enjoy a bit of both, while others are into kinks like bondage. Others are into a range of fetishes but there are also some of our readers who are vanilla all the way. Read their answers here.
Having said all that, are there any kinky sex ideas you want to try or recommend to our other A4A blog readers? The gay men on Reddit have weighed in on the topic and here are some of their answers, we quote:
- “Outdoors sex, in the open, not in public view.”
- “Sex slaving for a day”
- “Being blindfolded and tied down and just letting your bottom do whatever he wants to your dick to get you off. (Suck, jerk, ride). Especially if he edges you.”
- “A good spanking!”
- Foursome
- Double penetration
What about you, guys? Do you have any kinky sex acts that you want to try at least once? Share with us your thoughts and stories in the comments section below!
Being blindfolded and having multiple guys take turns sucking me, then fucking the winner.
He who cums first wins , right. Lol
My fantasy is to host a full blown orgy. I’m getting things set, so hopefully in a month of two it will happen.
a full blowing orgy with hot cum and SKEET flyin all over the damn place, honey! WOOT WOOT WOOT!! i can see you soakin wet from all that hot man protein drips!
where are you located, I would love and invite
West central Louisiana
HHHHHHMMMMMMM…… I’ve been thinking of this for a while now. These are some of my favorite things;
Want to be put in chastity cage and teased
Want to be edged
Want to get slow sloppy head (edging too)
Want to get caught doing/wearing /being something and spanked for said punishment.
Want to dress sexy and be a bottom
Edging doesn’t seem like a fetish to me, just good sex.
yes i agree, edging is just another form of masturbation taken up a notch or two, honey
“Want to be put in chastity cage and teased”
honey baby this line kinda remind me of “Jungle Love” by The Time .. “i .. wanna take ya to a cage .. lock ya up .. then hide the key .. (oh wee oh wee oh) .. you .. only get wilder babe .. cuz if you hungry, you take a bite of me .. (oh wee oh wee oh) .. “
Not sure if it’s a “kink” or not, but I want to be used by three guys at once; I have a few different versions of how that looks, but being DP’d while having a dick in my mouth is right up there at the top of the ol’ fantasy bucket list. Being the “guest of honor” at a Bukkake party is also right up near the top too. Unfortunately the realities of day-to-day life don’t necessarily allow for opportunity to enjoy such fantasies, but if eeeeever I have the chance……………..
i gotta crazy leg fetish, does that count as kinky ya think, honey?
yea, thanks for the NEGATIVES, guys .. LOL
Double fuck, being a sex slut, outdoor, maybe in public on a gay beach, doing porno
My number one fantasy would be a huge bareback gangbang while in a sling or tied up on a fuckbench at a bathhouse. I’ve done it with four or five guys ..all with condoms, but I would love to do it with a few dozen nice looking and extremely hung guys..all raw. I don’t know if I’ll ever do it, (trying to be safe and all) but it is the number one fantasy I’ve had all my life.
Sounds awesome!!
The Bathhouse bench will be a satisfier for your fantasy. Hit me up you need cock there.
As many mouths/tongues and cocks as possible sucking, feeding and probing and fucking my holes. I think it would take seven guys to fulfill this fantasy.
I would love to be out in a sling and fucked BB by a roomful of guys and they all deposit their load in me. I would love to try being DPed sometime too. Pretty much anything that involves multiple partners. I also think being tied and up and blindfolded with the group of guys having their way with me would be hot too. I have a weak spot for BBC too.
have you ever had a big black cock.. I have…. his name was Ike, 10×7. the first time he fucked me I though it would rip my gut open… after about 6 months of stedy fucking I finally got used to his big dick
As a matter of fact, yes! Many times! Most recently was 3 nights ago! Nice cock (8.5 x 6+) and really knows how to use it. Masterful at running and sucking me too! I wish we could get together more often. Yes, I know that ripped open feeling! Once I relax and get used to him, it feels amazing. I finally took him all the way in my mouth this time. I was determined!
I discovered i could suck myself at an age that was rather early, what’s the name of that convenience store all over California? Mom had a yoga book and some of the guy’s poses were too potentially nasty to not try. some observations over the 10 years i did it, your dick isn’t getting the pleasure from yourself sucking it, that it would by someone else’s mouth on it, what i did get off on was seeing how i smelled and tasted, the knowledge that i was doing this somewhat rare ability, the visual trip of it. Everyone takes everything… Read more »
I really enjoyed your post and envy you. I’m 62 now but in my late teens thru early 20s I tried many times to suck my own. On a couple of occasions I could just barely lick the tip of my dick – it got so frustrating and I eventually gave up. One time I contorted myself so much so that some drips of blood came out of my dick – freaked me out but no harm or injury thankfully. Now at 6’4, 220 and about 35 lbs. heavier than in my teens-20s, but still pretty fit, there’s no way… Read more »
I used to try when I was a teen. This was long before I realized that I had any attraction towards men. I used to be able to get the tip in a little, but never enough to really suck myself off. Well into my 30s I used yo like to throw my legs back over my body and point my cock at my mouth and shoot my load in it. I still eat my cum sometimes when I’m feeling really depraved.
AWESOME, had two friends who saw take own into mouth but not real sucking, just to show could, was so envious. One could even do when flaccid, sitting in tube on lake, he was super hung, always wanted to suck him but he never would allow.
would love to bottom for a gang bang
Same here!
My fantasy is to forget completely about monkey pox and other STDs and get covered in blisters!
I want to be fucked bareback by 3 or more guys (if can be more would be better) 50 years old or plus. If any of them is under 50, need to be fatty or trans. I want all the loads balls deep in my ass. I can suck them after cum to make them hard again. Ethnicity, body, size, pretty or ugly doesn’t matter. Well, that’s my favorite fantasy, dreaming it’s free.
I would love that same thing but will all guys in their 20s and 30s.
hippo butt sex
I have long wanted to get soapy with a guy in a shower and hold his cock as he pisses. And then just enjoy his wet slippery body all over mine
That sounds hot. I remember old girlfriends that held my cock as I pissed. Was pretty cool.
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Shower time is a great place to start with a first time partner! Safe. Fun. Let’s you get to inspect and know each other. Take the lead and dry the new guy off instead of just tossing him a towel. More time for inspection and fun before you hit the bed.
Good for long term buds too!
I like to piss inside a tight ass while I fuck
Some guys like that. Some like being pissed on anywhere or just certain places. All’s good if the guys are onboard with the concept ahead of the pissing.
Urine is full of bacteria, not safe.
Generally speaking…urine is not full of bacteria; urine is generally sterile. However, whatever bacteria there is, is usually contained in the the “First-Morning-Void” and that is the urine that is not advisable to drink. Remember, the bladder is both a depository and a repository and the “First-Morning-Void is urine that has been deposited – throughout-the-night – and held – throughout – nocturnal slumber! Upon wakening, the urine is quite concentrated and it isn’t just a multiplicities of bacteria; It is also minerals If someone has an infection, within the kidneys, liver, pancreas, bladder, prostate, testicles, urethrae or is taking toxic… Read more »
Mmmm! Never had that done to me, but I always wanted a guy to be pissed in my tight bussy! It’s like next level heighten sexual experience for me. I’m so turned on just thinking about it lol.
Try holding it inside until you can’t take it any longer.
I’ve done that and had him push the piss and cum out on my dick mand ball. He also loved swallowing slowly to drink!!!!
IMO, Man on man sex by definition is kink
Feeding a guy on his rim seat, having him li k me semivclean then breed my ass with nothing but my unwiped ass for lube, alm while totally in the clouds on booze and maximum impact. That or having someone douche me to his satisfaction with a shower shot or a colonic then riming me and breeding me and having several guys breed me after adding to the baby batter in my manpussy. Maybe all done in a public bath house
Based on responses, group sex is a want. Prior to Covid and Monkeypox, two of my buds would schedule parties. They were great! All with guys the buds knew and had had fun safe play with. The buds would schedule a date several weeks in advance so invitees could “Save the Date!”. Each invitee could add one guy to the list. These new guys had to be someone they’d played with at least a couple of times to ensure they were safe, sane, and understood basic hygiene. The new guys also had to have a profile on a major site… Read more »
Yeah, a party like that sounds really hot! I would want to have so many loads fucked into me that I’d be dripping cum for days! I would love to be used at one of those parties. Throw me up into a sling, maybe even restrain my hands and then take turns with my ass and my mouth. A world without diseases would a great way to facilitate this happening!
Overt & Rick: I think this almost leads to a separate blog topic: “If the world were free of STDs, how much farther would you go than you do today?” As for group sex in the real STD (and now monkeypox)-haunted world, I remember being part of a 7-man orgy in the early 2000s. The “boldest” things I did were to suck 2 cocks at once and make out with 2 guys at once. Even when a gang-bang took place and one top guy pulled out and said to me “you’re next,” I got real excited but declined – just… Read more »
Two problems with that: it will never be without diseases, and, do you want to be all “fucked-out” at an early-ish age? Maybe that’s why older men are more into such things, it seems, because it doesn’t matter anymore?
I only meant that as pure fantasy, nothing beyond that.
I only imagine groups with either three or four Arab guys, or in a meditational sort of setting, but as I would have to be attracted to everyone, it would have to be by invitation, and not some random gathering. My friend went to some such “class/workshop” and immediately felt violated.
Hard to pin down a specific kink. Been to a number of orgies, had a few guys fuck me BB (I’ve fucked a few guys that way as well). Been DP’d as well as being one of the two cocks inside an ass. I’ve pissed in a guy while fucking him, had lots of outdoor sex, been tied up as well as tie up a guy. Only thing I’ve not done is have a threeway with an actual father & son. It was supposed to happen but Covid hit and ruined that chance. It was all to be bareback and… Read more »
In my early 60s now and having been with a few hundred guys since my first at 18, I feel like I’ve accomplished close to all my desired sexual conquests that may or may not be considered kinky: aggressive sloppy rimming, spit-roasting, groups/orgies, and fucking (top & bottom) just about every conceivable position. Those are about as “out there” as I’ve ever desired, but there’s one seemingly incredible sexual act – and again, I’m not sure it would be considered kinky or not – that remains on my bucket list: to be fucked by a top while I fuck a… Read more »
I’ve been spit-roasted, but would also love to be in the middle of a fuck train like you described! Love the addition of the face fucker while that is going on too!
Rick: I once viewed a porno with a 5-man fuck train. Absolutely blew my mind and I was fixated on the look on the faces of the 3 guys in the middle who were getting it in both directions. Whole thing literally took my breath away!
This will sound very vanilla but I would love a man to seduce me, resist him until I see him getting hard and give in to his kisses. Then allow him to do what he likes including fucking in a sling. Spend the night and fuck all night long.
I would love to walk into a room and see it full of clothed guys. Be told to strip naked and put on some lingerie, cock cage and turned into a sissy. Lay on my back with my legs spread and feel them all grouping me and watch them all pull out their cocks. Of course I would want to reach out and help them stroke, suck any and invite them to fuck my pussy. No condoms, just pure raw sex making me into a sissy. Then I want them to bring in my wife to expose my sissy side… Read more »
I think role play would be the most fun, being other characters in other situations.
My bi wife and I have done quite a bit over the years with bi and gay men. Some of my bucket list items are to ave get sex with a FTM trans that is cute and has a perfect pussy. I’d also like to have a man be in the middle and fuck her as I take his ass from behind with my big cock!
I want to try outdoor sex
I want to be a restrained sub slut for a group of rough DOM tops. I fantasize about being tied up, bent over a sawhorse, not being able to move…forced to suck cock and getting fucked until everyone is done with me.
2nd fantasy is to have a DOM top master that sluts me out to his friends
Swapping cum kissing
My ultimate fantasy would be to be be handcuffed to a bed in the woods where Men cruise! I would be dressed as a complete slut and all the Men would cum use me as they please! A good 24 hours would be awesome but if it went to extra innings, I wouldn’t complain! All that piss, cum, spit and completely using and abusing me would be so wonderful!
I’ve had sex outdoors, in park restrooms and even under stall at a home improvement store. Been pissed on, rimmed ass and sucked toes.Would still like to be spit roasted, be in a bukkake, have a superchub sit on my face.
I’m going for some role play; Roy Rogers and Trigger
imagination flowing
But who’s the bottom?
Well, afterall, Trigger was a palomino. And any Palomino is a Pal-O-Mine_O
I would love to be Dom by two muscle men hairy is plus. If they are in a jock strap. Big thick cock with big loads of cum. Make me their ho.
Juvenile yearnings from the misbegotten!
Imaginations running amuck…without rhyme or reason!
Externalizations afforded though modern technologies of anonymity!
Ah, the vicissitudes of aging and absentness!
Must be great to work for A4A. You can spend your whole workday reading material that just about everywhere else would be “NSW.” You’d not be fired and probably prompted to find more!
Hugs & Kisses!
To clarify, I meant anyone who works for A4A, not you in particular.
Darling!
It isn’t the “Pay-By-The-Hour”! that makes working for “A4A” beneficial!
It is the “Fringe-Benefits”!
A ten man bukkake, on my knees sucking off the best collection of super shooters I could find. I’d want an equally cock hungry wingman to help harvest and share all that spooge.
Kinky sex…hmm, so many menu options. Number 1 for me is being bred and spit-roasted by a group of 5 or 6 guys. Two guys is fun, but 5 or 6 would be video worthy. Number 2 would be to get what I call a piss enema. After getting bred and a top emptying his balls in me, I want to feel him empty his bladder too…just for that feeling of warmth. Number 3 is a variation of #1 – this time I want to be restrained while 5 or 6 guys take turns on my ass. Restrained, on my… Read more »
Definitely getting fucked outdoors, in private. A threesome indoors or out would be hot as well.
I like and would love to explore rape play more
What does DL mean?
DL is a derogatory label used by The Community for men who have sex with men, but do not Come Out publicly as Gay. The have sex “on the Down Low”, hidden. They reserve their sexuality for only those they feel need to know. Similar to the also derogatory label “In the Closet.”
I don’t see DL as derogatory.
DL should have my picture beside it,,, I’m married and to family and friends I’m the straighest guy they know,,,,,but what they don’t know is I live Anutha lifestyle,,,, I enjoy being with men,,,, I’m a submissive bottom that enjoy getting fucked suckin dick,,,, I love to feel a man’s hands on my body, I enjoy making a top feel like a real man should,,,,all behind closed doors on he Down Low,,,,
The kink that I shared the other day did not make it past the censors, so I’ll rewrite it a different way.
I would like to have group sex with men who are in uniform of German officers during the world war of mid-1900s. Because I am both dom and sub, I would like to have a fuckfest with them, and to do piss play as well. The turn on is that these men dominate me, then I dominate them to submission. Is my kink too extreme for this site?
Mine would be strapping someone very well endowed to a bed or chair and edging them for a good 3-4 hours with toys, sucking, handjobs
Let me preface this by mentioning that I’m bi and love pussy as much as I love cock. I’ve been in three and foursomes, but it was always just guys. I’d like to have at least a threesome with either a guy and a girl, or with two girls.
Get fucked somewhere in the great outdoors (with some degree of privacy).
Relax on a nude beach & do some bare assed fooling around.
Walk in, drop my pants & go at it with a totally anon guy.
I am sexually submissive and would like for a black dom to use me for sex. He could pimp me out to other black men for 1 on 1 sex, threesomes or group sex. Basically, I would love to be a sex slave for black men.
I always had one fantasy lodged in my brain that I could never seem to shake. I always wanted to be a sort of a slave. I want to arrive at a house where there are several guys having a party. As soon as I arrive the host would strip me. The only thing I would be left wearing was my chastity cage, buttplug, knee high socks and maybe a jockstrap. Then the host would handcuff and blindfold me and lead me into a room where I would be forced to give blow jobs to all the party goers. After… Read more »
I would love to be outdoors not public view with a group of hot men who are all sucking and fucking and trading partners, kissing guys after they swallow multiple cum
In a world where theres zero std’s. Id love to be bound, blindfolded and gang banged taking dozens of loads internally.
Or taking 3 at the same time. Dp’d from the back and one in the mouth
I wanna be mutually in love with another man again, making love at night under the stars on a beach by a campfire.
would love to be used in a sling , Have my ass Ripped open also would like to go to a Bath House
Being blindfolded and having multiple guys take turns fucking me
Being DL and married I have limited time to spend with my top,,,but when I am with him he puts me in panties and a tank top witch I enjoy,,it makes me feel sexy and the panties and tank top keeps his dick hard,,, but I really would love to spend a weekend away with him and dress in sexy things ,,,and I would love to get fucked without a condom and let him bust nuts inside me all weekend