Have you ever experienced this, guys, a painful anal sex? Moreover, are you a top or a bottom?
Anyway, we are bringing this up because we stumbled upon this thread on askgaymen wherein the original poster (OP) asked:
Is anal supposed to hurt (for tops)?
So, I’m a top and I just tried anal for the first time. My bottom rode me and he seems to have enjoyed it but for me it felt like my penis was being crushed and it wasn’t stimulated at all.
Is this normal?
Here are some of the answers that this question generated: “It can be if it’s not done correctly. Gotta find a position that’s comfortable for the both of you and comfortable for your cock.” Another guy replied, “He was probably going too hard, lol. I don’t really enjoy it when someone rides my dick, but it depends.”
One guy replied in jest, “Tell him to go easy on you. It’s not a pogo stick, it’s attached to me.”
Meanwhile, another guy advised, “Step one, you get on top and control the thrusting and speed. Learn what you like and then you’ll know to impart that knowledge to your partner. Personally, I hate being ridden like that.” You can read the entire thread here.
Having said all that, yes, it’s as the guys above had said: anal sex can hurt. The good news is that it doesn’t have to be. Apart from the aforementioned advice, and on top of going slow and easy, here are some of the things that you can do to make anal sex enjoyable for you and your partner:
- Communicate – it’s important that you and your partner talk and prepare if you want the experience to be fun and enjoyable. Talk about what you want: speed, positions, do you have other concerns? Etc.
- Use lubes, and lots of it – there are many kinds, and you can find some here if you ran out of it. The anus doesn’t self-lubricate but lubes make penetration easier, thereby resulting to a safer and much pleasurable anal play. Using it reportedly “reduces the risk of skin tears, in turn lowering the risk of infection.”
- Condoms – As aforementioned, the anus doesn’t self-lubricate so there might be accidental tears, and unprotected anal sex also puts you both into higher risk for sexually transmitted infections (STIs) like Hepatitis B, gonorrhea, chlamydia, and HIV to name a few.
- Sex toys – they are a good way to start. Tops can help their bottom ease into anal play with the use of sex toys. And the good news is that whether they are butt plugs, prostate massagers, or anal beads, you can find them here.
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Anyway, going back to the original question at hand, have you ever experienced a painful anal sex, guys? Share with us your thoughts and stories in the comments section below!