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Have you ever been in a long-distance relationship, guys? If so, how did that work out for you?
For those who have yet to experience it, would you enter into a long-distance relationship? If yes, what do you think are the things that you can do to make it work? On the other hand, if your answer is no, then why not?
Some gay men think long-distance relationships are not for them. A gay man on Reddit, for instance, said, “Honestly? I hate long distance, so I don’t think it’s worth it. That said, it becomes more tolerable if you’re not monogamous.”
Conversely, another user thinks that distance is not a hindrance when it comes to love. He said, “Think about it, if you love someone distance is never a problem. Love is Love.”
Meanwhile, another user advised:
Hi, you mentioned you love him, so that is a strong motivator to consider the idea of long distance. When I was early 20s, I dated a guy for several years long distance because I was finishing up grad school and couldn’t move. During the time we were dating, we always had a plan for how we would eventually move closer to one another. IMO, it’s important to think about the reality of how / when you can eventually be closer to one another. Given that reality, think about if you are willing to make that sacrifice. Good luck.
Going back to our initial question, can long-distance relationships work?
The answer is yes, though of course, like any other kind of relationships, it requires hard work. Time Magazine interviewed several experts who dished out secrets about how to make relationships go the distance.
Some of the factors they cited included: being committed to the relationship, staying connected with the help of the technology, doing stuff together even though you’re apart, and setting an end date to name a few. The last one meant it is imperative the couple understands that their long-distance setup is temporary. They must have an understanding that “eventually you probably want to be in the same place as your partner.” Read the article in full here.
Having said all that, would you enter a long-distance relationship? Why or why not? Perhaps you have already tried it? Whatever the case is, please share with us your thoughts and stories in the comments section below.
Given Human Nature…
“out-of-sight”; “out-of-mind.” It takes tenacity, good faith and a willingness to stay-the-course to maintain and manage a long-distant relationship.
There is, always, someone for someone, so there is, always, the distinct possibility that the “Proverbial Blue Bird” can be found right in your own backyard.
It does defy logic to engage in a long, distant relationship…as Love-is-where-you-find-it and love can be found anywhere, at anyplace and at anytime.
Allow the Brain to regulate the Heart and not allow the brain usurped by the heart… .
I’ll be brief, NO,NO,NO,NO,NO, NO,NO,NO,NO,NO,NO,NO,NO,NO,NO,NO,NO,NO,NO,NO,NO,NO,NO,NO,NO,NO,NO,NO,NO,NO, and HELL NO!
Just seems like it never works out, through my personal experiences it’s a colossal waste of time, energy and effort…
But l do appreciate those hot assed Russian twinky bois 7K miles away winking at me.
No
“Can long distance relationships work?”
In theory: Yes. In reality: No.
None of those I’ve attempted lasted longer than 3 months. Then again, I can’t even find a LOCAL relationship.
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I think it depends upon the two individuals regarding a long distance relationship. If both individuals are preparing to live together and it is decided where they will relocate to, both individual know that eventually they will be together. All you must do is improve your technology and be together virtually. During the Pandemic one had to know how to do things virtually and make adjustments pertaining to your house and network. This was a Wake Up Call for Americans. In actuality, One of my Strongest assets was distant learning however, I never realized it. Now that I am older… Read more »
Honestly it does not work at all, is fun it feels good you both enjoy that emails and some sex subject and get you dreaming but that is about it!. I firmly live in the real world, too old to be dreaming of something it wont happen. yes it takes a lot of work but practically it does not work,, so NO .
I’ve been in two long-distance screw-ups- I mean “relationships”. First was USA to Japan; we were together before he got a job over there. Next thing I know he wanted me to sell everything, quit my job and move to Japan. Because it would be illegal for me to get a job once there I would have ended up being a Japanese housewife. Really? My career and home meant nothing to HIS new career. Obviously it didn’t work. Second screw-up was Ohio-Illinois. Spent a lot of $$ on plane tickets. Next thing I know he’s telling me one thing and… Read more »
Long distance relationships can work, but the odds are not in their favor. If monogamy (100% emotional and sexual) is required, that can work if the partners have a proven track record and a high level of commitment. But that is more of a modeling after heterosexual relationships. And gay men, in general, aren’t there or anywhere even near it. If the partners’ relationship is open sexually, that improves the odds. Sex for many gay men is more recreational than an act of love commitment. The partners are comfortable with having sex with someone other than their partner or often… Read more »
This topic is NOT an “one-size-fits-all” matter. The above comment by M. d’Espirit lays out the parameters which need honestly to be evaluated. Many famous relationships of history have been maintained by letter-writing, back in the ages before cell phones, computers, telephones, tele-types, telegraphs, and electricity. Obviously, times change and new times bring new opportunity, such that one’s understanding of even the meaning of the term “long distance relationship” itself has changed. Obviously, the opportunity to have a physical union of love with the “boy next door” is much greater if he actually lives next door rather than half a… Read more »
Distance is no more a deal breaker for love than other factors some believe are hindrances to love (like race, religion, having similarly proportioned height and weight, etc.) True love endures by overcoming “hindrances.” Sex per-se, not love, is doomed by hindrances, and by whims! The only thing that kills any relationship, is when one or both put nothing into it. Like a campfire keeps on burning only if you keep on putting more wood in for fuel–a relationship will likewise die when nothing is put into it. That is the love terminator, not distance.
Long distance relationships never work
NO.!! It’s impossible enough to keep a gay man faithful when you’re watching him….
You can tell in this thread who is thinking critically and who is simply drawing from their experience. Just because it HASN’T worked for one person doesn’t mean it will not work for anyone. Needs to be evaluated on a case-by-case basis and both sides need to strongly consider the matter and come to an agreement, and even then, it’s not a guarantee to work. Not guaranteed to fail, so long as there is some plan to end the “long distance” part of it.
YES!! Best relationship I ever had was long distance. We loved each other and the distance made our time together really special. None of that day-to-day petty annoyance stuff that kills too many relationships.