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Hey, guys! Today, we would like to take the time to remind you that Adam4Adam has a no bullying policy. Here on A4A, everybody can be who they truly are, whether they are fem, thicc, slim, hairy, with stretch marks or breast implants, without beard or muscles and if someone tells you otherwise, we encourage you to report that user.
But how do you report your bullies here on A4A? On the person’s profile, you’ll find the button “report this user;” simply click on it and provide us with details about the bullying incident so that we can investigate and take the appropriate action. We’ll either warn this person or suspend their account depending on the severity of their offense and yes, we do that, it’s not just a lip service.
It’s 2019 and the LGBT community has had enough of bullying already. Online and in real life, people are tired of being someone they are not. They are tired of being body shamed because their body is not perfect like the ones shown in the magazines; they are deemed “too fat,” “too thin,” “too fit.” They are tired of being laughed at for their gender identity or sexual preferences, tired of being described as someone who lacks “MASCulinity” or that they are being “wayyyyy too FEM.” And guess what, A4A is tired of it, too, so let’s all stop bullying and let’s stop the bullies together—you’re just a click away from making it happen.
Bullying has no place here on Adam4Adam, that’s not what we stand for. We always strive to create a fun, welcoming, and a safe place for you to be—to foster a sense of community for all here on A4A.
We love you, guys!
Have you ever been bullied online and in real life because of your body type, race, disability, etc.? Share with us your thoughts and stories in the comments section below.
I agree that bullying is bad. But the definition of bullying has become way too broad. If I say that I am only into masculine guys and not into fems or twinks, does that mean that I’m bullying fems and twinks? Absolutely not! Everyone is allowed to have opinions, likes, and dislikes. Everyone is so sensitive these days. Oops, there I go again. That’s probably considered bullying against sensitive people. Jeez! SMH!
You need to seriously self-reflect and examine WHY you think you are only into masculine men. This is not a “preference” that you are born with out of the womb. Being attracted only to masculine guys is something that is learned, and you learn it through movies, advertisements, porn, etc. You are seriously limiting yourself by being close-minded and not even giving guys of other personality traits a chance. For years, it has been fem guys who are disproportionately rejected/ignored/affected by this “preference.” So no, people are not being overly sensitive. They are finally holding people accountable for their narrow-minded… Read more »
How awesome of you to decide what another person is attracted to! You probably tried to stop the lady down the street from having an abortion too. Another place you have no opinion. Opinions are like assholes, everyone has one and everyone thinks everyone else’s stinks. You stink sir!
Bull Uh Mo , you are s shmo. ! Biology came long before your brainwashed non-sense. Bullying is not text, there is no text that can hiet you. Its all bull
I could be 35 and a 28 yr old says I’m too old.
Old and older shaming is just as bad.
Only emotional immature Adults need someone to defend them from words
Well, isn’t that the pot calling the kettle black…or, black-ish. First — I’ve read when you were insulting and self-aggrandizing in responding to some of those commenters who didn’t agree with your blog’s point-of-view. Now, I wouldn’t classify what you said as “bullying,” but it sure showed a lack of respect and a near Trump-like need to be unquestionably “right”. (FYI: as a former columnist in print and on-line, I was trained not to care what anyone thought of my work. Because in expressing my truth, any act of belittling those who didn’t agree made it really only about my… Read more »
Well said, I’ve also put up with childish comments from a commenter here when I stated my opinion of men in underwear running around at some pride celebration as what the non gay community see as the stereotypical gay male community.
Trump -like ? You have no clue what Trump is like , you are just another Mindless Democrat hypocrite who thinks Nazis are Conservatives .
Unbeleivably how uneducated some gay people are and still they spew self righteousness without rytme or reason
As usual with this sort of thing, feelings are on the forefront, but specifics are lacking. Is saying “sorry, not my type” okay? What about “sorry, not into hairy guys”? What about “sorry, not into fem guys”? The last one seems to be exactly what you are talking about in your post, but is it wrong to say that you aren’t into characteristics of people that the openly label themselves as? What about “Sorry, I am only into thin smooth twinks”? Is that fat shaming someone? Should I just ghost people instead? How does that make the community any better?… Read more »
You need to seriously self-reflect and examine WHY you think you are only into certain types of men. This is not a “preference” that you are born with out of the womb. Being attracted only to a certain type of guy is something that is learned, and you learn it through movies, advertisements, porn, etc. You are seriously limiting yourself by being close-minded and not even giving guys of other body types and personalities a chance. For years, it has been fem guys who are disproportionately rejected/ignored/affected by this “preference.” So no, people are not being overly sensitive or vague.… Read more »
If it’s Edward’s body and time and choice, then he is free to select what interests him. Forcing him to be attracted to types that don’t interest him accomplishes nothing other than help you justify your gender studies degree from community college. If he wants to limit his types to what pushes his buttons, that is his choice. You have no basis on which to shame him just because — let’s face it — you cannot deal with rejection. None of you are a ‘type’. You are all humans who were born with innate characteristics and body traits. Blame your… Read more »
There is nothing wrong with any statements that warrants exclusion . Readers have brains they dont need filteret charactures that mistepresent the persons wants or desires. Pkenty of that alteady added
No body shaming? Have you looked at your profile questions?!!
how about a no-whining policy?
LMAO good point
Too bad it’s only lip service in dealing with fake profiles
Adults can’t be bullied, and they shouldn’t be treated like children.
Dudes on A4A: Angry when you don’t respond to them.
Also Dudes: Angry when you tell them why you aren’t interested.
LOL
You forgot to add age shaming.
I’ve been bullied as a kid. As an adult, in the closet, I’ve been asked over and over to come out and make my sexuality known. Yes, it’s 2019 and wvwryong else has, but, not me. I’ve also been criticized because I’m too old, or have a gut on me or my older photo “can’t possibly be me”. Fortunately I’m strong enough to withstand this and strong enough to block a person if necessary. What is bullying? Yes, there’s verbal bullying as I just described, but is this enough to get up on arms about? When did America get to… Read more »
A great policy. Bullying doesn’t belong anywhere.
Another thing to encourage here on A4A would be a little bet of courtesy.
Often you send a smile or a comment to someone here but it is never acknowledged in any way shape or form.
If there is no interest it will only take a second to respond “Thanks for the smile or comment, but no thanks.”
Then the sender knows, and hopefully will respect the fact that there is no interest and not contact you again.
KEM:
While an “Acknowledgement” is courtesy.” It isn’t a mandate. A contact is arbitrary and is one-way unless it receives a “response”.
A response is “Arbitrary” and it is not a mandate.
“Silence” is a response and it is factual.
LOL, I do agree I’ve said thanks but I’m not interested which makes them try harder for some reason and then I get mad
Have been courteous with the “Thanks for the smile or comment, but no thanks.” reply even when it specifically stated in my profile No one under 35, no “smiles”, and no reply to a blank profile, and get abuse from idiots who refuse to read a profile before replying then “they” get offended when you point out their inability to comprehend what they supposedly read.
if you don’t want smiles, turn them off. pretty easy to do.
for KEM: I agree with you.. I will also add that its apparent to me that most don’t even read the profiles! they see a “hot pic” and then send off a smile.. so I set up a TEST- I put my name and a simple instruction at the end of my profile to see if anyone follows it.. and only ONE person actually READ the profile! (I get many hits a day, usually but NONE of them are viable. My profile also explains things so that I don’t “waste others’ time” by them sending correspondence with intention to meet-… Read more »
“Often you send a smile or a comment to someone here but it is never acknowledged in any way shape or form.” The A4A site indicates when you smile or your comment was read (opened). If the receiver chooses to not smile back or send a comment back after opening (or chopses to not even open it), that is a clean response. They were, for whatever reason, not moved to smile or comment back. An expectation of a formal written response is on par with entitlement. Hey I agree, if the world was all butterflies and unicorns, responses would be… Read more »
How do you get bullied on here? Bullying is an ongoing process of harassment. Like kids in school do or a boss in a hostile work environment. But here if someone offends me I just block them. It only takes once.
Perhaps being inconsiderate or rude or offensive might be a more appropriate way to describe it? I can’t see how someone could get “bullied” on here unless they just continued to allow the offending person to contact them.
“being inconsiderate or rude or offensive”, even “offensive” is relative and that is considered bulling by the thin skinned perpetually offended these days.
Can we get more ridiculous? Online bullying is over the top. It’s freaking virtual! The people don’t exist unless someone wants a flame war. Get over it; just don’t respond. How difficult is that? Instead of being the class tattle tale, man the f**k up and ignore messages. This whole bullying thing plays to neurotics that have issues with reality. Running to teacher just feeds the whole arrested development syndrome. People need to grow up
In all due respect, I find this issue somewhat of a “Joke”. Why? Because its’ factual information/history, that Gays have been and can be some the most vicious human beings on the planet! LMAO:) And even Gays laugh among themselves “jokingly” about it all being true! In conclusion…..”Gays Do No Bully!” lol:):):)
I find this article to be hypocritical, disingenuous, and personally insulting and offensive. Twice this year, I have very clearly been referred to as a nigger, have reported both users, and both of those accounts remained active. On each occasion I reported the vile epithet and followed-up twice on each report. I received no replies to any of the four e-mails. I even asked which epithets comported with A4A standards; I received no reply to those inquiries either. The only communication I received was the general acknowledgement that’s automatically generated when “Report This User” is clicked. I may be biased… Read more »
Eric, please report when a user calls you such names. This is no longer tolerated. Also, make sure to block these users …
Eric
Youve found, as I have, that a4a is pretty much all lip-service, feigning interest yet doing nothing to curtail offensive behavior.
At least there is a “Block” option.
And really, that’s all one needs.
And regardless of one’s political bias, sex, lifestyle, etc no organziation, agency or government will really have an interest in you as an individual. The policies may look good on paper but really are in place to cover their own ass.
We need to look out for each other but are responsible for protecting ourselves.
That’s not true, I’ve reported two racist on here in the past and they were dealt with rather quickly.
Eric, My personal opinion to you is the following. Whenever someone uses the “N” word to you in the year 2019, they are mentally residing on a parallel universe! lol:) Eric, there is really no reason for you even to report such an entity, because in this day and age, one should just laugh and think to themselves…….. “Wow! THIS entity must definitely have permitted age to affect their thinking, causing them to have such limited thinking?” Eric, anytime that I have encountered two kids or several, walking by me on the streets, and they were primarily ALL of different… Read more »
I’ve been a member of a4a for over 15 years now. I’ve read all kinds of profiles and some are amusing and some are not. Take mine for instance, I’m not sexually attracted to young guys period. Does that make me a bully against young people? “Me thinks not”. That’s my prerogative and I will not change my disposition about that. Now……if that’s a problem for being a member on a4a, then maybe I should just delete my account and never be a member again.
why would it be considered bullying? I don’t get it…..
Freedom of speech allows you to be in business that’s worth remembering, that and there was a time when being gay was against the law, it didn’t change due to bullying.
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Is this norice that Adam is soon to join the Big tech takeover of the information distribution networks globallt. Are you also going to Ban free speach and assert your options as truth while denying access to others who think and offer contrary ideas. Free speach is virtuall gone throughout the internet; please dont feed is this Line of BS; we heard it before and we know it means only the leftist totslitarian bullies can speak