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Bisexual men exist! This is what bisexual men want us to know as the hashtag #BisexualMenExist trend on Twitter. They are neither confused nor greedy, they exist, they matter, and they are valid—these are just some of the messages that bisexuals and allies alike are tweeting. But why is it trending and why does it matter?
Apparently, Indian writer and blogger Vaneet Mehta’s encouraged the netizens to “drop a pic” and RT with the hashtag #BisexualMenExist in order to promote visibility and positivity. This happened after he read multiple biphobic tweets following an episode from Love Is Blind, a reality show in Netflix. Mehta tweeted that UK (it’s where he is from) is celebrating LGBT+ history month right now and that the negativity is killing him, and so, to counter these biphobic tweets, he enjoined everyone to “get some positivity out there.”
The biphobia towards Bi men recently has been so shit and honestly, in MY LGBT+ history month?! How dare! So I’m bring back #BisexualMenExist for some much needed positivity! Drop a pic below with the hashtag and RT this thread! Allies, also RT! I’ll start! 💖💜💙 pic.twitter.com/BYl1D2hzvV— Vaneet Mehta #20ThemTy 🌺 (@nintendomad888) February 24, 2020
Take a look at some of the responses to Mehta’s tweet below:
I'm co-editor of this anthology which holds the voices of 77 #bisexual men, age 20-77, who most definitely exist. Props to those who find the courage to come out & to live as out #bisexual men b/c there sure is a lot of #biphobia & ignorance out there.#bipride #BisexualMenExist pic.twitter.com/i7FmlIBwsv— Robyn Ochs (@robynochs) February 25, 2020
You're damned right #BisexualMenExist Glad to help represent this group, especially in the black community. #biphobia and #bierasure are real, but don't let them stop you from living out loud! https://t.co/C9kDdyqf77 pic.twitter.com/9w7eCVslWh— Terrence Dobbs (@terresaurus) February 25, 2020
Yes we exist and our legitimacy should NEVER ever have to be questioned. #BisexualMenExist pic.twitter.com/n8KNWMN4YK— Justin (@Jtheartist93) February 25, 2020
#BisexualMenExist This thread has been extremely validating…got some happy tears wellin' up 😂 A bit late to the party, but I've been increasingly accepting my being bi/pan and nonbinary (he/they), so there's no better time to come out and let the world know! 😁 pic.twitter.com/c0AOXnozZc— Jeffrey McGeehan (@DuelBlade5) February 25, 2020
It’s taken me a long time to understand who I really am. I fully embrace it! Joining this train to represent my community! #BisexualMenExist pic.twitter.com/z2iZKz1YlC— AJ Montgomery (@Aaijai13) February 26, 2020
Great to see #BisexualMenExist trend! 14% of bi men are out to everyone in their lives compared to 59% of gay men. You almost inevitably have bi friends/family that you think are hetero or gay. consciously stop saying biphobic and bi erasing things – show them they can trust you. pic.twitter.com/sQv8i56LpX— Sali Owen 🌈🌹 (@SaliWho) February 25, 2020
But why is it so important to raise the voices of bi people and to celebrate bisexuality?
According to Human Rights Campaign (HRC), biphobia and bi erasure cause bisexual people to “suffer significantly higher rates of depression and anxiety, domestic violence, sexual assault and poverty than lesbians, gay men or straight cisgender (non-transgender) people.” HRC added, “Bisexuals also face major health disparities and poor healthcare outcomes from a lack of adequate preventative care. The HRC Foundation’s study of bisexual youth suggests that biphobia and sexual harassment start affecting bisexuals at a young age.” To learn more about bisexuality, click here.
Here at Adam4Adam, we have users who are bisexuals, trans, and straight curious and everyone is welcome! If you ever experience biphobic and transphobic bullying here on A4A, we encourage you to report your bullies to us. Simply click on the “report this user” button which you will find on the person’s profile and provide us with the details of the bullying incident so that we can investigate and take appropriate action. As we have told you in our no bullying policy article which we posted last year, we’ll either warn this person or suspend their account depending on the severity of their offense.
Have a wonderful week ahead, guys! Let’s spread peace and love.
You can be bisexual all you want…doesn’t mean anyone wants or has to sleep you. This is nothing more than just whining because gay men don’t want to worry that one minute he wants them and next minute he wants a woman. How is that fair to openly gay men who only want a man who wants him and not his female best friend as well?! And bisexual men can’t understand this?
You it seems do not understand bisexuals either, you whine about bisexuals while whining about nothing yourself.
if he’s faithful, he will be with you. what about the stereotypes gay men get all the time? the one where he will cheat and go to orgy parties, bathhouse, etc.? c’mon now!
Bisexual men exist. It’s just the bigoted and intolerant gay men and bigoted and intolerant straight women who bully them and call them gay. Imagine that! Gays guilty of gay bashing. Gays guilty of hate speech.
Yup … Bi now, gay later
That’s just your bigotry talking.
Twitter is completely inane, I live my entire life paying zero attention to anything to do with it. So should you.
Your assessment of Twitter is my assessment of Facebook.
They give the otherwise invisible a forum to be seen and heard, within the confines, of a screen. Outside, the realities of their insignificance(s), renders them invisible and inconsequential; hence, their only recourse, is to pollute the internet, via, Twitter & Facebook, to stir-the-pot, safely and without consequences…unless, of course, their stupidity, comes obvious and they create a trail.
Stupidity, visibilizes the invisible, and the ramifications of their stupidity, becomes their condemnatory.
Notice the emphasis on being bullied. Whining about life seems to be the new thing. How the hell can an online bully be a bully? The internet powers that be love this stupidity. Erode rights behind ‘feelings’. If you’re bi, whatever. To each there own. But why does it have to be about being bullied? Are we supposed to stay in an emotional state akin to elementary school, complete with ‘I’ll Tell on You!” GTF over it; if someone threatens credibly IRL it’s assault. Online? Ignore the troll. Being bi used to be about not having to come Out, etc.… Read more »
Robert, I’ve been bullied here on this site. Some intolerant gays feel that we bisexuals are “draining the resources” (direct quote from a mo ron) that are for “Gay” men only. Interesting how some claiming to be discriminated against do a lot discrimination themselves, and yes you can be bullied in many ways, i.e., a moderator doesn’t agree with your opinion he simply refuses to post your comment (even though it’s sup[posed to be an open forum), hounded by idiots that don’t agree with your profile, constantly be attacked by idiots and their followers. Sorry but I have the fortitude… Read more »
Hey I was bisexual myself at age 12 with one foot out of the closet until I grew a backbone!! Now where’s that butt hurt report? You can’t legislate nor dictate the beliefs or preferences of others—at least for now—in ‘Murica’.
I’m all for accepting gay, trans, bisexuals, it really shouldn’t matter at all. People should be free to love whoever they want to love. But I have to give Adam4Adam the side eye… Last year when they were re-launching their website, they were looking for Adam4Adam users to be models. I submitted my pictures with me looking like a boy with long hair. I get a response back asking to see how I look in my every day clothes. So I send in the picture of me and feminine clothing, and I never heard from them again… keep in mind… Read more »
They also started catering to the younger crowd with the reboot and seem to not give two shits about members over 40. Notice all the models barely look legal, and the constant “Live Cams” are all very young men?
Thank you for a great topic that needs to be discussed. I’m bisexual and proud, but hate coming from all sides. Women think bisexuals don’t exist, we’re gay to them. It’s ok to be a bisexual woman, mainly because men often want to see them engaging in sex. Straight men tend to agree with the women. Gay men think we’re confusion and often want us to choose a side, which not how a bisexual man mind works. Speaking of mind this where it all starts. Some bisexuals are active in dating both at the same time. Some also only date… Read more »
The love is blind “character” was one of the worst examples of bad reality tv and being bi. He played the bi angle up to get as much drama as possible as and pretended he was so “honest” with himself and everyone, when he literally waited until after all the discussions and proposal. Also, that show seems to be totally fake in itself.
I assumed this hashtag was going to be related to something about that show. Reality tv isn’t reality people.
Wow but yet we have gay men liking str8 men.
Guys who present themselves as Straight have always been off limits for me. Sure, they’ll catch my eye, but I don’t fantasize over them. Gay guys are notorious for demanding everyone respect them for who they are, but then many are all too willing to chase Straight guys to the point of sexual harassment. Heckling, challenging, cajoling, teasing them, etc. There’s a disconnect there, a hypocrisy. Sure, there’s no foul in approaching any guy you’re attracted to, but if he says he’s Straight, he’s hands off. Anything else is disrespectful and a double standard.
That is true and to add to that, a straight guy, and I mean a 100% straight guy, not a DL is not going to have sex with a gay guy or a guy period regardless how the other identifies themselves, the same as any 100% gay guy will never have sex with a woman. Any so called str8 guy who does isn’t really str8 if he’s having sex with multiple guys and any gay guy who thinks he’s their first and only are highly delusional as the guy who can have sex with guys but still claim he’s str8.… Read more »
My definition of a Bisexual”
A Homosexual between-the-ears, but genitals that work, independently, of the brain!
Their rationale: “A hole by any other name…can still smell just as sweet; taste just as good and be just as tight”!
The thing that I dislike about men who claim they are bisexuals are the clout chaser and “when it’s convenient” bisexuals. What I mean by that is you have: -guys who are bisexual because some girls like guy on guy contact but won’t ever try to talk to another guy…. -or a guy who classified as bisexual but doesn’t like getting flirty compliments from guys nor talk to one… -or the “i only fuck women but I will never fuck with a guy or flirt with him” bisexual man…. -or the “my dick is only use for women not men“… Read more »
A lot of issues there. Let me go science on you. Kinsey research says that queer is a grey scale from 0 to 6. On one side, you’re all in for the same sex only. The other side is the opposite sex. But this is just one dimension. Another dimension is monogamy vs varying commitment levels to frequent promiscuity as in the gender of who you do your sex with. People get to own their own sexuality, even if it isn’t yours or mine. It is a basic fundamental component of their dignity. Another dimension is when and where you… Read more »
Great but it’s still inherently cheating by definition and in my book either low self-esteem or otherwise cheaters/bisexuals can abide by that without logical cognitive dissonance and or purport labels that are straight up in the misrepresentation of objective reality.
Hey why not throw soft fruit and goats in there—/!\__all inclusive and such, right? (& why stop there…?!)
One cannot be so open minded as to have one’s brainz come sliding out.
I do not care if you’re married man (bi curious) or Bisexual but Please used protection. Regards!
I am bi. I am not gay and confused. I am attracted to a person not to a gender. I love the way a man feels, the way he kisses, and especially a beautiful cock. And certainly the way a cock feels inside me. I love the way a woman feels, the curvature of her breast, the softness of her pussy. And certainly the way it feels inside her.
If someone has a problem with that, move on, and do your thing. Be upfront and do no harm.
AMEN! Well put.
Some people may have a problem with just half of that. What makes you think a gay man wants to hear about your love of tits, curves, and pussy? Why would a straight woman want to hear about you sucking hairy cock?
You can see it as all “one you” if you like but that doesn’t mean other people will follow suit.
Fact is, that “bi” ontologically does NOT exist as an *orientation*. What you call bi is simply a conjunction of hetero and homo. And sorry to say but not everyone is ok with their meat touching their potatoes.
Strange as this may seem, the most natural, drama-free, enthusiastic, friendly sexual relations I had were with bi guys, and indeed, the vast majority of my repeat encounters were with bi guys. Most of them were either learning and exploring, or expanding and fulfilling, the male side of their attraction. I felt real friendship, not just lust, with them. We had no drama because we were up front with everything, and I fully knew these would not become boyfriends (which I did not want at the time anyway). Because he can be attracted to anyone, when any of my bi… Read more »
Another well written comment from this member / writer. As bi-sexual myself, I can totally related to this. Well said.
I suspect you’re middle aged, possibly a little fem. Those are the only gay guys I’ve noticed raving about about bi guys and how “drama free” they are. The reason gay men are full of drama is because they are constantly thinking the grass is greener on the other side..hence their exaggerated sense of the superiority of bisexual identified men.. it’s a rare thing to experience. But let the novelty wear off and come back with your report. Lol