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Hey, guys! How many times have you had sex this week?
We are asking because a recent study conducted by the General Social Survey shows that more and more adult Americans are not having sex these days. To be exact, almost 40% said they didn’t have sex that week and around 37% said they didn’t have sex that month, while 1 in 4 or 23% of the male research participants revealed that they hadn’t had sex at all during the entire 2018.
The number is higher for men ages 18-30 at 28% but the sex drought is even higher for males who are 60 years old and up—according to the same study as cited by The Washington Post—which is around 50 percent.
Those numbers are helping drive a big shift in American sex-having habits: the number not getting laid is at a record high. Conversely, the number reporting sex weekly or more is on the decline. https://t.co/0aazxCijYP pic.twitter.com/n6htQQPBMB
— Christopher Ingraham (@_cingraham) March 29, 2019
The results of the study came as a surprise to many people considering today’s hookup culture. But how did couples fare?
A separate study said that in the first two years of the relationship, almost 70% of gay couples have sex three times or more a week while it is “50 percent for straight couples and about 33 percent for lesbian couples.” But the number dwindles the longer couples stay together. In fact, only 10% of gay couples who have been together for over 10 years have sex three times a week while it is “under 20% for heterosexual couples” and “about 1 percent for lesbians.” According to this article, the “statistics were gathered from various studies that took place from the late 1990s through 2011.”
How true is the result for you, guys, and where are you from? More importantly, how often do you have sex weekly, monthly? Share with us your numbers and stories below!
I’ve gotten to the point I’m hardly having sex at all. The last time might have been about 3 months ago.
same for me. I rather have amazing sex with someone I have a good mental and physical connection with than having random hookups.
I agree! That’s why I try to find someone regular for times that my wife is away and I can play.
I always had sex more than 4 times a week, and almost 20 times a month. Always horny
I am always horny, but I do not get nearly enough sex. If I am lucky I get it once a week.
I don’t remember the last time I had sex…and TBH, I don’t even remember the last time I masturbated…I wake up with a huge boner every morning..Sometimes, so hard I can’t pee until “he” calms down…and I’m always horny..I throw a bone in a heartbeat…But sex, just doesn’t seem that important..I just turned 60 and maybe that’s why, but I lived through friends dying, fucking my brains out, masturbating 4-5 times a day and still could but I’m like Dave..I’d rather have the connection now first…the teasing..wondering..play..then I think the sex would be awesome..However, I do still play on the… Read more »
You know, I think it is a thing that is happening to all of us that are getting older. I as soon have sex once in a while as all the time,but I want my guy around to share life with. As i am finding out a lot the time sitting and doing the romance thing with kissing it better a lot of the time then the act of sex it’s self. Know that person is there for you and there is a true feeling of love and not lust. Knowing i have someone to share life with not just… Read more »
I’d say at least half of my gay friends jack off / dildo themselves a LOT, so much that I don’t think that even want sex. That said, the ones who are fucking are getting some good several times a week. More if they’re all n a relationship
Thiago.
I have sex at least once a week, Sometimes 3 or 4.
So depends.
60`s Ole ChubbyBear from Brazil.
Once a week, mostly @ sauna.
After 4 strokes, times get hard 2 fuck + often…
Like some1 says once:
“So many Chubbies, so lil time !”
:-O
Every night and a few mornings. Can’t get enough and i just turned 47.
I’ve been with my wife for 16 years and it used to be 2-3x per day (no lie) for the first 2-3 years. Now I’m lucky if I get it once every 3 months! When she’s out of town and I can play, I tend to have sex almost every night – with usually the same guy. No matter the orientation, frequency of sex goes down as the time in relationship increases.
I forgot to mention that my drive is high and I will masturbate at least once a day – often playing with anal toys – when I’m not having sex with someone.
It is Tuesday and I have had sex 3 times so far this week.
With a partner two to three times a week. Self love, almost a everyday!
Should be the same frequency as eating. At least 2 or 3 times a day with or without a partner.
Sometimes it’s once in one to three weeks. Sometimes it’s five times in a week. Just depends on how my buds’ and my schedules line up. I don’t count. Happy whenever it happens.
hi I have bi sex an with my wife 3-4 times a week life is gd mmmmmm
I have regular tops I meet with once a week, it did use to be at least 5 dif guys a week but I don’t have time anymore.
Now in mid 70s, gay partnered for 30 yrs, married for 4 yrs., and no sex for over 14 yrs…. Intimacy still there however…
Years ago, I would have sex at least twice a month, and a few times twice in a day. In more recent years, job and other commitments, as well as connection desires, dropped it to a few times a year. Health and commitments have me sexless for over 3 years. I admit part of that was getting strung along by someone I was holding out for. I agree with Dave. I always liked to feel some connection, so my best sex was people who had declined to get with me, became friends, but suddenly surprised me with a request. Next… Read more »
“Hey, guys! How many times have you had sex this week?” This type of question is exactly why people are ashamed of their sexuality. How many times SHOULD someone have sex in a week? Is there a magic number? What about people who don’t have a partner, don’t have time, are disabled, are not physically attractive, are following religious guidelines, are waiting for the “right one,” live with family, are not comfortable with their sexual orientation, don’t have the means, are HIV positive, don’t have the space, are older, or don’t have the inclination? The question implies that everyone should… Read more »
Greg, not at all, I even said that last time I had sex was 6 months ago… The question was to ask how many times a4a guys have sex, nothing more, nothing less. I also wrote this piece because I received an email from a guy saying he rarely had sex and thinking he was “too ugly” to have regular sex. I don’t consider myself ugly (even though I’m crazy hehe) and I very rarely have sex. It all depends on chemistry for me. So I wanted him to see other responses to show him that it was normal not… Read more »
Well, first off I’m an older guy and it’s hard to find guys that want to have sex with me. But I love having sex, cumming and getting off. Usually I can get off once or twice a week, either watching porn or once in a while with a hookup either at an ABS or meet up somewhere.
Not often enough
I would say i have sex maybe 3 or 4 times a month. Finding a partner for sex who your in tune with is extremely hard.
I agree, it’s not easy.
I do have weekend sex. I do belong to a private home sex club in the tropical mountains in Puerto Rico. Awesome people, awesome place.
we usually have sex daily, weekends sometimes twice
I’m turning 65 & have sex @ least 5 days a week & most days multiple times. Orgasms are down tho to about 60 per cent. Sometimes just need a break to rejuvenate. Think I’ve had a lot more sex since age 40. Oh, I do enjoy different positions & bottom isn’t easier! Doesn’t matter where either. I’m just horny too!
For ‘many’ of the aforementioned reasons; I have “sex” with me always once a day, sometimes though, during new/full moons seems to really stir me up, so I can do it 2-3 times a day. I’d love to be involved, physically, mentally, spiritually, emotionally; enough to actually be making love “with/to” someone whom is like no one else/and visa-versa. What could be more wholesome and healthy than that, to have such a connection with each other, these days especially, when guys are “doin’ it” just to have another warm body. I think it’s really scary, the mindlessness; what it takes… Read more »
“For ‘many’ of the aforementioned reasons; I have “sex” with me always once a day, sometimes though, during new/full moons seems to really stir me up, so I can do it 2-3 times a day.”
Whenever a bud and I have made a date a couple/few days out, I’ll be ” hands off” until then. Sometimes it’s tough to hang on, but man so so so worth it when he gets his reward! Figure it’s the least I can do for him!
Exactly, if you know ahead of time, yeah, I feel ya on that point really valid point.
The question was basic…How many times??? It seems like you took all of your personal issue/feelings about sex and projected them onto everyone else. The beginning of your 2nd paragraph seems to strongly indicate that you are looking to be in love with someone before having sex. But the idea that if others of us are not looking to be “in love” there is something inherently wrong with us! And “psychological abandonment”!!!??? If that’s what you have to do to have sex if you are not in love…in all seriousness you should talk to a professional about that! But if… Read more »
At 53 I have sex with a guy almost every night, have a great group of guys I know and they love to come over to my place and play. I ware most men out, I can go at it for hours and cum multiple times over an evening. Rediscovering 420 was a major part of it. You really have to make an effort to set up a sexy scene, low lights, great music, wine/cocktails and a puff, the party begins!
Ooh, baby, yes! My kinda man, I ejaculate multiple times, rest awhile, while puffing, then do it again, kissing each other madly, oh, yeah! Who needs a blue-pill, just puff some.
Just to clear the air here, The data presented here is more reflective of how difficult it can be to meet up for sex with total strangers online alone. You see a drop in the line graph above at 2008 around the time when the Grindr app was made public. It’s not just about how often you have sex, it’s also about how people interact with each other in a digital world, where everyone is even more self-conscious due to trading pics, instagram, etc. What it does not show is demographics. Who’s to say? The people getting laid could be… Read more »
I have sex three or more times a week. I’m surprised at the statistics that report how little sex men are having in general. It seems that many men collapse emotional expectations and the healthy release that sex provides. And look down on “having sex,” as some sort of compartmentalization, preferring abstinence instead . Those who are on a journey of discovery about themselves and their needs and expectations may need time to develop the self awareness and maturity to share themselves, relish in the experience and grounded enough to be thankful of the bounty that is life and sex.
Depends on how you define sex. If you include masturbation then twice a week for me. With another person been over two years. Divorced from a straight marriage where there was no sex the last 5 years to single now and gay but work, conservative area I live in leads to no sex for long periods of time if not years.
Its been a lot of months since I’ve had sex I kinda forgot what it’s like
Every other day.
i have sex sometimes 4 times a night.
I find that gay apps and the internet make having sex more difficult due to the mind games. The bars have become snobby where I live. That has decreased the number of times I have sex. I don’t want to deal with it. I think it’s much hotter to see what a guy is packing by finding out in person and not through a dozen pics and then a scripted sexual encounter. I still have sex but would be having more if we saw each other, gave that look, knew and then went about it in person. I hate being… Read more »
How Often Do I Have Sex??? HMMmmm, How Often Does Haley’s Comet Come Around?
It’s been far too long since I last enjoy the pleasure of another person company sexually.
Or to paraphrase GTOWNBOTTOM “How Often Does Haley’s Comet Come Around? every 76 years
🙁
I’m 48 bisexual 75/25=female/male attracted the first 40 years of my life I mainly had sex with women like 98% of the time and only did male on male when I was extremely horny and couldn’t find a willing woman. I averaged having sex about 4 days a week if I was single and 5-6 days if I had a girlfriend. when I turned 40 I found myself suddenly bored of women because I had done everything I could think of that was legal with them multiple times. so I decided to explore my interest in men more and said… Read more »
well I tried to comment but so far have wrote my story twice and sent it but nothing happens so who knows maybe it didn’t work or maybe now there are two similar stories up with one long one and one not as long
I don’t have it enough, the labels turn me off I like to many things to have a label or there’s no connection chemistry.
I’m 66. He’s 71. Together 40 years. Married for 9. Sex stopped between us when he turned 40. He had a brief affair with a much younger guy when in his 50’s. Never truly confessed til years later when a letter he had sent him was returned and I had gotten the mail that day. I only said, ‘is he the reason you came back from Portland acting so weird?’ I knew. But I never felt jealous. He was, still is, good looking. I was no dog. But I couldn’t hold a candle to him. Fortunately I was a massage… Read more »
I’ve always had an appetite for sex and it started early when my stepdad would come at when I was 8. Let’s just say that whole thing went on for years. From it though I came away with mad oral skills, a fetish for uncut cock and a passion for Hispanic men. Didn’t come out until my late 30’s. I still wanted to see what pussy was all about and I did and myself in a marriage that I thought I would never escape. During this time to cope with my two lifestyles I turned to drugs and alcohol. Fast… Read more »