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Today’s modern dating seemed hurried, and people often skipped dining and kissing and go straight to bed which is why one gay man online posed a heartfelt question: “Hand Holding… Do people still care about the simple stuff?” He went on to ask, “At 28, is having a man gently love and hold me too farfetched of a reality? People are very hypersexual nowadays, and I feel the simple stuff may be lost to us. I just want someone to hold my hand, love me, and take things slow.”
This sentiment resonated with many gay men, sparking a conversation about the role of intimacy and affection in modern relationships. For some, the simplicity of hand holding remains a deeply cherished act. One commenter shared a touching experience: “I always fall asleep holding my boyfriend’s hand, and I often wake up, when he’s away, because my hand is searching for his, and I then realize that he’s not here. So yes, some people care about this a lot.” This story highlights the emotional bond that small gestures can foster, even in the absence of a partner.
Others echoed the importance of holding hands as a personal and meaningful gesture. One gay man wrote, “Yup, holding hands is very personal to me.” While brief, this statement speaks volumes about how such a simple act can hold profound significance for those who value emotional connection.
For some, affection is not limited to sexual expression but extends into everyday interactions. A guy described their approach to relationships: “I don’t know man, I’m pretty sexual but I’m also pretty affectionate. Like if I’m driving, I’m going to hold his hand, or if we’re on the couch, I’m going to stretch out on him haha—that kind of thing.” This perspective showcases how physical closeness can manifest in both tender and playful ways, enriching a relationship beyond the bedroom.
However, not everyone finds it easy to experience such intimacy. One commenter lamented, “I’m right there with you on hand holding. Love it, rarely have it happen anymore though, and it’s not good.” This reflects a broader sentiment among those who feel disconnected from the simple joys of affection in a fast-paced, often impersonal dating culture.
Another user pointed out a deeper issue underlying the lack of intimacy: “Anecdotally—I know a lot of guys who are tearing it up in the bedroom eight days a week and are also terribly lonely and starved for actual intimacy. To be frank, that’s me a lot of the time. I suspect that this isn’t an issue specific to gays, though.” This comment underscores the distinction between physical and emotional connection, reminding us that even in a sexually active lifestyle, many still crave meaningful affection.
So, what about you? Do you love holding hands with your partner or boyfriend? Do you believe holding hands and other small acts of love still hold a place in modern relationships? Do people still care about the simple stuff, as OP above put it? Share your thoughts and experiences with the Adam4Adam community. Whether you’re someone who cherishes these moments or feels they’ve become rare in today’s dating culture, your perspective can shed light on what intimacy truly means in a hypersexualized world.
oh yes hand holding is a show of love kinda like kissing
the mystery is solved: one hand holds a phone; the other hand holds either food or a beverage. thus, both hands are otherwise occupied and cannot hold anyone’s hand.
I tried walking with a cup of coffee once, with a lid. It kept spilling on my hand, then my arm started cramping because I had to keep it bent all the time. How do people do it? They’re all going to get coffee tendonitis.
and carpal tunnel syndrome, too!
LOL!!! LOL !!! LOL !!!
In a word WHOLESOME, absolutely nothing wrong with it, just for safety reasons, be careful of your surroundings though.
a wise recommendation
Another clickbait irritant? Of course it’s relevant.
I think it’s a sweet gesture that shows you care for somebody without needing to talk.
Haha, handholding… tried it in the gay community and it still felt weird. Single now, so not sure if I would want to that anyway. But, never say never. I see more girls holding hands than guys, but there are a few that do it… still seems a little bit weird.
Handholding is for films or silly TV movies. It’s annoying in public; couples clasped at the hands as though their lives dependent upon it. Or worse: “I’m so co-dependent I have to let the world know I’ve got someone.” Pass.
I think holding hands is sexy. It solidifies a relationship. It really shows the love a person has for the other mate.
I enjoy holding hands. Not on a first date. America is a bit uptight about it. Europe, Middle East, Southeast Aisa…hold hands, no problem. For myself, it is a comfortable compliment. Not a sign of ownership, or “hey look at me”. A gentlemen will ask before he takes your hand and that is romantic. It not downright Hot.
Only holding hands I like is when I visit my fuck buddy. We live about 25 miles apart. When I arrive there for a planned fuck session, he meets me to the front door wearing nothing but sweat pants with no drawers on. We smile/speak and he grab my hand and lead me to his bedroom without saying a word. As soon as we get in the bedroom, we start kissing passionately and then its on!!!! I’m talking about 1 to 3 hours of hot sex.
Sweat pants and no underwear must be a thing, every time I visit my top buddy he open the door in sweat pants, before I can get undressed to shower he dick is rock hard, I always end up sucking him off before I shower
Nothing could be more ‘supergay’ and huge display of insecurity ever. I will admit, its cute under the age of 20, because you can claim ignorance, but after that its self-ridiculing. First, you both know how you feel for each other, so why display it without provocation? To show the world? That would mean you care for others opinions. For what? It doesn’t pay bills, so why should it matter? If others opinion matters, why aren’t you listening to the negative ones as well? Because you’re self serving, selective on what works for you and insecurities. At this time, is… Read more »
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I LOVE men with handsome hands! I think it’s one of truest reactions, physically saying many things: I like you, I comfortable with you, I wanna go somewhere private; indicates a man that is romantic.
I won’t engage with deep kissing in public or even in a one of ‘our’ bars, peck is fine.
As a closeted man with a wife, holding another man’s hand in public is not cool as much as I’d love it as a romantic as I like to be. I have gone on trail walks with buddies and have held his hand (wait, did you hear footsteps behind us?)
Various forms of physical contact are always welcome with me. Hand holding, arms around the shoulders or waist, leaning against each other during a movie, or snuggling on the couch while watching TV—it’s all good.