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Hey, Adam4Adam readers! Today, we’re diving into a topic that often brings back a flood of memories, whether they’re exciting, awkward, or somewhere in between. We want to hear about your first time — when, where, and how did you lose your virginity?
For many gay men, the journey to their first sexual experience can be quite different from their straight counterparts. Studies show that gay men often lose their virginity slightly later than straight men, primarily due to the challenges of coming to terms with their sexuality and finding a partner. While the average age for heterosexuals to lose their virginity is around 17.6, gays typically experience their first sexual encounter around the age of 17.9. Read more here.
We’ve gathered some popular answers and stories from our community, and we’d love for you to share yours too:
- Hot Groomsman at a Wedding. This one sounds like a scene straight out of a movie but apparently it happens often in real life. Or at least it happened to this gay man on Reddit who shared:
He was the hot Groomsman in the wedding party with me. We didn’t know each other before that weekend. I wasn’t out. I was so curious. We have drinks. He asked ‘Do you know what Bisexual is?’ I said ’No.’ He explains. I tell him I haven’t tried anything with a guy yet and I want to. I wingman a threesome with a girl, but she’s my friend so he and her just got wild the bed next to mine in our shared hotel. The next morning, I catch him walking around with morning wood. I tell him I won’t let him leave until I know what he feels like. He drops his drawers to reveal his sexy, hard cock. I’m hard instantly. Our dicks are twins. Heart racing. We go in the shower and have a passionate time. The things I’ve fantasized about are all happening so quickly, and he cums instantly. I take my time. I cum so hard it shoots over the shower curtain. I left and got the greatest post-nut clarity I had ever felt; the kind I was chasing while trying to have sex with women. It was liberating.
2. Back of My Truck. Also a popular answer. Another gay man revealed:
“It was in 2018. I’m 6’0, 20 years old with light brown skin & curly dark brown hair. He’s 6’3, 23 years old with pale skin & ginger hair. He came over, parked his truck in my parent’s yard. I came outside, we talked for a while then made our way to the back of his truck. It all happened so fast; I barely remember feeling anything but the rush- the adrenaline.”
3. House or Apartment. Unsurprisingly, one’s house or apartment is also a popular venue. One commenter shared, ” I was 19 in college, just about to go to a school event with friends. Met up with a nice guy beforehand, was just gonna give some head at his apartment but got carried away and got my back blown out.”
4. College Dorm Room. A lot of respondents seem to have lost their virginity during college and at the dorm room like this one guy who shared, “My dorm room freshman year, I was drunk and called him the wrong name.”
Now it’s your turn to share! Tell us about your first time. When did it happen? Where were you? How did it unfold? Was it with someone special or a spur-of-the-moment encounter?
Moreover, how did you feel about your first time? Was it what you expected? Do you think there’s pressure in the gay community regarding when and how we lose our virginity? And lastly, do you have any advice for those who haven’t had their first time yet? Let us know your thoughts and stories in the comments section below!
After college, a group of us from a chat site met in Atlanta 1 weekend to put an actual person to a screen name. That night I also had my 1st kiss.
Freshman year in college. I was in a mens room at main student union building for the sole purpose of slipping away and jerking off. As I got hard, a guy walked in the mens room, passed by my stall, was able to see through the gap in the stall door I had a boner and got in the stall next to mine. He muttered “wanna fuck?” I hesitated at first and got up and headed out toward the front door of the mens room when the guy stood up and asked me again because I could see he wasn’t… Read more »
I was always curious from a young age, around 13, I always chased girls but had fantasies about being with a man. Fast forward to college, i was around 20, and i had just broken up with my girlfriend. I was at a party and a grad student (30) and i started chatting and having drinks. I was tipsy and we started flirting. He eventually asked to go back to his place and hed “help me forget about my ex”. As soon as we entered his apartment we were making out and getting naked, one thing lead to another and… Read more »
I was 12 years old and friends with a black 16 year old whom I met playing football in the park. One day he asked me to stop at his house. His mother was a single parent and worked from 4 to midnight so we were alone in the house. We started horsing around and we ended up in our underwear. He pinned me down and pulled off his shorts and exposed the largest cock I had ever seen. He pulled off my shorts and then he started wagging his cock in my face. Eventually I took it in my… Read more »
Black guys were always hot for my blonde mane (I’m white haired now, but know how to color with ash blonde Wella professional color and 20 vol peroxide for a real natural look) and I have been with hundreds of super hot black men (Steamworks in Berkeley has lots of down low black guys!). I fucked most of them and really like to play with their usually massive dicks, while I plowed them in my sling.
Wow. Didn’t have to read to far into the comments before the “Big dick black bull” stories started popping up. Funny how so many “liberal minded” guys love to fetishize and reduce black men down to our dicks lol
I was having a safety meeting with my hr rep,at his house had a few beers, it went down like that, more to it but longer story
I was about 14 and was at my grandparents for the weekend. They lived in a rural area with not many neighbors. Could be boring for a young teen, mind you this wqs before internet. There was an older boy who lived on their little dirt road. When I visited them, we would hang out. He had a four wheeler and horses. This one evening my grandmother invited him to stay for dinner. During dinner the weather turned bad and she woudnt let him leave. She called his mother and told her she’d send him home in the morning. Their… Read more »
If you’re up for reading my long story above, see the part where the guy popped my cherry. He being older and experienced certainly knew how much it could hurt. I had no clue and after he lubed me extensively, he slid his inside me realllly slowly so it wouldn’t hurt. But about halfway in, I was like “oh c’mon, get it all the way in already” so I pushed on his backside to force his cock all the way in. One big OUCH! I made him pull right out and I was writhing in pain. But I didn’t want… Read more »
I was 15. We used to get together every summer with a family my parents were close friends with and all of their kids. We all love hanging around together. Fourth of July was always fun because we’d end up down in sloatsburg New York for a big 4th of July parade. One year they came up and visited us for about 5 days. We all ended up having to share different rooms and I ended up sharing my room with their youngest son who was about my age. I think each one of us had already gotten a sense… Read more »
NICE, Story!! Natural thing, is a nice way to explain Your pleasure and enjoyment
I met a hot guy sunning on the lawn at a fountain in Portland Oregon. We drove to a secluded park with lots of trees to hide in and I was hot to suck his dick. But he was not that interested in a blow job and kept touching my ass which seemed strange to me, because I had never heard of butt fucking (I was 18 and it was 1974). He then slid his dick in my ass, but it felt bizarre and not good , so I called it off and dropped him off back downtown. Later I… Read more »
dated a proctologist
Nothing like a “professional”… LOL!
LOL!! LOL!! LOL!!!
I WILL NEVER GET TO LOSE MY VIRGINITY BECAUSE I AM WAY TOO UGLY FOR ANYBODY, HONEY
Sophomore year in college. I finally found someone aI wanted to date. That hadn’t happened in highschool. After a few weeks, one evening we went out to a nice dinner and went back to my room. After some discussion about confirming dating, one thing lead to another and we went to bed. It was a nice experience. We dated for two years with great sex. It ended when she decided to change majors and universities. We still keep in touch.
I waz 20 and had moved to change colleges, one day a friends uncle (who i had only met once), called and sais he was in town on business. I invited him to my apartment, heshowed up with beer in hand. We talked and drank, some how the conversation turned towards sex, snd i brought out my Hustler magazines. As we flipped through them he put his hand on my crotch and said “i would like to take care of this for you”. I thought his hand would burn through my jeans, it was so hot. But i turned him… Read more »
i was 50 and after a few years of chat and cam on dating sites i set up to meet a man when i was away from home on a business trip
I was living in Texas in my early 20’s. I had a guy jerk me off once in college, but no actual sex. I moved to Florida, and was driving through New Orleans, and decided to stop for the night. I took a cab from my hotel, because i was definitely going to drink. I ended up at my first ever gay bar in the quarter, and I must have been a site fresh meat and all. A couple of guys bought me drinks and i got groped a bit. But this one older guy, lower 40s kept catching my… Read more »