(Photo Credits: Screengrab from @aarongoldyboy on TikTok)
So, you are finally meeting with the guy you’ve been talking to on Adam4Adam for ages. You go to his house because he invited you to hang out, but then he took one look at you and then he said, “Nope” and closed his door on you.
Has this ever happened to you, guys? Conversely, have you ever rejected a hook up? If so, how did you do it and why?
We’re bringing this up because a video on TikTok depicting the one described above is going viral. Netizens found the skit—created by comedian Aaron Goldenberg and his regular collaborator Jake Jonez—way too relatable, which clearly shows that although the video was obviously scripted, such is a typical scenario and is familiar to many. In fact, the clip has so far drawn 4.6 million views on TikTok alone as of this writing.
Goldenberg and Jonez have made a series of POV videos together in which they play the role of “mean gays.” This particular video was titled, “POV: the Mean Gays invite you over to have some ‘fun.’” But fun it was not, for everyone involved that is. In the video, the duo was evidently disappointed the moment they laid their eyes on their hook up. Still, they opened the door, allowed him in, and offered him water, insisting he drink it because he looked “dehydrated.” After quizzing their guest as to when he took his profile photos, the couple promptly showed him the door while telling him, “You don’t have to text us.”
The post garnered thousands of comments. Some of the popular ones read, and we quote: “I can FEEL the judgment lol,” while another said, “‘A lot has happened in a week.’ I literally cackled!” There were also others who felt hurt on behalf of the guy who got rejected. “This is clearly a skit, but my feelings are SO hurt for him lmaoooo.”
Meanwhile, another said, “I know this is just acting but it’s pretty spot on. I feel deeply hurt! why are people so mean?”
Due to the overwhelming response, Goldenberg and Jonez posted another video of themselves reading the comments and responding to them while completely keeping in character. See below:
The lesson learned? Don’t lie on your profile as it will come back to haunt you – plain & simple! Why deliberately set yourself up for rejection or a possible, hostile encounter? It seems de facto, on any sex site, particularly, the free ones… profiles are rifled with blatant lies or misrepresentations where you are forced to read between the lies to discover the bitter truth. There is no bigger fool than a willing one and far too many are too willing to be anything else but willing fools. The truth always wins out and the truthful ones are let… Read more »
P.S. to my original comment…
I actually met “The Gargoyle” on “Manhunt”.
Now, as we already know, there is much “Cross
Pollination” amongst…
Adam 4 Adam,
Manhunt,
Squirt,
et al.,
and so,
the Beasts multiple like “Spermatozoa Within A Healthy, Young Boy’s Testicles” and create variations
of a common theme amongst the aforementioned and exemplify one-of-the-“Deadly-Plagues-Of-
Ancient-Egypt”!
Actually, such Beats exemplify the “Deadly-Plagues-Of-The-Free, Gay Sex Sites”!
In order for something (a skit, a play, a movie, a commercial, a book) to be meaningful or truly comedy, it has to make sense at its core, whatever fantasy journey its authors then take us on. This train doesn’t even leave the station for me on a number of fronts. “finally meeting with the guy you’ve been talking to on Adam4Adam for ages” and then “nope” mean the hosts (the improbable Gay fem meanies) were unreal about what they were looking for or the guest (the improbable poor little Gay victim) was unreal about who he was. If they’d… Read more »
Nothing like “White Trash” Par excellence!
Truly, the worst kind!
Rude, Crude, Common & Coarse!
Reminds me of the locals of Appalachia!
Bath-time is when it rains!
Toilet Paper is whatever leaves are available!
Bed Sheets are dish towels sown together until they are long enough to fit the mattress!
The Outhouse has towels the cover its windows!
No toilet seats – except “The Good Earth”!
Now now Kasper. Appalachians can’t learn to upgrade their behavior. It’s the way they are. We should be mindful of that.
Mean Gays, however, CAN change how they treat others, but it’d probably take professional help, a lot of self-examination, and an intervention.
HUnter0500:
As always, you are beheld with great affection and gratitude!
We can learn Hunter. I’m edjewkated!
You’re the detritus of A4A blogs. Always underfoot and impossible to clean off of shoes. You make everyone here wish there was a block button.
And, as for you, you never blog anything of any greatness…just disperse your vitriol
about someone else and his blogs!
Speak for yourself and contribute of some substantiation instead of always posting
something because you feel inferior?
“You make everyone…” ??
When was the survey?
Now Kasper, I grow’d up in them foothills, and you described luckshurry’s I weren’t accustomed to!
I worked for The Peace Corps, one summer in 1982.
I had to do it to a guy who showed up who used an old photograph and was massively overweight. I mean he was literally heaving while walking up my driveway.
He messaged me later on and told me I was rude. I blocked him and just left it at that. Current pics are now part of my standard request.
. . . They’re both handsome, however, I’m just not into these kinds of bitchy, hip-swingin’ gay men. Speaking on the phone after meeting on-line, “this isn’t a go” so that I would not be at their door in the first place. I’m not sure though, might just their age, perhaps, they’ll grow out of it, maybe? Hope so. One learns, to look for down to earth types, the ones who “got over themselves.” Not living in a childish la-la land, but the maturity of the real world. I want a man, not someone that looks like a man, only.… Read more »
Well said!!! Couldn’t agree more!!! Sickening!!! Huge turnoff!!!! They worse than girls..
They may both be handsome when standing still and not speaking, but the minute they move and/or speak, their good looks go down the drain.
Marcus, Hunter, I digress here a bit. When I first came out in 80′ at 19yrs old in Minneapolis, it seemed, ‘almost’ everybody exhibited this kind of demeanor; not really knowing who we are or to be in this new world, some of ‘us’ just kind of fell in with this type. I was physically on the androgenous side anyway, but rough around the edges, lol. Additionally, there was no male role model; man-father-dad in my life . . . In a relatively short time after coming out I just eventually found myself, grew-up, realizing, I ‘still’ have to be… Read more »
Many gays never grow out of it though, so it’s not just a phase for many. It’s more or less the culture promoting it, which is similar to having the sexual maturity of a 14 year old. It’s accepted behavior amongst these cliques, and it comes all the way down to body type, even the color of someone’s skin, etc.
Agreed, the whole “Peter Pan” syndrome, I guess, is what that is. It seems like one was either butch or queen, or so it seemed like that back in the day in little ol’ Minneapolis anyway.
People who misrepresent themselves know what they are doing but are hoping that once he gets to the door, you’ll be okay with him anyway. I have politely said no to them and realize it is part of the risk of meeting people online. I suppose this video was supposed to be funny, but it was more blah to me
That’s why I only meet in public the first time. If someone isn’t willing to do that, they’ve got something to hide. So, no, the above situation has never happened to me and never will.
Met a guy in his hotel room once, i did not have the balls to confront him about his shortcomings, just asked if there was a coke machine in the lobby and booked it to my car,, easy peasy!!
It may be the types of guys you are meeting up with. If you live in a highly condensed metropolitan area, where gays tend to have high/superficial expectations, you can have as similar experience in public. You are not immune to bad dates either.
The bald dude isn’t exactly a winner. I would rather have a guy with a few extra pounds and a few extra gray hairs, than a shiny chrome dome with no eyebrows.. His room mate was hot, but bald boy is defiantly a “Not”
I have a rule, if the guy isn’t the Brad Pitt I imagined him to be but his physical description is within reason more or less, I commit to the hook-up. However if I get catfished driving 70 miles to some guy that insists those pictures were “thirty pounds ago” or ten years ago ( fifteen-twenty usually) then it’s not going to happen and I usually thank the guy for wasting my time and gas. It took me a while to mature up and realized the gods I chased were pretty selfish in bed. I learned a lot more moves… Read more »
Trust me I’d be AOK getting the door slammed in my face by these too ( in the unlikely event I’d wind up at their door in the first place)
I always send current photos because I don’t want anyone disappointed when I show up. I may not be their type and I want them to know BEFORE I make the trip so that no one is unhappy.
First meeting is always a coffee shop or public space AFTER you’ve been chatting a bit and the conversation is mutually valued. Maybe dinner and a movie after that. The folks who complain are usually the little too eager types. Also: Meet their friends if you can manage that. The quality of their friendships will reveal much.
With a new guy, when we get to the point of discussing meeting, I’ll volunteer my general location and will ask what public place he’d find convenient. If out of town on business and considering hosting in my room, I’ll suggest we meet first in the hotel bar. Good guys will have no problem. Opportunists. low lifes and scum will give push back. It’s a great subtle tool to get a clear indication of the quality of the guy you’re working with.
This was so fetch
Fetch: “The word’s actual meaning is supposed to be ‘nice’, ‘fresh’, ‘desirable,’ or ‘cool’. It is most likely a shortened version of the word “fetching,” a now less-common term for attractive.” Per the Web.
And here I thought you meant wretch as in hurl or vomit. And was about to give a thumbs up.
I’ve sent guys away and I’ve been sent away a couple of times. I use and give current photos and accurately describe myself so I wasn’t too sure why I was sent away-but as a teenager (and I was HOT as a teenager) I learned that rejection was simply part of cruising. One of my best buddies who performed in porn and escorted (and is HOT) used to say that when rejected, he just assumed the rejector was into blondes (he’s a brunette)-made me realize that its not worth spending much time worrying about. As for the guys I’ve sent… Read more »
First, all they would do is slam the door in his face. Second, it’s not funny because this is real. Third, they are making their mean characters seem less mean.
It just goes to show that young people have no idea what humor is or how it works. Enacting what you are supposedly making fun of is not funny, not clever nor witty. It’s a failure. The only true thing about it is that these guys think they are hot when they are not. And such guys would never invite someone in at all if they didn’t think they were hot.