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Some gay men took to Reddit to express their unpopular opinions about gay sex. They have a lot to say, and we can’t wait to hear what you have to say about these opinions and whether you agree with them or not. For instance, one gay man said, “No matter how hot the other guy is, if you haven’t established the proper connection beforehand then it’s very dull and forgetful. The looks fade fast. Some of the hottest guys I’ve been with have been the most ‘meh’ encounters.”
The guys are split regarding this matter. They say that while some hot guys are “boring fucks,” others who “show genuine friendly interest are the best fucks.”
More importantly, when you have sex, is it really just sex for you? Or do you not want to have sex without an emotional connection between you two? One guy confessed, “Every time I try to establish a connection with a guy before sex, the sex never happens.” He added, “We either end up ghosting each other or become non-sexual platonic friends. For me, sex only happens when it’s a random hookup, or else it never happens.”
Does sex feel better for you when you have an emotional connection with your partner?
Meanwhile, another opinion deemed unpopular (though it would seem to be popular among gay men) is the fact that not everyone is into anal sex. “Cuddles, blowing, rimming, fingering, and edging is more meaningful than penetrative sex,” one gay man wrote.
Forget the cuddling, kissing, blowing, etc. because, for other guys, solo sex is the best sex. One gay man said, “My hand is better at taking care of me and giving me mind-blowing orgasms than another person will ever be able to.”
For this one guy though, “everyone should be vers” and he’s not the only one who thinks this. A guy who agrees with him shared, “I came out in the ‘70s, and the accepted wisdom then was you couldn’t be a good top if you couldn’t also be a good bottom and vice versa. All these years later and I’ve always found that to be true.
Do you agree with them, guys? Perhaps you also have an unpopular opinion about gay sex that you would like to share with us? Tell us about it in the comments section below!
Personally, in my humble opinion… I hate hearing time and time again that as a bottom having sex with a Man has to be intimate, emotional, and involve kissing and cuddling.
No.
Sex is Sex.
…just leave it at that, thank you.
Tina Turner sang it best!:
“What’s Love Got To Do With It”?
For me it can be either a fast furious fuck or intimate. It depends on the person and the vibe.
Smile Jesus loves you
Grin, Lucifer loves you, too!
I agree. I’ll leave the love making with my husband and hopefully enjoy se with everyone else. My husband is the only man I enjoy kissing.
You are SO VERY TRUE
I’m bi-married-closeted, I love my wife and don’t love anyone else, including the hundreds of guys I’ve had incredible sex with over the years. Therefore, for me, no matter what, sex with guys cannot have any sort of emotional connections; it must be purely physical mutual release, which I presume is an unpopular opinion of gay sex. But it’s always worked for me: I’d say that of all the assorted encounters I’ve had over the years, over 95% were totally fulfilling in many different ways.
I totally understand,, I’m the same way,, I’m a bi bottom married DL guy myself,,,, I love my wife and I still love pussy,, when I’m with a guy it all about the sex,, no love involved, and the only feelings involved is me feeling that dick up inside me
Just like you. It’s all about feeling that cock in my holes.
If you think using sex as purely a means of physical release is an “unpopular opinion” among gay men, you probably need to get out more, or at least read the other comments here, the vast majority of which will share the same sentiment.
Judging from the upvotes, what seems unpopular in gayland…judging closeted, shame-ridden cheaters.
For years I used to be the one person type of person… But what I’ve learned is, you could be missing out if you just stick with one person for sex. There is a lot to explore with people and I don’t think we are meant to just be monogamous. That doesn’t mean fuck every Tom, Dick and Harry and be so risky… But it’s definitely worth to find a good two or 3 sex partners and rotate. That’s what I do now.
Variety is the spice of
lifesex.It is, also, a harbinger of STDs!
400+ encounters and one case of clap from a bj. Lucky I guess, but if you play it smart and make good choices…
“All Gay men are into giving and receiving anal.” “All Gay men want to jump every Straight guy they see.” “All Gay men look and behave like 12-year old girls when it comes to dating, sex and general behavior.” “All Gay men are into hookups, Friends with Benefits and Long Term Monogamy are impossible for them. “All Gay men love to kiss and suck cock/be sucked off.” “All Gay men get sexually energized by only diva and disco music genres.” “All Gay men want to dress and wear makeup like Rodeo Dr. models to sexually attract other men.” For a… Read more »
And, all Gay Men love The Supremes!
and
Diana Ross, too!
Barbara Streisand;
Dionne Warrick;
Madonna;
Adele;
Lady Gaga;
Marilyn Monroe;
Judy Garland;
Biden-The Benign, too!
And,
only a few,
Donald Trump!
You need to get out more!! Seriously…
I’ve been saying telling him this for years. Thank you.
As we’ve been telling you the same thing as well as everyone else who blogs!
What I wrote was a joke!
Both my much older brother and sister grew up with the music. They were 18 and 20 years older than I
We’re making fun of you because you’re a loser and a troll who comments WAY too much on these posts, not because you do or listen to certain music. Try to keep up.
Dionne WARWICK, honey!
“if you see me walking down the street and i start to cry each time we meet .. walk on by”
“All Gay Men”? I don’t remember filling out that survey. You might as well just say that you get the answer wrong All the time. Heh heh
Once we “go Gay!”, we all instantly become members of “The Community.” Did you get your Membership Card? And weren’t you put on the list for its Newsletter which: includes helpful articles on issues meaningful to LGTBQ individuals, lists scheduled local, regional, and national meetings, discusses lobbying/partnership with government entities about education on LGTBQ+ issues and legislation important to LGTBQ+ individuals, includes a “Message from the President”, processes elections of officers, lists discounts available from an approved assortment of businesses offered exclusively members, …and sends things like surveys? “The Community” is often referenced. It’s members are frequently said to have… Read more »
Hunter0500:
We can all “Go Homosexual,” too!
Not all Homosexuals are Gay but all Gays are Homosexuals!
So
We can go either way!
True! Not all Homosexuals are Gay but all Gays are Homosexuals!
Given enough time, someone will lobby to have an H added to LGTBQ+. H is just as different from G as Q and + are. Guys who are Homosexual but not Gay are guys who do not meet the stereotypical Gay profile. Having sex with other men, they are not Straight. H would be good.
Correct Hunter!
Homosexual is the definition of sexual orientation.
Gay is the definition of lifestyle!
Gee Kasper: since you’re so omniscient please define “Lifestyle” (in this context) WITHOUT using a STEREOTYPE.
not all gay men are about anal and butt butt seXXX, some men are only down for oral, i don’t see anything wrong with just having oral sex and putting the mouth where it counts, honey
Yes I agree, for me just want the sex, no emotional attachment. If we become friends thats find as long as we still just have sex, no kissing and cudlling.
A sexually encounter doesn’t always involve anal penetration. If, you have the right person the experience can be quite satisfying.
Agreed – in fact, being an older guy who’s into younger guys, I find it annoying if I happen upon one who calls himself a “virgin” only because he’s never been f*cked. Then he adds, “Oh, sure I’ve s*cked many” – hey, that counts too!
To me personally the most unpopular beliefs are that all gay men like big monster dicks and dicks in general. I’m turned off by big dicks. When I watch porn, I only watch guys that have average size dicks. I only have sex with guys with average size dicks. Its more comfortable, easier to handle and feels amazing. No after effects in regard to pain whatsoever. I know some gay tops that don’t like dick at all. They don’t touch their partners dick at all during sex. They never ever discuss another’s man dick. All they want to do is… Read more »
I’ve met plenty of tops that has never been fucked or sucked a dick before,,the only want their dick sucked and love fuckn a tight ass,,, witch is the kinda tops I prefer,, so I agree,,,, I’m a DL bi bottom,, when I’m with a top I only want to use my dick to cum,, I don’t want it sucked or touched,,,,I want to be the only one sucking dick and getting fucked
I absolutely love the kissing and cuddling with a lot of caressing!!! Then slowly working my way down to gently sucking and nibbling on his balls and then give him the best blowjob I can! But it doesn’t have to involve love. Not that I’m opposed to finding love, it’s just sex at first! The love of another has to be built! Just how I like with males!!!
oral only. the gays insist on fucking.
When I first came out, I felt there had to be a “connection” with the other guy – a possibility of it going further. Years later, I find I prefer spontaneous sex with another man I find attractive. The sex is usually more exciting because you’re discovering the entire time. Sometimes, those turn into repeats….but often we go our separate ways having enjoyed a special moment.
Would like to have a discussion on foreskin and circumcision!
Good idea. And a discussion that is unlike one of the usuals here which are worded “like vs. don’t like.” They try to distill discussions down to a divisive black vs. white. Discussions that result in helpful sex play are more beneficial.
How about:
For those of you who are turned on by an uncircumcised guy, what tips and tricks can you offer for working his foreskin and glans? and
For those of you who are tuned on by a circumcised guy, what tips and tricks can you offer for working for his glans?
If I’m seeking unconditional love, I’ll be sure to go down to the local dog pound and rescue a new puppy.
Instead my world’s a little bit more cut and dry. So l can honestly say I’m just here on they hunt for sex.
Bottoms up!
As a bottom, it seems like all the straight guys that want to fuck me or have me blow them never want to kiss. I think they think the kissing part is cheating but they have to problem cumming in my ass, down my throat, or all over my face.
They aren’t straight of they want to fuck you.
Exactly Lamar! They are possibly guys who don’t appear like stereotypical Gays (and hence are labeled as Straight by others) and chose to reveal their sexuality only to those who need to know .. or are Bisexual and choose the same. There’s also the issue for some guys whose sexuality gives them great guilt so they keep it out of view. For some guys (Gay or Straight) kissing is extremely intimate. Some of them them save it for those who they have love for. Others find it too intrusive and prefer not to do it at all. It’s all part… Read more »
Biggest thing I hate is wam bam thank you man
Not a fan of wham bams or quickies either. Sometimes, however, when our available time dictates, one of my long-time FWBs and I schedule a “drive by”. Normally, we spend an hour to two in our play times. On these other times we know time is limited so it’s total business in a rapid fire scenario where we get in, get done, and be gone once we both have unloaded. 15-20 minutes or so. . A sly alternative to this is where one of us decides to take control and make the other unload with no reciprocal play. Call it… Read more »
Be grateful that they said “Thank You!”
My main problem is there has to be another guy involved. I will stick with porn. Long live Rocco Steele!!
When I was just “having sex,” with a variety of types of men, for a variety of sexual experiences. I’m a romantic, so, ‘he’ and I did fall in love, out of love, in love again for a last time. I guess that makes me emotionally available, so, yeah, I can/have “made love” deep kissing, cuddling, etc., check! Now, I haven’t been in a monogamous-loving relationship in decades, since living in So. Florida, it’s not the thing here, either, which bring me to the next point; as far as sex these days, ‘we’ still kiss deeply, but no anal sex,… Read more »
I love oral gay sex …..I love sucking a dick more than any sex …also love to be sucked …..jimmy russell.
Agreed!!! I absolutely love sucking cock and swallowing a nice load!!!!
Not judging by no means Terry but I have never and have no desire to swallow semen. I never even tasted my own. I know there has been plenty of subject on here about swallowing but I just can’t imagine swallowing someone’s nutt!!!! The idea of that snotty liquid going in my body freaks me out. Lol
It’s not about anal sex. We do not need to imitate heterosexuals. Oral sex is tops. That sex is better within a context of friendship or love.
And I’m with every last bit of that, plus, just plain ole’ frottage of any/all types, kudos, especially, these days.
I love to kiss, but keep hearing kissing makes you gay, and I don’t kiss because I’m not gay, but you can fuck me or have me suck you or vise versa but I don’t kiss because I’m not gay.
It’s never been easy for me to predict whether sex is going to be hot. Occasionally, upon meeting, I recognize I’m not in the mood and excuse myself, which I feel is appropriate. But once I start, I’ll head for going all the way. Usually I top, but being vers means being open for all the experiences that can be had. Indications of a very good time include lots of oral foreplay in all my partner’s hairy places, getting totally sweaty, flipping and especially if cumming is so intense it leaves me laughing for the joy of it. My vote… Read more »
I wish I could have sex hookup with guys butt everyone on adam4adam are fake I miss yahoo gay chat rooms back in the day I met this guy on the website we met up at my job site I did night patrol we went to this house we both got naked Ronnie cock was 14ins long and yes I got on my back open wide Ronnie got on top putt big dick in he was going 4 in and then 7ins he was filling really good at this point next thing it’s was 12ins deep the first 20mins he… Read more »
Hate the classification of being either a “top” or “bottom”. Just go with the flow. I’m versatile…so I can have fun with most guys who just like to have sex and see how it plays out with your partner.If he wants to top…fine; if he wants to bottom…fine; if he just wants to cuddle and make-out…fine. It’s all enjoyable.
Syphilis, gonorrhea, chlamydia, and anogenital warts, from HPV varieties, are still in wide circulation, and neither “Undetectable” nor “on PrEP” can do anything to stop the spread of these diseases. Condoms are mandatory, until a clean bill of health can be presented.
I totally disagree with the one who said that all should be vers. I used to be vers, enjoyed it very much. A medical condition has made me impotent. I had a choice of giving up sex or flipping to total bottom! Thankfully, my partner, a gay man, is total top and enjoys it that way! Makes for a great sexual partnership!
I don’t need an established connection to have sex. For me, that comes later. In fact, most of my current friends are former tricks. I tend not to have sex with a man more than once or twice. I rarely climax during sex. I feel like I’m saving myself for the next guy who is not scheduled to appear anytime soon. I should work on that. Masturbation gives me the best orgasms too. I know how I like it more than anyone else. I enjoy anal sex as a top and as a bottom but I don’t insist on doing… Read more »
some guys, if not most, don’t like fucking with condoms .. they want it bare .. i don’t like that and i feel safe sex is best, but there’s a bad stigma attached to it .. better to be safe than sorry, honey
How about these:
(1) Gay men have more cash flow because they don’t have families to support,
(2) Gay folks can cover holidays and overtime because they don’t have any other obligations, (3) Gay folks don’t know a damn thing about rearing children, and
(4) ALL gay men are groomers/pedos and are not safe around young boys/male teenagers.
All ridiculous and proven wrong but still common in my experience.
I thought the blog question was about gay sex, not gay men in general.
So as a “straight” for the ones who need labels, man who just enjoys sex, an unpopular opinion is Men catch feelings way faster than women from sex. A lot of women are cool with true regular NSA. But a lot of guys don’t comprehend “regular” doesn’t mean “exclusive.” It’s what made me avoid ABS.